I was expecting Blake and Hina to be slightly immature cause of their age. These guys blew me away with their transparency, maturity and deep self awareness...it was really refreshing
Not to over analyze their relationship but here is what I gather (this is mostly focused on what she’s doing wrong, since it seems like she doesn’t hold herself accountable for anything while he does). She answer the questions first and he somehow agreed on a lot of them, I don’t think he would if he answered first. She lowkey got him wrapped around her finger and I think she ended up lacking respect for him (and might be with him out of pity), like he called her crying to get back with her because of his family and friend’s racism, and she said she didn’t take him back instantly (so that vulnerability he had didn’t meant too much to her). She made him stop watching porn and all that (which is good, but idk I’m getting a vibe that she was judgey about it). He seems like he’s trying so hard not to offend her, like she kinda smiled when he said he is a jealous person. And at the end of the video I feel her her saying “I’m shy” was a hint for him to kiss her right there on camera but he didn’t catch on cuz he wanted to respect her, but that “respect” might make her take advantage of him. She doesn’t seem to take him seriously and probably doesn’t have enough respect for him. Like her face expression when he said one day he’s gonna marry her, I don’t think she agrees. He also stayed up to talk to her until 6 am when he was tired, he’s doing too much for her and is making all of these sacrifices that she might end up taking advantage/not appreciating. She did say that she hopes not to put her trauma on her kids, I don’t want her to do that to him either. I’m hoping she doesn’t look down on him for these things, he seems very considerate and nice and I really hope she is as well (cuz she didn’t really say anything she did for him). He probably just feels lucky that he is with such a pretty girl, and she might feel like she’s doing him a favor for being with him which I don’t think is right. But lemme stop assuming stuff here, ion think they should break up but I think he should just be mindful to himself and how she views him
@@mannygene5545 you said not to overanalyse but then that's exactly what you did, you cant really judge a relationship by a 20 min video, and who knows, maybe blake is just a quiet person
@@ladida1587 I tend to do that a lot, I be like, “to keep this short and simple” then be type a whole essay🙈, and you’re probably right, idk nothing about these people to make all these claims
I’m so glad that they talked about not having children because they don’t want their mental trauma to rub off on them and because of their race, ethnicity and religion, because that’s how I feel and that is smth that is not talked about enough.
@@AmalSaidi123 they didn't say that come on, it's exaggerated. They have their story they do whatever they want, a lot of other people will have kids don't worry humans won't go instinct
Societal pressure to have kids is strong and when it comes to 1 topic over the other, 1 side is acceptable to talk about and the other isn't. Taboos of not having kids or parents regret having them should be less taboo.
hina is so stunning . i can tell that blake really loves her because who would go against their family and friends opinion so strongly for just anyone . they’re such an attractive couple and i wish the best for all of them
@@g6gubu55ryhi3 yeah i strongly agree with that , but i didn’t want to send any hate towards the family of blake but just look at the positives and that’s that they’re happy
@Ben Dover rude as hell lmao. she's in a relationship with him not his friends and family. he stood up to them for her. he clearly loves her to pieces and that's all that matters.
@@annablabka8653 yeah it was hard to listen to him.. it felt like he was being way too dramatic and his partner was getting awkward for him like "really.. you gonna do this infront of everyone.." I hate second hand embarrassment.
@@tossapixeltoyournoelle I think Amber is pretty proud of him ! I would to if my partner speaks with so much emotion and passion. But everyone has a different taste I guess
His way of speaking is dramatic, but that's not necessarily a bad thing. Everyone has different quirks... I wish people were more tolerant with different personalities and demeanors. Idk, he seems like a good guy. What's wrong with being passionate and honest?
I hate the whole narrative of forgiving cheating because of kids. As a parent, you are the model for what they will look for in life and love. If you decide to let someone disrespect you and your whole relationship, you are showing your kids it's okay to be treated that way. There is no excuse for cheating. If you can't stay with one person, don't enter a monogamous relationship. If you decide to be unfaithful, you deserve all the consequences.
It's more about where someone wants to be. Cheating is usually a manifestation of a larger issue. If the couple can identify the issue and agree on working things out, then the cheater will likely want to stay, and if not, they have more incentive to look elsewhere.
