I was working really hard when I came here newly and sending money here and there. At present I have borrowed myself sense. I only do my normal shift and go home, when people call I tell them I do not have.
Most people living in abroad are beginning to wake up. We understand your message. Most people in Nigeria and elsewhere are greedy and heartless especially your family members. Human beings are very difficult to be satisfied. Love from Sydney.
Well said Aisha. Majority of people in diaspora are sacrificial lambs for their family. Many work day & night for many of their families to live good in Nigeria, and eventually degenerate and some even have stokes or die in the process. Many are now learning from others people’s mistakes. Great message
I needed to hear this. I am a victim of all what you said. Looking at the amount I sent home over the 17 years, I could have been a multi millionaire in Naira.
Wow! Very profound. My goodness, I can relate to all the points you made. Watching from US. While I was suffering and helping my nephew at ESUT, he was busy defrauding me. When I questioned him, he told me off and stated that “agbasia agua mail.” Meaning after the race, we would count the miles. Mind you he is younger than all my children. Just as you said, I deprived myself just so I can be of assistance, and to have him say that to me really woke me up. Needless to say that he educated me very well.
This is also the story of life for several decades one. Any family member I entered any type of business or financial assistance arrangement with has massively defrauded me. I was even massively defrauded by close family members when I was financing the burial of my older brother. Yet, I'm the "wicked" one.
@@ositadinmaodiligaba4893 Ndi Igbo have this saying “Ozuni zucha onwe nwa, nwe nwa. Meaning after you have trained someone else’s child, he still remains his father’s. God loves you and that why you will always be ahead.
This is really sad my dear. May God help us all. I was doing 3 jobs so I can help. Infact I have brought my brother and his family here and 3 other people are still coming by end of this year. Others are still counting on us to bring them over. I must tell you It's not easy. Imagine Sacrificing without appreciation.
And the sad part of this, some of the people you are sending money to in Nigeria are building houses & hiding it from you so that you don’t stop sending money to pay for their kids university education. One of my brothers has 2 houses and yet I get called for school fees, medical bills, this & that. I have reduced what I send home drastically.
Wise counsel as always. Thanks Aisha, You're absolutely right. I wish many more of the diasporans would have the opportunity to listen to this kind advice and learn. It's truly tempting and tedious for them abroad. Bills to pay , families back home at their own health risks.
I just love the fact that your love for Nigeria, Nigerians and folks like us who have dependents back home is pure, sincere, true and real. Thank you Mama Yesufu.
@abinadabagbo1603 Every Nigerian or African in the diaspora has numerous such stories. Believe you me, if we all start sharing our experiences, Nollywood, Bollywood, and Hollywood combined would be flooded with movie scripts containing our war stories.
I know what u re saying dear Aisha, 15 years ago i left Nigeria i nearly developed Bp from demands and stories from families and friends. I continued struggling to meet their demands until i sat down for introspection, then i realized the ppl i am losing my sleep for are living better, then i withdrew to look after myself. Since then, i have peace, though i omly help when i want and when the need comes. Some of them were angry with me that they stopped calling. I can say i know better now. Thanks for the advice
@@Franc-scholly2519 Did you sponsor yourself to the abroad or someone helped you. Either ways, you can help one person in your family by invitation and the person can also help another person in the family and it goes on like that. When this happened nobody will call you for help but must of you that was helped becomes selfish and proud, and you also want the entire family to beg you for help. Nigeria is hard for now but you can eat your money alone and don't worry about them but help will come for those families you neglected at the right time. You are not God. When I was in Nigeria, I used my salary to take care of my siblings because its my responsibility. If I don't help them who will do it. Life is too short to be self centered. Most people in abroad here live big and rich while their families in Africa are living in abject poverty. There is no rich person in the grave. I will continue to do the best to help my people. @Aisha, hope you are not selfish? and I don't see you do give away to people that are in need. Nigerians need any help and support for now.
Life is complicated. It's a shame that African leaders have no shame. Otherwise with all the insults they get from Western leaders like Putin calling Africa a cemetery for rich Africans they would have been annoyed enough to want to fix their countries!
It's just like you spoke to me directly Madam Aisha. May God bless you for reminding us what's necessary. I know it's not easy to implement, but I will have to try. Yeah, I know I have seen you once in ABDN before.
A few years ago we lost a brother here in the UK, he worked a night shift, got home slept and never woke up. He left a young child behind. Like you said, his family back in Nigeria have moved on. This is a lesson to the rest of us.
@@Neddie2k Who is good, is good. Stop all these capping. Some UK immigrants are stingy to their families and most of them lived bad lives over there like, clubbing and drinking and smoking and that is what killed them, not their families demand in Africa. People that live in Europe that are from Africa like to gossip about their Africans people and called them lizzy all because they asked them for money, the truth is that if it was easy to live in Africa, why did you travelled abroad? If you can not help your families who else can you help? Nobody. Some of you can not even send invitation to your brothers or sisters to start new life abroad but you can complain about them. Everything have their end no matter how interesting and great it is. The good part about this abroad thing is that, after all this complain and rich life, you will still come back to Nigeria to settle for retirement because nobody will take care of you over there when you are old. The law of cama will still catch up with you.
