Im fully aware that i have BPD but i dont see a psychiatrist until the 6th. Im scared for my husband being near me... but i dont want him to leave me. I have hurt him so much... I just want to know why i do it and how to stop it :(
Just recently got diagnosed with Borderline disorder and it perfectly explains how I feel every day. Just remember, everyone with a mental disorder, if you have depression, bipolar, schizophrenia, borderline or whatever, we're strong guys, we have to stick together and accept our mental illness even if it's hard, we'll make it and we're loved, even if you are alone atm, we, who understand you, we love you as you are even we can't love ourselves, we still do love you cuz we know what you're going through, stay strong❤️
This is the name of a book on BPD. I read it 15 yrs ago in a physch hospital. It was given to me to help understand my disorder. Demi sings it beautifully!!! Deff a huge fan of her..her music...and her brutal honesty. Kudos.
You guys realize this song is about borderline personality disorder? And not a break up? My sister has the disorder and she introduced me to demi when I was ten, when this song came out and she read demia inspiration for it she fell into tears
Whitney Abbott yes it's up to interpretation. Demi probably thought of something else when she was writing it but that's the awesome thing about language. It can be interpreted in multiple ways and have different meanings to people.
Demi wrote it about BPD . this song is about BPD. That's what she wrote it about, that's the meaning of the song. Its how it feels to be BPD . if your reading into it more then what it actually is it's just because you have relationship issues. 💁
I have BPD... This song is me and my husband all the way.... No matter how many times I yell and scream when i have my panic attacks he still stays with me....
I can't believe I am just now hearing this song! I LOVE IT! I recently found out from my psychiatrist that I am borderline. Hearing someone sing about it makes me feel seen and heard.
I feel for anyone with this illness. I will. Always believe this as the reason my marriage ended. My soon to be ex wife has it, I tried my hardest to help her, to help us, but it was never enough and it was not me that HD to do the work, it was her, all the rages, the love me one days, hate me the next, the hateful things done and said, I guess it all just became too. Much. A part of me will always love her.... Its literally caught between heaven and hell.
As a BPD person, I can tell you that YOUR mental health is first, it's gonna hurt tooo much the person you love, but in personal, I would prefer a person leave me, than hurting that person every single day❤❤❤
This song is complicated yet so easy to understand when you've gone through it. Back and forth, unsure what to do, feeling like you're ready to run when all you want to do is stay. It's messed up, that's for sure.
people who relate this to a guy don't feel bad that you do. Even if this song is about BPD, everyone has to find some way to connect to a song before they fall in love with it and however you do that doesn't matter!! knowing the real meaning behind the song just makes it more interesting to contrast with your connection :)
aQuayQuay I relate towards this song within my relationship and I have bpd... I think that was her main goal with this song but it’s okay to relate in more ways than just this.
I remember listening to this song like 6 years ago not knowing what BPD was and couldn’t really relate, but now I can. I was diagnosed with BPD last hear
Honestly this is why I'm so obsessed with her after being a fan for 2 months, because she makes songs like this that relate to people like me, going through so much shit in love and have problems mentally and broken and trying to get stronger just like her. I can relate to so many of her songs it's scary and I love demi so fucking much she makes me wanna still go through with life just to meet her one day
ive always related to this song her unbroken album is the one album i feel her pain, literally. ive been through relationships just like the one shes talking about because im always "in and out of my head". it sometimes sucks being bipolar. caint ever feel good for a long time
She doesn't talk about a relationship in this song, she talks about the borderline personality disorder. Someone who has it, like me, feels like this with everyone, lovers, friends, family, it's about how our lives is, not about a relationship in specific.
Wow, this song hit me hard. My wife, who left me, I believe is an undiagnosed BPD. She actually said some of the words in this song to me. She has now split be as all bad and won't talk to me. She hates me and it kills me inside. She has made false accusations about me and did a smear campaign on my. My god, it kills me inside.
I am so sorry to hear about that, I understand, my girlfriend split on me, it was completely out of nowhere and she hasn't talked to me for a few months now. I feel like I'm fucking broken, I just want this to be over already because I know she'll come around, I've seen her do it many times before. Shortly before her splitting we were talking about moving into together and marriage and kids, I still love her so fucking much and would take her back immediately, people in my life keep asking how I could, it's very simple to me, she has boderline she is not borderline. In sickness and in health.
