He read in a self help book that being confident was something that women like. Since he has never experienced real confidence he doesn't know what it feels like, so he did another thing that book told him "fake it till you make it".
Yea it's the weirdest thing cuz you'd think they go hand in hand but with this dude it's just bizarre to see, he has all the confidence for his ego and image but not his actual self and personality like dude???
@@zoiezo72 a confident person wouldn’t tell you they’re fabulous; they would simply BE fabulous. An egotistical person wants you to KNOW they’re fabulous.
@@davidmoyes7010 nah I’d say it’s something you work toward, cause if you wanna be a talented guitarist, you aren’t born with that talent, you have to acquire it, same thing with being an artist, like when you draw it might be yeah but you progress and can get better over time
It sounds like she had bad experiences from dating apps and decided to give blind dating a try. Poor girl wasn't expecting this level of cringe in person 😂
He’s ‘friendzoned’ because he has a high level of self obsession which is actually just insecurity masquerading as confidence. Both are a repellent to women but to potential friends as well. What kind of a person wants to even be friends with someone who doesn’t have the ability to listen and converse properly. He must be very sad and lonely inside, he needs to drop the act and he will see better results in all aspect of his life.
Him: "Has polyamory ever crossed your mind?" Her: "Oh, actually I don't mind!" Translation: Her: "Oh god yeah I don't want to commit to this puddle of garbage water."
The folded arms right as he says she’s pretty. She even rolled her eyes a bit. Whatever he said before that, she did not like it (as heavily edited as these shows are, we’ll never know what it was). If your blind date suddenly folds their arms across themselves like that and kind of stiffens their body, something just went wrong. She went from relaxed and open to “nope”. You don’t need to know much about body language to see that one, but I doubt he caught it. He seems like the type who waits for someone to stop talking just so he can start talking about himself again.
Yes definitely just waiting till his turn to talk. It’s almost impossible to have a decent conversation with people like that. There the ones who constantly say “ I don’t remember you telling me that “
He wants all the benefits of having a girlfriend without him having to change anything about his current lifestyle. A girlfriend except for when it’s inconvenient
I understand when you aren’t conventionally attractive you have to be your own hype man to get people to give you a fair chance but there is difference in being comfortable in your own skin and sure of yourself and acting very arrogant and making yourself look like a huge doofus. Lol
Yeah, I know plenty of guys that aren’t conventionally attractive that get lots of attention from women. In almost every case it’s because they’re really cool, down to earth guys. To act like this guy & get girls, you need to be far better looking.
No one can ever convince me that a potential red flag in a man is a receding hairline bc, without fail, every awful man has a receding hair line. However, not all bald or receding hair line ppl are bad tho.
A "Rockstar" who doesnt like pop music,, but music that he connects with "Justin Bieber". Does rap,, but is no rapper. Doesnt do rock,, but rockstar. That guy is an inigma.
It always fascinates me the kind of people who are CONVINCED they're "gods" and can do no wrong. THIS guy thinks he's a "rock star"? No... No, that's not what I'd call you, sir.
SAME. Anyone I've met that believes they're God's tends to lean into the Narcissistic or NPD spectrum, trauma dump (like Im great and this how ppl haven't believed me, aka their life story) and are generally a nightmare to be around but even harder to cut off any type of relationship.
@@damiandavis4831 Largely narcissists who talk a big game, but have NOTHING to show for it. There's a difference between being confident and being delusional. Lol.
I dropped out of college for two years. Realized how hard it was to do what I wanted without a degree. Went back and finished! It took 7 years with the break but done.
Kissing on the cheek is common with European and South American cultures from what I’ve learned. Also this guy is so riddled with insecurity i can feel it through the screen
It is very common with french speaking countries (France, Belgium, Switzerland) and the number of times changes depending on the country and ALWAYS end in really awkward situation when visiting another country or region :'(
The girl: “oh…that kind of blind date. If only I had been the blind one!” I know looks aren’t everything but there is such a thing a “nope” first sight. Lol. Thank you for all the laughs.
Yeah, I wouldn’t go in for a hug unless her body language clearly indicated that she was going to give one. Totally agree with the fist bump. Handshakes can be kind of awkward at times, lol.
As a man I would prefer a hand wave. A hug is too personal for me and a fist bump is too cringe. A hand shake will be fine and acceptable for me but a fist bump is too cringe for me.
