I love this open discussion. It helps the kids to heal 😢 because ni muimu sana wakati wanaiyongea inawatoka and they feel relieved So Obina you are a great Dad keep it up
a very bad thing oga you are doing. kids can say anything when you buy and give them food, thats what is motivating them, but what i know for sure is that even if mama lola did that there was a motivating factor behind that which is you, oga you wil buy this kid and use them to pacify, but when they grow up, prepare because when they grow up they will be against you. reason being they will be guilt of this convo when they are grown ups., and the fact you recording this, it shows you have a motive..
@@carrymastori1945Must you reply on eaxh comment with same words, ama you copy pasting someones comment. When the said lady was tarnishing Obinnas name where were you.
a very bad thing oga you are doing. kids can say anything when you buy and give them food, thats what is motivating them, but what i know for sure is that even if mama lola did that there was a motivating factor behind that which is you, oga you wil buy this kid and use them to pacify, but when they grow up, prepare because when they grow up they will be against you. reason being they will be guilt of this convo when they are grown ups.
a very bad thing oga you are doing. kids can say anything when you buy and give them food, thats what is motivating them, but what i know for sure is that even if mama lola did that there was a motivating factor behind that which is you, oga you wil buy this kid and use them to pacify, but when they grow up, prepare because when they grow up they will be against you. reason being they will be guilt of this convo when they are grown ups....
@@carrymastori1945this conversation is very healthy for the kids coz wengi uenda childhood traumas, tujifunze kuongea na watoto wetu,hii ni healing process pia
a very bad thing oga you are doing. kids can say anything when you buy and give them food, thats what is motivating them, but what i know for sure is that even if mama lola did that there was a motivating factor behind that which is you, oga you wil buy this kid and use them to pacify, but when they grow up, prepare because when they grow up they will be against you. reason being they will be guilt of this convo when they are grown ups.
This is brain washing the babies, discussing the woman you sleep with your babies. Huyu kijana mkubwa ndiye spy wa Obina. Anything that Lillian says or correct is bad because he can’t be told anything by his step mum.
You need to understand what trauma does to a child? Obinna getting them to speak about their experience is the start of their healing journey Let’s talk to children, get them to open up about their feeling and start to heal
Huku majority of women have gathered to shame because it's what happens in homes, wanaume remain silent, Thank you Obina for this clip, children should learn to speak out, people are here living vile lives..
If the mom now starts to ask the kids will answer the way the dad did bad to favour the interviewer... you heard obina raised the voice to the boy when he said amesahau... How many times as a child you saw your mom n dad do wrong! Their is a story to tell in every life
@@memijessy666have never heard mom shout ama wakiurgue na dad, Ata kukue na misunderstanding hatukuwai jua and the same thing ndio nafanya kwangu hakuna kuteta mbele ya watoi coz huwa hawasau jamani
Weh!! Obiz 😀 ok Pushkey speak baby doll. I agree Breezy is beautiful. They all are are. Good job Obinna as a seasoned health professional and a mom I love the safe space you create. love from the USA. ❤
a very bad thing oga you are doing. kids can say anything when you buy and give them food, thats what is motivating them, but what i know for sure is that even if mama lola did that there was a motivating factor behind that which is you, oga you wil buy this kid and use them to pacify, but when they grow up, prepare because when they grow up they will be against you. reason being they will be guilt of this convo when they are grown ups., and the fact you recording this, it shows you have a motive..
a very bad thing oga you are doing. kids can say anything when you buy and give them food, thats what is motivating them, but what i know for sure is that even if mama lola did that there was a motivating factor behind that which is you, oga you wil buy this kid and use them to pacify, but when they grow up, prepare because when they grow up they will be against you. reason being they will be guilt of this convo when they are grown ups.
a very bad thing oga you are doing. kids can say anything when you buy and give them food, thats what is motivating them, but what i know for sure is that even if mama lola did that there was a motivating factor behind that which is you, oga you wil buy this kid and use them to pacify, but when they grow up, prepare because when they grow up they will be against you. reason being they will be guilt of this convo when they are grown ups., and the fact you recording this, it shows you have a motive.