100% agree - that’s such a wack excuse. You’re showing your children first hand that they shouldn’t expect accountability and respect from their partner when they eventually have one. People underestimate how much even just seeing behaviors perpetuated by adults can manifest and shape kids’ minds.
Outta curiosity, do you have kids and/or a romantic partner? Cause not everything is so black and white. And while I don’t think kids should be the sole reason to stay with a cheating partner, I do think kids should be a reason to take a more in-depth evaluation of the situation.
@@reallyunamused7834 we don't have kids yet, but one of the reasons why I am with my partner is that we have the same opinion on cheating. If I cheat, I would fully expect him to leave me. I was actually the kid in that situation - my parents stayed together, they are still together in fact - but the cheating always hangs there. Their relationship never fully repaired, and in a way I think they both secretly blamed me for 'keeping them together' which impacted me in so many ways. I had to get therapy for commitment issues, I was so terrified to end up like them. If my partner betrayed me, I would put the kids first - we'd split and try to find a relationship elsewhere, so we can model to them that it is possible to be with someone who respects you and doesn't fuck other people.
@@pristineinvestments1462 What? Constantly calling someone every day only for them to never pick up doesn't seem like a very good way to learn how to handle a relationship 😂😂.
@@riedanienur4016 Hes simpin so hard u just know shes gonna leave him. Then if their married you can be sure shell be takin the kids and house. Charlies a chump
@@poocrayon4588 What the f is wrong with your toxic masculinity ass. There's something seriously wrong in you think hyping your partner up or showing love is bad....smh
@@poocrayon4588 oh honey who hurt your like this :') if u dont value your girl any ways closed to what he's doing, then it's nothing wrong to keep your nonsense to yourself. he's doing good thats why ure mad right??! hihihiiiiiii
@@gardenguster5271 I just said what I feel mate. Don't really wanna know why people care so much about diversity. As long as they are good people why does it matter? Why do people feel guilty that they like people their own kind better than people that aren't their own kind? It's human nature.
Yeah fr, they were all pretty much agreeing with their partners (especially Blake with Hina). Not to over analyze Hina and Blake’s relationship but here is what I gathered (this is mostly focused on what she’s doing wrong, since it seems like she doesn’t hold herself accountable for anything while he does). She answer the questions first and he somehow agreed on a lot of them, I don’t think he would if he answered first. She lowkey got him wrapped around her finger and I think she ended up lacking respect for him (and might be with him out of pity), like he called her crying to get back with her because of his family and friend’s racism, and she said she didn’t take him back instantly (so that vulnerability he had didn’t meant too much to her). She made him stop watching porn and all that (which is good, but idk I’m getting a vibe that she was judgey about it). He seems like he’s trying so hard not to offend her, like she kinda smiled when he said he is a jealous person. And at the end of the video I feel her her saying “I’m shy” was a hint for him to kiss her right there on camera but he didn’t catch on cuz he wanted to respect her, but that “respect” might make her take advantage of him. She doesn’t seem to take him seriously and probably doesn’t have enough respect for him. Like her face expression when he said one day he’s gonna marry her, I don’t think she agrees. He also stayed up to talk to her until 6 am when he was tired, he’s doing too much for her and is making all of these sacrifices that she might end up taking advantage/not appreciating. She did say that she hopes not to put her trauma on her kids, I don’t want her to do that to him either. I’m hoping she doesn’t look down on him for these things, he seems very considerate and nice and I really hope she is as well (cuz she didn’t really say anything she did for him). He probably just feels lucky that he is with such a pretty girl, and she might feel like she’s doing him a favor for being with him which I don’t think is right. But lemme stop assuming stuff here, ion think they should break up but I think he should just be mindful to himself and how she views him
@@roxxydesign4424 Many cases people cheat because of the alcohol. Even the most loyal partner can cheat on you because of it. Better to stay off the alcohol and if they still cheated, I'd cut him off no questions asked. If he cheated while he was drunk, I might give him a 2nd chance but if it happened again then there aren't anymore chances
Omg the fact that the older generation said "don't worry about the world, ask yourself if YOU want a kid" was so telling. Their generation was told to see having kids as a personal goal rather than literally making the decision to bring someone into the world- you have to make the choice for your kid. They don't get to choose if they want to be here or not. That's a BIG decision that isn't just influenced by if you *want* them or not
That’s what i thought exactly!!!!!! Hina had such a responsible answer and im SO glad nailah spoke up to part of what Hina said cos some people are legit NOT suited and ready to have children
Actually, I think there is value in seeing that point of view as well. Things are not getting better for us from here on out but are we not supposed to fulfill our desires because of that? The world is and has always been bad. I do however agree with you that millennials and younger have a lot of apprehension towards having children based on the world we live in.
