This happen to me I GAVE 5 years of my life including 2 children he left me for his best friend ex girlfriend. I still going through the pain i wish this on nobody. He lied about everthing and still lying about beinig with her.
@@Evilworlddddd666pray for healing and a healthy revival showers of love take care of yourself treat yourself we as adults have to learn coping strategies that will work for us.God is a healer.I pray your strength in the Lord .Love you and tell someone who needs to hear it too, giving more of what you didnt receive is paying it forward .This is rewarding and vital literally. 😊.
Wow. The writer is so brave to put her personal info out there knowing the world is waiting to critique. God bless her and you Tony for allowing space for her story to be shared. 🙏🏽
Unfortunately some people only experienced abuse neglect and abandonment so it’s familiar. It’s painful to endure but that’s all they know. She has to dig deep more than likely childhood experiences and find out where these false beliefs started. Have to work on that inner self - to the core. It will get better. Have to do the inner self work.
@@angelaellis4144 Right. My comment was mainly for the Sisters In Christ, which does not apply to every woman, but to the ones who know the attributes of Jesus. Prayers for us all. 🙏🏾
This man boy is a true Narcissist.. he never loved you beloved. Fall on your knees and ask God to help you. Live for your children until you find the strength to live for yourself. I am praying for you as I too was once in your shoes. You are worth every good thing life has to offer. Be blessed ❤❤❤
I literally cried the whole way through this.. this was crazy but resonated with me .. mine wasn’t to this extent but the underlying feeling of pouring into ppl and bended over backwards for ppl who don’t deserve it .. rather than loving yourself more .. shot me thru the heart.. I felt her pain , exhaustion, self esteem.. everything. Sister I hope you gain the love of God to love yourself first and foremost because nobody can love you better than you and God. If you don’t love you , you can’t love others and you can’t teach ppl how to love .. loving yourself means creating healthy relationships. 🙏🏾 thank you Tony for your insight and I really needed to hear this story . Thanks to this sister for sharing.
I love these tips Tony! As a single mom to a 12 year old boy this helped me also. Can I add grocery shopping to the list of things to do with her boys. Me and my son have the best conversations during the car ride. No phone no music just catching up. We are extremely close because it’s just us. You just have to be intentional with your time together! God bless sister. I wish you the best in your journey ❤
Her letter made me cry, I just want to hug her and send her strength. She is definitely a brave woman to write this, so I know she çan be brave to finally leave this mentally and really heal. Move forward in self love, dear❤
So true she is not the only one. Key words God & seeking help like this. Prayed that you will heal with a support network & each day pushing yourself to move in healthy mindset. Find out how to love you. I had to learn to love myself with church, bible time, eating better, yoga, and alone time outside walking. Speaking positive when negative thoughts come to mind.
Bad boy false sense of confidence is very real. Toxic people love to steal light from good people. I’ve learned this year that character is very important because personality is the representative.
I love her honesty and her bravery for writing the letter hopefully it helps some other women out there going through similar situations...God Bless you...
sis, Jesus loves you. I recommend you go through a period of prayer & fasting, repentance of sins known and unknown & undergo deliverance to denounce, renounce and divorce any soul ties + demonic covenants that were transferred during your years with this man. I pray for your full healing as Jesus is the great physician. also you will have to forgive yourself and forgive him. forgiving him doesn’t mean you have to get back with him but walking in unforgiveness hinders our prayers and allows the enemy legal access to us. “Howbeit this kind goeth not out but by prayer and fasting.” Matthew 17:21 KJV
GOD is a GOD of another chance. GOD restores. You are The Father's daughter and you are the apple of HIS eye. Another suggestion, write a letter to yourself as a little girl, as if you were talking to your daughter. Say whatever The Holy Spirit reveals to you. That's definitely a powerful practice. It surely helped me. Prayers and well wishes young lady ❤.
The #1 thing that will get people where they need to go and who they need to be, is that sign behind Tony's head. Consistency in ALL things good. God, yourself, and others. Along with a healthy set of boundaries. Thank you young lady for your transparency. You're in my prayers. God bless 🙏 ❤
God is the only way she will get out of this situation! She during this time she will have terrible anxiety and depression, experience weight gain and weight loss but if she stays close to God and has a strong prayer life, she will OVERCOME! 🙏🏾❤️
Sister, you are loved, you are beautiful, you are a CONQUEROR and a queen that just needs a little adjusting with her crown. Praying for your strength and i know you'll be victorious!! Much love too you!! 😘😘😘
I really liked this one, and am glad that she chose to bless us with her time. Praying for you! You got this girl! I’ve been there too, and you will eventually be happy. My kids do 4 H and we love it. I heard that animals help grief, and it was very true for my girls and I.