I love how he tells her he's a rockSTAR and she's like "oh cool" and is completely uninterested in the subject LMAO Btw in Brazil is very common to touch cheeks and kiss the air when you meet someone. Some older people do it with 3 kisses alternating sides which I think is overkill lol
As a polyamorous person. His approach to polyamory makes my skin crawl. My bf and I are fully open and sleep with other people. But the way he was talking about that was sooooo slimy
“All my friends, friendzone me” Wow I don’t understand why. I mean you don’t actually think of them as friends, and you just want to hook up with them. They aren’t “friendzoning” you, they weren’t interested in the first place. You know, since they are your “friends”?
From a woman, if you’re going on a blind date just ask if they’re happy to go in for a hug. Some people will be comfortable with it and others won’t so just ask, it’s not rocket science
I’d find that creepy if a guy asked to hug me. Just reading body language and assessing how the conversation is going should tell them if a hug is appropriate or not. Any normal adult will be able to do this.
@@MeHoyMinoy-cv3ps some people struggle with those skills. It’s best to get an explicit answer if you’re scared of misreading signals. Personally, I wouldn’t mind a person asking me, it’s when they get pushy after hearing no that it becomes a problem
@@sugasweet435 I do see what you’re saying actually, I think if someone is quite bad at reading signals because of something like a disability I’d pick up on it so that’s fine. In general I’d still find it uncomfortable though, for example I used to have a colleague at work who would ask to hug me and other women and he was EXTREMELY inappropriate with all the females in the office. I’m not one for hugs anyway unless very very close with somebody, if I have to hug somebody that I’m not - I literally hate every moment. 😂
@@MeHoyMinoy-cv3ps Same as the other person said, it still doesn't excuse being creepy. I have mild autism and have a hard time reading body language. I have to be a bit forward because reading body language is unreliable, that's why asking is the safest thing to do because I don't want to mess around with consent. Asking for a hug though on a blind date is a bit too much.
Asks if she is interested in polyamory, she says yes,goes on to basically say cool throw that out the window because I'm going to cheat on you at every opportunity. Wonders why he can't get a date
My late boyfriend was actually a professional musician, I cannot imagine him ever acting this cocky about it because that would be stupid. It was his job and his passion but he wasn't stuck up. And yes, touring does often involve hooking up with random people, but I don't think this guy has to worry about that because he can't get any woman interested in the first place.
There is no need to act like this guy when your body of work speaks for itself. This guy is trying to be manipulative by explaining how downright rad he is, but it's extraordinarily transparent.
Some people only made it because they had that attitude. It's like the first song on the first Oasis album: Rock n' Roll star or Rhianna: Rockstar 101.
@@kingcosworth2643 oh for sure, like why don't you play your music then? It is very hard to work in that industry but it also takes humility to get in, and hard work, and people to actually like you
@@davidmoyes7010 most people don't just go into making music on their own. Most people start out doing background work for other artists, that was my boyfriend's career as he loved music but saw how much fame sucked. To make those connections and to get further in the industry you have to be likeable. Artists will help get you more connections and build up your portfolio if you're nice and fun to be around, cockiness won't get you respected or far
@@davidmoyes7010 I can also almost promise you that those artists were better behind the scenes because no one likes working with the cocky artists, they like real people
I wouldn't say that. It's his overall aesthetic that shows he is too try hard and doesn't take many other's opinions, since I am sure someone try to tell him his style is not generally attractive
On Ken's point about hugging, as a super extroverted woman I do tend to hug people when I first meet them. However, it's mostly when meeting a friend, not necessarily on dates, and it really just depends on the person and the feeling of the situation. I always ask if it's okay and would never go for a hug if the other person or myself is obviously uncomfortable with it. If things seem chill, then I wouldn't see a reason to actively avoid a hug on a first date, with the other person's consent.
I’m super extroverted too and I always hug but I can say some men can be loser perverts and assume hugging means I wanna bang them. But I also am not too shy to tell a guy no if he over steps, which sadly I have to do sometimes because men assume a woman just existing means she must exist just for them
@@Rabbit-the-One I mean to say like it's not intended to be a date, like just causally meeting someone who most likely will be a friend. Sorry about the confusion, I see why you thought that now that I'm looking back at my comment.