I was looking for this..it feels and sounds very wrong and most importantly insensitive to the biological kids. Blood is always thicker than water, otherwise we are all human
As much as I enjoy Obinna, I have to disagree with this video. It’s not okay for one parent to paint a bad picture of the other parent to the children. These kids were not there when you parents met and fell in love , it’s unfortunate that they had to witness everything that happened between their parents. It’s important to remember that they only have one mother and it’s painful for any parent to watch such things being said by their kids in public. The adults should have sat down with the kids in private and had this talk. As a mom and a wife it would hurt me so bad if my husband was to ever do this to our girls. This is poisoning them. The adults you should sit down and solve your issues without involving the kids, kids should never watch you urge or fight. When you told them that their mother loves them very much and would never hurt them, you should have left it at that instead of adding ( I hope) that puts a doubt in them already. When you have the kids over focus on building a healthy environment without poisoning them and making their mother look like the devil. She might be bad but she will always be their mother and they are always going to need her.
I grew up in a broken family. Having such conversations with my dad helped me deal with the trauma of a step mum. When my dad eventually left to go to work for a few moths, she sent me out of the house na nikalala kwa vibanda. Having such conversations with my dad helped me realize that he had his weaknesses and my step mum also had her own. I also got to learn why my mum eventually left. Such conversations are extremely important. They put things in the children's perspective.
@@nancyauma3374 I’m so sorry you went through that hun, and that’s great for your dad. The conversation is good but in this case it’s their real mom and I think having both parents sit down with the kids and having the same conversation would be healthier.
Dear parents, Those who are providing things only for the children and they do not have time with them, they kill their children psychologically without knowing. These video shows how you should risk your time to your children. congrats daddy, for what you have been doing to your family. Keep on giving them time/ attention/ love. That's good man. Your children are learning through practical life. ❤❤🎉🎉🎉
Adda is loyal to her mum.Hata appetite imeenda.I must admit si rahisi kulea mtoto si wako.That woman did her part.Msamehe tu cz shez mum to your two girls.Like you love saying..."we move."
For those of you saying that Obinna did a wrong thing by letting the kids speak up just shut up! You dont know what children go through in the hands of those step mothers. I wish my dad was this extra with us maybe it could have saved alot.. I love the convo and Oga big up👏
In the hands of those mother's is true but the main reason for all that is oga Obinna came with issue , cz if you listen about mama ada still have a reason. And why did he come up with both we women.
Dad listen more to breeze and boy they already develop something inside, especially when telling small girls their mother loves them see how she running around on her knees
a very bad thing oga you are doing. kids can say anything when you buy and give them food, thats what is motivating them, but what i know for sure is that even if mama lola did that there was a motivating factor behind that which is you, oga you wil buy this kid and use them to pacify, but when they grow up, prepare because when they grow up they will be against you. reason being they will be guilt of this convo when they are grown ups., and the fact you recording this, it shows you have a motive..
a very bad thing oga you are doing. kids can say anything when you buy and give them food, thats what is motivating them, but what i know for sure is that even if mama lola did that there was a motivating factor behind that which is you, oga you wil buy this kid and use them to pacify, but when they grow up, prepare because when they grow up they will be against you. reason being they will be guilt of this convo when they are grown ups.
Am a great fan of this channel, l love the relationship between Obinna and his kids and to some extent l believe Obinna’s story. However, l do not agree to this video going public in this way and in the kids channel. I think this channel should focus on random fun stuff about the kids and should not in any way be at the expense of another person’s character or reputation. Hapo Obinna ULIKOSA. You should have kept this video for only a few eyes probably from your inner circle or keep it for future use if you will ever need it. But airing it to the public was a big MISTAKE and you owe this lady an apology. I still don’t understand your intentions for putting up this video even after explaining yourself in a ‘million’ words. How would you feel if she did the same to you and let the video out, coz just as you said the kids are honest and there could be one or two things you did as a father that weren’t right. How would you feel if the same was aired out in public. Let the kids enjoy the love of both parents and not be in a tight position to choose between the parents. Just do your part as a father and keep their mother out of dramas. You will gain more respect!
Ooh my God. Woiye obina just stay with your kids. I know you are still young. You need to get married but for now Lea watoi.Lol! If you need girl ufanyie uko inje. That was a toxic woman. Kids never forgets
In UGANDAN,it's against our culture...whether the mother or father is bad,as a parent,we are not supposed to sat down our kids and make the pareniin bracket a topic of conversation.
