Discovering my dad is not my biological father through a DNA test 

She's angry because you are uncovering her lies. My mother is the same way. Do not let her bring you down with negativity. Their first response is always anger and surprise that you are questioning or challenging them. Know that what you are doing is right and just. Keep strong!

Such pain in her eyes. It's not right to hide your child's origin from them. So heartbreaking. I hope you can learn a lot about Egyptian culture and learn to love that half of yourself. you're beautiful.

My husband found out his dad was not his bio father from a court ordered dna test @ 12 years olds. Now he has TWO dads that love him dearly. Good luck !

I’m 33 and literally found out a week ago that my dad isn’t my biological father and I don’t even know where to begin processing the information. I’ve never felt so alone in my life. 😞 And my mother did the same, made it about her. Now I’m stuck with all of these emotions and feelings of being lost.

I am Egyptian and I am really ashamed of what you had to go through as a result of a careless father’s behavior and an irresponsible mother. Just look now at the bright side that you became part of a large community, exotic culture, rich heritage and extremely friendly people who would love to have you as part of their life. Cheer up :)

Don’t cry 😢... my story .. I’m a 40 plus woman ... at 12 I moved in with my father. He was a tall dark beautiful southern black man. Around 18/19 in front of friends my sister tells me my father is not my father ...... my life as I’d known it change. He never knew he was not my father .. and a year later when he passed .. he’d be buried without ever knowing..... but I knew! Now as a fully mature adult ... I can say ... he was my father.. is my father.. and will always be my father. The lack of dna will not change that. ❤️

50 years ago, you could keep secrets like this. I'd be so angry at my mom for lying to me.

I have know since I was 15 the man who I loved as my dad was not in fact my biological father. I was told by both my mom and my dad. I was basically the family secret. My mom was pregnant with me when she married. They chose to keep the situation a secret. I carry my dad's name etc. But not his DNA. This is a search I am on myself. I am in my 70s now. Before I die I want to know who he is. Via Ancestry I now know who he was and am meeting family I never knew I had. Good luck with your search.

Forgive me if I am overstepping...since I don't know you at all, but I just want you to know...it seems that you raised yourself. By sheer force, you became a seemingly fair and put together person. You show so much compassion for your mother in the way that you describe her behavior towards you. Genetics are interesting, but you have defied yours.... Just keep authoring your own life story. Parents do NOT define us.

Being a Coptic Christian Egyptian is very cool. You are a survivor of a narcissistic mother. Keep strong. Your beauty is matched by your inner strength.

This is me. I was 32 when I took my test and found out my Dad was not my bio dad. Broke my heart into a million pieces.

I found out when I was 22 that I was adopted at about 9 months old. Just handed off between two people and grew up three miles from biological family and in the same high school with two sisters and not knowing! You should embrace this finding and try to get into a group so you will be at ease and learn to be happier.

Your father probably doesn’t even know that he has a beautiful daughter. I wish you luck to find him.

This is what lying to children does, it causes so much damage. The truth comes out on the end. The truth is always better, never lie to your children, they just want the truth. Beautiful woman who deserves nothing but love, honesty and the truth 😐.

that's cool how you got exactly 50% on a result. I don't think I've ever seen that yet.

Dear Jane, you are such a wonderful spirit. I am so sorry for what you have been through. No matter what your parents are like, you can create your own reality and life with only healthy relationships. You deserve this. We all deserve this ❤

But you DO have a good reason: Health. If nothing else, you may need an organ or other donation in your life. Your closest relatives are the best candidates, statistically. Not only that, but what if your bio dad's family is a great family and would welcome you? You could have more family than you ever dreamed of. Your mother sounds like a narcissist and she isn't going to be able to NOT make it all about her.

Get in contact with a genealogist. They may be able to solve this mystery a lot quicker. I wish you luck on your journey.

i was moved by your story, the heartfelt emotion, and the struggle to make sense of this news and your identity. Also in this video, your grace, intelligence, humility, sense of boundary, and curiosity. This is the first video I've watched by im riveted and very hopeful for you to have a positive outcome and healing. Wishing you peace.

