what if they dont need what you needed ? I dont have child yet, and I LOVE those types of projects just like you, but I wonder what if you put so much efforts but thats not really their thing
Breaking the cycle of pain and being the parent you wished you had is one of the strongest and most healing things you can do ❤ Your kids are lucky to have you
At first I was thinking"no kid needs all that!" then I realized it was because I was jealous. I grew up poor I didn't have things like this as a kid I'm just so glad that your babygirl could have such a wonderfulmom.Shalom
@@falconman3534 not the bakery itself, but children need care, attention and love and if she has the means and time to show her affection with a diy bakery, then so be it. The daughter will cherish the time and effort her mother put into it. If not now, then when she's older.
@@falconman3534they may not NEED it, but this shows that her mom cares, and it feels great to know someone cares about you, of course care can be shown in other ways, but this is still showing that she loves her daughter
@falconman3534 Yea they don't NEED it. A homemade toy isn't necessary for survival, but it _is_ a product of love from a mother. This mother did not have to hand make these toys, she could've bought them online or in store, but she didn't. She chose to make it herself, because she wanted to. It's also not a bad thing if even if she bought the toys from a store, but she went out of her way to work hard and spend a lot of time on this project. She dedicated the time and effort for her child and it shows just how much she loves her child with these beautiful handcrafted toys.
@@falconman3534well, they kinda do. pretend play is critical for child development and knowing your mom made that for you shows the child that they are loved
No actually with the way things are going resources are much too scarce, her daughter will likely never own a home and these toys will end up amongst the billions of metric tons of other waste. On top of that the more kids born today is directly equal to the more kids dying of starvation tomorrow so if you are maternal at all and don’t enjoy child suffering you wouldn’t have kids at all.
@@thecreationproject7005 cold hard facts right there. I used to want kids when I was younger, but the older I get the less I’d ever want to bring a child into this world. I don’t want to have to watch my children or my grandchildren suffer in the future
Trust me with this - if you patch something back together, if you can make something from scratch, if you can repair split seams... You can sew. I'm not great myself, but I can repair clothes when they get holes. I fixed a hoodie years ago and it's not an invisible fix, but literally nobody notices unless I point it out. I've fixed bags, work pants, got extra life out of socks, replaced buttons etc All you can do is build on your skills, I'm not a professional by any means, but I can definitely get by haha
I just wanted to add for *anyone that feels sad they aren’t able to do this for their kids…* *this is not the measure of being a good mom.* You can still be a good parent, even if you aren’t able to afford this and do all of the extra. Your kids will only remember if there were there for them.
Exactly. This is beautiful but it's not realistic for everyone. This is a ton of effort and I'm sure her kids love it, but it's not necessary to be a good parent.
I think what most people are not understanding is the primary motivation is content creation. Y’all would do this for your child too if you built an audience and got paid
Agree! Whenever I make something from a box my kids like it more than spending hundreds of dollars on toys. They imagine with what they have. Watching them take such an ordinary object and using it 10 different ways to fit their role play gives me more joy than when I've bought that "perfect" store bought gift that is just tossed aside a week later because it's boring. I'm sorry for whatever she is healing from, but she's going to make a lot of women feel like less of a mom because they don't have the money for expensive rattan furniture or the time to hand make toys.
One of our kids very favourite things to do is "family time". This basically entails us and them messing around on our bed, us tickling them as much as possible and tossing them onto the bed and them trying to give us bruises as they climb/jump/stand etc on us 😂 no big creative projects, no money needed, just fun for half an hour or an hour and a lot of laughs. It doesn't need to be fancy or extravagant to give your kids a great childhood.
@@nataliadapkus5214 love isnt just buying stuff or making it for ur kid, just being there for them in their ups and downs, comforting them, making them feel loved is enough, not all parents have the money or time 😀
I’m still basically a child, and I’m crying over this. *Thank you.* ❤ Edit: bro I’ve created this like little family of traumatised children, I did not expect that. But still, Welcome to the fam! Let’s go through this together.