So you ignore your kids when they ask you why you breakup? Even kids needs closure and furthermore they experienced it themselves so they know what they saw. Let them be
Can you stop with the culture thing and blaming the father. The kids went through alot Single parents are going through alot and this videos helps many of them out here to understand situations coming up
These questions are from the children, so are the deliberations. I have gone through this and my feelings is, WACHA WATOTO WAONGEE ITS THERAPEUTIC, for us watching its a lesson or something you can relate with.
a very bad thing oga you are doing. kids can say anything when you buy and give them food, thats what is motivating them, but what i know for sure is that even if mama lola did that there was a motivating factor behind that which is you, oga you wil buy this kid and use them to pacify, but when they grow up, prepare because when they grow up they will be against you. reason being they will be guilt of this convo when they are grown ups.
a very bad thing oga you are doing. kids can say anything when you buy and give them food, thats what is motivating them, but what i know for sure is that even if mama lola did that there was a motivating factor behind that which is you, oga you wil buy this kid and use them to pacify, but when they grow up, prepare because when they grow up they will be against you. reason being they will be guilt of this convo when they are grown ups., and the fact you recording this, it shows you have a motive..
a very bad thing oga you are doing. kids can say anything when you buy and give them food, thats what is motivating them, but what i know for sure is that even if mama lola did that there was a motivating factor behind that which is you, oga you wil buy this kid and use them to pacify, but when they grow up, prepare because when they grow up they will be against you. reason being they will be guilt of this convo when they are grown ups.
a very bad thing oga you are doing. kids can say anything when you buy and give them food, thats what is motivating them, but what i know for sure is that even if mama lola did that there was a motivating factor behind that which is you, oga you wil buy this kid and use them to pacify, but when they grow up, prepare because when they grow up they will be against you. reason being they will be guilt of this convo when they are grown ups., and the fact you recording this, it shows you have a motive
Thankx for letting us know the real you... shame on you, seriously why poison your kids towards their mother.... one day itabidi you involve a counselor coz mentally you are not doing them justice.
I knew there was something wrong with this guy. You have really poisoned your kids mind. The other two kids are very ungrateful and disrespectful, they should just stay with their mum. Living with 4 kids isn't easy, so someone shouldn't discipline babies because she's not their real mum? One day the babies will know the truth, sahi wanakupenda because of the lifestyle. If I were this woman I could have taken my kids and stayed with them alone. Ati a good dad....... Just trying to look for RU-vid views by tarnishing your baby Mama's name. Kila mtoto akae kwa mlango ya mamake if they are alive.
Yeah then when she reacts the kids feel she's the bad person, he does it in secret she reacts publicly and now she's the one to blame. Of course if she isn't okay it will show even to the kids. It's sad
True to that usiwai Lea watoto wa wenyewe!! Very ungrateful kids !! There parents are still alive they should star with them !! Disrespectful childrens. Poor Ada her face is hurting!! Who won’t hurt when her mum is being attacked anyways
You don't know what you saying.. a wrong is a wrong and addressed as a wrong this guy loves this childrens equally is this the first video you are watching,, personally this guy is my mentor i will leave like him..and bring up ma childrens like him even if he doesn't tell them this kids are growing up one day they will want to know the truth...and this truth helps them to grow up as responsible ladies and gentleman... When they become wives they will not make the same mistake again.. this is right talk to your childrens..hii mambo yakua una hide vitu all the years inaletanga shida in life... Only the truth will set you free.. so say it alaah..the bible is clear
Would obinna listen to his elder kid when they tried to express how his wife was mistreating them? Did he do anything to proctect them?? Na mama ya hawa watoto Ako wapi?
@@thingstoknow6662 an that stupid boy loreein read the comments for her laughing at her with Brianna...this useless man obinna hajui chuki anapanda kwa watoi ile siku huyo kijana yake ataambiwa Ada wewe sio wetu mamako ni maskini ndio atajua anavuna aliyoyapanda give him l8ke 5yrs from now he hates mama Ada na hajui amekua akipika akikula silly boy
a very bad thing oga you are doing. kids can say anything when you buy and give them food, thats what is motivating them, but what i know for sure is that even if mama lola did that there was a motivating factor behind that which is you, oga you wil buy this kid and use them to pacify, but when they grow up, prepare because when they grow up they will be against you. reason being they will be guilt of this convo when they are grown ups...
These kids have been hearing their parents argue.not right Obina shouldn’t be entertaining this kind of questions alone without the mam if he claims to be a better parent . Mschewww
a very bad thing oga you are doing. kids can say anything when you buy and give them food, thats what is motivating them, but what i know for sure is that even if mama lola did that there was a motivating factor behind that which is you, oga you wil buy this kid and use them to pacify, but when they grow up, prepare because when they grow up they will be against you. reason being they will be guilt of this convo when they are grown ups., and the fact you recording this, it shows you have a motive..
One year later 2024 my heart is breaking as they narrate it. if you get an opportunity to be a stepmom, treat all children equally. Those innocent souls are watching and taking in every maltreatment.