I can’t imagine how hard this must be. I’ve never wanted to give a kind word and a hug to anyone more in my whole life. You’re so eloquent. I believe that sharing your story will help others. God bless.

Your story is almost exactly the same as mine.... And I know this comment will probably get lost in the thousands of comments but I am also going through this almost identical situation right this very moment and my mind is running all over the place and I googled “my dad is not my actual dad” and your video came up.... My whole life I was told that both of my parents were adopted, so I knew no one genetically beyond my parents. I was also told my father had cheated on my mother and that’s why they weren’t together anymore. My mom was also a single mother and raised me on her own. I didn’t have a father listed on my birth certificate because I always thought my mom didn’t want my father to have parental rights because he cheated on her. Basically my father too was absent for most of my life, in and out. We never really were close, he never treated me badly just was very MIA. Fast forward to 2011, a man reached out to me on social media and claimed to be my biological father. He said he and my mom were living together around the time that I was born and he thought he may be my father. Of course I asked my mother what this guy was talking about and she simply said that he was crazy and her “stalker”. So I figured he was trying to use me to get to her so I blocked him on social media. Fast forward again to 2 years ago, I as gifted a 23 and me DNA kit and a few months ago connected with a woman who was biologically my mothers cousin. Because my mom was adopted I thought it would be interesting to buy my mom a kit and verify that this was in fact my moms cousin. So we did just that and after my mom got her results... I jokingly said to her today “I should get my dad a kit for Father’s Day now” and she said nonchalantly back “oh so you can find out he’s not actually your father” and I was like ummm what? And she said “we talked about this”. I rush to 23 and me and notice that it now breaks down the results by mother and father side of the family, and on my fathers side some of the last names match the man that reached out to me on social media back in 2011. Basically my heart is shattered and I feel devastated that my mother lied to me my whole life. I have so many questions as to why she would keep me around if the guy that impregnated her was actually crazy, why she would lie and say that another man was actually my father. It just makes me wonder, does my dad actually know he’s not actually my dad, is he lying too and that why he was so distant my whole life? I have so many questions that I don’t even know how to bring up to my mother. I know it shouldn’t change anything, my dad and I weren’t even close... but it does because I am super close with my mom and she was the one person I could trust to tell me the truth and she kept this huge secret from me for my whole life. I’m almost 30 years old finding out who my dad really is... This all happened today and like I said this comment will probably get lost and no one will read it but I just needed to tell my story somewhere. Thanks to anyone that actually took the time to read this, I just needed to vent, also thank you for sharing your story. You are a beautiful woman and I’m glad I’m not the only person going through something like this, it’s helping me not feel so alone. Thank you.

Please don't cry. My dad became schizophrenic which is sad in its own right, but if he never met my mother I wouldn't be here right now. If your Egyptian dad never met your mother you would not be here right now. I think the world is a better place because you're a part of it. God bless and take care of yourself.

Dear Rubble Jane, I could feel your pain, hurt, and abandonment. I wanted to hug you, and console your despair. Thank you for being so honest and vulnerable. Your courage is strong, honourable, admirable. I have subscribed for I’m rooting that your tenacity shall persevere. Amen.

you are so well spoken and my heart feels for you ❤️ just know that wherever your biological dad is, and if he ever gets to meet you, he should be so so proud of the beautiful woman he got to help create ✨

Your features are very prominently and beautifully Middle Eastern. Wish you the best on your future endeavours

You’re basically half white half arab and looking at you I think you took the attractiveness of both sides

This was incredibly pure, and honest, and open and I thank you. I can’t imagine what you’re going through but your pain feels familiar. My stepdad, who was much like my dad when I was very young (7 years old) told me when I was 12 that he had another daughter. It felt like a punch to the gut, like 5 years were a total lie. That was only 5 years, I can’t imagine your whole life and something even more personal. You’re so strong and handling this really well!

