Only to simple folk he is. That fast talk is deceptive. Listen closely and you can hear his message clearly. The word play is irrelevent. Listen for the message and you will know this man is full of shit selling books to woman.
I've never been that "i don't need a man" kinda woman. Nah, I've always needed men in my life from a healthy approach. Interdependently. The work inside, facing the mirror is the hardest shit to do for most of us. I can just imagine what men have to deal with because so much is expected of them. They're expected to be providers, great in the bed, be handy, to deny their emotions outwardly, to protect, and to be a plethora of other expectations. Protect our men with respect, but be firm on accountability, trust and believe men need that. Level each other up.
That was very well said beautiful Queen, I LOVE the way you worded ur comment, I know for a fact by the way u jus worded this your going to make if not already , some Man a very Blessed and Happy Guy!!!👍🏾😍
Pele Kama yeah it’s hard cause we try to balance all what women require but sometimes we fail in one of those requirements you women request so us men become frustrated, lust for other women try to see what are they actually good at or y’all women decide to go out and approach a man that fulfilled those requirements, it’s crazy how our society works when it comes to relationships
I admire him. There is nothing more appealing than a man who loves, honors, appreciates & respects the women in his life!!! #HAPPY FOR YOU MEAGAN GIRL🥰 #DEVON KEEP YOUR HEAD UP & STAY STRONG. THE HATERS ARE COMING!!!!!
So many women out here are already "doing the work" We're going to the seminars, reading self help books and know the importance of what it means to be internally better to exude and be a better person overall. Men, not to take away anything from the ones who do, but there are plenty who arent doing the work. Black men I love you all so much but not enough to continue to pacify toxic behaviors. Black women are surpassing a lot of you in so many areas and now it’s your turn to really learn how to heal, love and lead. I could not be more grateful for Devon taking the time to bring light, share and open up dialog for great conversations especially from a spiritual aspect on these topics! Definitely will be purchasing 😊
This brotha has great energy. And just as much as we have to check our pride, and humble ourselves with our women. It's also as important to have a "supportive" woman throughout our struggle to be great brothas.
PREACH!!! I love how he said "I love you so much that I can't stay and be treated less than I'm worth". I had to do that a couple of times with the same person. I had to do it a couple of times cause there's this voice that tells you to be strong and that you need to go through these hard times so you go back but at the end of the day it's diminishing who you are and creating greater brokenness.
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Simply put: I Read his book last year-Loved it. Definitely picking up this 1 today. He comes from a real relatable & authentic place instead of a "brown-nosing" approach some other authors take. His whole thing is basically you don't have to be perfect but as long as you're willing to put in the work within your relationship & yourself, you'll start to see the changes in your life for the better and I personally f*** with that.✊🏿💯
Females are far more critical on themselves then men. We dont wear make up nor do we were high heals to make us look taller. It's just different perspectives..This doesn't apply to all men.
I love this conversation. This is exactly what my pastor was discussing. It still all boils down to making a decision. Goodness and truth in this interview. FYI, this conversation is not speaking for all men. In addition, he never said women don't cheat. Mind you instead of so called giving women game about how you can think like a man, he's simply addressing men of issues they may or may not be dealing with, because as women we can help, but we can't train or neuter or even change a man unless they make a decision to change. Men are not really animals and we (women) are not owners, vice versa.
I'm so glad I met my guy @ 37 years old. My dude started to shape up right at that age. He's turning 40 in a few months, and he has grown so much since I've met him. Ups and Downs, but we prevailed so much.
Wow, this interview went completely over a lot y'all heads 🤦🏾♀️ he's not bashing men, he's simply saying that in order to be right within and control your lust, you have to look inside yourself and devote yourself to changing. That's it lol but "a hit dog, will holler" 🤷🏾♀️
Omg.! I thought Charlemagne was going to say he’s been completely faithful since like 2008… He really just said since 2016… OMG I guess we all start somewhere😒😔
Ms. Carter no but they learn ALOTtttttt cuz women and men think soooo differently and once they see there daughter in there arms it changes a men state of mind on the spot if it was a boy not the same connection cuz girls r closer to there dads
When I was with my ex girlfriend and used to go around telling my mum that she was the one and I love her and I would never cheat and have never cheated... she looked at me and said “don’t worry, you’re just like you’re dad and every other man, it’s in your blood. It’s not up yet” I was left speechless! Made me think like it was gonna happen so when it does then I shouldn’t be surprised and she said “when you do she either gonna be weak and leave or she’s gonna be strong and stay” I felt sad for her because she was talking about her and how her parents brought her up. That was the direct link to how my dad used to treat her smh
I’ve always said if people would just THINK and play things out in their heads before they do something like cheat, steal, lie, etc, they wouldn’t do it. The consequences of those actions aren’t worth the 5 seconds-1 hour of joy.
