If someone decides to cut you off it does not mean they want to be begged or jealous of you or can't handle your success. Friendship is too much work and it is not for everyone. We face seasons in life that require isolation, life gets too much and I have a right to deal with it the way it fits best for me asifani so can we stop with the jealous thing coz ayiyo. If you know you did nothing to someone who cut you off just move on uphume kuye.
I think this is what happened to my bestfriend and because I'm not wired like that, I struggled to understand this concept. This whole time we were friends and even promoted her to best friend I thought we were on the same page on the friendship.....she dribbled me shame won't lie. I wish I knew earlier then that this is how she views friendship, would've stayed faaaaaar from befriending her.😂
She's the one who was promising and sending me sweet pictures of 2 old friend ladies who were just playing and joking with eachother, saying that will be us when we are old😭😭jiki jiki after I got married, my friend started being cold
As much as there is some truth to this, I don't fully agree. People have different personalities, I for one am the quiet friend. I hardly initiate plans because that's just not who I am, but when my friends do I will always show up. I hardly call, I will get in touch after like a month but in my heart I still regard you as my friend. If you don't understand this about me you will think I am the friend Zinhle is referring to, when in actual fact I am not. Thankfully my longterm friends understand this about me.
Honestly DJ zinhle is the kind of person who focuses on her own life. Like her family's growth and her personal growth more than she does with friends.
We need to get to a point where we understand it's okay to outgrow each other. Every day we learn, we revolve. We become a new version of ourselves it means chances are may not click with a friend tomorrow and that should be okay.
Some friends are there because you share the same problem maybe in your marriage, finances are low once your problem is resolved they no longer want to with you. How do they then reciprocate the love?
@@thandibaloyi4411mhmhm but that's not a friend. The signs are always there of someone using you, how they only want to be around you when you have it good. I meant that having someone who can be there for you on your special days just like you are there on theirs for example. The friend does not have to always reciprocate in the same way but their intentions mean well all the time..
@@blaqbee03 Friendship can start right and along the line lose one another. It's not always using some it when they help you the day you on your feet they change colors. The person I was yesterday is no longer there I see things differently will my friend be on the same page with me? Most chance it's no then you are losing each other. Make peace with it
I understand Owami, some friends, family and even partners just take take and never reciprocate. Having to beg someone to be thoughtful towards you is not nice at all...
This type of content/advice is suppose to have a million views already, we need such conversations and many different opinions because ubuhlobo nobungane are very difficult nowadays... especially when it comes to family, sorry to say this but it's even harder to have a relationship with our father's families
Please do you tube videos for the make up tutorials queen, some of us are still students and we might not be able to afford the master classes. much love❤❤
I think friendships are just as much as relationships, we have different dynamics. My friends are the ones I made in varsity from 2009. Sometimes years do go by without us talking but when we start talking again, we hit it off cause besingaxabanganga, just busy with other things in our lives. My friends are just the same, it has nothing to do with begging or anything negative, it's just us living our own separate lives. If any of us reaches out for help or a girl's trip, we plan and meet to catch up or help when the need arises because we have best interests at heart for one another. I am blessed to have friends with a similar nature and never see everything from a negative perspective all the time. Life is busy guys, there's no much spare time.
Thank you for this video owamie I’m currently going through people rejecting and same time I’m scared to be alone I’m just gonna learn from this video leave people alone
When you distance yourself and decide to come back later forget! My life doesn't revolve around you. I won't be tossed like a yoyo. I'l continue with people who want me in their lives period!
I block you as soon as I sense negativity, jealousy, betrayal or competition. I will love you from a distance. I was thinking about it the other day. It’s like fire. It’s warm. We love it. But it’s dangerous. So we love it from a distance ❤️
Ladies in GENERAL nje; when it comes to friendships shame. We need to do BETTER!!.. I know sometimes men can be so loyal to each other because at the end of the day some of them are undercover gays; but damn. It’s sad; most specially if life doesn’t bless you in the same manner. Marriage, motherhood, work ethic, mjolo etc… most women friendships are very beneficial, and it’s SAD. What happened to fixing things? Being a girls girl. Like basically she never loved that friendship enough to REACH OUT; your just being “kind”?. Sies… invest in friendship as much as you invest in men. Before we part ways, talk. Don’t just use that as an opportunity to EXIT. That excuse is pathetic. I want to understand her; but not for that reason. It’s CHILDISH Grown women acting like we don’t “NEED” each other is the reason why witchcraft even exists. Instead of asking and clearing things out, it hate . Jumping into conclusions. Yhooo. GRACE PLEASE.