I agree with you, but again this are things this kids witnessed and assuming that they don't know is not good for them. Sikuhizi kids are very bright halafu mental health problems start hivo if not talked about it.
a very bad thing oga you are doing. kids can say anything when you buy and give them food, thats what is motivating them, but what i know for sure is that even if mama lola did that there was a motivating factor behind that which is you, oga you wil buy this kid and use them to pacify, but when they grow up, prepare because when they grow up they will be against you. reason being they will be guilt of this convo when they are grown ups., and the fact you recording this, it shows you have a motive
I see guys saying ati what your doing is wrong but i strongly disagree. having grown up in a very violent home i wish someone talked to us like this and cared to know how we felt could have saved ne alot of issues am going through as an adult
This is a very very sensitive topic. what is the most important is to have the children openly talk about how they feel because for a child to ever heal they need to express what they remember or know. and to be able to discuss. children who cant discuss these topics usually bottle everything inside and sometimes a wrong perception and then it hurts them in teenage years to go to substance abuse. the kids are the most important and i see Obina has allowed the kids to express what they feel and how they imagine so that he can rectify issues one by one. am sure more was discussed outside the camera.
I usually have very mixed feelings on such videos! but after seeing how toxic parents can be and in a society that believes children should be in the care of their mothers incase of separation, and that men and children don't suffer abuse in the hands of women, i think it's important to create awareness.... So many children are suffering in the hands of toxic families. I also think such videos are safe heaven for those families that can relate. Thank you Obinnaz family for owning your story and telling it in the most authentic way. It takes courage. God bless you.
a very bad thing oga you are doing. kids can say anything when you buy and give them food, thats what is motivating them, but what i know for sure is that even if mama lola did that there was a motivating factor behind that which is you, oga you wil buy this kid and use them to pacify, but when they grow up, prepare because when they grow up they will be against you. reason being they will be guilt of this convo when they are grown ups.
This is such an inappropriate conversation with children. When they grow up they will without a doubt feel bad about this. This is pitting one parent against the other and the children are being coerced to take a side in a very subtle manner!
May God protect this children and never count anything against them because they don't know what they are talking nor doing!. But then parenting is not buying chips and cakes for kids!!! Morals and values can make them the great people and great ambassadors of this world!! They will be mother's and father's of tommorow! They will face what there mother's went through and it will double! They will see this vedios when they are teenager's! Mark this!!! They will hate you for really! Hawa ata nibewe Bure siwezi chukua.
a very bad thing oga you are doing. kids can say anything when you buy and give them food, thats what is motivating them, but what i know for sure is that even if mama lola did that there was a motivating factor behind that which is you, oga you wil buy this kid and use them to pacify, but when they grow up, prepare because when they grow up they will be against you. reason being they will be guilt of this convo when they are grown ups., and the fact you recording this, it shows you have a motive
May the Holy Spirit continue to guide you through this beautiful journey of naturing your loving children. We thank God for using you and their mothers as vesseles to bring them on this earth. God is faithful through all seasons. Stay safe with your children. God bless you all.
a very bad thing oga you are doing. kids can say anything when you buy and give them food, thats what is motivating them, but what i know for sure is that even if mama lola did that there was a motivating factor behind that which is you, oga you wil buy this kid and use them to pacify, but when they grow up, prepare because when they grow up they will be against you. reason being they will be guilt of this convo when they are grown ups.
@@carrymastori1945 I agree with you if there has manipulation and defence through the kids, will be definitely manifest any time. There is nothing hidden from our Creator The Kings of Kings n Lord of lords The seeds you plant you sow
a very bad thing oga you are doing. kids can say anything when you buy and give them food, thats what is motivating them, but what i know for sure is that even if mama lola did that there was a motivating factor behind that which is you, oga you wil buy this kid and use them to pacify, but when they grow up, prepare because when they grow up they will be against you. reason being they will be guilt of this convo when they are grown ups., and the fact you recording this, it shows you have a motive
a very bad thing oga you are doing. kids can say anything when you buy and give them food, thats what is motivating them, but what i know for sure is that even if mama lola did that there was a motivating factor behind that which is you, oga you wil buy this kid and use them to pacify, but when they grow up, prepare because when they grow up they will be against you. reason being they will be guilt of this convo when they are grown ups., and the fact you recording this, it shows you have a motive.