What insecure people **think** confidence and self-esteem looks like; “iM a GoD!” Like my man...who are you trying so hard to convince of that? Other people? Or yourself?
I hate when people use polyamory as an excuse to cheat. That's not how it works 😭 Edit: Polyamory is NOT cheating. Don't reply to this saying that, no one cares that you're misinformed. A healthy polyamorous relationship does not involve cheating, all parties involved should consent to having multiple partners.
I'm pretty sure you're right. I remember coming across an artist talking about their polyamorous relationship and how they all give effort and don't pick favorites or lie. People confusing ployamory with cheating is really fucked up.
There are a few open relationships where only one partner sleeps around and the other is fine with that. Polyamory is complicated and there are many different things it's basically about what works for the couples involved and what they're okay with Edit: in some they even keep their other relationships private from their partner because that's what they agreed on. Idk how I feel about it but thats not my relationship or one I'd be comfortable with. Essentially it sounds like cheating but if it's agreed on in the relationship and involves other people it'd fall under the broad umbrella of polyamory.
I once went on a "date" with this guy who I had told I would like to get to know more before seeing where things went (I barely knew the guy from school). We went to a park and walked around for like an hour, where he proceeded to tell me his entiiiiiiire life story and when he was done, asked me "so are we getting together?". I was like uhhhhhh that's not exactly what I meant... But nah ✌🏻
Reminds me of my parents meeting my spouse's sister's boyfriend (cuz parents were visiting for the summer and we had sis in law and bf over for dinner). The bf asked about their retirement location, which was because my sibling with kids was there and before I knew it my parents were sharing my sibling's entire career trajectory and living situations for like 30 mins! I wanted to jump in that this bf doesn't care about my sibling and need all these details! He will prob never even meet them! It was so ridiculous. But it is the sibling who basically still has the umbilical cord attached, so not completely surprising and just really telling. Like, let the person ask the questions and lead the convo. I do blame the bf a bit, he is a very good listener so I feel like he gets that kind of thing a lot. 😅
He tried to speed run getting to know eachother 😂 that's crazy lol he should watch more rom coms and realize it's about slowly observing eachothers tendencies, beliefs, mannerisms, and life story psh over many dates.
Because his personality is repulsive. Girls feel emotional attachments to people, in different ways. If a guy is confident, the girl feels safe, if a guy is rich, she feels stability. If a guy is funny and humorous, the girl feels happiness etc. If the personality is just icky... Why bother sticking with that person?
@@Rabbit-the-One no it does not. It was originally invented by a writer for season 1 of Friends in 1994. It’s generally based on (male) entitlement to women reciprocating their feelings, and getting angry and petty when that doesn’t happen
Him: "Has polyamory ever crossed your mind?" Her: "Oh, actually I don't mind!" Because nobody cares what a stranger does... as this guy's about to learn
Frr, he could just dip a qtip in some acetone and clean them up super easy. He wants to be "the guy w painted nails", but isnt actually into it enough to have painted nails.
I do both. Watch the new upload then let YT auto play. To this day my favorite is the massive gypsy wedding brawl. I watched that one for about the 1,000th time yesterday.
Same but the algorithm skull F's me with his videos at this point I just don't fight it though. Love Ken and Buff. I'll be honest I like his collabs with pewds just a little bit more but I do love these two together.
The fact that he’s already confident in asking if she’s ok with “something” happening time to time. Like yooooo get a girl first haha my mans already jumping steps 🤣🤣🤣
Anyone who talks about themselves like this, is a person to avoid. I don't know how she was able to deal with that for so long, I would have cracked the second I saw his 'style' lol. That was Napoleon Dynamite level cringe.
As someone who's had a lot of really bad experiences with first-dates having 0 respect for my personal space, stated boundaries, and straight up 'no's, a guy immediately going in for a hug on a first date-- ESPECIALLY if I've not given any cues to indicate I'd like one-- is a huge red flag and a fast track to getting ghosted.
5:56 i found hand shake perfectly acceptable, especially for a blind date. For me personally, hugs are reserved for people I like, not people I meet for the first time.
I am Turkish and we have that 'kissing cheeks' thing but most of the time it's not like you're actually kissing the cheeks. More like you kiss the air while touching cheek to cheek.
