DO’S And DON’TS Of A First Date! 

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I'm an atheist and disagree with you guys on a lot of issues but I just wanted to express support and sympathy because it's very easy to see that you guys are good people and yet you seem to get so much hate, some of which borders on _slander_ in my opinion. You guys have a right to believe what you do since you guys aren't really hurting anyone! Keep pursuing your RU-vid dreams and trying to help others

One thing that I love for a guy to do on the first date is to open the car door for me! I love when a guy is chivalrous and opens up doors for girls. I think it’s just a simple way to show respect and courtesy!

Also if you dont want the pressure of having constant conversation and just staring across the table at eachother lol..esp if you dont know eachother well...then instead of eating out, do something side by side that's an activity: hiking, a church event, bowling, skating, going to a museum or festival ☺ ease in with questions..but dont be afraid to tackle important issues. Above all, just be yourself, who God made you; the right person will love that and be so comfortable with you that you dont even have to talk allll the time and always fill up empty space with conversation. Also- I love Panera!😂

Great video you guys! I wish we had these tips when we first started dating! I (Nate) needed a little help on the asking questions part!

Even the second date dont be physical and don't have a date hanging out at your apartment or a place that allows y'all to be closer and physical. Totally agree with P and M. I've had 2 second dates where we hung out in private and it led to a first kiss or cuddling before we even really knew eachother and then it didn't work out and was much harder to break it off because we'd made it so much more serious with the physical stuff. Emotions are always tied with those physical steps so don't lie to yourself. Save those physical steps for someone who is serious, not to make them serious.

I had a date show up an hour late for our first date. True story. She did text explaining why she was late, but still. I felt really awkward waiting inside the cafe for her and had a slight moment of concern about how things were starting out, especially since we met online and this was my first real intentional dating experience. Didn't go too bad though....six months later I proposed and we're now three weeks shy of celebrating one year together since that first date.

My first date sucked! I told the guy beforehand about some of my boundaries, and he said he understood and would respect them. We went out for sandwhiches and had some pretty good conversation and i thought he had potential. At the end of it he dropped me off at home and and asked to kiss me, and i told him again, about my boundaries. This dude literally threw himself at me and stole my first kiss and ruined my first date😭I gave up on actively looking for someone for a while because of that. I was so mad at him and disgusted with myself. It took alot of praying for me to move on from that. After that I set my standards really high. Still waiting for a good first date🤷and I totally slapped. That made me feel better too😂

When I am ready for my next first date, I can’t wait to come back to this video!

I think you should both make your boundaries clear on the first date. Never assume that you don’t have to, unless you already know each other’s, because you don’t know if they have different boundaries. If theirs are different, they may accidentally overstep yours or you may accidentally overstep theirs.

Guys, I can confirm that physical touch is extremely powerful and can be incredibly damaging. I had no idea until it happened to me. The guy wasn't looking out for my heart and everything was happening so quickly that I didn't know what to do (I was 17). Although they seemed like simple touches, they made a huge impact on my heart and heavily influenced the next few months of my life (they were not good ones 😔) Thank you so much Paul and Morgan for this video and informing people about these things!

I've actually never "formally" been/asked a girl on a date before. It's always been meeting them wherever I did, getting to know them through asking questions, hanging out with them, be it a mall or their house/etc. then as our chemistry seemed to match, I'd ask them to be my girlfriend if I felt she had the same feelings for me. Granted, this was all before I came to Christ, and my last girlfriend was over four years ago, so I'm not sure how I'd approach it today 😂 That's why I'm grateful you make so many videos on this to help give me ideas :)

I've only been on one first date (and I hope it was my last!), but from my limited experience I would add... Do: Talk about boundaries as soon as possible. It takes the pressure off of both sides to know what is and is not okay to do with you, even though it is just a first date. Don't: Pull out and go down a list of deep, marriage-related questions when you don't even know if this is going to become serious yet or not. I did that to my boyfriend on our first few dates, and looking back I honestly can't believe he decided to stick with me after that. XD Granted, we had been good friends for over a year by the time we started dating, but I still wish I would've taken the time to get to know him better on a basic level before we dove in deep and risked awakening love before its time.