You got this girl! God is your strength and I hope you see this on a day you need encouragement! I’m proud of you for reaching out and sharing your story with us. We need you just like your boys 💙
I loved the way Tony spoke to her. My heart hurts for her. I truly understand...to some degree. Sometimes, you can love someone so much that all you want them to do is change. We fail to understand that they have to want to change. It's not enough for us to want it for them.
I love how the channel is evolving !!! And no I’m not taking about the message because that’s been great. Love being able to see you do interviews with others as well !
God bless. This story is heart wrenching, however there's always hope and the right path to true love. She definitely came to the right place. I'm so thankful for this important ministry. 💯
She dedicated her life to devil. There is still hope. You are still young, the right man will see you amazing qualities. Take care of yourself and be patient.
I wish her the best. She was young and made the mistake of loving a man who always showed her that he didn’t love her-from the beginning. 1 Corinthians 13:4-8 tells you what love is. It’s kind, does not envy, …does not dishonor others, etc. One problem is that she didn’t have a positive male role model to show her how she is to be treated by a man. I never like bad boys b/c my Dad was a strong role model for how a man should behave and treat me. She seems like a good person. I wish her the best.
This letter made me so so sad because I see myself in this letter. It’s hard to let go but we have to. We just have to. These men show us who they are and we believe so much in their potential that we stick around . But we have to let go we just have to. Praying for you and your healing . This message is also for me . Thank you Tony for sharing this letter and your response. It healed me as well . Thank you
I have never ever EVERRRRRRRRRR in my life been through this with a man. And I'll be honest- I don't understand how women put up with this. It is BEYOND my understanding. I hope she can heal from all of this and move on and one day find a REAL MAN to love and cherish her. She deserves that. These stories are far too common with black women. But we have got to start putting ourselves FIRST. Thank you for sharing. My heart goes out to her and any other women who have experienced this. I have no idea what this is like. All I can do is sympathize with these women. But I do want to say this....Women have to start learning the lesson and pay attention to the red flags. This will help avoid a lot of the issues that will come later on. Much love to this Queen. ❤
Yes I’m a black woman and I have experienced this as well! I had ZERO self esteem and ZERO self worth! It was only GOD that saved and freed me from those terrible situations! You should think God everyday that you have never been thru anything like this…
Bless this woman for requesting this for all of us to also hear and learn from. I pray things get better for her, I'm in a similar situation and I'm about to implement Tony's plan IMMEDIATELY
I absolutely love this video, there’s a lot of information that was touched on in a short amount of time, such as mental, emotional, physical and spiritual health. My heart goes out to the young lady that wrote in. I pray that she will make a sincere effort to follow the advice that Tony suggested, and to remember that she and her sons deserves better.
My God Mr. Gaskins! I was speaking some of the same advice as you were reading here account, especially the walking or some movement, focus on your boys, and reading the Word!!❤
Tony, thank you for doing God’s work and for committing your life to helping us and making a difference in all of our lives. God bless you and your family.
We women have to know we got to love The Most High and ourselves first, many women have a false sense of self esteem, we try to dress up the outside to deny an inside that doesn't match , when we care more about ourselves we want more for ourselves, 💯....I grew up with a Tony Gaskins in Massachusetts that's what led me here, wow
Sister, these changes are gonna take some time and you'll need some time to get used to a new routine, I believe in you, you're gonna make it, just start with some small steps and then add up so more new habits. Eventually you will get used to your new lifestyle and it will come naturally for you
i know this page is for women but it’s very interesting to me the leniency women are given for their missteps. if i don’t have a father im supposed to just figure it out. not trying to argue just an observation
I'm rooting for her. Then she threw the bomb in and said she got back with him after he got out of prison. Those monsters will treat you worse than ever 2nd time around Let me continue the story 😢
The key statememt there was back in time when he had other women in the first place. Why giving him a baby? She should have used him for fun for a while if the seeeksx was so good and then move on when ready for the family she was. Committed to the wrong man. Again.