I don't think he really meant just have children just because without making any considerations. I think he was referring more to the part where she said the world is a bad place and she's not sure she wants to bring more people into it. You definitely shouldn't let the fact that the world is a "bad place" stop you from bringing joy into the world if that's truly what you want. Just because the world is bad doesn't mean your children will have a bad life. Joy can still exist no matter how bad the world looks
I mean in that age of 18 years. We tend to make mistakes due to our insecurities . So it is pretty common. But, you rarely find someone who is trustworthy and secure (confidence).
I'm muslim but OH MY GOSH the relationship between Charlie and Amber is gold! I want it to be like that with my future husband. Ameen! I hope everyone has or will have a healthy and loving relationship with their partner/spouse until the end of their time.
kinda reminds me of the youtube couple rose and rosie. or anne and ann from the show 'gentleman jack'. it's just gonna be part of lesbian culture now 🤣
me too. but i guess it has to do with commitment and understanding i guess? if i were with someone for lets say 10 years and they cheated, i would at least try and work it out to not throw all those years away. but truthfully for me i dont think even if we tried it would ever be the same.
I thought Blake would have very different answers if Hina wasn't there. Felt like he had a really tight leash on his neck, atleast tighter than what my dog has around his !
Yes this, even though porn might not be considered “cheating” in some relationships. Overconsumption of porn is still really bad for people’s health and perception of sex.
@@jarricah7920 it’s not dependency that’s the only problem. It’s the unrealistic standards, and many of the kinks can be bad for your mental health. There’s scientific evidence that it’s damaging for you and leads to unhealthy relationships
Not to over analyze their relationship but here is what I gather (this is mostly focused on what she’s doing wrong, since it seems like she doesn’t hold herself accountable for anything while he does). She answer the questions first and he somehow agreed on a lot of them, I don’t think he would if he answered first. She lowkey got him wrapped around her finger and I think she ended up lacking respect for him (and might be with him out of pity), like he called her crying to get back with her because of his family and friend’s racism, and she said she didn’t take him back instantly (so that vulnerability he had didn’t meant too much to her). She made him stop watching porn and all that (which is good, but idk I’m getting a vibe that she was judgey about it). He seems like he’s trying so hard not to offend her, like she kinda smiled when he said he is a jealous person. And at the end of the video I feel her her saying “I’m shy” was a hint for him to kiss her right there on camera but he didn’t catch on cuz he wanted to respect her, but that “respect” might make her take advantage of him. She doesn’t seem to take him seriously and probably doesn’t have enough respect for him. Like her face expression when he said one day he’s gonna marry her, I don’t think she agrees. He also stayed up to talk to her until 6 am when he was tired, he’s doing too much for her and is making all of these sacrifices that she might end up taking advantage/not appreciating. She did say that she hopes not to put her trauma on her kids, I don’t want her to do that to him either. I’m hoping she doesn’t look down on him for these things, he seems very considerate and nice and I really hope she is as well (cuz she didn’t really say anything she did for him). He probably just feels lucky that he is with such a pretty girl, and she might feel like she’s doing him a favor for being with him which I don’t think is right. But lemme stop assuming stuff here, ion think they should break up but I think he should just be mindful to himself and how she views him
@@mannygene5545 Spot on! Ignore the dude hating on your analysis. I agree and I'm surprised more people aren't catching on when looking at the comments.
@@phobobayum theyre copying & pasting that under multiple comments tho. it’s weird an obsessive. damn i can tell quarantine is getting to some of you ..
For people who are worried about other folks looking at/flirting with their partner strictly on the basis of "cause she's so pretty/he's so handsome", just keep in mind that the responsibility is on your partner to not milk the attention. If that happens THEN you should worry.