Obinna I salute you for your place as a dad and a bit part as their mum.All you are doing are much correct,however,be well informed that,Your kids will only have lamp bt miss out light since Its provider,their mum, is not with them. My pieces of advice are; Pliz if possible sit down with their mum and solve out your differences for the sake of your children's future. Secondly,Try all you can to keep your kids away from what happened btn you and their mum.This would prevent them from siding either on you or their mum. Always give them enough time to be with their mum. Doing this, would be making them to be induced some main xters by their mum. Fourth, They're many challenges in bringing up kids by yourself and I know you wouldn't wish your kids to go through the same.Unfortunately it's on its course now.What you've started will not only affects you bt your generations to come.It's , therefore, upon you to decides and make corrections before it gets out of your hands and Fifth,Have you ever know,it's only first wife that God consider.Jacob had two wives, Rachael and Leah bt God chose Jesus to be from Leah not rechael.God never prefer the second wife unless there's someone in the lineage that would convinced God true their sacrifices, righteousness etc. Obinna, generally your are a good guy and have no doubts you would make it work bro.
a very bad thing oga you are doing. kids can say anything when you buy and give them food, thats what is motivating them, but what i know for sure is that even if mama lola did that there was a motivating factor behind that which is you, oga you wil buy this kid and use them to pacify, but when they grow up, prepare because when they grow up they will be against you. reason being they will be guilt of this convo when they are grown ups., and the fact you recording this, it shows you have a motive..
As a parent, profiting from the exposure of problems you undergo in a marriage and as a family at the expense of your children's mental wellbeing is wrong. Especially considering the fact that your kids are not in a position to consent to you broadcasting their trauma to the public. Please don't take mental health lightly. What you've posted can be used to bully your kids and it remains a record online of a painful past. I suggest you go for counselling and seek other avenues to overcome what you've been through both individually and as a family. I wish you the best in that journey. I have also reported your video as child abuse to youtube as I feel that's what you're putting your kids through particularly in this video. I love your content but this particular video is in bad taste. I hope youtube will pull it down. Continue creating content but be sensitive to your kids wellbeing.
A good topic ,if he doesn't tell them the society will tell them and in a bad way,it's better they hear it from their own parent.. My take. Obinna have became your fun . I love your videos they're educative. Again you're a rear kind of a man,few can relate this to their kids. May God help you.
Children are always brave and can keep so much information and suffer to their adulthood. As parent sits down your children and please avoid issues in front of your children. I feel there is possibilities that when one parent is consulting there will be different answers why don't obina and baby mama sit together with children and solve issues. And my other question is why don't the children stay with their real mom because and other children stay with their mom. Obina its good what you have done but you should atleast talk while the other partner is there to clear the air for this remains with kids till old age. Help heal the traumer that is growing withing your family
a very bad thing oga you are doing. kids can say anything when you buy and give them food, thats what is motivating them, but what i know for sure is that even if mama lola did that there was a motivating factor behind that which is you, oga you wil buy this kid and use them to pacify, but when they grow up, prepare because when they grow up they will be against you. reason being they will be guilt of this convo when they are grown ups....
Obina the real G. I kicked off my wife also because she wasnt respected me. Lst year i managed to take back my two sons. I hapilly live with my sons at Juja
It's so bad as a mother to treat any kid badly.... It's not the kids choice to be in such a family set up... Children are a blessing from God..... I personally don't like her for not treating the kids the same way with love....
a very bad thing oga you are doing. kids can say anything when you buy and give them food, thats what is motivating them, but what i know for sure is that even if mama lola did that there was a motivating factor behind that which is you, oga you wil buy this kid and use them to pacify, but when they grow up, prepare because when they grow up they will be against you. reason being they will be guilt of this convo when they are grown ups...
Kudos obina atleast you are teaching the kids to be open minded,,, whichever trauma they faced before it will come out,and they will be great pple in society who can speak up...kudos❤❤❤lovely family.i hope mama ada and lola have learned something from this clip,.
I disagree, as you have seen and heard in this video, children already know a lot. If your conversation will not shape them up, world philosophies will speak lies. Watoto wa siku izi si Kama Sisi.
From personal experience toxic men will do things to you privately that will drive you crazy to react in public and they will be very calm making you look like the bad one.
Imagine people are encouraging this conversation...I find it not appropriate...it's toxic ...children from different mum discussing one mum and her kids are there...
@@cookingsimplerecipeswithgracem you need to see from the children's perspective. All along it has been selfishly about adults.Let the children voice out our imperfections.
a very bad thing oga you are doing. kids can say anything when you buy and give them food, thats what is motivating them, but what i know for sure is that even if mama lola did that there was a motivating factor behind that which is you, oga you wil buy this kid and use them to pacify, but when they grow up, prepare because when they grow up they will be against you. reason being they will be guilt of this convo when they are grown ups., and the fact you recording this, it shows you have a motive..
