Dear Future Wifey S4, E411 - Dating While Christian (Dee-1) 

He said "You can be so invested in someone's potential that you can overlook who they currently are" hard truth I had to learn🙌💯🔥💕

Until today, I had never heard of Dee-1 and I must say I truly received a blessing and gift today. What a truly spiritually mature young man who is wise beyond his years. Laterras, you stated a very valuable quote I will add to my inspirational toolbox; "Men should pursue and not persuade and women should present and not pursue." Thank you for your Dear Future Wifey Podcast! Congrats on season 4 and keep your words of wisdom flowing!

Three plus years later Laterras R. Whitfield following this channel I'm STILL catching up to previous Season's. This ONE RIGHT HERE Ughhh my heart! 💯%🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥 👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼 This young brother RIGHT HERE is Seasoned beyond his natural years wow wow WOW! Loved this episode catch it when y'all can...... you're welcome 😁❤🙏🏼🙏🏼🙏🏼 P.S. The letter at the END of THIS episode HIT MY HEART SOOO DIFFERENT 😳😭😭🙏🏼 My cup RUNNETH over!

Watched this young man on Hardly Initiated inspiring, motivating, encouraging, and uplifting. I am witnessing some powerful, much needed conversation 🙌🏾🙌🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾❣️❣️

I enjoyed this WAAAAAY too much! Thank you guys for this platform of such insight and vulnerability. 👏🏼

GOD MULTIPLY THE 15%. EVERY PODCAST IS HITTING HOME. THANK YOU. I AM INSPIRED!

Loved Loved Loved this episode ❤️ thanks to both of these men for being LIT!

Potential versus Now whewww we‼️🔥🔥

This young man is theeee truth!!! I thank Jesus for him!!! I pray he is richly blessed in every area of his life!! ❣️🙏🏾💯🙏🏾❣️

He is hilarious!!! “Essence, look at my dog!” 😂😂😂

"God will never, allow you to love someone that causes you to sin." WOW! Mic drop!!! 🎤 I'll carry that with me forever!

Shout out Dee-1! I’m one of the 15 brothers listening 😂 Great message bruh! Keep up the great Kingdom building work. Blessings! 🙇🏽‍♂️

I'm not sure what I expected from this young man but I appreciated this episode from beginning to end. Age and wisdom do not necessarily go hand-in-hand, his pursuit of God and his Godly confidence was apparent and refreshing. Great episode

"Don't ever settle for being the person that they just settled with knowing that they really wanted to be with somebody else."

When he said “I’ve always dated Christians but never had a Christian relationship “ wewwwwwwwwwww. 🔥 I’m tryna tell ya

I love this young man's spirit and his passion for Christ. Loved this interview 👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾

I honestly believe that neither Essence nor Laterras "missed out". If there wasn't that level of connection or alignment then there just wasn't. Ofcourse it's easy to think that because they are both amazing people who aren't just morally good but have actually chosen to pursue holiness that they'd align. However, if we fall into the trap of trying to manufacture connection or alignment if we don't genuinely feel it then that will most likely lead to heartbreak. So, I applaud them both for knowing what they want, where they stand and for keeping it respectful and real.

When someone says they don't want to be a First Lady, it often means she doesn't want to live in a fishbowl/spotlight with the judgment, scrutiny, and isolation that comes with living a public life. It is usually in reference to marrying a Pastor, but it can also apply to being the wife of a President, Senator, Governor, etc. Some people just want to live a quiet, private, Godly life without having to deal with the peanut gallery.

THIS episode was a true example of "Never judge A Book by Its Cover!" & I loved it! Great Podcast. Yes we do support! Lol 💚

When you touch something broken, you run the risk of getting cut. Wow, that is powerful statement!!!

This was refreshing! Can I say this though, as a sepiosexual I know a lot of people expect that when a "good Godly man" pursues you, you are supposed to accept him. However like Dee 1 was jokingly saying that Essence missed out on Laterras and many people feel this way too; without seeing that although people may be both Christians, sepiosexuals, genuinely good people there's a lot more that is required to make a relationship work. As a woman, who will be married one day, I'm not looking for a specific person with certain accolades or fame or any of that. 1. Is he led by God? 2. Does his vision align with mine? 3. Am I willing to submit to who he is, not just as a business person, his character, am I ok with his personality, will I be ok with his failures, am I the type of woman who will be able to bring his (our) vision alive? Will I be willing to stay through sickness, poverty and loss. Is this the kind of person I would be ok to experience loss With? A lot more goes with choosing a partner and I hope we all go through this journey with our Spiritual ears and eyes wide open!

