Did I Leave YouTube? Life Update, Girl Chat!! 

YES. Tons of changes. Quality over quantity relationships. Healthy, true friends wouldn’t put you through that type of dynamic, just like a romantic partner. Relationships that don’t reciprocate authenticity aren’t worth your time. Leaving everything up in the air, vague... it’s fucked up. The confrontation can help with closure but at the end of the day, it’s gonna hurt either way. You’re slowly losing someone you thought was in your support circle. That lingering doubt is the worst part. May you find and nurture healthy relationships that celebrate you and ALL that you are. Celebrating you also means calling you out and being honest if they need to if they have your best interest in mind. Everybody go find an incredible therapist!

A wise person once said, "If I didn't do anything to send you away, I'm not going to do anything to bring you back either. In the meanwhile, I'll be right here living life, loving God, and wishing you well."

“Breaking up” with a friend hits harder than any breakup with a man.

Jackie’s ability to carry a conversation and do her makeup simultaneously is over the top impressive to me.

‘Feminine nice-nasty energy’ & ‘throwing rocks then hiding their hands’ are two phrases that are spot on. Passive aggressiveness is never okay.

Aunty Jackie someone had to say it. RU-vid has never recommended you to me as much as it has for other RU-vidrs of no colour. This is surprising because I always have to type BLACK makeup RU-vidrs and I thought by now they would realise my preference but NO. Please say it.

You guys are missing the _real_ story. Jackie is letting us watch her do her eyebrows.

Imagine not wanting Jackie to be a bridesmaid. I could never

I totally agree with you. I've been on RU-vid for 14 years. Even though I have 1 million subs I still have to fight for every view. I'm super grateful but I definitely don't put all my eggs in one basket.

✨✨ people need to understand your professional life isn’t just on RU-vid and neither is your bag. This transparency is so refreshing

I still do my make up every single day home with a large houseful of children who have been remote since March 2020. Why? That is my guaranteed time alone. I've learned that preteen and teen boys will interrupt you no matter what you are doing, but when you ask them questions like, "Would the coral or the rosy pink blush look better with my eyes look today?", "Matte or glossy lip today?", they will leave, and stop coming in to ask you for money, to yell at their brother or to cook for them for the 7th time that morning. It is like magic.

The fact that people still can't have direct conversations to resolve conflict IN THEIR 30s???? That terrifies me

RU-vid is getting really comfortable with these double unskippable ads

RU-vid NEVER recommends black creators to me. I literally have to search it. So you spoke nothing but facts. Love the video as always!! 💗

Jackie, after you said, “Hey musties!” in that perfume application tiktok, I’ve actually started applying perfumes when I shower and before bed and I feel so much better in my self knowing that I’ve put effort towards myself FOR myself 💖

“Some people don’t like you, they just want to have access to you” FACTS 💯!!!!

Grieving the loss friendship, especially when there is no room for correction, is probably one of the worst kinds of pain because like why?

I would rather get a video from you every once in a while that you enjoyed making than consistent uploads that make you miserable. I hope you’ve been enjoying life 💜

That friend has "girl runs out of the room because you're supposed to chase her" vibes. I'm not here for it. I had a friend like that and when she ran out of the room I got up and locked the door behind her.

Jackie I had a “friend” who did the same to me. Felt like I was walking on eggshells with her & I couldn’t understand why. She eventually tried to find something to be mad about to justify falling out with me. It was so hurtful. Never again. I can tell the signs of a fake friend now.

You can legitimately just say you need space or that you don’t want to be friends. Passive aggression is never effective

I wasn’t even mad that you were taking a “RU-vid break” because I have been enjoying your Instagram content. ‘Lavishly Jackie’ is everything to me because I don’t see a lot of black women living luxurious, balanced and healthy lives without sacrifice and trauma. So I really appreciate the work you’re doing Jackie. I pray that God enlarges your territory and grants you the desires of your heart.

the crazy thing is, i’ve found as i get older that when people create these problems with you that they never voiced, it’s often because they’re jealous of you, your life, your success, or how they perceive you to be in their head and they just don’t know how to deal with it. glad you got away from a toxic situation quickly

Post quarantine friendship update : no friends

The past couple years have been so full of loss for me. My mom passed away, then I lost four best friends over that time, and I'm now going through a terrible breakup. I just wish I knew when it got better, but watching your videos/seeing you succeed gives me a little hope

Re: bridesmaid moment - Bridezilla was salty because she thinks you should have been making her wedding a focal point in your life. Don’t even think twice about it. Real women, real friends, can pick up where you left off no matter how long you have spent apart.

When Jackie spoke about being celibate really resonated with me because these days I feel like women judging other women for being or not being celibate is actually caused by the way society makes us view sexuality. Like the more I think about the more it makes sense, there is no other reason for straight women to judge other straight women for that. I think part of it is also s*x and women is almost like a competition, which is really dumb because it’s a competition you can’t win, damned if you do, damned if you don’t. Just stay safe y’all

I can’t stand when “friends” have a problem and won’t talk to you about it. I’m always honest with my friends if I have an issue with something they said or did.