Don't continue a date with someone that you are not interested in because you are trying to be nice! I had a date with a guy and I went out for coffee with him and then he said, let's go to a movie and I won't take no for a answer. It was honestly, one of the worst dates that I had been on and on top of that I chose to see The new poo bear movie that came out, because I didn't know how to tell him that I wasn't interested. Be honest! I'm not doing that again! Poor guy!😂P,S the movie was so bad!😂

Don’t top the other person!!:) For instance you stub your toe and then they go,”I remember I broke my arm and it was worse then this!!”😂😂

I'm actually going on a date tomorrow haha so thank you!

I had a great friend back in primary school and going to high school, we kept in touch. We're in our final high school year and twice we've caught up with coffee and a meal and he has been super sweet to offer to pay for the times we've spent time together. Sometimes you just have to let the man be the man. He appreciates it and enjoys taking that lead, even though I am independent and I could've paid as well. He knows that and he appreciates me stepping back for a bit :)

I'm with Paul on this one... If a guy asks me to Chipotle, Chick-fil-a, or even Panera Bread, I'm more likely to say yes to a first date. Just became a patron a couple days ago. Thought I did a while ago. You guys are awesome!

As a Canadian, I would be so happy for my guy to take me out to Panera!!! The closest one is a 45 minute drive away but its soooooo good!

Thank you so much for making these videos! Even though I’m not dating right now these will definitely help for later on in life☺️.

I could recommend to not talk about your common future on the first date. That happened to me one time where the guy was planning where I should or shouldn't study so that I'm not too far away from him, and we only knew each other for a few hours. That was strange and way too fast.

MY EXPERIENCE: Sokka: My girlfriend turned into the moon. Zuko: That's rough buddy.

Hey, I really love your show you have great energy and keep even the challenging topics really talkable! Y’all are reaching so many lives with your positivity anarchy! I really wanna commend you on having such a great reputation and spiritual thrust for your Channel. Just curious what you use to film and mic your videos?

I'm hoping that I've gone on my last first date!!!🙌💞 best of blessings to y'all, love ya Paul and Morgan!!

Yeah I'm paying for the first date. Really tells a lot about the guy and the girl. Can't be with a girl that doesn't let me be a guy in a traditional sense.

i just came to support since i see alot of atheist and LGBT trying to always bring you guys down. i pray for the Favor of God in your lifes. keep doing your awesome videos and keep being on the path of God. Amen.

But wait!! What if your on the first date. You get the notification that a new Paul and Morgan video just was posted. Nothing to do but say we're going to have to cut this short. I got to go!😄😄😅😅

I love you guys 💗💗but I'm literally just taking all of this up so that when I do start going on dates with people I know what to do

I honestly love Panera 😂🙌🙌

Hi Paul & Morgan! I have a question that’s been on my heart. My past is the same as Morgan’s in the context of relationships and sin - now I am completely free and even the pastor in church stopped the service to tell me God was saying I was pure now (he didn’t know about anything by the way), but the guy I’m interested in obviously wants to marry a virgin. We’ve talked about it and he said it’s something he can deal with but it really hurts him knowing if we did marry, he’d never get that experience. Would you and Paul have any advice for him? Besides forgiveness, I think he’s struggling with the physical aspect, and how it wouldn’t be my first time experiencing that (in truth I can’t even really remember anything that happened though.) I know this is an intimate question and apologize for that, but I feel a lot of people are struggling with the concept of the other person experiencing it before them. Also sorry if that’s really badly explained! You guys are such inspirations to me and everytime I watch I feel closer to my Jesus 💛 thank you endlessly!

There wasn't anything said about online first dates, and since I have recent experience, I can offer some do's that worked for me. - Do: plan a similar meal. My date and I both made a pasta dish, but we each added our own separate twists and revealed our creative genius that night. The personal twists is optional, but a fun way to make the night interesting. - Do: help the conversation flow with pre-made guided questions. About a year before I even started online dating, I made a jar full of slips of paper with questions written on them--some light-hearted and basic and others more serious and future-focused--for both people to answer, all pulled at random. There were some small games, challenges, and activities for to do as well, just for fun. He gave very mature and well-thought out answers, and he was willing to play along with the silly things. Being ingenuitive and having a variety of things to do kept the date insightful and entertaining. - Do: Listen attentively and respond with respect. What I appreciated about my date is that he leaned in and kept eye contact while I talked, and to whatever I said he replied with either positive or neutral comments. I did likewise, and we both enjoyed each other's genuine interest. - Do: be patient with the technology. We all know electronic devices can get funky, but it's okay; it may delay the date a bit, but it shouldn't lessen the quality of your time together. Those are my thoughts. I hope they help. 😊

Don’t be afraid to compliment! I felt a little sad that I dolled myself up and didn’t get one comment on one of my first dates. Like, I know I didn’t need his validation or anything, but I have no problem in saying someone is looking good.

