Dealing with the KNOW-IT-ALL narcissist 

Notice when you’re talking about any topic with a narcissist they try to correct you, debate you and act like they’re an expert on the subject. It’s always “I’m right and you’re wrong.” They all think they have PhDs in every area of life.

The most annoying thing is when they ask you for your opinion so they can argue about it.

Narcissists like to brag or just say obvious stuff that everybody knows and act as if they are the only ones who know.

If you talk about something and it doesn't interest a narcissist,they talk about something else that is something they only are enthusiastic about and nothing more...that's killing happiness and new things😢

A phrase that i say to myself, or them... " You would rather BE right, than MAKE things right."

My x knew everything about hockey, soccer, cars, home repair, sexuality, physical fitness, conflict resolution, staff management, psychology etc.... The only thing he didn't know anything about was how to be a real human being with empathy.

Sadly this is so spot on. Not only do they know everything, but their way is the only way and they convey it all condescendingly or discount every idea you contribute.

It’s all about making themselves look big and making you look small, no matter how simple of a thing you bring up, and they will go on and on and on and on with their “words of wisdom” on a subject they truly know little-to-nothing about; and if you say anything against what they have to say, they will make YOU feel like YOU’RE the know-it-all. It’s so obnoxious.

I’ve learned that narcissists have a very convincing personality and will have others thinking they are high and mighty! Narcissists don’t hear what you say!

I knew someone who often answered to my comments with "yeah, but." She had an answer for just about everything. It seemed that she was not really present when I spoke, so I decided to try something. While she chatted away, I quietly came up with two possibilities. When she finally paused, my response was like "I know X is possible, but I also think that Y is possible too." She started with "yeah, but," and actually gave one of the answers that I just shared. In my normal voice, I said "yes, I just said that." After about the third day of doing this, she stopped herself in mid sentence and never did it again.

What I hate is when the know-it-all narcissist I have to deal with, cuts me off when I’m trying to tell him something, cause he thinks he knows what I’m going to say next, yet most of the time he is wrong. That’s one battle I do take on by saying, you didn’t let me finish. He hates when people interrupts him and yet he does it to me and others all the time. Narcissists are hypocrites!

They have inner boiling rage always ready to erupt, From know it all then can easily shift to blow it all if anybody corrects them.

My narcissist husband even argues with me about my health issues. He knows better then my doctors and I. He will argue with me about anything. He is exhausting and he knows damn well what he is doing! I now understand that I need to take care of me. Thanks for helping me to get here.

I’ve never clicked on a video faster than this one 😂

I have a know- it-all neighbor who decided I didn't look old enough to get social security. I live in an apartment complex so she actually confronted me because she felt she had to be right. I gave her some of my work history. I know when I was born. The audacity of someone who does this and wants you change facts to suit their ideas. Narcissists don't live in the same reality.

I have to tell someone....( I don't have much of a support system ) I told my husband of 45 years Sunday that after the holidays he needs to find a lawyer and that we are getting a divorce. ( I told him last March that I would give him a yr to get therapy because of his narcisstic way he has treated me and our children for yrs ) First reaction was about money and how to divide assets, and that he will be fair with me. WTF ? I informed him, that it is I who will be kind to him in this divorce. The MFer would never want me to work because he can make in an hr what I would make in a week, which is true. Smiling... knowing just how much the settlement will be ( in my favor ) .... I will be single soon and will be able to heal my mind and body after yrs of abuse.

When their first word after I say something is No! If it’s all in the correcting of me, one-upping me, “educating me” on topics that I have way more experience, then I pull back and go grey rock.

There is no point in engaging in any conversations with a narcissist. All of them are the kind of know it all. Thank you for great advice dr Ramani❤

I hid my smarts from my narcissist boyfriend and when I decided to stop hiding it he accused me of being a know it all. This was during the Discard phase. He wanted me to keep my mouth shut but the things I know, I know and I've been vindicated on each thing he disagreed with but the bottom line is narcissists HATE people with high IQ who actually have intelligent conversations with others that they witness while having NO IDEA you knew all along. He just couldn't handle me having a voice. It was political discussion, but my ex ran for governor of Montana so I knew things he didn't know and tried to humiliate me "What are you an Influencer?" Maybe I am. They hate when you get positive attention and they hate when you're right. And even though you admit you don't know everything and allow them to hush you u, it's too late. Once you reveal you know what you know the cats out of the bag. Big egos can't handle when people are smarter.