Some people don’t necessarily cheat for lust or love sometimes it’s the gamble that they do it for risking everything for the thrill. Why is that not discussed? Somethings aren’t about the psychology of morality.
Wow, way to be a negative Nancy. But I understand, everything isn't for everybody. I just wish people would roll up everyone in the same pot as if some of us were not raised with respect and values.
@@conis46 Men are meant to sleep with as many women but safely as much as possible 🤔 is that so 🤫 Keep that to yourself.... I hope men don't think this 🙄
This interview is based on the MAN! He is speaking to the men not the women. You guys have to stop getting so defensive when another man speaks on the flaws of men and start listening to what he's actually saying. He never said that women don't, but he's a MAN speaking on his experience as a MAN and things that he did as a MAN. If his experience doesn't apply to you, move on! But as my grandfather used to say, A hit dog will holla!
This is so powerful! I love how Devon articulates his points, he tells the truth however he says them in a way to build not tear down men as well as educate women - love it!
The irony of it all is that god and the devil are both in men it’s just whether what side they feed. But the way of the superior man is conquering both
"Sometimes the only thing a man will understand is pain....A man who's really in touch with the Master in himself, when the woman steps away, its a catalyst for change." I'm going through this right now! My girl of 5 years (on & off) wants nothing but space and time (w/ no deadline in sight) and its killing me! We've never gone w/o speaking, so this is torture. I've literally begged for her to start fresh but she needs to see a change in behavior, over time. That immediately sparked the need for change and the process of doing the work. I need to be a better man, and it took her cutting me off to take it serious. The scariest part is not knowing whether she'll fall out of love with me, start dating and fall for someone else, or just not want me back at all. She can be pretty cold when she's over something. We never had a cheating issue, more so not being vulnerable, verbal abuse, and treating her as if she wasn't good enough. Just trusting and believing that God will show her my efforts and restore her faith in me being the man she can trust to grow old with. I'm all the way committed to this change..it hit CTG at 37 and it's hitting me at 33. it's time! These are definitely hard times though man smh
Yeah cuz women will be buying it in droves...I doubt men who are having regular sex...will even give this a glance unless they need more manipulation techniques
@@azureavocado5195 i feel you sis but it's a lot deeper than that...women need to learn how to keep their friends close, enemies closer meaning men...if you pay attention groups who "win" for lack of a better term are ALWAYS watching their prey..men are always watching women..white folks are always watching black folks etc.
@Love 23Amazed if you're a man just enjoy it... It will be that way for ever probably unfortunately...but it's definitely not all on women... Men should raise the calibre of women they are fucking as well...but that's another discussion for another time
@Love 23Amazed well me personally sis I was into self help before that was some kind of trend or whatever so trust me I keep myself accountable at all times... I just know how society works and sure what your saying may or may not work but humans are prone to be slaves to their biological needs and MANY if not most of us will talk a good talk while doing dirt behind closed doors..that's just how humans work...
DeVon Franklin is the GOAT especially because he's married to Megan Good but all jokes aside this is a good man right here & a phenomenal example for not just for the black man but ANY man keep it up DeVon 💯
I loved this interview. I will be purchasing the book for my husband and myself to read. I myself had went on this spiritual walk as I call it in my late 20's. We women to have the lust issue. It is something for most humans to overcome. To not be controlled by the flesh. I got married a second time almost two years ago. I recently had to walk away from my marriage for 4 months. My husband and I recently got back together this past week. I can truly see some changes and really feel like he wants to out in the work to make our marriage work. I have been talking to him over the years about his behavior throughout his life because I knew him growing up. I told him the things he has done to me and other women in his past, that he wouldn't want it to happen to his Mom, sisters or daughter's. This show touched on so much for me this morning. It was pure confirmation for me. I will continue to master my KITTY KAT! Thank you Devon for a great book and how you articulated the book on the show today. Great show Breakfast Club.