Michael B as someone with BPD relationships are extremely hard we don’t always understand our own self or have very many ppl that do understand us everyday sucks I’m sorry she left maybe one day she’ll be back if it’s ment to to it will be
Some people are thinking, just people with problems hear Demi Lovato because her songs are helping in dark times. But that isn't completely true! I know, she's an inspiration and she helps in sad times, but I'm fine. Not only when you hear demi and she's your role model doesn't mean that you've been hurt, because I'm not. I love her because her actions, her voice, her messages in the songs are so beautiful!!! To everyone who read this: Have a nice day, keep doing what you love and have fun, no matter what you're doing!
I was diagnosed with borderline personality disorder and this song is so relatable to someone with BPD, also there is a book called I hate you don’t leave me
A lot of men would never understand how a woman feels when they are hurting from a toxic relationship, Men should have patience and understanding woman's feeling. Much love for this song ❤🤟
I don't know if I have borderline personality disorder, but this song applies to me sooo much! I'd dedicate this masterpiece to all my friends. They are mean to me one day, and the next day they are nice to me. I wanna talk to them one day, and the next day I don't. I've always been this way. It's awful not to know whether I wanna stay with them or leave.
Being bpd, this really helps... alot. I haven't found a single song that describes it and at the same time gives me goosebumps. I feel like this is an easy way to explain to my family
Songs have a meaning to the songwriter, but a different meaning for everyone else. I don't think Demi Lovato cares what your meaning is, she's probably happy to make music that can help with any situation
Demi cares about every meaning, because she cares about her fans and she loves the lovatics. She doesn't write songs just for herself, she writes them to help people!
I know this song is about her struggle with BPD, but I relate so much to this song when thinking of my first. “They forget me, don’t see me. When they love me, they leave me... I hate you, don’t leave me. I hate you, please love me.” He was a piece of shit but at the end of the day, I miss him & I wish him nothing but happiness because it’s what I’ve found. But there are times when I wonder and really question if he was worth it.
Demi managed to write a while sing on a symptom. It's called splitting / all or nothing. One of the common characteristics of this symptom is literally "I hate you don't leave me" so after that research I had to listen to this song, naturally.
Wow!!!... She has grown so much vocally. Listening to "Still have me" and then this song?... Woooow.... When your vocals get better as you grow instead of getting worse, you know you're 100% legit.
For me this song connects to me. You have been hurt before so you are scared to move forward with someone. But you also really like this person at the same time.
I've struggled my whole life from mental illness!! It truly stole my life.. This song 🎵 truly explains me♡ If you suffer like me, I'm so sorry!! As hard as it is, keep fighting!! Especially when you don't want to!! You mean something, your life is worth living!! Even when people judge you!! Remember they couldn't deal with half the shit We're dealt!! ):(
Hey, yeah yeah I hate you, don’t leave me I feel like I can’t breathe Just hold me, don’t touch me And I want you to love me But I need you to trust me Stay with me, set me free But I can’t back down No, I can’t deny That I’m staying now ‘Cause I can’t decide Confused and scared I am terrified of you I admit I’m in and out of my head Don’t listen to a single word I’ve said Just hear me out before you run away ‘Cause I can’t take this pain I hate you, don’t leave me I hate you, don’t leave me ‘Cause I love when you kiss me I’m in pieces, you complete me But I can’t back down No, I can’t deny That I’m staying now ‘Cause I can’t decide Confused and scared I am terrified of you I admit I’m in and out of my head Don’t listen to a single word I’ve said Just hear me out before you run away ‘Cause I can’t take this pain, no I’m addicted to the madness I’m a daughter of the sadness I’ve been here too many times before Been abandoned and I’m scared now I can’t handle another fall out I’m fragile, just washed upon the shore They forget me, don’t see me When they love me, they leave me I admit I’m in and out of my head Don’t listen to a single word I’ve said Just hear me out before you run away ‘Cause I can’t take this pain No, I can’t take this pain I hate you, don’t leave me I hate you, please love me
this song reminds me of my siblings. i never see them & they don't make an effort to have a relationship with me. i put on a mask of hatred for them but really i just want to be loved & accepted by them.
+Back Ops Destiny True it (probably) is, but that does not take away artistic licences..to interpret it for everyone how they relate it for themselves.