Last Christmas, I was so fed up with it that I just told them in front of everyone that their behaviour wasn't okay. My mom said I ruined Christmas and should've just gone along to get along. My grandma understood how I acted after explaining it to her.

You've perfectly described my sister. She pretends to know it all but when you really know her, you know she doesn't have a clue about anything.

I have interstitial lung disease. I no longer bring my wife to doctor appointments because when I do, she argues with my doctors and then acts like she didn’t hear a word they said, insisting it’s all in my head. She told one of my doctors that I just need to lose weight. He told her that it wouldn’t matter how much weight I lost, it wouldn’t be enough to cure me. When we got home, she said, “see, I was right, you just need to lose weight.”

My former best friend was like this. He actually was very smart, one of the top of his class, and consistently lectured me on whatever topic he was interested in. I was expected to listen and go, "Ooh, ahh." I am still triggered today by people who talk incessantly about things they "know about."

My moronic narcissistic family literally speak just to hear the sound of their own voices. So glad I went no contact. "If their absence brings you peace, then you didn't lose anything".

Reminds me of a time at a family gathering that a relative asked for my professional expertise on a matter. Of course my narcissist mom felt the need to jump in and talk over me with her own “advice”, despite not having any training or formal knowledge on the topic at hand. She acted like she knew better than me about my own line of work lol. The family member just gave a look that told me they were well aware she was talking nonsense and we both just moved right along.

My ex had a lot of health issues. When I was looking the issues up, she would scream at me that she knows what is best for her health. Turns out she was abusing her prescription, and she didn't want me to find out.

I never thought of my ex-wife as a narcissist, but...she was a know it all and a control freak. I had to do it HER WAY OR ELSE. Very draining.

THIS!!! This is my parents and it completely destroyed graduate school for me, because I thought that is how people actually talked. It destroyed my life, and almost destroyed my relationship. At this point, intelligence for me is a very private thing. I think I am becoming more aware of what I want to know, and the areas where I don't mind being ignorant. And I am acquiring much more respect and admiration for people who truly are brilliant. I am okay knowing what I know and continuing to pursue my interests. I have no desire to really move out of my areas of interest, and no desire to pretend to know anything that I don't.

The know it all usually knows very little or nothing. They are insufferable.

OMG! This is so true. Once I was working in an office with a narcissist. She was the office know it all and giving advice to a young mother about getting child support as if it would just drop out out of the sky if she wished it. I on the other hand had previously worked in a law office and knew better. I said, "Don't tell her that, no judge in his right mind will order child support prior to filing date on a complaint." The narc was like, " Well, they're talking about it all over the news." And I retorted, "I worked in a law office ... you'd think i would know." The narc went storming off. It was very satisfying.

The narcissists' that were the closest to me were insanely jealous of my intelligence. They would make me feel bad for knowing things that they did not. Any time I tried to "help" with any information that I had from study or experience, I always was treated as If I was implying they were dumb. Which was not true.

My favorite thing to do in these situations is to ask the know it all questions I already know answers to just to see what BS they come up with all while maintaining strangely long lasting eye contact with as few as blinks as possible. It puts them in an extremely uncomfortable position and more times than not they will begin to backpedal even without me having to say a word. Deep down they know I know and it's hilarious watching them crawl in their own skin.

The correcting and nit picking, the verbal punishment for not agreeing and so much more that is so horribly criticizing and futile! There is no reasoning with them! They are hypocritical and so judgy about things they werent even there for and/or never did it themselves. Grrrr!

I'm glad we're starting to dialogue about this kind of habit. While I don't always think 'narcissist' when I hear this kind of thing, I always feel uncomfortable when I have to sit through something like this. Acknowledging it for what it is: the first step.

Reminds me of a neighbor. We used to walk together some evenings until she, a medical professional, tried to tell me, an accounting professional, that she knew more about a certain tax law than I did. I stood my ground because she just kept on about how she was right and I was wrong, even after I offered to show her the tax code. She never wanted to walk with me again after that. I didn't know how lucky I was! 😂😂😂

I love this backdrop: the shades of fuchsia, purple, and yellow, the books and little knick knacks. It reflects ease, comfort, interest, curiosity.

At 69 years old I have lost all of my filters, I speak my truth, especially when there is no common sense in the world anymore.

You just described my sister-in-law. It's exhausting to deal with her. Everything is a monologue.