To the woman who wrote in, I just want to hug you and tell you how beautiful and precious you are. You have a father in Heaven who loves you more than you can ever imagine! He can restore everything you've lost, he can heal your broken heart, he can mend your wounds. Please surrender to him, find a bible-based church and study the bible with a group of women. God loves you and he wants you to live the life he has called you to live. God is a good and gracious God, let him heal you and save you. You won't regret it! ❤️🙏🏽
I wish I knew the lady that wrote into, I want a sis hug too, cause caring for others that didn’t deserve you in the first place, really drains you……🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾 for all, your not the only one
I’m crying. I had started taking notes and nuggets of advice from Tony, but I’m crying, weeping in relief, sorrow, and gratitude for this ministry, reflection upon my past hurts and the PRESENT work I have to do, and also this woman’s transparency. Thank you, Tony, for your guidance, and for your obedience to God’s call for this time in your life. May God continue to cover and bless you and your family for the sacrifices that you all make for our healing and God’s glory.
I appreciate her for setting up her session in this way. It’s helping her and all of us who see this. I have a similar but not exact situation. I also struggle with moving forward. But keeping it moving is the only way. Even when we don’t know how. People usually don’t change. Lesson is leave as soon as signs of mistreatment and abuse are shown. Praying for healing for this sister and her children and all of us experiencing this.
Lord LORD I’ve been here…😢🙏🏾 not to the same extent but just allowing myself to be used and wanting to prove my love, my worth, bending over backwards and forwards in vain until it’s nothing left. God delivered me from that and when I say I had to PRAYYYY and cry and beg for the lord to help me get free! But I’ve had to build back from that place, it absolutely took me to that dark place of grief and despair but I am so thankful that it’s now a memory!!! Take heart sis ❤
We as women need to stop blaming staying with toxic men on the kids; they internalize that. When it gets to the point the kids are asking if he ever loved you you're staying despite the kids' wellbeing not for it. He came up with a plan and moved in with you to save for it. Since he told you about 20k I suspect it was more like 40. When you found out he made 90 you should've made your way to the child support office, but I'm sure you realize that in hindsight- along with the realization of how damaging continuing to sleep with him was/is. The saving grace is God is redeeming. He has redeemed people in much worse situations and he can do it for you too, but you have to summon strength and realize this situation for what it is and not what you want it to be or what you thought it once was. Good luck sister, and ty for sharing your story ❤
Thank you for having your letter read on Talks w/ Tony. I can relate to your story. Be brave and do the healing work Tony suggested. I’ll be praying for you. You can do it!!
Though “narcissist” is a term being thrown around; it is REAL! I was one of those that was annoyed by the over usage till my recent ex is a covert narc. Been obtaining knowledge from psychologists on RU-vid to help me through my healing process. Wish I was educated in narcissism beforehand.
❤️🩹🙏🏼 Healing is possible. Heal for you and your sons. They need to see a happy, healed, and resilient mother. Do everything Tony said and seek a personal relationship with our Lord and Savior. He will restore you. Pray, read daily devotionals, read a psalm everyday, play worship music, listen to sermons from different evangelists and preachers you enjoy. It will change your life. God bless you and your sons❤
Why do we stay too long and/or return - me included? A lot of similarities to my situation...met my husband at 16...married at 25...watched TG vids and was able to remain separated Jan 2020 thru most of 2021...but I didnt fully do as TG says "no contact", "blocked" and I didnt file for divorce...I still had hope...I kept in contact during that time being a "friend" and then took him back Oct 2021 when he was diagnosed with cancer...Fast Forward, we are moving forward with divorce. He still has the same covert narcissistic traits and he drains the life out of me (sad, in a rut, gaining weight, etc). I thought the time separated and cancer would change him/us. Warning to others-I was wrong!
I learned that unless a man seeks therapy, seeks God, and is transformed by the power of the holy spirit. He cannot and will not change. So happy you are freed from that. 🙏🏽
@melissadelacruz7253 Thank you! I communicated boundaries but unfortunately, I didn't take heed to TG wisdom...Your reply is exactly what TG tells us to do...I got so caught up being a caregiver and didn't require God, therapy, etc. Wasted time, but lesson learned!
@@mizzf3ntr3zz Thank you sis, but I’m free! 🤣 We divorced summer of this year with our youngest child being less than a year old at the time and he has a wedding planned for this Saturday. They began dating while I was pregnant. He developed some physical issues and I thought it would wake him up but it didn’t. He’s trying to publicly do everything for her that he wouldn’t do for me.(he thinks I’m on social media) He is trying everything he can think of to trigger me, but I’m not interested, so I’m unaffected.
