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The poor lady, Jane, is completely overwhelmed with her life situation. My heart goes out to her.

Jane saying that the house "Is all I'll have left after going through everything..." is her failing to see that it's NOT all she'll have left. Once her caregiver duties are over she can find that perfect house for her new life. She is not wanting to separate now from the future. Having been a caregiver myself I can say, with confidence, that things will change for her in ways she isn't seeing now. Refusing to compromise at all, on a really good house that was perfectly set up for what they needed now, isn't good. The garden, which wasn't at all bad, and the fact that nothing needed doing, when that was what she asked for, isn't something that anyone can help her with. Some people just have to make their own mistakes. There would always be something wrong, for Jane. By failing to see that she ended up with something less than what she turned down.

The older Kirstie gets, the more I love her!

Jane is crazy for passing up those gorgeous homes with zero-threshold shower ensuites! Being a caregiver for TWO declining people is no walk in the park, everyone I know who has cared for 1 dying person has moved immediately afterward. They don't want to stay in a big house with bad memories.

Having a husband with young onset Parkinson's, I feel she is still deep in the grieving stage ...Losing him, losing her life in Australia, and that is why she is struggling to make the decisions and compromise. I really feel for them, but am glad they found their home eventually

My heart goes out to this couple as I understand their concerns first-hand. I have experienced much the same situation. in 2018 my husband and I sold our rural home of over 20 years where we thought we would live out the rest of our life. My husband was diagnosed with cognitive decline and Charcot Marie Tooth Disease which is a neurological condition that effects his mobility. We too have to move to a new community and into a ground floor condo. Our priority was a community with good senior services, a good local hospital and a bus system so that my husband who no longer drives can take the bus. It was very difficult to adjust to the strict and limited rules and regulations of a condo community. I ADMIRE THat Jane thinks she is going to be able to carry for her husband and her mom. I feel for her future.

SO much sympathy! I wish there had been a kind way to tell Jane she could always find her dream home after...so, for now, let the dream go and just take care of needs.

Fantastic episode, thank you. Real people with real budgets and definite needs and wants. Phil and Kristy both did a super job.

I know nothing about growing flowers BUT I assume you would need quite a bit of land to yield enough flowers to sustain a business.

The flower girl... get the dimensions of the garden, because there are a lot of overgrown shrubs that could be removed and give you much more growing space. You can grow up - sweet peas and other climbers - in arches between beds. And if there's space out front, there's nothing stopping you from putting in some beds there. Be creative. Look into growing much from a compact space. But she doesn't sound like she has anything more than a vague idea of messing about with flowers.

As somebody else pointed out; in a finite amount of time Jane will be on her own without her husband or elderly mother. Wouldn't that then be the perfect time to leave a house that will, by then, contain painful memories of the decline of her loved ones and move on to a house, just for her, that she really loves? Phil showed her several properties far better suited to their actual needs than the one they ended up buying. It's a pity, but she couldn't see it. A much happier new start of course for the young couple.

It is true that Jane had to give up much. She had to give up her dreams of a peaceful retirement with Nigel, traveling, leisure, all of that. All of a sudden she has become a caretaker, no doubt something she had not foreseen. She probably had not planned to leave Australia either. This being said (and I'm not in her shoes), I think her expectations were unrealistic, or maybe she is just too depressed to find anything that will make her happy. Garden too big, garden too small, open area but separate dining room, kitchen somehow wrong, and this and that wrong and she likes a particular property that has everything she said she needed and wanted but she wanted something in move-in condition and this house is wrong because no alterations can be done to it and the garden is a few square yards too small so that in and of itself is wrong and makes the whole house wrong, something is always wrong, and wrong, and wrong, and wrong... Finally she picked a smallish property much less suitable for what she stated she needed to accommodate her mother, Nigel and herself. The only condition it meets is that it has three bedrooms. It doesn't even seem to have more than a single bathroom and It isn't in move-in condition, which were two of the essential criteria. She says at the end she is happy or at least satisfied with it (even though, you know, the garden is too small so it is wrong), but I suspect she chose the house because it had become impossible to delay purchasing _something_ any longer. She saw and rejected 24 properties in short order, after all, including the four Phil found for her and Nigel. I would be surprised if she is happy living in it. My read of all this is that she's looking for a house that will make her happy again. No house can make her happy, no house can be _not_ wrong when it's her life that has gone wrong in ways that have overwhelmed her and crushed her spirit. There was nothing Phil could could do to fix that when this episode was filmed, so he was bound to fail.