I love what you're doing! I pray and hope that I too can provide stability, resources, etc to foster children. That has always been a dream of mine. Excellent work King! Keep moving in faith 🙏

Dee-1. is hilarious! Please have him on again 😂. And he's right, men are the prize too - men and women are a blessing to each other! "You get some d, and you get some d, and...." I'm trying to unhear that too 👀🤣🤣🤣

My gosh I love how his brain works. He’s got so much wisdom it’s refreshing to see a man with clear standards that he’s not willing to compromise on his faith. He does it with so much grace, transparency, class and honesty. I can appreciate this and probably my favorite episode thus far. Glad he’s mentoring young people, we need more people to think and operate like this. ❤

That is absolutely correct! You can't not be in love with someone's potential. You must be in love with their reality!

I've commented already but this is the type of man I would define as sexy. Someone who is for God and vulnerable. Transparent on what he's still working on about himself and knows what he want out of a woman, if he ever chooses to get married. This is nothing short of how refreshing this is to see someone who is this confident in themselves. Awesome episode again.

This episode was truly RAW!!! I mean, I laughed and Cheered at the same time!!! What a marvelous journey this young man had He didn’t allow life disappointments to lock him in a state of unworthiness, instead; he allowed God to water his purpose and path. I appreciate you LRW for demonstrating how to “shoot my shot” or shall I say; be in position to let that pure hearted man land where I’m standing.

I found Dee-1's music a few years ago. He's an artist, like you mentioned, that I could listen to with my children, and we all enjoy. Be real, be righteous, be relevant! Thank you for another great episode... I loved it! ✌🏾💜🙏🏾

This is hands down my favorite episode. It broke down the difference between pursing and chasing which is necessary in these dating streets. It also convicted me. As a Christian woman, I was always taught that I was the prize. I never even considered the notion that a man could be a prize also. And when Dee-1 said men don't care about how much money a woman makes unless he's a bum, I almost spit out my water. Real Godly men who are genuinely into a woman are more concerned about a woman's character. I was under the impression that character and finances that match were equally important. So when in "hustle" mode I would stop dating altogether. This episode had some great nuggets on how to date more intentionally. Also how to love on and cover my brothers in Christ, even when I am not romantically interested in them. This was a FIRE episode!

Fascinating guest , can see he is a very articulate man with deep conviction in Christ , he is so real & transparent , and I pray that he continues being progressive , big up yourself Dee👍🏽

Yo!! This episode was super lit!!! 🔥Love David's energy, transparency, and personality. Super dope ❤

Bro... this was so entertaining for me (lots of laughs) and REAL! One thing I've grown aware of is... I am also the prize! Salute to DEE-1 for that reminder. Always well done bro!

this has surprisingly been my favorite episode of the podcast. I enjoyed every bit of it. I pray the dee-1 continue to let God use him.

This!...I love young adults who go after God's heart❤️‍🔥 My spirit is filled with joy, love, and respect when I witness young adults talk about God and how he's working in their lives 🙌🏾 Praying you both find your wife and she's a GOOD THING!

To be honest I started not to watch this episode. I was like “ I am probably twice his age. He can’t teach me ish!” But when I tell you my soul was truly BLESSED…it really was. I have listened to it 3 times lol! Awesome!!!

Thank you Dee 1 and Dear Wifey, I am a prize, that’s why 7 years in the abstinence phase and loving myself is a journey I wish I had the chance to do before, But god knows his plan.👍🏽

I didn’t know who D1 was but I’m glad to have heard him, the passion he has and the gentleman’s conversation. The message I received was that, he knows who he is, knows what he wants, has healed from his past, learned from his past and is passionate in his spiritual path. Stay blessed young man…some men over the age of 50 can take a page out of your book.

I. Loved. This. Episode. I kept smiling as I watched y’all discussion! So much fun! Keep being you D!

Whhhhheeeeeew! God has spoken to me through this episode. Dealing with the mental gymnastics right now with a guy I'm dating! " if you can't make me feel desired and wanted" , there are plenty of men who will. I say it all the time grown folks don't play the relationship/communication games. Speak to me LORD! God bless Dee1 & Laterras...

That was AMAZING! He is an AWESOME individual! What a blessing he is to so many!!! I wasn’t familiar with him but will definitely check out his music! Praying for him and all that concerns him. I do believe this is one of the best interviews yet!!!💕🙏🏾💕🙏🏾

That New Orleans accent baybey!!!!