I got my first date ever this Sunday, so this was right on time. Thanks!

*To start out on the right foot, don't start with games. If you don't want to pay for the meal, don't offer to pay for the meal. Don't play the game of I'll pay for my half, hoping he will come back and offer to pay again. That's manipulation and misleading. It's not a good foundation. Sure, lots of people do it, but it's something you'll have to work thru and undo later once you get into the meat and potatoes of an honest relationship. Games are never good when you're working for a solid relationship. I have no problem with paying, or receiving payment for a meal. Gifting from a genuine place needs to be accepted, with both parties. Don't cheat someone of their blessing. *Not everyone can pay for a semi-expensive meal. That doesn't mean they're unfit for dating. Even poor people deserve to have a partner. Only each party can determine what level of lifestyle they're prepared to accept. Not everyone's seeking the same thing. At least a man will have the assurance of knowing that his date isn't just out for his money. *TMI is never good on a first date if you're looking for a quality person. TMI on a first date attracts others who can exploit you for your weaknesses. They'll smell that like a shark when there's blood in the water. People who become emotionally naked right off, without allowing trust and a bond to form first, usually screams of desperation and insecurity. Generally, it's a flashing billboard saying you're looking for a codependent partner. *I agree, don't make the mistake of monopolizing the conversation and sell yourself as if you're a sales person selling a used car. If he/she likes you, they'll like you for you, and you don't have to convince them of anything. Either you vibe or you don't. If it's not right, don't try to force it. *Phones are usually rude at dinner. Sometimes there's circumstances that warrant such usage, but it's a good idea to not do so, if possible.

YAY! It's a shock to be the first patron to be called out! Glad to be supporting. :D On my very first EVER date, I tried to not make it a huge deal. Just going out for a meal and talking. But once we got there and ate, it was really awkward, and the time went by a lot faster than planned. It would have been better if I had planned something fun (but not too expensive) before the meal to make things less awkward and fill more time. So, my 1st date advice would be to not just plan for a meal. :D

Hey Paul and Morgan. Loved this video. Could you tell me what Christian boundaries shouldn’t happen on the first date. And when you should do what and when xxxx

Great video! I've recently decided to take a break from dating, but I'm still watching your videos and I love them. I'm looking forward to using this advice when I start dating again. 😊

Would the babysitter canceling be a reasonable reason to need to reschedule? Being a single mom kinda makes dating a bit tricky.

My book came today and i can honestly say that I so pleased with it. It looked so cool and I'm looking forward to reading it

Thanks for the tips for first time dating Paul and Morgan. I hope that when I meet that special girl to make a good impression and take her anywhere she wants to go at a time and place she chooses. Plus on the first date I just want to start by getting to know her as a person and to be completely open with her. Great Job on the video and keep up the good work.

Literally meeting with a girl tomorrow for lunch. Idk if it's a date, but more of a "let's get to know each other better." I've never actually dated anyone in my short 20 years of living, so having this pop up the day before definitely eased my mind a bit. God bless you guys, always excited when you guys post!

Great video once again. I only have a few comments on the first date. First of all, I have never understood why people want to go to a movie theatre to watch a movie for a first or second date. There is absolutely no conversation and no interaction while watching a movie during a first or second date. If you are in a committed relationship, then yes, I can see why dating couples would want to watch a movie together. On another note, even though I am a guy myself, I would like to encourage guys not to tell a girl "I will call or text you soon" if you absolutely know that you have no real desire to go out with her again. Merely say, "It was nice meeting you." Be real, while remaining a gentleman.

I heard the "Get off your phone" reference indirectly related to Hannah Williamson's video from last week.