Thank you ma, I'm not in the diaspora but I stole from this message. I cannot help my family when I'm in the grave. I need to pulse, take a rest, make some savings for the future of the same family I'm dying for as a struggling guy. Thank you again.
You said it all , that’s why I love your show very much, I live in the USA for many years and I know very well what you’re saying, may the Lord God almighty bless you and your family in Jesus Christ name amen.
Beyond wisdom 🙌 Thank you so much, my sister, for this wonderful advice that some of us needed to hear. I supported some of my siblings for more than 10 years, helping with their children's tuition and annual rent . I put them in a monthly payroll, and those siblings get so comfortable they don't want to help themselves. I cut them off to start putting more money into my retirement savings. I am 57 now, and most of my earnings went to family support. Once again, thank you so much.
Just yesterday, I composed the message below because I was fed up with the pressure people back home put on me. I wanted to post it on my WhatsApp status, but I've still not found the courage to do so: " Please, forgive me if you have asked me for a favour and I couldn't come through. I'm not stingy; it's just a matter of perspective. From your point, you see yourself as an individual, whereas from my point of view, you are only part of a long list."
You owe no one explanation. It's better to just do what you want than making unnecessary statement that evil entitled people will hold against you. Just be persistent in telling them no, you're having difficulty meeting with your own bills, and they won't come back again.
I was living like that, but when I traveled home, I found out that the people I was killing myself to please are living better than me. They have time to rest, to party, every weekend new aso ebi, they eat well enough wear expensive clothes, before I'll buy clothes, I'll think twice about it. All their problems, feeding, school fees, and rent hospital bills are on my head. When I returned back to base, I realized that I had been making a lot of mistakes and that I had not been taking good care of myself. My mentality changed completely. Now, I'm ready to help those who are putting efforts to succeed
Fantastic! That’s always the thing. You that earn the money will think twice before spending those that don’t have no problem spending it with sense of entitlement
Aisha, I thank you and will thank you again. I was a nobody to most but since I came here from my independent struggle, people are landing me into mental, financial, and above all my health. Incessant headache as there's never a day, 2 or 3 person must call or send account number not even a text for money with every confidence. Oh myself! Unlearn and learn, please. Please, Aisha, if there's a tip on how to learn saying NO, help me and do POST on that 😢. Thanks immensely. This an eye opener
Please, learn to ignore o. Aisha has said it. you cannot help the poor when you are in the grave. A word is enough for the wise. Be wise o.@@nkemdirimiheanacho8764
@@AishaYesufuTV . It was a great lesson to learn. They asked me why I was looking bad. That I should buy a better wig and buy better clothes to wear. They asked me not to go out until I change my looks. After that trip, I cried and promised to care of ME before others. I’ve not stopped giving because it’s in my nature to give but I don’t allow their entitlement nature to weigh me down anymore. I learnt a lesson. God bless you ma. Keep saying the truth.
@@emmanueljohnson8983 But you will call them when you want to send messages. Did you helped yourself to abroad or someone assisted you. While not help them to cross over and teach them how to fish too but you want to be the only one there. They will still get there somedays with you or without you. Emmanuel you are not God.
Don't think I have ever subscribed to any youtuber, but this advice made me do it. One greatest piece of advice that really touched me. Thanks a lot for this.
Aisha I really want to thank you for all you have been doing for Nigeria and your advice for us in diaspora and may God Almighty continue to protect and bless you as long as you are alive. We have learned our lesson about the people back home .
Thanks so much madam Aisha... this is a recurring experience in the UK, where i reside... it's sometimes the "pressure", from back home, alongside the meeting up of bills to be paid... it's, so pathetic,that, some went into loans to getting down here...I, hope and pray,that these family members understand the true situation... Thanks for speaking for us...May Allah (SAW), continue to endow you and your family...
That is very wonderful words. God bless you ma . Your advice is full of truth and wisdom. Until I get this mindset then I could be able to put up something tangible. Thank you so much.
Great message. I use to be so much a victim of this, my elder cousin schooled me on this. Getting back to Nigeria, I realized that the people are only loyal to what they collect. I am wiser now.
Thank you. It's more about meeting up in the UK than what they send home. Some are trying to build houses back home and not about anyone sensing money home
Not true. Absolutely not true. Find something else to scapegoat; maybe the housing crisis over there? It's just like folks who say you can get rich by skimping and scraping even on the basics of life. Well, while you can make some petty savings by making your own coffee, for instance, it won't be a game-changer. The game-changer would be drastically increasing your income to much higher levels. But don't let yourself get overbilled sha. Def not by strangers. There's your ageing parents who you have direct responsibility for. There's your siblings who you COULD help. Then there's others who you DO NOT have responsibility for. Know your capacity!
Aisha you are full of wisdom please stand for an elective position because you are a trusted quantity. I know there are other Nigerians like you but you are a blessing to our country and humanity.
Very profound to our day to day and experiences from family members and friends back home in Nigeria. They own cars when some of us in diaspora don't any. We move about by city buses and trains. God bless you Aisha.