I think this is my favorite episode so far. Dee1 is on fire for God and is a great example to the young people that being a Christian doesn’t have to look stuffy or “buttoned” up. Plus, being from NOLA he is so New Orleans. I pray he makes a huge impact in the lives of the wayward youth.

Loved everything about this episode. The amount of wisdom that David attained through all of the hardships was awesome. Finding Balance is where I am now. So happy to hear it. Heard his heart and authority. The song "Authenticity" at the end was the icing on the cake. Praying that David heals from not being able to take calls from Grandma, his "favorite girl." Pray that he doesn't beat himself up for it. Wouldn't want any guilt to arise that would cause him not to be all that he was called to be! Keep on loving! That letter at the end Laterras to your future wife was touching as well. Also, please keep pouring into Armani. Don't want his heart to grow cold at such a young age. Blessings to you all!

11 months and MANY viewed episodes later… this is one of (if not THE) BEST episode!! 👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽🎉🎉🎉 Dee-1 is phenomenal! 1st time hearing of him; soo glad I watched🤗

Wow! The chemistry allowed you all to drop MAJOR gems. This episode blessed me spiritually and generally . Thanks

I love this young man’s heart and testimony!!!! May the blessings of our Heavenly Father run you over 😊😊😊

To the kings that come to this show. Thank you so so much. It may seem like something small to you but to us, women it is a lot. Sometimes when we're tempted to drop our standards yall keep them up, actually you help us raise them. May you all be eternally blessed.

Wow! What an incredible man of God. Thank you for introducing Dee1 to me. Love his authenticity. The anointing is real and he wears it well!

I Love Love Love this episode, The TRANSPARENCY is EVERYTHING!!!!! AWESOME GUYS

This is definitely one of my top 3 favorites of all the episodes! You find the best people to be on your podcast and I am so happy I watched this one. David is authentic, genuine, and real, and it's so refreshing to hear and see men like this. God bless good, God led men. You all ARE a rare and true prize. 🙏🏾🥰

I am the MVP in Christ eyes!!! Love it💕💝💖💖🙌🙌🙌 Thank You Jesus!!! Powerful Broadcast!!! Love it!! Love it!!🙌🙌🔥🔥🔥👑👑👑

Wow Young man!!! I will be the first to say I totally was not prepared for the Words and knowledge that came out of your mouth. You definitely personifies Don't judge a Book by its Cover. You Amazing. Don't know your work, But I'm stalkin you now.. I lived in New Orleans. And you a Preacher! God is sooooo Amazin! Wow Yaweh! Boy you're more mature than men my age.. No disrepect ya Feel me? Well Done!! Your very mature and very well versed in Heartbreak and Heartache.. But has come thru Better not Bitter. Well Done Young Man.. Well Done.

His heart though.... Truly a man and men after God's own heart!!! I love this podcast!!!!

I bump his song before and after I became debt free.

I found out about Dee-1 on a Johnathan McReynolds song and I thoroughly enjoyed this conversation. This was another great episode and you both gave me things to think about. Thank you both for being l.i.t. and sharing.

I like Dee’s music. I also listen to Bizzle, Lecrea, Andy Mineo, KB, Sevin, Canton Jones, and a few others. My kids like them as well. Sevin come off a lil harder than the others but I love his message.

So refreshing to witness a man as young as he is speak with such positivity. I loved his vibe...his confidence! Another AWESOME episode, Laterras!👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👑💪🏾

@Dee 1 you truly have a kingdom mindset. That is truly refreshing to see! This episode was wonderful, and well worth my time as usual. @Laterrus whitfield thank you for yet another great episode!

I loved every bit of this episode, D1 is such an admirable young man. I pray him God’s best. As I was listening, I was reminded of listening to Dr. Myles Munroe and he emphasized Matt 22:37 which reads “love the Lord your God with all your heart, soul, and mind. Dr. Munroe emphasized that in doing so, others will not be able to hurt us because God has all our heart, mind, and soul, so profound. I pray Armani and Dee 1 find peace in that scripture going forward. Well Leterras, you did it again, it was well worth watching.

"God is not looking for perfection; God is looking for progression." 🙏🏾🎇🧘🏾‍♀️💪🏾

This was a bomb episode. I love to hear men talk. Lateras that letter to your future wifey was 🔥. Amazing Men Of God!

As much as his dating horror stories are funny I love how up front his exs were in telling him what he didn't want to hear but definitely needed to hear.

