Death and the Erasure of Trans Identity 

hello there! i just stumbled upon your channel by complete accident, I don't know you or anything about you, but you have such a welcoming aura about you that I just had to stay and listen to your stories. i can tell darby was an incredible person just by how you talk about them and i know just what you mean about that feeling, that when someone's gone your brain just keeps thinking they're just not around, and they'll surely come home one day, but of course they never do. after a while life just grows bigger around their absence, but the fact they're gone never really leaves. i once knew someone a little bit like your darby when i was in highschool, very enigmatic, interesting and artistic, seemed to transcend beyond the gender-boundaries that i knew of previously and was larger-than-life itself, unlike you though I was too shy to ever become friends with them haha. we're from very different worlds and on very different paths in life, hell i'm nearly a decade younger than you, but your words still resonated with me and were actually quite comforting to hear, as it's easy to think you're alone in your experiences. i hope for you that your own life will always feel worth living and that your art will always feel worth making, much love from 🇨🇦

I saw this on my TL today. I can't say how glad I am to see it. As a trans person, I am touched to my soul. My heart aches for your pain, knowing you had to go through both these deaths. Sammy's death must've really been so aggrivating, even as a person not even knowing her personally to see all the injustice for her after she was gone. As for Darvy? I can't physically fathom what you went through, but my heart sings its condolences. Knowing your story with them is not only touching but really changes my own perspective. I can understand what they went to, to an extent, staying with an abusive partner to only think about committing (but in their case, actually going through.) It's not my apology to make, but I'm sorry. I don't pity you but I empathize with you. You deserve this relief, with all you have lost.

I watched the first few minutes before I have decided to click away. But before I go I want to say I hope things get better for you. It sucks so bad to have to deal with death on top of everything trans people go through. I'm trans too and I work in a school so everything that you have said and warned about in the first few minutes hits so close to home for me. I hope the world becomes a better place but meanwhile I hope you and your trans friends continue to be safe

This video... Was honestly... Idk I don't have the energy to write right now but I feel for you. As a trans man it's hard. All the dysphoria, the sh I'm going through for like 3 years straight since I started middle school.. It's hard. I'm 15, turning 16 this year, but I couldn't finish school in time to go to high school, so... But this really made me feel something deep. Thank you for making this video, I love you. Rest well, Sammy & Darby 💜

thank you for being so vulnerable. this video touched me in ways you couldn’t imagine.

yeah this video a bit of challenge to watch just sad how people are messed up about someone dieing for lack of acceptance. but on the side note am very impressed how you handle situations about people hurting themselves and am glad you take them serious verses the school like blowing it off like it could of been anybody dieing on campus! i find very ridiculous! the parents dead name the child is on another level like her death wasn’t enough! just gross!

i am not sure it is worth much but thankyou for keeping the memories of the dead with you.

Rest in peace to that poor young soul. Being able to express your true self is one of the most fulfilling things a human can do and her parents denying her of that is beyond cruel.

Hey. Complete stranger here, but my heart goes out to you. I don't know you, I don't know any of the people you talked about, and I probably will never watch another of your videos- but I just want you to know, I care for you. And I'm sure that the people you talked about in this video are living a happier life in heaven (idk if you believe in heaven or not, and I don't want to be all preachy on you but it's the only thing I feel I can say in this situation..) But anyway. You are an incredible human being, you care so much and sometimes that's all that you can do. Likewise, for me- I care for you, stranger. Thank you for existing

I don't usually comment but I wanted to thank you for making this video ❤

I remember as a trans kid a lot of the reason I didn’t kill myself was because I didn’t want to be buried under my legal name, like a gamer tag above my grave. This is absolutely devastating.

I moved out of my parents house 2 weeks after I graduated high school, I couldn’t live in my parents house or town as a lesbian. There were no shelters for any women in 1981, you are legal adults at 18. Go make your way in the world. I’ve been poor as heck working 60 hours a week but worked to get better jobs.