I'd love to see what the architect and the gardener do with their new home! Please catch us up on that when you can! As for the rest: I almost couldn't watch, it was so depressing.

Kristie and Phill have the patience of Job. Many times I could see myself walking away .... thinking.... If they don't want it. I'll gladly take it!

I'm glad it worked out for both couples. Would like to see Becky and Sam's house now, if they still live in it. Probably not though, after 8 years... What a painful time for Nigel and Jane. I wouldn't wish that on anyone, but it still happens to so many!😔 May God bless them with strength, support and comfort.🙏 Phil and Kirstie were amazing once again!🎉

Oh, how difficult. Jane was clearly in too much shock and bewilderment to be making sensible decisions, she really needed sons or daughters-in-law along and helping out, and possibly having camera crews around wasn't what they needed, either.

Oooh, boy, Jane is just a little too indecisive. Buy a bungalow that suits her mom and husband, then when they're no longer around, look for a house that suits just her. I must admit, though, that the house they eventually bought looked pretty good. Love the new episode, thanks for the upload.

I can't believe you came to my town , Eastwood and I missed you both 😮😮😮

Thank you, thank you, thank you, thank you, THANK YOU!!!!! These make my day!!!! (I'm so grateful!).

Im not a grumpy old man, but i am 71. I remember when people didnt have a bathroom at all. We never had a bathroom until i was 11. But now it seems everyone needs an ensuite bathroom.

How big a garden does Jane need? She has a small dog, and she's not getting any younger.

I feel for the couple looking for a property where Nigel can comfortably spend his last years while battling dementia. Jane may have a caring heart that is bigger than any one person can manage without losing herself. Adding the care for her aging mom will do her in! I want to care for family and friends but the truth is I have to also take care of myself or I would be no good for others. I pray Jane will have a lot of help from their family!🙏🏻❤️

Jane seems tottaly lost, she really did not know what she wants, bless her...

Boy you said it perfectly

Good episode

Anyone else have the idea that Phil is far more concerned than Jane with the urgency of getting Jane and her husband out of expensive rental and into a home SOON? She is acting like she's 30 years old with an infinite budget and no need to settle for anything less than the house she's built in her head. Get a GOOD ENOUGH HOUSE for your husband's health and get on with it, woman! When Phil says, 'I'm not saying I've found the perfect house; I am saying I'm showing you the best of what's available right now,' I wish he had a bit more Kirstie in him and said, 'I'm showing you the all there is. Shit or get off the pot already.' The notion that 'I've given up so much' and 'I'll have to give up so much' so I want a house I'm 'in love with' is well and good. But there's a little thing called REALITY: you are NOT building your dream house; you ARE shovelling money out the door living in a rental (is THAT perfect?) and need not to keep eating up your budget while you wait for the 'dream home' that doesn't exist in the UK. I'm surprised that she doesn't say with the house with the alzheimer's annex, 'Oh, there's a doorsill at the patio doors. What about a wheelchair?'

(15:02) "Plus ça change... " (...the more it changes, the more it remains the same...).

Jane the professional victim - he needs 'routine' but she's going to start building works while caretaking two old people - total lunatic. And they came all the way back for family that can't even put them up for a couple of months?

Oh my, I can't imagine leaving 3 children, grandchildren and mother to move to the other side of the world. I hope now they've finally found somewhere they can settle, but saying that it's all she has left after all she's given up, without considering all her family around her, is a concerning thing to say - it's all about family surely.

people like Jane are best left to their own devices. You can never please people like her 😎

So sad for Aussie lady. Property is the LAST thing she has left. Grieving?

This is just the beginning for Jane she’ll need time and patience and a lot of help. Don’t be afraid to ask for help from professional caregivers and community resources. It’s the loving thing to do for them and yourself. You don’t need to do it all❤

The older couple are quite difficult. Wouldn’t want to be in Phil’s shoes.