Here's the line he always uses; "I've forgotten more than you'll ever know"! 🙄 He says this about EVERYTHING!

I remember when the Narc and I decided to make Ropa Vieja. I wanted to follow a step-by-step recipe which stated at a certain step to remove the celery, carrots and bay leaves. That turned into a big blow up with him RAGING because I wanted to remove them and he insisted that we keep them. I clearly remember standing in the kitchen shocked at his reaction over celery, carrots and bay leaves! And then when you try to calm them down and make them 'see' how they are overreacting, it becomes even worse. I remember he told me to 'fuck off'! Now when I think back it seems comical.

Often, I find that know-it-all narcissists are mediocre, insecure, and give generic examples that mean little to the conversation. Then, they get offended when genuinely called out or corrected in a calm manner.

The art of turning off ones hearing and maintaining a demeanor as if you are listening,is incredibly difficult to do.

My NPD ex husband was the know it all of everything. For the most part, I was able to tune out much of his ranting. Except - he also often was the know it all of MY personal life, medical history, etc. Things that had happened in my life long before he entered it... things he had no knowledge about because I had never discussed them with him... OMG! Usually these conversations occurred in the car while driving somewhere... and, without exaggeration, sometimes I had to show a great deal of restraint to not jump out of the moving car.

Brilliant. I started calling it Lecture Mode because it's always a one-sided delivery.

Listening to a narcissist giving relationship advice ….. this was by far my favorite sit back and listen moment. Because you actually here bits of their truth pertaining to how they are narcissistic and sometimes they give bits of advice that they themselves do not and will not ever do themselves. If it’s your husband or wife giving the advice you get to sit there and basically listen to how they expect to be treated but totally avoid that they themselves do not practice what they preach.

If you disagree with them, they will ask you "Are you a narcissist?"

It's really comical when a person has been to a well known place, such as Graceland, Las Vegas or the Grand Canyon - a place MANY people have visited, but they start describing it to you as though surely you were never there! (And you HAVE been! 🤣) I always just let them describe it, and don't let them know I've been there.

I had an uncle narcissitic, He was annoying to be around and he always got fired from his job cause he was telling the boss how much smarter he was everytime. Then he'd go to my grandma and ask her for money cause he was a victim. lol.

My ex is that guy. Didn't matter what it was , he knew EVERYTHING worth knowing. In his humble opinion 😆. Um, yeah,not so much. If he didn't know anything about that particular subject? It was an unworthy one. It's amazing, just how arrogant he is. But now, I know what I'm dealing with. Thanks for all the work you do and the knowledge you share. ❤

Omg this is so my sister in law !! That and she hijacks ANY conversation no matter what. Also she REALLY thinks any idea that I’ve come up with or anyone else was HER own idea genuinely. I don’t understand it and it drives me NUTS!!!

My Narc has, many times, butted into a conversation I’m having and mockingly said “isn’t she a know-it-all?” after which he joins in and makes an utter fool of himself. It’s annoying, yes, but also very amusing.

I had a know it all ex narc friend who drove me bonkers with this. As I healed and grew stronger she did not like me standing up for myself or having a different opinion. She would constantly pick fights, be know it all, be condescending rude criticizing and disrespectful, constantly crossing my boundaries, to the point I finally had to end the friendship. I find so many people know it all nowadays. I for sure pick my battles and don’t engage unless I feel it’s important to speak up. Thank you Dr Ramani ❤

Why are there so many any narcissistic people in the world? I think us empaths are just exhausted! Every guy I’ve loved was a narcissist, what is wrong with meeeeeeeee …. Seriously 😂

I find an area that I am an absolute EXPERT in - like waterproof knowledge - then when they start acting like a know everything, I do it on purpose, I may get a small fact wrong on purpose just to get that smirk on their faces, like make them feel superior. Then I compliment them about how they knew that thing that I got wrong (on purpose). It drives up their ego that they can't control. Sometimes straight away, sometimes later they will bring up the subject again because it feels good to beat someone in their level of expertise... This is where the fun begins, bring in a witness into the conversation that the narcissist cares about. Then as the narcissist begins to act like the expert to impress the witness, take a seat back and start friendly questioning them. Ask them HOW they came to that conclusion, because they only know surface level knowledge, they won't be able to answer. Ask them for SPECIFICS on their points and do not relent. Keep telling the narcissist things like 'I'm so confused how you think (point A) works, but it doesn't work when (point B) happens, how could you miss that?" and "Interesting, that you keep saying (X), but your explanation is (Y), can you please reconcile the two because the witness and I are confused?" When they get something wrong, stop and stare at them or the witness with a blank face. Don't laugh nor mock, make it as uncomfortable as possible for the narcissists. Then continue to rip their arguments apart. Do not relent because you only have one chance at this. Remember: Key is to not ever come across aggressive or argumentative, but like termites that eat away at their pathetic know-it-all ego. They are a house of cards, one blow from you can destroy them and then you're the bad guy, but if they fall over themselves then they have no one else to blame. They will never come at you again.