I have never cheated, but, I been accused of cheating many times. It got to point that I said to myself, 🤔I might as well do it, since she keeps on assuming that I am.🤷🏾♂️ I ended up not cheating, and just breaking up with her, because it was just a toxic situation.
You are a good man and she was a damaged woman. She should have worked on her trust/self esteem issues before trying to have a relationship. Men can't fix women just like women can't fix men. I salute you for choosing to end the relationship rather than being unfaithful which would have further damaged this girl.
Excellent Interview!!!! Big ups to the Breakfast club for this awesome discussion with the legendary Devon Franklin!! 🙌🏾 I enjoyed every word. Powerful, authentic, and timely!!!
Mr. Franklin is such an encouragement. He constantly challenges the status quo and calls us to be our best selves as men! I pray this book truly changes the narrative and makes us step up to the plate of responsibility. Salute.
I may check the book out. I've never cheated on anyone, but there could be some mental jewels in it. It's all about being better at the end of the day. If you don't fix or enhance your foundation, how can your house stand?
Exactly. also note it's not just a matter of never cheating on a woman, have you pursued and committed to just one? From his message dating without intent (dating multiple women) also hurts women and also signifies feeding the dog instead of mastering it
@@MsClever26 It's not a particularly a thing I do. I don't date multiple people at a time. There's spells where there will be some in secession of the other, but I mostly keep to myself and work on my personal development.
Steve Harvey promotes toxic masculinity and shames women. He is awful and people want to look past it cause he has that "American dad" vibe to him and has a good sense of humour. Steve Harvey is just a big no...
I always tell my baby father this my exact words are don’t harbour feelings -we need to communicate- and I been trying to tell him to heal his child hood issues as I heal mine and let’s be better parents and he is nothing like his father
Faith comes by hearing the word and everyone isn't ready to face and receive the truth. If you're offended you're part of the problem 🤷🏾♀️ Devon continue to uplift the Kingdom and spread the gospel! This world is starving for men of God. A change gon come...
ADAM WAS DOING FINE IN THE GARDEN OF EDEN UNTIL EVE SHOWED UP, SAMSON WAS DOING FINE UNTIL DELILAH SHOWED UP, AHAB WAS TRYING TO REPENT AND DO THE WILL OF GOD BUT HE WAS MANIPULATED BY HIS WIFE JEZEBEL. SO WOMEN YOU ARE PART OF THE PROBLEM TOO. AND THE TRUTH IS WOMEN DON'T MIND YOU LUSTING AFTER THEM, THEY JUST DON'T WANT YOU LUSTING AFTER OTHER WOMEN EXCEPT THEM AND THAT IS THE TRUTH.
Wryan Arielle to assume they are upset but not to understand what their upset about, they may not be upset but trying to make a point that he probably should of discussed, because the title of the book has to do with both men and women, thinking it would speak on both our issues and solutions, but the moral of the book that he spoke of is only a men issue that needs to be fixed, then of course you would see upset men, doesn’t mean they need the book
There is so much toxic masculinity in these comments! He is not bashing men! He is shedding insight into change and owning faults. Period. For both men and women. People are reaching with this. I get exactly what he is saying, on both sides. Women are more inclined to seek self help and therapy, than their counterparts. This is a truth. People love to search for the truth, but hate it when it is given to them. Take it, or don’t.
+Lanni Shirose, I hear you babe. It hurts to hear the truth and for it to be effective in our lives we have to be WILLING to hear it. Many people on this forum aren't willing to hear it yet. I hear your point loud and clear.
Man this is so real... It takes a level of maturity to recognize that it's time to hang up the bullshit.. It's HARD! Living as a reckless man the majority of your life, that's all you know.. It takes a conscious and consistent effort.. Most of us ain't ready for that kinda commitment... Let alone a relationship...
@@ThurstMETV I suppose I am. I just think that the energy you put out is what you get in return. Dogs pick up on the scent of a woman who can easily be manipulated and take advantage.