+kasey lee I don't know, but maybe try pulling down this mask? They might act scared and confused, I would think, but I guess they would appreciate it to know that you actually at least like them..?
Wow I couldn't listen to this song without cryingZ this literally describes my situation right now! I love this song. I love how also in this song she balanced her yelling. Though all her other songs are beautiful and literally HEART FEELING! ❤️❤️❤️🎧I love this wow.
I've always liked Demi but this song is the one that made me fall in love with her work!! This song is my life and not just with boys or trusting people but just normal everyday things that should be easy like making friends and going to school.
I never knew this wasn't healthy or normal thinking until the bpd box fell over me. I thought everyone felt like I did ... So sad how many relationships I lost when I was showing all nine signs and no one noticed. Isolated from everyone that mattered to me I wonder why I'm trying so hard now to overcome.... I'm already alone because of it
omg. That song describes my feelings. I was seachring for that type of songs. I am struggeling and I do not know what to do and this song helps me. I do not feel so alone anymore
I know this song is about BPD but you can interpret this in other ways too. This song reminds me of my anxiety and Depression. I admit I'm in and out of my head. Don't listen to a single word I've sad. Just hear me out. Before you run away. Cuz I can't take this pain. I hate you don't leave me. I hate you please love me. These lines remind me of how I push people away yet I'm screaming for help.
I was diagnosed yesterday they’ve been trying to figure it out for years... and finally relieved to be diagnosed but I’m so scared and this is messing with my head
Tbh... My PTSD~ This reminds me of my trauma. Gold of a women with a Beautiful Soul. Interpreted by alot, but she's beautiful. Broken to be a masterpiece, in some eyes but never broken. Sometimes stained glass is hard to break. Stay strong~ Keep Stronger!
Its 2019 and its been so many months, if not years since the last time i listrned to this song and i still know all the freaking words i cant believe i am even crying. Oh demi you break me
Ive known for a while and I'm not diagnosed with blown BPD but I have the traits (like all of them so like.......) And even though I knew, hearing my therapist say it out loud hurt.... It was scary ya know
Linda canción de Demi pero no es momento de escucharla ahora porque me va a hacer peor, mejor tratar de escuchar canciones más alegres , de amor propio o de superación hasta que entienda por completo que las relaciones pueden terminar en cualquier momento y que no hay dejar que nos afecten tanto. Seguir trabajando para se fuerte mentalmente , porque no era tan fuerte en ese aspecto como pensaba.
My fiance lives with BPD. She has said stuff in this song... I would say the song that represents the man in a relationship with the pwBPD is Diary of Jane by Breaking Benjamin.
You could tell she was struggling and I don't blame the people around her unless you know mental health and bi polar it's hard to know til your diagnosed. ❤
I’ve been so confused my whole life what is wrong with me, I was diagnosed bipolar at 16/17 they put me on so many meds nothing ever got better, I went into the hospital at 24 they diagnosed me BPD everything made so much more sense I’m 27 now I’m finally getting the therapy I need. I’ve always felt so lost who I was. This song explains it ALL
i have adhd autisam and bpd i dont cope and my memory issues keep me from learning skills i live through shows games movies and music shows feel real with relasionship because argue fall out make up cool none of this hard work make a mends bury the pain shame iratinal feelings and emotions i hate people i love what are they thinking? the best thing for me is weeks to feel neutral to the intencity if that makes sense
i hate you, don't leave me. i feel like i can't breathe. Just hold me, don't touch me. And i want you to love me, but i need you to trust me: stay with me, set me free. But i can't deny that i'm staying now coz i can't decide, confused and scared, i'm terrified of you. i admit, i'm in and out of my head, don't listen to a single word i've said. Just hear me out, before you run away, coz i can't take this pain. i'm addicted to the madness, i'm the daughter of the sadness. i've been here too many times before. i've been abandoned and i'm scared now. i can't handle another fall out. i'm fragile, just washed upon the shore. They forget me, don't see me. When i love them, i leave them. i hate you, don't leave me. i hate you. Please, love me.
If anyone thinks this song is about an ex or a boyfriend it's not. It's about Demi's father. He left her but she still wants him to stay but she hates him for leaving
@@DarlinMarleneVeVo she has bipolar. But she wrote the song after reading a book called I hate you don't leave me about borderline personality disorder . and there are similarities between the two . and some people get misdiagnosed as bipolar when they are borderline or vise versa