Great video, there is nothing like a perfect marriage or relationship, I learnt that in everything there is always a solution, 5 years ago I and my wife divorced because we were having some difficulties in our marriage but we are back together ,it was a really bad phase but we got through it

After a short (subject matter specific) debate with my Narc son in law - I think I might have hit a trigger in him. I called him an EOE! Expert on everything. He wanted to have a physical fight with me… Great topic as usual Doc! 😊👍

A know it all narcissist always put up the show of being a genius and just wants to be admired and praised. If you try to add some information or even worse contradict them even respectfully, their narcissistic ego is hurt and you will witness their rage. A meaningful conversation is never possible with such people.

As I continue to educate myself on Narcissim especially listening to this particular video I think twice about reaching out to my narcissistic brother! Dr. Ramani you are excellent at what you do! TY for sharing your wisdom. ( I still miss my brother)

Literally my wife’s dad. You could be a professional in the subject he is talking about and give him advice and he would say “oh you’re just over thinking it, he’s just over thinking it.” This is why when I know he is coming over I make sure I am not available. I will leave or not engage with him.

I am a bit hard of hearing which gets worse in situations anywhere where there are lots of people like a reception, so I use that excuse to “zone out” by politely apologizing for looking like I’m not paying attention and explain my hearing difficulty. Its a truth that I cant hear well so I’m not even lying and being asked to repeat themselves two or three times turns most people off and they let me go back to zoning out. 😊

Lololol my FIL is this person. When we bought our 1st house, he literally yammered for 45 min about about the importance of buying a house. I'm positive my husband dissociates when he does this. I wanted to crawl out my skin listening. My FIL also told my own dad that our house was overpriced. My FIL lives in a completely different state and is unfamiliar with OH communities. When my dad told him our neighborhood has one of the best school districts around and that's one reason the houses are more, my FIL said " it's not that nice...". My dad disengaged from the conversation immediately. He's not arguing facts with an arrogant idiot 😂

Living with a narcissistic person is like death by a thousand cuts.

As ALWAYS, Dr. Ramani, you NAILED it -- words and body language. 😂

Yea yea yea… you think you know everything about narcissism… well… you do 😂 Thank you sooo much for helping me understand and heal. God bless you 🙏🏼🤗

My ex-narc never believed anything I said. He’d look it up on the internet and find an opposing point of view just to prove me wrong. He was a know-it-all but all he ever did was repeat what he heard on RU-vid videos, so annoying. Including what women like in bed - those RU-vid women obviously knew more than stupid old me.😳

I used to be a “know it all”. I didn’t feel like I was superior to anyone else I was just bad at conversation. Terrible at small talk and whatnot so when conversation would turn to things I had a lot of knowledge in I would get invigorated and start blabbering. I’ve always been a voracious reader and always doing new hobbies and things. Anytime something piqued my interest I would jump in with both feet. Anyway, one day someone really shut me down hard. She apologized later for being rude but she was right. I then dove feet first into learning to hold a conversation properly. Realizing that I’m pretty intense and people having a casual conversation don’t want to engage that way. (This all is making me sound like I’m on the spectrum. I’m not at all). I learned new skills to keep me out of being annoying but then realized I don’t like just hanging and chatting lightly. No judgement from me. Most people like get togethers and light banter. It’s not that I think I’m better than them it’s just not my bag. I learned to associate with people with similar interests who we can actually learn something from each other. When I do get in casual small talk situations I just tell myself. “Nobody cares” and edit whatever down to a sentence or two. Also it’s good to start something off with “I think maybe” or “I heard” and throw in a “but who knows” on occasion. Anyway, I get the Dr. is talking about a certain type of narcissist but don’t think that all “know it alls” are narcs. Sometimes they are just socially awkward and are glad the conversation has turned to something they know about and feel comfortable talking about.