@@EbonySays That implies that she is a victim. But with your original statement there has to be some "dog" in her to attract a "dog" to which I agree to. There arent too many victims out here.
Meagan did GOOD!!!! 👌🥰 I have been With my husband for 19 years and it’s been a struggle.... for him. I’m a confident woman who has been committed since day one. But my husband lacked on guidance. We still together and I pray we stay together but dude is so right what he is saying. Too much for me to express into words about me and mines. Blessings to all the men who are strong enough to find themselves and be at peace with their woman and himself ❤️
@@lazarusjackson1792 I'm curious how cheating on your wife or gf makes you anything less than stereotypical? That question makes as much since as Adrien Broner thinking he won against Pacquiao.
@@lazarusjackson1792 you just not disciplined or care enough about monogamy is the truth. But there still swingers out there so you will be ok...hopefully.
I respect the comments he is making. We short change ourselves when we accept the "norm" of "all men cheat". Not all men cheat. And if a man wants to be faithful, you can be. But you have to come face to face with yourself! Thanks for sharing!
Its a brilliant message, it's exactly what psychologist Carl Jung conceptualizes as the shadow. As humans we have proclivities shaped by thousands of years of evolution, but the flip side is that our brains frontal lobe govern cognitive behavior, the lesson is that we have the potential to usurp the negative parts of our primal behaviors by confronting our 'shadow' and integrating it within us in a healthy but not destructive way. Men who let lust destroy their relationships and lives are not using enough cognitive power.
Never cheating is good. But are you married? Cause dating without intent on marriage (especially if it's multiple women) is still feeding the dog. Check out his interview on roommates podcast, it goes deeper
I have a son now. I'm reading this book and all the books on healthy manhood. Lord, I pray you give Moms a heart the wisdom to guide our little guys to become men after your heart, who know, accept and love themselves, and lead their families in the fear of the Lord, in truth, with strength, compassion and honor. May we raise children- especially boys- who won't have to recover from their past. Amen.
I love how he breaks this down. As men, we have to learn how to control our inner desires and truly ask ourselves if fulfilling these desires truly worth losing an amazing woman in your life?
Nothing to say because what he is saying is true. I'm not going to deny or fabricate an excuse on why I don't agree. I'm happily married 10 years and a baby. Gotta master the dawg to the point of euthanasia
@@azureavocado5195 we can say the same but I wouldn't say challenging but having a since of awareness when those urges arise and playing out the consequences.
I was here when it was 134 views I love the message and it definitely is a good look for our young kids to see families that aren't broken like the ones we grew up in💪🏿🧠💯
*1st thought:* this make it seems like women are angels that float above us. But rethinking it, I get it. Promoting masculism and rewiring how our thoughts can be driven by lust (tbh its true), failing to think of the consequences of our actions. *We have to better person ourselves for ourselve.*
duhhhhhhh. how have yall niggas gotten this far in life without realizing this? oh yea, it's bc most of u are infantilized men-boys who dont face consequence unless its in the form of: PRISON, DISEASE, SURPRISE PROGENY. FUCKING SAD THE WHOLE LOT OF U
Did you read his book? What did you think? I personally didn't like it. I strongly believe that lustig is a choice. But he presents it as some kind of a disease that men are born with and has no cure just a kind of a symptom reliever that they have to take and it doesn't even always work. And don't forget what Jesus said "But I say to you that everyone who looks at a woman with lustful intent has already committed adultery with her in his heart." If he find himself lustig, it doesn't matter he fights it off because the cheating already happened.
18:14 "If a man can get disciplined in the area of sex, there's nothing he cannot do." #FACTS. He has said this before and I am endeavoring to go ahead and take heed. It's so on point. Keeping and saving that energy for someone who deserves it. That wait tho. Its something serious. I appreciate you brother Devon.
Just wow! Can Devon just have workshops with men on this. It would change so much - once men learn to love themselves in the true sense of the word, the self-loathing actions (cheating, violence etc) won't be so prevalent. So inspired! 🤗
WHY IS THIS BROTHA PREACHIN SO EARLY IN THE MORNING! Ladies and fellas listen to this man bc he's talkin all truths! Thankful to be happily married to a strong black woman who let's me lead, but still holds me accountable! Mutual respect period.