I lost a friend, a girl that I felt was one of my greatest friends ever, over a disagreement about the temperature in our apartment... 🙃 so I 100% feel you on that being friends with people who don't like you and are looking for any excuse to get out of the friendship. That shit deadass felt like a breakup, it hurt that much and I was so confused about it for sooo long.

Smaller circle of QUALITY relationships above all else! As you grow Jackie, you'll find your circle smaller and that's a good thing! People will try to take advantage of your success. The higher you climb, the lonelier it SHOULD get. As long as you have Dennis, your family, and that tight circle of trusted friends, it's all you need. Wishing you much love and continued success xoxo

As Oprah wisely said, (paraphrasing here) as you continue to succeed in life, some of the people you know will begin to lose oxygen and drop. Don't react. Wish them well, wave goodbye and skip happily along on your path. Those who are meant to be in your life will stick around. That's a fact.

"Secretly don't like me.." You just put so simply something I couldn't quite put my finger on with some people around me. Wow.

I'm basically isolating myself and found out I really don't have any true friends 😔 it's been a rough start of the year for sure...

Im convinced, those thumbs down don't moisturize, dont use primer and their eyelids crease. Carry on

Okay the "don't let anyone make you feel guilty about doing something that feels authentic to you" really hit different

I avoid confronting “friends” who have stopped talking to me too, I didn’t know exactly how to describe it but the way you described it is my exact reason. It never works out in my favor, in fact it makes the situation worse even if I approach it in the most nicest way possible.

Miles Jai editing your videos is everything to me

That friend is JEALOUS!!!

I had a "friend" like that she hurt me many times deeply, but I wish her well. I'll never allow her an opportunity to get close to me again though.

Whew! The friendship conversation 🙌🏾

It’s okay sis I literally follow you on other platforms so I feel like I never went without your content 👌🏾

Whewwwwwwwwwww HONAYYYYYYYYYYYY THIS CONVERSATION ABOUT FAKE FRIENDSHIPS!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! The same thing happened to me last year and it hurt me SO bad and I’m still not kinda over it but still. Lol lord

Wow I went through the same thing last year. An end of a friendship that could have been cleared up with a conversation. Instead, that person wants to take time to tell you what you did wrong (with little evidence, but I digress), without giving an opportunity for discussion and possibly some correction of behavior. I personally think people have internal power struggles and project it on others.

Jackie is a Leo and Leo’s are LOYAL TILL THE END. So I know exactly how she feels about this whole friend situation.

When certain people say “support” they mean “stop your life for me when EYE say so.” My mother used to call this “rainy day jealousy”. Basically, “I’m jealous of you and I’m waiting for the right ‘rainy day’ in our friendship to make you miserable whilst still hiding MY insecurities.” This wedding was that friend’s rainy day moment but in reality they have been storming for years about you, girl. Blessings to you and don’t stop being you ❤️

Hey girl 💕 Missed you, but I see you on IG 🤩

OMG I had the same EXACT thing happen to with my best friend of 20 years! I’m still trying to recover.

Your “friend” just didn’t want you to outshine her at her wedding.

You dropped nothing but gems boo!!!! 👏🏾

I must admit, I’ve been feeling so differently about makeup over the past year. Watching someone putting on makeup when I don’t anymore just hits differently than it did prior to 2020. I’m really more into skincare and self-care these days, so I can appreciate the transition away from makeup application towards other things.

I LOVE these chats!!! you're so insightful and I can relate to you 💯!!!!!

People genuinely have no idea how to be adult friends.

Sometimes the garbage takes itself out 🤷‍♀️ it’s hurts your heart but clears your vision 🙃

I had a group of girlfriends who would always leave me out of plans and talk shit about me. It took me YEARS to break away from them, but I finally did and I’m so much more happier and confident.

Thank you for being so real!! I felt that when you spoke on that friendship

Shout out to you being vocal about celibacy. Everyone has their own journey, and it’s their own to walk. People should respect someone else’s choices that don’t affect anyone else. I’ve gone through some things as that’s where I am now.

I saw this post once that said "you may have been the villain in that persons story" and that changed my mindset completely when it came to how I looked at friendship breakups

Jackie: Ya feel me? Me: Felt, sis. Go awf. Missed you darling.

Thank you for all you do Jackie!! Live your life girl the true fans gon be there for you on al platforms💖

Thank you for sharing, and you are spot on: on point about underlying reasons why some people develop friendships. All the best on your journey of life, it’s your life and your road, nurture the talents and gifts inside you. Whether people like you or not, just stand in your greatness.

Whenever, wherever, whoeva... everything stops for Jackie!!!!!