This reel made me cry because you put into words what I feel when I create anything for my baby boy ❤ people around me think I’m showering him with too many things but I am actually try to heal my inner child in the process 😢
This makes me so happy… my dad spent multiple summers building a mini sort of house-treehouse and swing set and slide for me and my older sibling. We loved it so much… I remember standing over my dad while he was building it and asking over and over when it would be done 😭
My dad did the same for myself & my 2 younger brothers. Especially the huge hole he dug out in the yard (took a whole summer) to build a spot to put in one of those circle above ground pools. Not the fancy ones. It was a huge blow up pool but, I have endless memories bc of it. Not to mention one of my brothers isn't biologically related to my dad he has been dad since he was less than a year old. I absolutely love my dad. I wish every child could experience the same feeling. It's not fair 😔
@@baileyarnold2020 I agree. It should be a universal experience to be able to bond with your parents like that ❤️ At the beginning of Covid my dad bought and maintained a blowup pool as well, because me and my older sibling were really sad about not being able to go to the pool over the summer. He was doing so much work for us to be able to have fun like a normal summer 💕
@@M0rn1ng_star oh how awesome!! Something that seems like no big deal to some can make the biggest difference to others so, I'm glad you got to have something to help get through the summer of covid. I know it was a rough year 😭 That was so nice of him 😊
Im inner child is sobbing. You are such a good mother. This is healing me. Seeing other mothers giving their children what they wanted is so healing. Thank you. ❤
That little girl will walk into that room and remember the happiness she felt for the rest of her life. What you’ve given her isn’t just a beautiful play patisserie, it’s an everlasting wonderful memory of what her mother did for her & how much she was loved ❤️❤️❤️
I'm 36 years old and I teared up watching this. My mom did her best to create special moments for me like this, and seeing you do the same for your daughter is the ultimate act of love and care for both you AND her. Thank you so much for sharing this with us
How sweet, Mama! You gave your daughter the most wonderful gift. YOU, your love & creativity, and your inner child. Your French Patisserie is simply marvelous.
That is so beautiful! I’m a grown woman and professional pastry chef, but I’d be lying if I said I wasn’t about to go out and buy some felt to make little pastries for myself. I hope your daughter continues to hold on to her passion for food- it’s a wonderful thing to nurture even if you don’t follow that path in life. Best wishes to you and your daughter 💕
Your parenting and creativity are more than what many of us had or have. You have brought happiness to your child and to at least 1;626 of us. Thank you.
Your such a good mom I never got to grow up with anything like this, but I wish I did and you doing this for your kids is so sweet. You are truly a great mom for them.❤❤❤❤
sometimes my mother has moments like this, even though many of her children are adults now. her mother left when she was six years old, and she made sure she was the best mother she could be. i often get random moments throughout the day where i’m just like “i love my mom”. i’m sure your children will feel the same when they enter the world. i’ve really grown to appreciate everything she did for me, even the things i thought were annoying. i make sure to give her a call every day.
I’m glad ur mom cares! In my family though (especially my culture as a whole) emotionally abusing kids is unfortunately really normalized and my mom didnt really break this cycle with me and my brother either so, even though she takes care of me and (pretty rarely) shows signs of acknowledging what i like, most of the time she’s just emotionally abusing me and making me feel worthless. It’s always a cycle or spoiling me with things that i like for one day and then spend the rest of the week making me feel awful and saying she regrets having kids because of me.
Honestly, even as someone who has a great and loving mom who sacrificed everything for me, this just brings tears to my eyes 🥹 I think it's the fact that you put in so much effort and you did it by hand, putting so much love into every little detail... And just imagining the pure joy your daughter must feel when she plays with this set is almost too much for my heart to handle ❤
I was blessed because my mom stayed home during the day and she worked evenings while my dad worked during the day. I have a disabled brother, and that was the only way my family could afford to take care of him. But she would spend what precious little spare time she had sewing me the most beautiful full doll clothes. And I still have every single piece that she's ever sewed me. Sadly, she passed last year and I told her so many times what a great mom she was. I just hope she really knew it. Yeah, i'm crying like a baby right now. ❤❤❤ Your child is so lucky & will take these memories with her for the rest of her life
My mother was the mother she never had, and she truly made my childhood so wonderful. She was so patient and kind, she gave me everything, she shielded me from the bad times, the scary times… I will always look back on everything she did for me with so much gratitude
I think this comment is not needed. She could be caring and amazing without making a DIY bakery at 1am. We should stop putting expectations that high. Don't get me wrong. This video made me cry remembering every attentions my parents gave me. It's amazing what she did for her daughter. But that's not what makes you a good mother. What's makes her a good mother is that she spend time for something her kid likes. My grand-mother's mother was awful with her, a monster really. She did all bad thing to her, even forcing her to marry an old man when she was only 16yo. Even the DIY Barbie dress she made for my grandmother couldn't erase all the bad things she did to her. It's not the gift that's important, it's the intention and love around it.