While Jane was a bit maddening, I did feel for her. Caring for a person who will be declining quickly in health and mental capacity is a stressful, terrifying prospect, and adding an elderly person to care for into the mix can double that (though I can understand why she's doing it). She didn't seem able to nail down her actual biggest want, outside of needs, which was a certain type of kitchen; that meant Phil wasn't necessarily looking specifically for it. And, yes, it was obviously the kitchen which was her focal point, since she gave up a large garden and an en suite in order to have the kitchen she wanted. I hope both couples are able to enjoy their homes and their new neighborhoods, and are able to have happy times and create happy memories.

How is she going to have a flower business on a small city plot? Most have many acres and equipment with out buildings to accommodate people and plants.

“Your needs are different!”

I feel for Jane, I really do, but man, she is extremely fussy and wishy washy... 😢

31:11 yeah, it’s unfortunate, she has a lot of pressure and I don’t think she’s used to making decisions on her own.

Poor Jane...she gas to deal with so many things ,while is shock and not fully comprehending what lues ahead...hope she is doing well and that the kids assist her when time comes to get a place just for herself....it is such a sad situation...

Wow, throwing handicap accessible into the list is hardly fair, you are going to have to overcome some obstacles and having ramps installed is not insurmountable!

Jane is desperate to put everything she can think of in her house demands. Of course, until one is in the middle of the journey, necessities don't make themselves known. You can demand one level, walk in showers, open dining/kitchen, big bedrooms etc. However does one consider width of doors, height of counters, access to closets, parking close to doors etc. There is no way to know until it becomes a problem. I ache for Jane. Her family will be her strength.

I think Jane is scared for the future, and I don’t blame her …worried for her finding a house though.

It would be easy to build a ramp at the first house and why not put a couple stools by the island in the kitchen ??

Jane is difficult.................

Jane is not making smart decisions at all. She says she’s under pressure but is acting as if following a dream is all that counts

If someone wants an open plan house and is handed it on a plate, they dont want that any more. If someone wants a medium house with big garden, then when shown one the garden will be too big and the house too small 🤷😤

That older couple are living in fairy land

Jane could always find her more desired house when circumstances change.

Perhaps these couples should have provided specific lists of their needs in advance instead of wasting everyone's time.

Jane is still overwhelmed by the changes in her life, and perhaps her children and their spouses need to step up and help. Nigel needs to be in a stable living situation, and Jane is unable to make a decision. It can't be put off! Phil and Kirstie need to give their kids a phone call.

Wondering what year this u r looking??

Jane is INSANE !!!

I don't think Jane is ready to make this step.

Jane is wrong to think that she will be able to take care of her husband and the old woman because she is also old and also not very good in her decisions. Where are the children? I think that many children distance themselves from their parents because of that attitude that old people take, thank God my mother who died at 97, she was always happy with what she gave her, she was always in my house and she died here.

They're draining money by the week he needs to get in a place and she's acting like a fussy diva

Jane needed to give her head a shake. Her mother looks pretty old and her husband, sadly, will also probably not pass before long. She really should have had a child with her.

Jane’s husband can live for years yet. She’s not about to lose him unless he develops another medical condition. The average lifespan of an Alzheimer’s patient is 10 years from diagnosis. Yes, he’ll decline mentally but that can be slow too

I think she needs an apartment. She changes her mind all the time.

Jane was awkward and anoying. In the end (although she kept mentioning the needs of her mum and husband) she was only really thinking of herself...............

I'm going to go out on a limb and say that Jane doesn't do yard work. And complains about the garden size.

Lady Has too many boxes. She’s looking for too much. Loads of houses make theirs wheel chair safe. Etc.,etc

Theres definetly something wrong with Jane and not her husband,she will never be happy

Not the smartest !

Fussy IS the word….it’s all about everything SHEs given up….wow sounds bitter….life goes on….pity party….the husband has liked all the effort Phil has made…wants to be settled. Jeez.

Shes a weird one

Wow Phil scare tactics to the extreme….NOT PROFESSIONAL or looking out for your client vs your pay cheque!

She says there is no potential/growth to fix the property and Phil says “why is this a problem” ….omg I hate realtors ….such liars!!!