I’ve heard of the saying, “you can window shop but don’t go to the checkout” I think it really depends on what people consider as cheating as we all have different boundaries :)
@@poocrayon4588 So ur saying women who wear hijabs aren't beautiful? Cuz that's so wrong. And you know even if their hair is covered, a lot of them still wear makeup
@@Fan-nr9zp That's not what they were saying at all. I didn't get that when I read their comment. I think they were saying how it seems like that's why Muslim men have Muslim women cover they're hair and maybe even their faces BECAUSE of their beauty. Which I understand, but I personally think it probably goes deeper than that - like their religion and beliefs and maybe other things I'm not aware of. Plus, I don't think it's the men "making" the women do anything. But more about when they believe they should do as individuals bc of their religion/beliefs.
Once I heard someone say « If you dont want your partner to know about what you’re doing - you’re cheating » and I definitely agree with this, if you feel like you need to hide, something isnt right🤷🏻♀️
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I felt Blake’s honesty. Knowing what my relationships were like back then, porn was a HARD topic. They clearly truly care about each other. Some beautiful couple on this one. 👏
I was so surprised how many people would stay with their partner even if they cheated on them! I personally could not. Even if we were together for years and had children. I’d cut that out so quick lol 😂
I copy/pasted this comment that I wrote as a response to another comment, to maybe start a discussion: I used to think that there's no way I'd still stay if someone cheats on me, but as I'm getting older (I'm not that old but okay) I think people might do mistakes. But whether to show mercy and forgive, you've got to think really hard about under which circumstances did the cheating happen, how it happened, a one-time thing, repeatedly cheated, if your partner came clean about it (ofc the action isn't that clean though). I don't want to make it seem like cheating is okay or that it isn't that bad, no, I'm just saying that many factors are at play... But sure, the majority of the cheating that happens and the people who do it shouldn't be forgiven because they do it repeatedly and they don't love/care about their partner.
@@abdelhak_13 I agree 100% but I can't consider other facters. If they cheated, I'm out. That's just one of the biggest deal breakers in a relationship, well at least for me. It's just something that i don't stand for. I just hate how society these days has lowered the standards of love, and we just accept it. If I'm not getting what I deserve, I'm dipping. I'm not gonna stay and fight for a crappy kind of love. I feel like If you can't be in a monogamous relationship, or can't be faithful, then don't get in a relationship and put yourself in a position to hurt someone else. Because that's just like the biggest slap in the face. It is possible to love someone and leave them.
@@vickykendagor8331 It makes sense to not stay and fight for a crappy love if someone’s cheated, but what about staying and fighting for your kids to have their family together? I think when you decide to have kids you also decide to put your own needs behind theirs, and it’s not that you’re doing less for yourself but you’re doing more for them (like staying with someone who cheated) but anyway who knows! That’s the scenario I could imagine staying with someone in if they cheated at least...
@@pilotbecci This type of thinking has existed for a long time and whilst I get the reasoning I have to disagree. People dont realise how bad forcing a relationship can be in the long term. Many couples that stay together for the kids end up making their kids life worse. The couple grows bitter towards each other due to the inherent dissatification and distrust and the kids grow up seeing a failing marriage or a marriage that is a public facade. On the other hand, couples that divorce but still work together to raise their children often work out better in the long run because there is transparency and both partners are seeking their own happiness. Obviously both situations will have negative impacts on the kids but I think the lesson of a divorced couple is better. The fact that they grew apart but work together because they love their children yet aren't compromising their own happiness is a lesson of greater value IMO. It may be a more difficult concept for children to understand but as long as they know they are loved and the couples treats each other with respect the kids will come to see divorce as a life lesson not consequence. Staying together for the kids may seem like compromise, but most times ends up being tolerance from the partner who was cheated. You can tell yourself that its fine as long as the kids are happy but if your kids see you lose a bit of yourself every day can you really call that a success? Obviously I am biased and I am sure some couples have made it work without their kids noticing. However, knowing divorced couples that have healthy relationships with each other and their children as well as knowing many married couples who are miserable and take their bitterness out on their kids made it clear to me what I would do.
I actually liked this discussion quite a bit. Would love to see this discussion in full again because these are interesting and deep topics to explore.