First off you are so brave to be willing to tell your story. My heart literally breaks as I watch you reveal your story with raw emotion and pain. I can relate to you so much...And I also want to say that you are beautiful! 🥰🥰 May God bless you and give you strength

Maybe try interviewing people who your mom was friends with around the period of time you were born. She must have told something to her mom, her best friend, her cousins etc. Somebody around her must known something! Or do some sniffing around her stuff, diaries, letters and photos. If none of that works, grow a thick backbone and confront her, like she's your equal, like an adult. Or hire a detective.

I have a mother like yours. It really should be up to you decide whether you get to know him regardless of what she thinks. Good luck on your search!

thank you for posting this, you have courage to do so. you are a strong, intelligent young woman. I think this video of yours might help other people who discover similar circumstances in their own lives. you are not alone. im proud of you

This newly found information is a blessing! How great is it to become closer to your heritage where you had no intel before. Turn this circumstance around and look at the positives here ❤️

Im full egyptian and you really look egyptian you have those arab features in you face. Youre sooo pretty.

I swear to god your baba is gonna be so happy to see his beautiful daughter once you guys reconnect. Inshallah you'll find him and learn about the beautiful Egyptian/Coptic culture 💗

Wow, what a roller coaster ride you've had, my dear. Thank you for your courage and for sharing your experiences. I would have done what you did.

I can see the Egyptian in you, you're so beautiful! I hope you find the answers you're looking for. You have a right to know your history and origins.

Whatever genes you inherited you certainly hit the lottery for beauty. Enjoy your journey discovering your ancestry.

You have an arabic beauty mashallah, don't be sad embrace your gene, go in Egypt and try to discover where you come from, your story.

This is why it’s so important to be completely honest with your children.

You are so strong and beautiful. Thank you for sharing your story.

I think a lovely trip to the Middle East is in your future.

14:00 the maturity, the empathy, the eloquence you when you speak of your mother shows your true character. You are a good person and that isn't always an way thing to be. You're awesome. I just had to pause the video to comment before it slips my mind. What an incredible woman you are.

I really just want to hug you. Everything will be okay. We face different life lessons to help shape our soul and to learn to overcome the pain and the trials. You will find your way, and you already have begun. You are very strong, and i hope so much that you will find the beauty in your heritage, regardless of the pain from the lies that were pushed onto you. In the long run, you might realized you gained so much more than you may feel like you didnt have before. I hope you are doing amazing these days!! My prayers are with you

Girl wow, you are amazing! Such strength and courage.

I subscribed so I can follow your story to pray for you. The issue is not if you deserve a father, the issue is whether any man deserves to be your father. I can tell just by watching your video that you are a woman with a gentle spirit, a compassionate heart, and so deserving of love. Whoever your biological father is, the only question is whether he is worthy of you.

You have so beautiful Egyption features, please don't cry...

Thank you so much for sharing your story and your pain with us. I'm so sorry you had to go through all of this to find out about your ancestry. As an Egyptian and a Coptic Christian, I hope that our shared culture and heritage can help you heal on your journey up ahead. I'll be following along on your journey. Sending love your way ❤️ and if you ever have questions, it looks like you have quiet a few Egyptian followers and we would love to help. ❤️❤️❤️

Bless ur heart ✨🙏🏻 I hope that by now you’ve found out more about your heritage and Egyptian culture

Your mother is wrong. You're an adult you have a right to know about your father. For medical reasons and for to know him and who you are! Don't fret you don't need her approval go find your Baba!

I hope no one thinks she’s overreacting or too emotional. Your identity shapes how you carry yourself through life. I cried for you. I hope you can visit Egypt and become closer to your roots. You are amazing. 🌸

This is the first celebrity one I've watched. Thank you, Winona!

Such strength to come forward with such personal experience. You are not definitely alone. All the Best.

Rami Malek is also an Egyptian Coptic Christian :) you are in good company. Today is the first day of the rest of your life. Hang in there 🖤

You have a right to know who your father is and your mom is wrong for getting upset with you for wanting to know your heritage.

This is the first video I have seen of yours, my heart goes out to you. I'm so sorry that you had this experience with your dna test and your mother. Life is complicated, I hope that you can find peace within yourself, your family and friends that are there for you. It could have been just as surprising to your mother and she may carry a lot of guilt.