Great advice!🙌🏼🙌🏼😁 What do yall think about this idea...?🤔🤔🤔🤔🤔A week after the 1st coffee date, have a picnic on a boardwalk beach bench while we talk and possibly make up stories for people walking by. Then, maybe ride bikes or walk together somewhere scenic: boardwalk or historic neighborhood a few blocks away. Is that too complicated too soon?? Maybe I should save that for a later date? Thanks! -Hirtz Life Show

Make sure you eat the dinner he buys for you even if you're too nervous to eat! Order something small if you have to lol!

Thanks for this!!! Really helpful!! 😊🙌🏻 I enjoy watching your videos!

Will for sure come back to this whenever I have ask a girl out. Thanks you guys!

Don't: - Have a wondering eye (extremely rude to ask a woman on a date, then check out every woman in eye range in front of your date) - Lie about your physical appearance or things that could be a deal breaker (kids, separated but not divorced, smoking, drugs, etc.) - Play games after the date. If you liked them, ask them out again on the date or no more than a day later. Don't sit for a week and then ask because the other person would think your not that interested, desperate or playing games. - Go to a movie, you can't talk and get to know each other. Do's: - Compliment your date on something (smile, hair, outfit, whatever. It just shows you have an interest) obviously don't if you are not interested. - Check to see if they got home safely if you did not pick them up. - Don't assume she doesn't like you (if she paid her 1/2, didn't kiss you, didn't sleep with you, etc.). She may like you but is independent and have values/morals. - Do an activity, it helps break the ice and your doing something together vs. talking at each other. You talk during the activity and it becomes easier to get a bite to eat after. Then you both can talk about what you both just did and feel more comfortable to talk in general.

You two killed it!!! Thanks for the heads up.

That hat though 🤣🤣

The pretend phone call 😂😂 love your transparency and advice. Thank you

How do y’all feel about the guy having to ask the girls father permission before a first date?

Keep making videos like this, and by the time I go on my first first date, I'll be prepared. That, or I'll be informing him of all the taboo things he did and he'll run for his life.

I’m enjoying the new vibe/energy you have in this video. It also seems more humble than a few in the past, looking forward to what the next few months bring you. :)

Yaaayy!! haven't even watched it yet but couldn't wait to comment! lol

Enjoy the process. Enjoy the moment you are in and don’t overthink everything so much.

about the spongebob jokes😂😂😂😂

yes... you killed it

As far as SpongeBob quotes go Paul, can we at least use "I'm ready, I'm ready, I'm ready"?😆

I think it depends as soon as you meet the person. If you meet a person and don’t like them but still proceed is that ok

Thanks for the advice Paul and Morgan!

I had a girl that wouldn't put her phone away. I was nice and polite When I pointed it out. But she just sat The phone down on the table and started texting. She continually kept talking about herself Pretty much how awesome she was really weird and off putting. And She never looked up once. I went to the bathroom, then I thought to myself well I wonder if I walk Right past her will she notice. She didn't. Never heard from her again. The weirdest thing about this situation is that she was the one that asked me out... I've had worse dates...

So helpful! Love you guys!

Great video yall!

do: brush your teeth and have a shower before your date 😂

I would love to go to Panera on a date, it being a familiar restaurant takes an anxiety factor out of the equation because I already know what I'll order :P

You killed it guys!❤️

So I have a question I went out with this guy and our first date was good and the second date we were really flirting..... then he just got weird after I kinda told him I like being around him. So idk what happens

Thank you guys for the video! These are great tips😊

yaayyy another video! Keep comin with this stuff I Need it ._.

Dont try to dress sexy! I did when I was 18 and mom was so angry. She let me go out. But I felt so guilty and uncomfortable during the date.

Hey guys, great video, i was wondering if you have any tips for not talking enough about yourself on a date

😂😂😂😂 This video is entertaining. I have a first date coming up, and it’s at a Korean BBQ. He offered boba, but I prefer real food. So I suggested Korean BBQ and he’s never been to one.

I accidentally found myself on a terrible date. When the bill came at the end, I immediately grabbed the check and insisted on paying...my way of saying it wasn’t a date. Any ideas or suggestions for nicely communicating that you aren’t interested in future dates with the guy?

This video is so amazing especially since me and boyfriend are going to watch a movie for a first date.

