Dispelling Beauty Myths: Gender Norms | Allure 

There's a part of me wanting Kate to be my grandma

"..so I'd wear a conductor cap for the next two years. whenever someone would call me 'tranny danny', I'd be like 'choo choo.. all aboard' " LMAO :D

Rain Dove looks absolutely as stunning in a dress as she does in male clothes and I really don't understand why she'd be seen as aggressive for wearing one. I was literally like "damn" when I saw her in the dress.

María José is stunning; I was enthralled watching her speak. What a beautiful way of talking, her expressions, her mannerisms, her face are just gorgeous.

I honestly and truly can't see why somebody would be angry about this. These people are wonderful, amazing and have an inspiring story. The aren't hurting anyone by being who they are. On the opposite side, people who can't accept these persons are the ones who are the problem, they are the ones that we should be angry about.

I get gender fluidity because I like relate but like damn if your gender is a whole sentence. GIRL

Rain Dove...I think I fell in love...

gender is such a personal thing. in my opinion, it's up to an individual to decide what labels make them feel good and fit them the best, or no labels at all. i think it's ridiculous that we're expected by western society to shove ourselves into these two ridged boxes, male and female. we only have one short life, why spend it trying to fit into a label that's practically unobtainable?

I'm not sure what pronouns they prefer but i really wanna kiss the person with the long hair

Omg Maria Jose you are so so so so beautiful. Not only physically but that confidence you project. You left me speechless.

I'm sure when I was 20 I'd have found this confusing because I had never met people outside the broadly accepted 2 gender.s...but now at 60 life didn't go the way I thought to it would, I've had a fascinating life I'm just an ordinary woman single till I was 34....met a man totally opposite to what I thought I'd spend my life with and he died last year after w6 years together. The ONLY things that matter are being happy in your own skin, and to be loving and accepting with others....( as Jesus said "Treat others the way you want to be treated) and hopefully find someone to share your life with...all the rest is entirely up to you. I find these three people intriguing and beautiful and would love to meet them...I wish all 3 of you well in your life journeys. To those making negative comments ...if you were living a life based on love and tolerance you would not be making such comments and would understand. You have time to grow and open your mind and heart.

The first time my little brother dressed himself, he put on a tutu

while it would be ideal to go without labels, society isn't ready for that yet. We're still hung up on liberal vs conservative lol. I feel for these individuals. Feeling threatened for experimenting and discovering is absurd. Just because I have manly qualities doesn't mean that my femininity is broken. This movement kind of encourages people to see others as human beings, rather than a label. And for some people, humanness is scary. Talk about being scared of your own reflection!!

"I thought that meant that I was into trains." Wowzersssss! 😂😂😂😂😂😂😭😭😭😭😭😭

I am crying like a baby and just replaying this video again and again, I cant stop my tears, this is SO BEAUTIFUL!

I definitely support that one can be whoever and whatever they are. But, I often hear trans people say something like "as a kid I couldn't imagine growing up as a woman and like wear dresses and have long hair and stuff so I knew I was a man" and theres just something wrong with that statement in my opinion... I identity as a girl/women and can't imagine wearing dresses and having long hair neither... If one thinks that thats the only look a women can have then I understand why one would think that the gender is too shallow for them to feel comfortable identitfying with. But if you think the gender society put on you from birth isn't enough or that its too shallow for you, why not just redefine it? With that being said, again, you can be whatever and whoever you are:)

I was smiling with misted eyes all the time watching this. "There is more people that feel this way!!" Thanks for the clarity and the honesty.

"I'm looking for respect and intent" well said and full of compassion for themself and others. People who overcome society shunning them learned to love themselves without the help of the masses, and in doing so gained a compassion they can share with every and anyone. We misfits have the most golden hearts.

im glad im not seeing many negative responses to this video!!! It makes me happy people are accepting, and if not, tolerant to this and that at the least is comforting :^D

What a group of beautiful people

rain doves childhood story always gets me! soo cute

'I don't believe I'm a woman, never really made it as one. But I like looking like one, that's fun for me.' I kinda feel the same about looking like a boy. I like being cute boy.

This is beautiful. It's so inspiring to see people unapologetically being themselves.

I actually relate to the person with the pink jacket thing, it feels good to know that there's people like me in the world. ☺

Maria seem kinda cool,these people in general seem just like average normal people living their lives,why does everyone make a big deal?

I saw Rain Dove in the thummbnail and screamed. Also great video!

María José is just breathtaking 😍 (I'm from the island and I would give anything to be somebody that feels this comfortable in their own skin)

Wow!! I'm confused after watching!

The person with long hair her outfit is so good I love it where can I get it

Maria Jose had me cracking up

I love it when stuff like this pop's into my recommendations! Also a lot of people did this so I'm jumping the bandwagon too; Hi there I'm Aj/ Eri, I'm Pansexual and Genderfluid and videos like this help me realize that there's better people in this world. Spread love kiddos!

Mister pink jacket is exceptionally handsome. And I liked the fact that he stated that if one adresses him in a respectful manner, the pronoun one uses doesn't really matter, because calling a single person "they" or "them" is not really something that I am confortable with, because I just feel that I'm speaking to two people when I see only one person.

wow she looks incredible in that white dress :o

What Rain (pink jacket) said about pronouns... I absolutely 100% wholeheartedly agree with what they said. That's exactly how I feel about my pronouns and they put it into words perfectly Keep being awesome all you beautiful people

I'm so confused

I'm so incredibly in love with this

This is great! These are beautiful people inside and out.

Beautiful. I truly love this.

the one with the long hair sounds like Violet Chachki

The guy with the long hair is extremely attractive, and I love his vibe.

I love the second person. They were great.