In Cape Town, you literally hug every new person you meet. That's just how we say hello here, people look at you funny if you put your hand out for a handshake
Oh no, the "I'm a God" thing made me cringe so hard. I remember a time in high-school when I was like that. Maybe not as "confident" as this fellow but definitely just as desperate to be "different" and "better." Delusional narcissism can stem from a lack of self worth or confidence. This man probably needs a therapist not a TV show.
Dear Ken, I have no words how happy your videos (with Puffs and Pewds) make me. I am in a bed with big pains and illness but your videos are something that put smile in my face and something I cannot wait to see. You are amazing!
Mylas "Okay......... Cool!" to him being a rockstar sounded a hell of a lot like "Oh shit. I knew I should have just stayed home. Shit! Act interested!"
I was watching some of the older videos and it’s so nice to see how far Ken and Dane have came. They both just look so much more happy and healthy. Ken with his full, loving family and Dane looking fly and trimmer and much more healthy, about to add to his new family. And seeing their friendship last through the years, it’s just so nice to see.
I think a lot of the handshake/hug thing depends on the people's comfort level as well as how long you have been communicating before you actually meet. I think it's important to make sure you're BOTH comfortable with hugging. It becomes awkward pretty quickly if you're not into hugs, but they are. One side could also feel like the other person came off cold because they shook their hand instead of hugging while the other person could assume the other person is too touchy feely by hugging them instead of shaking their hand first.
Welcome to Australia Ken, I know you have never said why you moved exactly but with an Australian wife and young children reaching school age I think I know 1 bloody good reason. As an Aussie woman I would be TERRIFIED to send my children to an American school. Honestly my heart breaks for American children who cannot feel safe going to what is supposed to be a safe space. My youngest son is 10, I dropped him off to school this morning and I can’t even fathom what it would feel like to find out that not only he was dead, but the absolute horrific way those children were murdered. To imagine how terrified they must have been and the pain they must have felt. Knowing he would have been crying out for me so save him, to take the pain away. God it is just beyond words.
He mentioned in one video that he and Mary just weren't happy with the state of things in the US currently, and the way things seem to be heading with social and political issues was just really concerning and they didn't want to raise their kids around that. Which I mean, fair play to them, they're saying what an awful lot of us over here are thinking these days. If I had the means and opportunity then I'd bail myself, because I honestly don't know if we're going to survive the next election 😬
As a french person, the kiss on the cheek is the way to greet anyone. Between men or in a professional environnement you handshake but mostly if you don't know at all the person. It does seems weird for foreigners. A hug here is very personnal thought, you rarely see people hug to say hi, except couples and close family
I have a friend from HS who used to acts like this and said he was a "God being punished". I had to finally tell him he needed therapy cuz he comes off Borderline Narcissistic when he trauma dumps, about how much harder his life is than anyone else's, that nobody believes in him, ppl always disappoint him and nothing is his fault while insisting he's better than everyone while he rambles on in gothic monoloques and craps on things other ppl enjoy. I said get help or I wldnt talk to him anymore. Thankfully he got help and has stopped a lot of those negative behaviors he had. he's a lot nicer to talk to and got married.
As someone who lives in Portugal is so funny to me seeing them weird out because of the cheek kiss. It's really common here and considered kind of rude if you don't do it. It takes a awfull amount of time at parties with lots of people but you get so used to it you don't even consider not doing it and I think is kind of cute (it takes a lot of time in other situations as well, at work, university... you kiss everysingle person you know 1 or 2 times (it is an entire other topic because as a culture we haven't really set how many kisses you should give). It's not the most eficient thing hahaha.)
I’m from canada and when travelling had the cheek kiss happen lots. Haha I never got used to it. Every time I was shocked and felt like my personal space was invaded. I knew it was just normal and I had to adapt haha but I never adapted.
My relatives are french canadian, and they ALWAYS do the kiss each cheek thing. BUT- only if it's woman/woman or woman/man. If it's a man and a man, they only give a handshake. Honestly, I wish I was a man. I hated my relatives kissing me as a kid.
Ken don't Zell yourself short. All those things you said about yourself are true. You do have a production company and you're very successful with social media. Just because you may not meet the traditional definition doesn't diminish your accomplishments. Also this dude would definitely make hid dates sleep on bottom bunk, not top, top bunk is for gods.