You guys killed it!!

Hey! So I have recently started following Nate and Sutton and I love them so much and when I saw y’all collaborate with them I was like, sick these are some great people with amazing messages!! Long story short I love y’alls videos and I noticed you said Lexington Kentucky??? Do y’all live in lex? Because i do!!!

"Should the guy pick up the girl?" Question: what if the guy is currently saving for the car he doesnt have yet?

I haven't ever been on a "date". I have dated a couple of guys, but all we did was hangout. The word date is such as confusing word for me to wrap my head around. Is it a date because someone clearly ask you out on a date and says that it is a date or can it be a date without either person saying that it is a date?

Max of 2 Spongebob quotes per first date.. got it.

You guys are flippin awesome hahaa so easy going and give the best advice ever!! Love you guys keep it up!! Woot Woot!

hahahaha only two sponge Bob quotes!!!

What are some tips if you're early 20s and never been on a date before?

Fantastic!!👍

I got a fist date this Friday. I don’t really know her really well. We are going to arcade/bowling (take the pressure off, have fun) then get some frozen yogurt (talk business). Should I flirt by touching her on the shoulder/back or should I just keep my hands to my self on the first couple of dates? I just fear of being friendzoned if I don’t.

I got some questions for y’all. Why are you pro life? What do you think that movement is accomplishing? What do you think the pro choice movement is about? Have you studied biology? Would love to hear your answers.

I needed this video

Paul and Morgan I have a question. So I have bf but we don’t agree on important things but we always just avoid the conversation about those things. I don’t wanna end it bc I think it’s a good experience but maybe I should get out of this. And also he seems to treat my body more like an object but maybe i just think that. How do you tell if he’s treating you like an object vs a person? And I’m kind of apprehensive about physical touch with him. Is that a bad thing? Is it a sign I need to end it or is this normal? Thanks so much paul and Morgan

Love you both!! 💕💕

Hi Paul and Morgan! I love your videos!! I kinda need some advice. There’s this guy that really likes me and he’s great!! He’s interesting and I think he’s good looking and we can have a 3 hour conversation and I wouldn’t get bored. Besides that he’s actively pursuing me and so sweet. The thing is even though I find him attractive and sweet I don’t seem to like him. Which is terrible because it seems I always like the guys who are toxic 😭Do you think there is a chance that I could ever like him? I’ve known him for about 3 months in total. Thank you!

My experience: A friend of mine wanted to go out to dinner with me, I talked him into getting coffee instead (I wasn’t interested in dating him but I wanted to be courteous since he was bold enough to ask me out). Day of, he showed up (later than me, and I was already a few minutes late), didn’t get anything (I already bought my drink before he arrived so he wouldn’t have the chance to pay for me - again, I wanted to make it clear that I wasn’t interested in dating him), and showed up in baggy jeans and A SWEATSHIRT (in the summer lol). I know it’s not really that big of a deal, BUT if you’re going to go out of your way to ask someone out, even if they defer to it being more of a casual thing, make sure you look put together!! I DEFINITELY was put off by the clear lack of effort that went into getting ready to meet up with me...again, it sounds dumb, but the little things DO matter! A little effort goes a long way :)

Love y'alls videos. Prepares me for future relationships!

Love y’all!

Paul's hat ! Is wayyyy cool! 😍 you two are the cutest!

Y’all are so cute!! Wow thank you for the advice😄🤩😊❤️❤️ ahhh I want to come to Kentucky!!!! Yeee:)

Guys what’s your opinion on long distance relationships?? Does God want us to have those?? Ps your videos have been soooo helpful and such a blessing 🙌🏻

Yes.

There are no dos and don'ts. You're literally meeting someone, and everyone is different. Just be respectful, go with your gut feelings, and have fun. But you have some great points that people should use in their daily lives.

I have been waiting for this video for so long 😍

Money has nothing to do with if you should be in a relationship...sure, it's a consideration because eventually your finances would be tied if the relationship is long-term...but on a first date, that shouldn't be a thought. Men shouldn't be expected to pay, that's ridiculous. And Panera is fine...you don't need to spend a lot (or even anything at all) on a first date. Also, physical boundaries are up to the individual...if they want to get physical on the first date, that's up to them. If you don't want to get physical, that's also fine.