This also entails them telling you how to do something. Obvious things like, how use the microwave. I'm 36. I have at least 10,000 hours practice using it. Me: *pokes holes in frozen microwave dinner instead of lifting 1 corner slightly for the steam* Narc Father: "Ok, are you trying to cook that? Ok, can i make a suggestion?" Me: *starts explaining about the holes* Narc Father: *cuts me off* "Ok, so, you need to lift one corner for it to steam" Me: "Oka-" Narc father: "And remember to NEVER put metal in the microwave! Its dangerous" Me: "Ok, and always remember to wear a seat belt" "What?" "Oh, i thought we were giving eachother obvious advice about basic things everyone knows" "You're so rude! Youre so stubborn. Im just trying to help you! You just want to fight! This is how you've been your whole life! You and your brothers and mom just never take advice and tips from someone who has more experience!, but no youre too proud and stubborn" This would be fine if he did it once or twice in maybe a week or something, but he does this 17 times a day ro everyone and then blames us for our own reaction because we are not as smart as him and he's so generous giving us his experienced expertise. Its really a gift. EYEROLL

It sucks having them in your life either family or inlaws. You dont want their BS there, but if you dont invite them there will be a huge tantrum. Same with social media, if they know others are connected to you then they think they should be too. Then they analyze everything and everyone you have on there. Looking for any opportunity to point out what you say or post is wrong. They stalk and gossip. Truly pathetic pieces of 💩

I love this Video Dr Ramani because at the end, you’re so real, “sometimes we’re not perfect” and you can stick it to them! That’s me! 😂😂 thank you for being my saving grace . You are amazing and have changed my life xx

My dad was a know-it-all Narcissist. On subjects like Electronics in some mechanical principles he was quite knowledgeable, but he often tried to be an authority on subjects where he knew nothing.

Many of my family members do this. It’s completely and totally insufferable to the point of insanity. The worst is when they pull their nonsense when it pertain to my line of work- my father (MAJOR know-it-all) got to the point of being verbally abusive about how to wire something, even claiming that their hokum was an “industry standard” (it wasn’t). And wouldn’t you know it- his “industry standard” failed MISERABLY. And he STILL had the nerve to act as if his BS wasn’t the problem but was something I did. Infuriating doesn’t begin to describe how bad it gets at times.

All the narcissists in my life were know-it-alls and I’ve had more than my share.

How do I handle a narc husband who constantly contradicts everything I say? I mean everything!!!

I find is most annoying when the "advice" is hidden in the guise of helping, adding insult to injury. Once I did not invite a narc to a party because she was constantly one-uping me. She then accused me of being competitive. She fooled me for a while. Her presentation is one of loving, caring, nurturing...always doing things for me. It was when she demanded that I thank her whenever she did something for me that I finally saw the red flag. My challenge in all of this is to work on self esteem enough so that things that are said honestly do not affect me, and instead, I can see her desperate need for recognition, neutralizing the interaction.

Thank you , Dr. Ramani . Narcissists lectures make my ears bleed.

You nailed this, Dr. Ramani! 👏🏼 I have the same experience with two narcissists in my family. They have absolutely no interest in hearing anything I have to say, and they routinely lecture instead of converse. Very one sided and a successful way to prevent intimacy. Thank you for the video and the validation! ❤

My vulnerable narcissistic husband used to give me lessons about all areas of life .. hours and hours of one way conversation and I have to listen and get it and follow ... it is so exhausting

I knew a “friend” that passed in 2019 that I realize was a grandiose narcissist. He was extremely stubborn and his own worst enemy. He was one of these know it all about everything and if you refuted him, he’d view that as a threat due to his deep rooted insecurity. He was always angry and would call me to vent about work and eventually went no contact after decades of knowing him. His obituary read like JC himself died. He was one that projected worldliness but was very provincial and came to realize he was very envious of me because I came to think he wanted me and knew I would never consider him due to certain realities.

Neurospicey me is now having to realise that this is how other people might be seeing me 😅 Oh well. Another item to add to the list of things to be mindful of when engaging with people.

My boilerplate response these days is just "Okay." Gives them no fight, nothing to attack. Then I walk away.