I love how the producers played with the lights so all of them can appear more feminine/masculine according to their preferred pronouns

I identify as a attack helicopter *is wearing a helicopter costume*

I love this. We need this. Well all need to love, we all love the same way. Why does it matter?

I love this topic; it is so powerful and important. It's 2017. Why do we still have binary gender/sex/identification/orientation norms?? Why is it considered pathological? These are spectrums that can be fluid, not static. I don't want to be boxed in or pigeonholed, who would? I am an elder, cis-female, lesbian orientation, masculine identity that LOVES to be frilly, feminine, and fashionable. For Halloween long ago, I won a costume contest as a drag queen, at a time when such a category didn't exist, much less accepted. I am viewed by the world as a traditional heterosexual woman who sometimes overdoes feminine traits. A lesbian who is invisible to her own community due to internalized normative standards. Thank you Allure.

Choo choo! that is adorable and hysterical :)

They're all so beautiful oh my God it's amazing and I'm so glad that there is so much love in the comments they deserve all the love in the world

i'm a little girl living in the real world and it's so hard to get by

love Rain Dove she is my inspiration!!!

So i identify as Non-Binary ( I'm more lenient to male, but i act like a girl and like dressing like a girl ), My parents dont understand very much, they try to say im female, then say that i want to be male, and i don't think of myself as either. I really wish i could look the way i wanted to, but it's a hell of a long road, including top surgery, weight loss, haircuts and all that jazz. Its gonna be hell trying to become who i want to be, but i'm trying. My parents also say that me watching Jeffree Star is enabling my gender dysphoria, which iSNt trUE (I also think Maria is *SO BEAUTIFUL OH MY LAWD* And Kate is an inspiration to me as they're also nb :>)

I just can't take my eyes off them, they're soooooo good looking 💕

this is fascinating. not gonna lie rain dove would make a really handsome man if she was trans, she is sooo handsome :). the first guy is actually handsome, he would look so much better if he dressed like a boy and tried to sound less camp. rain dove actually suits man clothing and short hair, femininity would not suit her so she did the right thing :)

I think the thing that bothers me about this is that, Yes, I am so happy that the world is going forward, accepting. But all of a sudden you have this group of people pushing the limits. its like a Vegan telling you every 5 minutes they are vegan and a lot of people that identify as a different gender have the need to remind you every five minutes what they identify with... If you are what you are, thats what you are! Reminding people what you are all the time takes power away and it sounds like you are convincing yourself and not others.

I’m a purple hippo scientist that believes in ducks

Please let them all know that being pansexual includes being interested in/open to being with males, females, and anyone in-between or off the spectrum completely! And there are more of us (Pans) out there than you might think.

All these people are incredibly beautiful and seem to have really interesting personalities and I would count myself as lucky if they ever smiled in my direction.

Thanks for sharing, like also the age range.

She looks like that fun camp counselor

Maria is sooo beautiful and so is rain and kate :)

I just love this videos

This is so messed up. How can anyone ever think gender is offensive.

Strange . . . . how 'ya think you're okay with something . . . and then you SEE it.

I am so jealous of your long brown hair. Omg it's gonna take so long to grow mine out!😩😂😂

i hit that whip on this like button so fast

I loved this

Love this ❤️

Omg I LOVE Rain Dove.

Amazing ❤️✨

People like this need their own planet.

The person with long brown hair is hella cute

Gosh Maria can you teach me how to dress that good please I look like a bag of potatos most of the time 😩🙌🏼

Maria ahhhhhh. You're so beautiful.

I identify as an ancient feminine-masculine burdian Egyptian scarab from a rural village in Bangladesh but also from Pangea. I have been decaying for 10 trillion years, so my pronouns are “yagzeedoogza/yeetyoink”. My sexuality is called “coupexual”, meaning I am only attracted to grocery store coupons, and only the broccoli ones. IF YOU MISPRONOUNCE OR I DEEM YOU DISRESPECTFUL MY COMMUNITY WILL PROTEST AND I WILL PERSONALLY TEAR YOU FROM LIMB TO LIMB. Omg though, I just wish I could be accepted as normal.

I'm not really attracted to people based on their gender so much as their sex.

lovelovelove this

I respect everyone but personally I cant accept not having a gender. its like an obvious thing, even animals, plants have gender , and deep down i think something is not right with these peoples belief. But i like to hear what everyone has to say

Im so happy to see theM hAPPY, EVEN IF SOMe People dont understanD iT (PLEASE IGNORe Caps, its an ocd thinG)

What is María's social media?

small thing, but lately ive been seeing forms with gender: F/M/other. and i guess thats saying something about society.

I’m scared to look in the comments

this are the kind of trans people that is really lovely... and real

is that a tardis necklace?

I love this

I love kate bornstein's anchs

Did anyone else notice the TARDIS necklace?

Does anyone know marías like twitter or instagram or anything?

AUNTY KATE !

the person with the long hair is so beautiful I'm in love

Rain Dove is actually the coolest name ever.

Dafuq has BDSM to do with gender?

"chu chu" I CAN'T!!!!

It's called pansexual and I'd kiss all of you.

Im very much part of this. I just don't get why all the labels are necessary. In my head, I'm a man who simply enjoys dabbling into the feminine realm.

Fuck who you want look how you want act how you want, as long as it's not hurting anybody then who's to judge

seeing people as people really isnt that hard. you just choose not to.

"I'm not transsexual because I love the body I have. My state of being is just unique."

when you have to think that hard to say who you are....just say "I am me"

BDSM aint a gender, darling. its a kink.

Ok but I think I fell in love with Rain Dove srsly

hello, I'm Amanda I'm a girl but I dress both really. I'm bisexual and I'm doing great :)