I found your video today ❤️. I did the same thing back in 2019 and still struggle with this. My uncle and cousins on my dad's side were showing me their results. I found it so interesting and wanted to see mine too mainly because I knew nothing about my mum's maternal side. I made sure to do the same test so I would link in as a DNA match to my dad's side. The result came in and much like you, I had believed I was something, but then turned out to be something completely unexpected. I was expecting 50% Scottish and Irish from my dad and 50% England from my mum. I noticed I didn't match to my uncle or cousins and immediately thought there must have been a mistake. I even called their helpline! I was shocked that I was basically 50% British and Irish which was actually from my mum, and then surprisingly 50% Portuguese. I had no idea about this. I knew nothing about the culture the language. I had visited the country a couple of times but that was it. Like you I asked my mum about it but I caused upset and felt guilty and feel that I can't ask any more. I still don't know who my family are on that side. My mum gave me a name but I'm on all the DNA sites and can't seem to work it out at all. Most of that side are fairly distant matches. Wishing you all the luck in your search for knowledge and in finding yourself. The thing I struggle with most is completely missing out on the culture, it's like half of me is missing but I already had 2 halves.

It is completely your business to search for your own father. Do not listen to your mom you have the right to do this no matter what she says. It is your life and you should be the one controlling it best of luck❤️

Oh baby girl! God bless your heart! I have a daughter your age and I just wish you could feel the love of a parent like you should. I will be praying for you so that the Lord will lead you to find your father and maybe in ways you never expected. Be blessed and know that you are precious .

I don't know your whole story, but I'm proud of you. Stay strong and love yourself. It doesn't seem like life dealt you the best hand, but you're doing great.

That first 5 seconds give me a goosebump. You’re strong.

I'm sure your "new" Egyptian family will welcome you with open arms. I'm German and married to a wonderful Egyptian man, with a big Egyptian clan attached. It's such a wonderful country with loving people.

50% Egyptian, 100% gorgeous. Don't cry. You may very well be better off not knowing who your real father is.

WOW what a Wonderfull story! You are reinventing yourself.

Oh sweetie, I feel for you. I know you posted this 3 years ago, yet I am watching it and feeling for you as if it just happened. My mom was very concerned with herself as you described your mom. It's very difficult to have a self involved, always right mother. Moms like that have deep control issues and as you seem like an empathetic, thoughtful person, this kind of person has to be willing to come out of their self obsession to actually feel and empathize for another. There probably won't be anything you can specifically do to help her...except say a prayer for her. I know it's heartbreaking...because it's your Mom. Please know that your identity is, yes part from your mom and part from your dad, but there is something uniquely and spiritually 'YOU' that is beyond that. I hope that you continued to look for your father. I wish you well on your journey.

I totally relate to you. This horrifying thing happened to me. Took an ancestry test in 2016 just for ethnic break down, my dad is Puerto Rican (mom is Native American). I was always curious about ethnic break down as Puerto Rican’s are very mixed with Spanish, Mid East, Jewish, African and Taino (native of Puerto Rico). After taking the test it became clear that my dad isn’t my bio dad. I had no cousin matches with Spanish names and the dna was strange... I had a huge percentage of Italian, small amounts of Greek, Middle East and Ashkenazi Jewish. My mom passed away when I was 8, she was pregnant with me when she was just 14. I’m 33 now but did this when I was 31. My daddy has always been in my life and I had no reason to think he wasn’t my dad. So I was horrified and even went in denial for about a year and told no one, just my husband who didn’t believe me. For a whole year I was in agony about my daddy not being my dad but I was curious who my bio dad was so I reached out to some cousin matches did some research and found my bio dad... an Italian man who I look identical to. He said he and my mom only hooked up once or twice. He didn’t remember her at first. It took a couple days then he told his daughters that he did remember my mom... I reached out to him thru his daughters as I couldn’t find a way to contact him. We have met a few times and it’s all still hear breaking. Idk what to do. My dad, the one I have always been raised with has no idea. I’m not going to tell him ever! I had to tell my maternal grandmother about this when I was first looking for bio dad as I wondered if she knew and if she could give me a name. She didn’t know either. I’m still dealing with so much hurt about it all. It’s a mix of emotions. Im a Puerto Rican and was raised that way but now I learn I’m Italian and know nothing about where I come from but don’t wanna be Italian and want no other dad but my daddy but met bio dad and he’s lovely and his daughters I like them and look like them and we are a lot alike but then when I’m with them it reminds me that my dad isn’t my dad and it hurts!!! I hope you find your bio dad if that’s what you want!!! I know the pain your going through and the wild curiosity also. Good luck.