I loved everything about this episode. Your podcast never disappoints. I now know who Dee1 is and thank you for your transparency, mission and purpose for God. Laterras that letter 🔥🔥. I’m like Dee1, your future wifey is watching and how amazing it would be if she’s also writing you letters. Keep be authentically you and I’m praying for you and your future wifey🙏🏾.

So, I’ve been following this guy on IG for about two years now and he’s amazing! I never heard this part of his story, and it just makes him all the more great! Laterras you have a great eye, almost like a Christian recruiter. You find extraordinary people with relatable back stories to be your guest and together you bring soo much wisdom to us viewers and often times clarity and understanding, and gratefulness for our Father God for his Love, mercy and Grace. This is my absolute favorite podcast❤️

Absolutely one of my favorite episodes! I have been following Dee-1 for a while now before Slingshot David and I appreciate and admire his journey. He is the first Christian Rappers I’ve seen that not only submitted his life to Christ , but also his body ! He is definitely dropping Gems! You can’t build on looks! You have to definitely look at and know who someone follows (God) to know how he leads ! 3’s Up

This young man is hilarious!! I love how he is authentically himself!!! I can see him in his classroom connecting with his students and building real relationships while teaching them life lessons! He has great incite on life, highly intelligent, but real at the same time!! Great episode!❤️👏🏼🙏

This was LIT! I smiled and laughed the whole time😅 I loved Dee 1's energy and transparency. Those lyrics were as strong as that letter... real stuff! Thank you both and stay blessed!

Glory to God!!! He took me out when he said my preference is not, is being with a person who has no respect for the anointing and fruit that I have. That's 100 all day and I feel the same!

Dee 1 such an amazing Man of God.. his wisdom & intentions so good.. Wow God Bless him .. President 2032.. May God continue to Bless you Laterras on your journey..👏🏾🙏🏾🔥🥰

I’m late but this was good.. lots of laughs and nuggets! I’m married now but back in my 20s and even early 30s convos like this would have been SO HELPFUL. Nobody was unpacking like this 15yrs ago…

I really enjoyed this! I went to follow Dee-1 only a few minutes into the interview. He gave me revelation on why I don't like surprises. I never thought it was trauma related. Also as usual consistent confirmations. This podcast is always in my journal and prayer closet. 🙏🏻 #BARS #God'sBest

I will always stay subscribed and support this channel. The accountability and responsibility he has taken upon himself and others I will forever respect! 💯

I really enjoyed this conversation and I love his accent. It's good to see good men speak on these topics. I know some women hate the idea of bringing anything to the table or even being asked the question, but it was framed in a way that was respectful and made sense. Kudos to you guys.

It’s so crazy that he’s this episodes guest! I just got hip to him 2 weeks ago with his 2019 album. People Don’t Want That Real 🔥🔥🔥🔥 The accuracy of this song is everything! Y’all had me rolling at work with this episode though 😂😂

This episode was amazing!! I am sharing it with my college daughter immediately!😊Also I have to support anyone from my home state of Louisiana!❤️Much success to this young man. We need more positive Christian examples for our young black men to see. God Bless!

Love Dee-1 and this interview is amazing per usual!

This is the best episode that I’ve seen. Thank you Dee-1. It’s my pleasure meeting you through this interview. May God continue to use you.

Dee-1 is a dope young man. So is Laterras. Blessings to both of you guys.

This was so dope! Ha, he said, “You shoot your WHOLE shot and all you get is, Seen” 🤦🏾‍♀️😂🤦🏾‍♀️ ~ Why do good people always miss good people! Yo that CD idea was the best, that’s horrible that it didn’t land the way you wanted it to but still all in God’s plan! Just downloaded the album and can’t wait to listen! God bless! Update: I listened to the album and I LOVE IT! I have never heard of Dee-1 before this podcast and I’m glad I watched this episode! My 14 yr old heard me listening to it and was like, “is this the guy that was on the thing you were watching last night? He sounds good!” I love what you are doing Dee-1 keep going! God be with you and bless all you put your hands to!

this was so funny! it’s crazy b/c as a female ppl have always said “take your time” “get to know him” but I’m like at a certain point in the relationship yall both should be evolving to the point where you have to relearn each other anyway so what’s the point of wasting time pretending to be friends if you know you want something more. if the lord tell me I’ve met my ordained husband but the timeline looks crazy to other ppl imma go for it anyway. I want to be God influenced not driven by society’s standards.