@@eloise6660 Thats what I mean, she stayed up late for her child, I'm not saying mothers should stay up late for their children because mines didn't and she still was an amazing mother, Im saying her staying up late shows us how much work she put in for her kids which makes her a good mother
@@eloise6660 Also the comment section is to comment what we want on RU-vid, I try to keep most of my comments positive and not hatred or targeted towards others
I wish more mothers were like this with their daughters. It's sad so many mothers see their daughters as competition or as a problem child . Instead of protecting them and healing themselves by treating their daughters right. You're a wonderful mom.
EXACTLY im always sick of my mom comparing me to like everyone, and of her telling me im the “problematic” child even though i try my best to become better. Yet my brother always gets all the praise because he’s the “good child” and he’s the youngest 😭
@@Konata_TheRappa07- reading up on narcissistic mothers may help you in dealing with her. And the ones that are treated like the 'golden child' usually end up being entitled & narcissistic just like the parent who spoiled them, unfortunately. It is awful being the 'problem child' but it does make us self sufficient and resilient.
this is one thing my inner child is so grateful for today!! my mom made me, by hand, a play kitchen. it had a stove, a cupboard, and shelves, and it was beautiful painted in red and white. it wasnt nearly so fancy as yours, but she would take stuff like the tiny cereal boxes from hotels and fill them with dry macaroni for the kitchen. she tried her best at making pretend food for us to play with, and it was the most treasured gift of my entire childhood.
Exactly! This is the cutest bakery set I’ve ever seen! It really looks so professional.That’s the one thing I’ve been most struck by since having my daughter almost 2 years ago, the amount of healing that was brought to my soul lol😅 I know my parents tried their best and I know my father is on the spectrum so I have a lot more empathy for him now and all the things he would say to me not meaning to hurt my feelings or scar me so deeply. But we still all have trauma to heal from regardless. That’s why we are here on this world, becoming a parent is such a blessing😂
You’re such an amazing mother, and your child is so lucky to have you as her mother. When I was 5, my mom fell into a coma and got brain-damage. She still does, and I’m losing hope. You’re amazing for giving your daughter these opportunities that she will cherish for her whole life! Thank you for being an amazing mother ❤
Two years ago I was hit by a car as a pedestrian and suffered traumatic brain damage. I’m healing still, but just reached a point where I’m starting to comprehend the impact this has had on my daughter. I’m sorry for your loss. I’m coming up short on the words to describe what has been taken from you, but I have some vague idea. I guess I want to stop and acknowledge what you’re going through. I wish the best
I remember being 7 and asking my mom to join me in a tea party, she was scrolling on her phone and said she was busy and to this day never joined me on one, seeing this video makes me really happy to know your daughter has such a loving mother that does things like this for her 💛
I’m 33, and I want this so badly. You are talented, chica. You could start a whole shop, making these lil playsets for many children ❤ What a wonderful mother you are, bless 💫💕💕💕
I love this!!! Sometimes I think about it as the sad beige moms but this is definitely different because you're daughter actually wanted this! Good job!
I wish I could’ve have that when I was younger (I’m 12) but money was short- kinda still is but my mum doesn’t rlly tell me about money problems she just says I don’t have enough money
There are so many reasons I wanna cry😢. The whole display is adorable and aesthetic, but it doesn't remove fun colors like so many parents do. Plus, there was time and love put into this and I love that so much
I'm still young but I'm a teen and my inner child is crying her eyes out since my mum was always at work and my dad always said he was too tired to play games with me, but if I ever have a child, I will do this ❤
It brings out a much needed creative side to yourself… it greatly expands your self esteem and inspiration! Keep going and trying new things! At 63 it has always kept me young and in awe if so many great things one can accomplish!
I saw this short once before, and I think I was absorbed in the screen and how pretty it was. This time around, I realized how sweet your voice over is. Good for you, break the cycle.