I am an Egyptian and i want to tell you on behalf of all of us WELCOME 🥰 I am here if you need help or anything. Hope one day you can come and visit Egypt 🇪🇬 trust me you will love it 😍 I am so sorry for all you have went through and I really wish you all the best ❤️

I feel your pain girl. Be strong everyday is a new day to make your life your own you are a beautiful soul 🤗

This is the first time I've heard somebody else talk about all this. Thank you for your video. I'm going thru a very similar thing.....

Hope you find your biological father. I also hope your mother can be more forthcoming about who he might be.

Your mother still keeps it a secret, whereas it's not hers to keep. I would personally keep pressuring my mother until I had the answers, but everyone's of course different. Still, you DESERVE to know. If she still doesn't want to tell you and doesn't give a proper reason why, reach out to those known relatives from the DNA tests. Anyways, be proud of who you are; being Coptic Egyptian is also pretty cool.

Going to subscribe after hearing this story! You deserve all the best in life 🤞🏼❤️

I am so so sorry for what you went through. You had the right to know where you came from and to know who your father was even if he wasn't in your life. It's heartbreaking. I hope you can find out. I'm so sorry

I cried this whole video! Moms can be so difficult especially when there’s mental illnesses involved. It’s hard when the kids have to be the bigger people! Wish you the best ❤️

I am Egyptian.. and I can tell you do look Egyptian! A very pretty one. I think you should visit Egypt but make sure to have a friend that you can live with or contact when you travel because unfortunately we aren't really a country that would accept a girl to like live on her own. Good luck, gorgeous.

The first thing that comes into my mind is how incredibly beautiful you are! Thanks for sharing this very personal subject. Have a virtual hug and take care xxx

Thank you for showing us a little piece of your heart. You definitely have a new subscriber! I see the pain in your eyes. But don't forget the silver lining. You are part Egyptian! You have a whole new world to seek. You have relatives you can visit, if that's what you desire. Maybe becoming excited about you newly discovered heritage may help you through this pain. Help you heal. Would you consider visiting what is now a part of your undiscovered history? I certainly would. But that's me. Take care of yourself, beautiful. I'll be watching! Keep vlogging.

As a mother....I cannot IMAGINE getting angry at my child...I would be more upset at myself for not telling them. If he was a bad man or not, she was wrong for keeping it from you and making it about her. I'm sorry, I know she's your mother, but...she's wrong. We don't know her past, but even so, don't do that. Do not make your child feel bad for a mistake YOU as a mother made. I am appalled..and I am SO sorry. 💚💚💚 it is a little exciting to kinda have a new life you ever knew about though, I would imagine. I haven't watched the update videos but I'm about to. Much love

Sounds like your mother has quite a narcissistic personality :( but it also seems like you learned that a while ago and have learned how to handle negative situations with her. I cannot imagine how difficult it would be to go through all this. You are strong to be able to share this with us! Stay strong ❤️

I know this is a year old. I found you because I took a 23 and me test, and I’m waiting on the results. I’m sorry :( I can relate to the difficult mother thing. I was never close with my father. I haven’t even seen him in 13 years, and he’s never met my 8 year old son. But he and his whole side of the family were never interested in my sisters and I. So I sort of joked with my mom that maybe he’s not my real father, and instead of just joking around and talking to me, she freaked out, got super offended, made the whole thing about her. Thought I was speaking negatively about her. She passed away shortly after that conversation, but yeah. I think it makes sense that you’d want to know about the other half of your dna. As others have said, it can even impact your health, since certain health risks run in certain families. Also, whether any father was close to you, it’s a piece of a puzzle to who you are, and it makes sense that you’d want to know about it. And now you have this whole other ethnicity/culture to explore, that you had no idea you were part of!