I’ve had this exact same situation, some people will act your friend but never will be or have been your friend, despite all the effort and support you’ve given that person. They just drop when they can’t be arsed with you or gain their next victims, they want evidence against you to prove that’s why they dropped you/not friends anymore and say that’s why you’re a bad person etc. It’s tough and mentally fucked. It’s exhausting. Sometimes it’s just better to leave these people like you did and close the chapter despite no explanation of why they did what they did despite how frustrating it may be! There are just some nasty people in this world

Love you Jackie💜 This was an amazing post😘

Thank you for this chit chat. I love the honesty and real talk. I see you out here doing the dang thang. I’m here for it on every platform. 😍

I only have 4 really close girlfriends. Only 2 reached out to wish me a happy birthday last week. Sometimes the little things that matter to you mean the most in friendships.

Toxic narcissism is a friendship killer, but on the other hand being friends with a narcissist is distinctly unpleasant. It takes a while to stop internalizing the damage...'what did I do wrong!?'...when that relationship ends, but once it hits you that that person is damaged and you can't fix them it's a huge relief to realize you escaped.

Love you Jackie!!!! 💞 you’re such an inspiration.

I'm literally 17 going through this with ex friends...i had to cut every single one off because they didn't know how to be good friends and have conversations, they would just ghost me whenever i "did" something leaving me confused if I had hurt them...then they'd come back when they needed something and that's when I knew that I was never the problem, I cant wait to meet friends on my level mentally because every friendship I'm in I always offer more to the table and I'm over it lol, I'm at the point where if you don't bring what I bring Ima keep it pushing because I always end up hurt and I'm tired. I thought it got easier with age but i guess not lol! (btw auntie your killing it on tik tok, I'm moving into an apartment for college soon and would love if you could do some classy amazon/cb2 etc. home favs and necessities)

Death to one-sided friendships in 2021 🥳. I've weeded out a lot of 'friends' since the pandemic started 😌

wow, everything you said in this video spoke VOLUMES to me, especially about putting all of our energy into a company aka RU-vid and not receiving anything in return, thank you Jackie, also miss you and Denis!

Omg! Jackie, you expressed exactly what I go through every couple of years as well.

Woooooo Queen this one hits home for me!!!!!! Been there!!! Keep growing & glowing Queen!

i was sitting here trying to figure what the Q and C words were... and it just hit me LMFAOOOOOOOO 😭😭😭😭

I understand you Jackie whole heartly. I'll take what you give me on RU-vid. I don't do social media. I protect my energy by not being on IG or any other social platform.

I love you Jackie!! Everything about you inspires me 🥰

Love this video! This was meant for me to see!!

Ever considered making a podcast? I’d love it!

@jackieaina that whole story reminded me of when Oprah said "you can't be friends with people who want to be you". I never forgot that and have strived to keep girls in my circle that are genuine.

Literally!!! Been through this as well. Thank you for sharing! 💖

LOVE LOVE LOVE the girl chat!!! I feel you every video

The friend thing happened to me a couple years ago, except mine was a whole group of friends. I had felt things were off for a while, I even asked one of them if everyone was mad at me. He hugged me and told me they all loved me. Weeks later I was ejected from the group because “they needed a break” from me. All this time, I had been there for all of them, listened to them when they needed a friend, helped clean their apartment when they moved, etc. One of them told me that they had been feeling a type of way for a while but they never gave me the chance to correct whatever behavior was bothering them. It was extremely hard for me losing 6 friends at once, but it also strengthened a real friendship in my life.

I’m living for all sides of Jackie because you went from auntie Jackie to my rich girlfriend jackie who wear Versace to brunch and tells stories about traveling the world

So glad you're back!!!😊

amazing, missed you, Jackie!!! and very impt, cathartic convo for me. thank u

Someone's rejection is God's protection. I feel like I can relate to you so much! Remember: you can feed someone but send them a to go plate. You can love from one but do it from the balcony!

This was suuuuch a nice moment. Never forget that other people choices and actions are not yours or your responsibility. If they be shady, that is their choice. They can have fun with that and I will wave like a good Christian. BYE.

Keep being you, and keep leveling up!! You're such an inspiration! 🙌🏾

Your confidence is contagious!!! Thank you Jackie! ❤❤❤

Some people are like roots on a tree, there for the long haul, some are like leaves and they change with the season.

This is the content I’d want, makeup doesn’t need to be in the forefront. I feel like you enjoyed making this video and I enjoyed watching it.

jackie i loved this video!!! so raw and real!!! 💙💙

Luv this conversation, thank you for your transparency and advice!

I was honestly wondering when a lil break was coming. I love that you gave yourself this time.

heyyyyyy!

Thank you for your openness!

Thank u so much for this. Definitely lost two important relationships in the last year and I just couldn’t understand but u def gave me some clarity!

Being a dark skin girl on YT who is just trying to shine can be so hard. Sometimes it feels like everything is against you 😂 but having someone like you to look up to is such a plus 💗

It’s the “in a secret competition with me” for me 😭 the whole friend conversation was so relatable!! I’ve always had friends who just want to get close to me but genuinely don’t want to know me. They secretly don’t like me or are jealous of me smh 🤦🏾‍♀️ love your videos Jackie ❤️

Loved watching this! The talk, the makeup everything was what I needed 🦋🤍🤍

Jackie!!!! I have missed your videos so glad your back