In social situations I keep my conversation general and positive. I do more listening. An escape I use:. I'm terribly sorry to interrupt but I must find the ladies room.....and never come back......I get caught up in another conversation or just go home. I ain't that zen to be able to go to a happy place and practice breathing exercises while a Narscissts is blithering on. (I'd do that after but do everything to avoid it in the 1st place!)

pretty sure I've talked ad nauseum about the knowitall-ness of my former narcs lmao! it's probably the main aspect that keeps me in this annoying mental loop. just how intensely annoying it is to deal with that kind of person and somehow I think i was in love? ugh, the shame!

Yep they are a special kind of species. All you can do is smile, thank them for their input, and walk away

My narc mom LOVES Serena Williams. So it's especially hilarious when I would say something positive about Serena and she would JUMP to contradict me. So I would respond, "o you think THAT of Serena? I think she's great" She. Would be. Fuming. 😈

Isn't this just giving in to bullies, and just letting them have their way?

Thank you, Dr Ramani. Without you, I would not know where to stuff these narc events. (decades)

My profession, cosmetology, is chock full of narcs. Part of the reason I don't work in a shop anymore. The other reason is autistic burnout. Just couldn't handle narc bosses and clients anymore, I'd have rather been homeless than work at my last job anymore, and then last year I was diagnosed high spectrum autistic, made a lot of things clear. Love you Doc!❤

My vulnerable narcissist in law, who barely graduated from high school, will smugly go on and on how doctors know nothing. He brags about how he won't listen to these idiots or take the medication they prescribe. Of course, he has had two strokes from not taking these meds, and uncontrolled mental health issues because of course he won't take the meds for that. I deal by having as little contact as possible.

I absolutely do not engage. Not worth my time, no matter what my mood. I just don't care what they think. I live with two of them. One knows everything. EVERYTHING.

No joke, one of the things that scares me about narcs is that from the outside, when dealing with them you might look like the narcissist. Ex.: they're talking absolute nonsense and you tune them out? That looks like narc behavior. I have to remind myself that I'm not doing this bc I want to be the center of attention, I'm doing this to not start a fight.

I made the mistake of seeking trauma healing with a coach that ended up gaslighting me and made my mental health worse. After we finished the coaching she says to me that no self work I’ve done before her counts because in her words it’s like “before Christ” 🙄 I ended up blocking her

I have been accused of being a know it all… But the truth is, I am autistic who loves to talk about psychedelics. THAT SAID… I definitely don’t go around, puffing up my chest, making people feel small, and insulting folk, and I am definitely interested in what others have to say about the subject because I love a good info swapping conversation.

Try politely showing them evidence that they’re incorrect, and watch how angry they get. Their goal isn’t to give you valuable information for your benefit, it’s always for their ego, and benefit. And watch how the unwanted, and unsolicited “advice” resurfaces one day into a “you owe me”.

Saw you on the Today Show late week, it was great to see you on Tv. Many people don't understand how the narcissist acts or how slippery they are. Sometimes I wish they would just fly. Thank you for the update.❤❤❤❤😊❤❤❤❤

This episode is right on time for my holiday party this weekend. 🤣🤣

Speaking of vacations....We had an N mother and there are several N's in the family. The know-it'all N is my cousin who is also a maniac behind the wheel. I was the family Scapegoat and so I at least learned to stand my ground. Unfortunately my sister never did. She and her family live in another state and on one of their trips home, they wanted to visit a famous haunted plantation. They arrived at my mother's house to find that the N cousin and N aunt had "re-planned" their vacation for them. Instead of going to the haunted plantation alone as they had intended (it was a few hours away), they were now being TAKEN to a nearby plantation. Worse yet, the crazy cousin was driving her van and had crammed it full of elderly relatives who would now be disappointed if they didn't get their plantation tour! I would have waved them goodbye and wished them a nice day.

My brothers partner is someone who has to be right. She says "what you have to understand is...." and goes into a speech of telling you what you should think and know. I grew up with my parents telling me I was wrong the whole time so it really doesn't sit very well with telling me what I "should understand". She purposely Google's on her phone while she's with you to tell you if you are right or not.

They know it all and apparently he knows me better than I know myself. Soon set him straight on that one 🤣

Congratulations for the book! Can't wait to read it 🤗

I had this bad habit growing up as the “smart kid” in the family until I started seeing others doing this pontificating even better than me. Then I realized how bad it looked and also how it stemmed from a deep insecurity that I was not being heard by the people around me and there were so many things I actualy didn’t know. Unfortunately the narcissist doesn’t care if they’re right or even smart, they just want you to think they are.