Much respect for you guys and D1 talking real, righteous and relevant. Love that you think outside of the box and understand the importance of balance.

It’s just crazy how the good Godly men know what they want and always meet the opposite. And it’s crazy how the good godly women know what they want and always get the opposite. It’s like it’s so hard for them to run into one another.

Love, love, loved this episode!!! Great words of wisdom from a young dude!

Wow!!! Thank you for the full transparency! I love when Dee 1 said..."I took a chance on me,...God was all in the mix." So many great points were addressed. Some of my takeaways... 1. Respect and Reverence. 2. Being confined to a box. 3. The difference between pursuing and chasing. 4. Knowing the prize has value. 5. Having a heart for the people and not the paper. 6. Rare Find that is specific to your purpose. 7. Shoot your shot🤣🤣 8. Your identity comes through Christ. 9. Being Real, Righteous, and Relevant Great episode gentlemen!🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾

I Love Dee's honesty and vulnerability. Wish most men will listen to this especially about shooting their shot and not feeling bad about being rejection, also about being assertive with what you want. One day you will find your queen who has been praying for a King. As always this podcast is such a blessing to many.

When his X said she's a person who can't be figured out, her statement essentially means that she doesn't want a deep connection that exposes her vulnerabilities, but real love exposes and thrives on truth. This is my 1st time hearing of Dee 1, but this young man is definitely well on his way. He's definitely a great teacher for the Kingdom. Keep up the great work gentlemen, and definitely keep the faith, because God delivers on all his promises. 👍 🙏🙌

God Bless You Dee1!! 🙏🏾🌺. As always Laterras great conversations!! Thought provoking and entertaining!! God Bless You Brotha a Million Fold for your transparency!! ✨✨✨

This was TOTALLY LIT Laterras!🔥 .....I was Delighted to hear this Real Man's Testimony of Love and Lost and the Growth needed for Living Committed as a Christian Single....The Humor in the Process 😅 ...I Loved 😍 It!...I wish You Both the Very Best in Finding Your Queen...And that "Future Wifey" Letter at the end! 🔥💞 Holy PASSION...It's Possible.. Trust God for that Marriage 💑 Night Gift! ...

To have Laterras and David in the same room=Priceless 👏🏾

This was a phenomenal episode, and he is hilarious!!! I like the vibe with you interviewing men. The whole interview was impactful, but the missed calls part/finding balance was most crucial. I LOVED his Sister Circle interview a few years ago, but this one is probably my favorite. Thank you for having him on Laterras! Edit: I forgot to say THANK YOU Laterras for recognizing your son's hurt over the dating/ rejection experience. The Spirit of Rejection is VERY real and not talked about often enough. Thank you for discussing it. The Holy Spirit will help him 🙏🏽

The title of this episode should be Don't Judge a Book by the Cover. I love him! Very intriguing. Good stuff!

So much respect for Dee-1... All the way from Sallie Mae Back days! Congrats to him on the residency. I really enjoyed this interview, cause it was definitely LIT!

He said, "You shoot your shot and all you get back is S-EE-N" (poor, poor, poor baby)

It’s one thing to be familiar with the artist, but what a blessing to see deeper into the man. I have been rocking with the NO homey Dee-1 since he “paid Sallie Mae back” but I absolutely enjoyed the opportunity to see more into his heart. Great interview.

I loved this episode. Very insightful and funny. I’m dealing with a situation where I feel a little rejected by a guy that I really liked as a child. He asked for my number after I ran into him a couple days before my birthday this year. And he actually was super short with me in text messages. And never calls. That’s never happened to me before so I feel a lil slighted. I deleted his number and moved on cause one thing I know is when a guy is really interested in me, he’ll show it.

Deep sigh!!! Laterras, thank you for saying what you said about asking yourself “am I too specific?” because I too ask myself this. But like you said….It’s all about purpose. Not interested in just linking up with any ole person just to have someone. Great interview

Yoooooo the album is fire!!!! 🔥 🔥 🔥 y’all should check it out

I really was blessed listening to this conversation with you and this young man!!! I listened to his music! Love it! Keep keeping on both of you! God continue to bless and keep you both 💜🙏🏾

I loved this interview. I learned so much . Thank you so much for this program. You give me hope that there are true Christian men that want a truly Godly relationship.

This episode is definitely one of my favorites so far... Never judge a book by its cover. I was glued from the beginning to the end. My goodness, his transparency and his personality seemed exceptionally authentic.