You are alive! Thank God!

I hope that you know you are welcome to be a part of the middle eastern culture and people :) As a middle easterners I am happy to answer any questions you may have about the culture etc. you will always be welcome to be a part of the ME community, your community. contrary to what the media will have you believe, ME people are caring/kind and hospitable people and will welcome you with open arms :)

Tbh you look very egyptian. But also remember you're way more than your ancestry!

My father, never was in my life and I have pushed him aside a long time ago, but it's a pain that can never go away. I'm sorry you had to go through that, no child should go through that😔

Hello, I’m very touched by your story. I personally have a dad from Algeria and a mother from France who « raised me ». I know my dad so I won’t complain about it. I just want to tell you that you are still young and can still learn a lot about your dad’s culture and I hope you found him. You’re incredibly beautiful to me and your husband is very lucky. I’m sure you’ll go over it. I want to tell you it’s difficult to endorse such a identity but you are not alone the world is like that so stay strong and take care of yourself. Best wishes to you and your family.❤️

Coptic Christians are one of the most welcoming people in the world I know from experiencing them be thankful and explore there faith and try contact them

The DNA news was not bad, but your mother's reaction was bad! Sorry and good luck with your research on who your dad is.

Your moms personality and all the health problems sound like my mom. I really know where you’re coming from with having a hard relationship with her from personal experience. They play the victim, and tend to disregard your feelings and emotions. Just keep bringing it up with her, but gently. As you already know how to do. Keep your head high love. I may not be Egyptian, but I know that they are proud to welcome you. ❤️

Good video 👍 we need more honest things like this, you never know when someone going thru the same thing needs to hear they are not alone

yes she definitely looks middle eastern, face shape wise!

Hugs, hugs, and more hugs. I am so sorry your mother will not divulge who your biological father is. I pray she has a change of heart. You have a right to know for health reasons and to find if you have half-siblings that might want you in their lives.

I feel your pain , O.M.G. I am going through this exact same thing . I am left with no answers , took two DNA tests & I now know my father is NOT my father either . So many questions & hurt . My mom passed away years ago , she also was a single mother. My brother , whom I grew up with , is my HALF brother , different fathers. I also would like to take 23 & Me their DNA kit . I may never get any answers or closure of any kind . This has left a emptiness / pain that is very hard to come to terms with . I am wishing you the best & stay strong . You are absolutely beautiful ♥️♥️♥️♥️

Thank you for being brave enough to share your experience

What a difficult experience to go through. But even these comments from lovely Egyptian people goes to show how wanted you are ❤️

This must be quite an ordeal for you, its also difficult dealing with the betrayal from your Mum. Counselling might help you come to terms with what you are going through. Best wishes

I have only picked up this video today. You could be my daughter. I am so sorry your mum isn't really fit for it. Keep on going strong, accept the circumstances, as difficult as they maybe. You are unique!!!

this is so sad :( I am so sorry I hope you find peace and can get to know your family and heritage

your father seems to be pure egyptian, which mean he is the descendant of the ancient egyptian(the copts are the descendant of the ancient egyptian), you should be proud of that :), you should also visit egypt btw :)

Your jewish "father" probably knew (or suspected) you were not his daughter.

I've recently started doing my ancestry work. As someone who works in the field of mental health, I really felt like I heard you. I think my heart was actually hurting. I know it's been a few years, and I hope you've been able to come up with some resolutions and closure since this upload. No matter what is said about nature or nurture, you are you, and there's nothing wrong with you or your questions to find out more. It is your history, and it belongs to you, personally, and you have the right to ask all the questions in the world to learn more about yourself. Wishing you the best.

Thanks for sharing your story with us. Your a strong woman... Listen had me in tears. :-(