I loved this song as a single 21 year old. I hated it as a married 33 year old. It was like looking into a mirror at the ugliest parts of myself. My failures. How I’d settled. How I’ve let myself go and given up on the idea of real love. Couldn’t bear it. Going through a divorce now. I can listen to it again, but with a new perspective. Thank you for this song.
He looks so sad singing this. From the very beginning it seems he went back in time to when this story meant the world to him and it was crushing him to write these lyrics.
When I hear an acoustic version of this, it brings a whole new meaning to the song, that I sometimes miss while listening to it on a CD. Love this version....
So, I just found this song. My ex-wife was a Deathcab fan, but I had no interest in their music... Until I heard this song 2 days ago; wow. I wish I would have found it sooner. Like 4 years sooner😔... Regardless, I'd like to thank the artist for this beautiful piece of music. Music of all genres has saved me, and soothed my mind, body, and spirit more so than anything on this Earth. Thank you very humbly, and I'm grateful for songs like this... I hope everyone who reads this is blessed with happiness and Love of the purest kind🤍
Lyrics Cath, she stands with a well-intentioned man But she can't relax with his hand on the small of her back And as the flashbulbs burst She holds a smile like someone would hold a crying child And soon everybody will ask what became of you 'Cause your heart was dying fast, and you didn't know what to do Cath, it seems that you live in someone else's dream In a hand-me-down wedding dress Where the things that could have been are repressed But you said your vows, and you closed the door On so many men who would have loved you more And soon everybody will ask what became of you 'Cause your heart was dying fast, and you didn't know what to do The whispers that it won't last roll up and down the pews But if their hearts were dying that fast, They'd have done the same as you And I'd have done the same as you
Rarebear...I have a similar story. This song came out after the love of my life came back to me and said she wanted to work towards being together for good...said her head was clear about what she wanted. But a year or 2 later after another "lame guy" from the past, one she already kicked to the curb for others became financially successful and in 2012 they married and now have a child. This song came out around the time we were dating again and has a lot of meaning to me. I still havent fully recovered but I find this song therapeutic to say the least and brings me back down a path that had so much joy but then so much pain. Good luck to you, you will push through it and music will be a cornerstone in doing that as it was for me.
Damn!!!! I just saw this! I am going to sit on my couch, with my acoustic guitar, until I can play this version of this song flawlessly! I love the LP version so I didn't think I'd like this unplugged? I was wrong, Ben is a Fucking Genius song writer!
Duy Nguyen There's many tutorials on the LP version, the how to play it. I just got the chord changes from there and then played with this video and it's easy to figure out, not easy to play. He just makes it look easy.
Just the guitar itself is beautifully composed, but his voice and lyrics just add even more to it. If only I could figure out those strange chords he uses. (ex: the last 3 chords in the song)