It depends my dear. There's situations where you can ask but there's other situations where you just have to accept or yes, take the opportunity to exit. You'll be emotionally bankrupt if you'll lack the discernment because sometimes God removes people in your life because He knows you won't remove yourself, but wena in the name of I don't know what you want to discuss and ultimately you are back into that situation. You can't discuss with everyone, you also can't be friends with everyone, it depends.
@@Elizabeth-vu1tb I didn't say that, hence I kept emphasizing, "it depends". Islands or not, you are not for everyone my dear. Let's not live under the illusion that everyone will love or understand you. Like Owami said, sometimes be cuttible, or risk getting hurt when that wasn't even necessary.
@@mabathomosekeli Will agree to disagree then. But if you call someone “friend “; that means that they ment something to you. Give people an olive branch. Your not perfect either.
I couldn’t agree more with the latter part, indeed some people can’t handle your success hence they will distance themselves from you please pay attention, they are avoiding to become witches cause your energy and level of success suffocates them please let people go🤗🤗
😂😂😂😂 I remember voicing the problem I see in my friendship with someone they told me if I had a job I would understand how busy she was that time I was still in school as busy as she was she had time for other people I stopped talking to her that day till today I have never gotten a hi that where I knew I was the one who was forcing things in the friendship I thought we had .that why this days am like if am not happy in a relationship am out hai 😂😂
😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂💯💯its so funny how this world have turned out too i don't have friends reasons why i just feel like is so much work and also a window that you open for unnecessary spiritual attacks one thing that my mom always says is tha "no matter what smile or laugh a person can give you just always know that you don't see whats in their heart's" so be careful and always aware about your surroundings 💯always remember what Judus did to Jesus !
Hi Owamie I just joined your channel recently,I love it,I love it so much.Good one girl,,,one piece of advice(not in a bad way sis) right?Please don't take your personal matters to your work,when having a guest,just don't interrupt when she's speaking.Just wait right until she finishes and reference some contents to your previous love life(indirectly so).Don't put your side of the feeling in your show,remember now,you did this for your audience,now it belongs to them.Hysterical laughs and hand gestures should be minimized as the host.Questions should be asked for/on behalf of the audience not the HOST. NOT IN A BAD WAY MY SISTER,ITS BECAUSE I CAN SEE THAT THIS CHANEL WILL BECOME ONE OF THE GREATEST. WISHING YOU ALL THE BEST.
The way I love my me time sis, I hate a lot to be that person who is begging friends that's why I decided to not have friends and only love the people who love me and forget about those who dont care about me and it does not stress me at all. Even my family I used to be the person who seemed to force myself on certain family members and when I realized ukuthi ndiyabadika yhooooo ndafaka reverse ostrong and I feel so at peace. I love to spend my time alone. There are people I would pray to God to remove them in my life...they will just stop communicating not know my God has done it for me...after they left I will be so at peace...
Yey my Queen Ninja, I agree with you 💯, yoh inhliziyo yami yacishe yama. Yoh abanye abantu, you pour and pour but bona dololo. I learnt the hard way no more, angifuni ngami anymore. 😊
@@londekamemela6340 not when she cries every other day on TikTok we see it all If you envy such and deem it successful wow we really are doomed as a society !
I use to value friendship until I was to deeeply hurt 😢 now I’m like DJ Zinhle, if you stop talking to me I let you be, if I feel some negative energy I excuse myself.
But Owamie sometimes those who cut off people genuinely dont want those people to beg them, they are also done lol, because they are also friends who will do very shady things and act surprised when they get cut off lol (the type that will gaslight the f out of you when you confront them for shady behaviour)
Why does it sound like this is your personal message to a friend who mooeered you with a terrible hurt and you never got a chance to tell them your opinion? I don’t even understand why you had to put Zinhle in this. Is it that best friend you used to talk about and don’t anymore Lebo? Ohh ninja maar le wena sometimes
Its nit that zinhle doesnt give.. she is a matured person and some friends that surround her are nit confident. They want validation from zinhle and you swami want validation for them from zinhle.. do you really think zinhle would cry if her friends stop talking to her?? She is a grown woman wirh a husband and kids ...