I love jubilee and their conversations as a Christian this helps me to evangelize and talk to different people about God without just trying to force my religion down their throats the topics and responses make me check myself and put myself in other peoples shoes to see “ hmm how can I say this better”
dying at how some of these people said disagree to their partner watching porn but said agree that they’d stay with their partner if they cheated 😭😭😭 ????? like okay
I thought “sneaky links” is someone you have sex w on the low. Like no one knows y’all are having sex but you 2. Both single. Didn’t know it meant cheating.
Ikr?! I hated their answers so much, they both want something different but just force themselves to make the other person happy. Do you know what comes out of it? Both end up unhappy. Eh...
I would strong disagree staying with my partner that cheated, I usually doesn’t end well, because it creates this rift no matter what, that person who was cheated on becomes paranoid because trust is broken, they never completely forgive them which is understandable, it always ends up being brought up in arguments, it’s always there.
Blake and Hina are the type of couples I like to see out there in the world. Charlie and his passions and views are awesome, I wanna push myself to have that type of passion towards the things i care about.
i honestly love how people are okay with crying here, and like they can't stop it, cause I do it all the time and I feel like I'm crazy for crying at certain moments and getting emotional. But seeing this, it's normal, and now ik...it's normal and it's okay
Omg when Amber spoke about being in the first healthy, happy relationship with Charlie after being in an abusive one it literally made me cry. So relatable. This is what I am experiencing now for the first time in my life. Its so wonderful to experience genuine love and respect for the first time within a romantic partnership. Loved this video Jubilee! Sent it to my lover-boy
She’s prolly not shy fr or has a different level of shyness than you. But not to over analyze Hina and Blake’s relationship but here is what I gathered (this is mostly focused on what she’s doing wrong, since it seems like she doesn’t hold herself accountable for anything while he does). She answer the questions first and he somehow agreed on a lot of them, I don’t think he would if he answered first. She lowkey got him wrapped around her finger and I think she ended up lacking respect for him (and might be with him out of pity), like he called her crying to get back with her because of his family and friend’s racism, and she said she didn’t take him back instantly (so that vulnerability he had didn’t meant too much to her). She made him stop watching porn and all that (which is good, but idk I’m getting a vibe that she was judgey about it). He seems like he’s trying so hard not to offend her, like she kinda smiled when he said he is a jealous person. And at the end of the video I feel her her saying “I’m shy” was a hint for him to kiss her right there on camera but he didn’t catch on cuz he wanted to respect her, but that “respect” might make her take advantage of him. She doesn’t seem to take him seriously and probably doesn’t have enough respect for him. Like her face expression when he said one day he’s gonna marry her, I don’t think she agrees. He also stayed up to talk to her until 6 am when he was tired, he’s doing too much for her and is making all of these sacrifices that she might end up taking advantage/not appreciating. She did say that she hopes not to put her trauma on her kids, I don’t want her to do that to him either. I’m hoping she doesn’t look down on him for these things, he seems very considerate and nice and I really hope she is as well (cuz she didn’t really say anything she did for him). He probably just feels lucky that he is with such a pretty girl, and she might feel like she’s doing him a favor for being with him which I don’t think is right. But lemme stop assuming stuff here, ion think they should break up but I think he should just be mindful to himself and how she views him
Hina is living her life but as a Muslim woman I would never be able to live with a man who’s family hate me to point that it’s not me they are hating but my religion or my , race/culture it would not work for me
I agree. it's very difficult. My muslim partner's family disapproves and looks down on me because of my religion and race and it's a challenging experience. If I knew how it would be, I probably would have moved on, but it's hard when you've invested so many years. Why can't we all just get along 💔
@@rajanne2116 that’s really sad because that’s not allowed in our religion we can’t think we are better because off our race or religion I hope it gets better
@@rajanne2116 I think its a way different experience if your partner's family looks down on you for being white, rather than if they look down on you for being muslim
@@rajanne2116 now that’s just disgusting and they should be shamed because Allah created people and let them experience things because life is a test for everyone that is their test and your test to see how you will grow from this because the power off Allah is beyond human comprehension
Blake ? Thoughtful ?! Yeah, right. Felt like his 'thoughtfulness' wasn't really his and was his gf's !! Blake has a tighter leash around his neck than my dog ! !! But then again, different people , different views. That's how I looked at their relationship.
The Christian couple were everything!! May God bless them! Love how they weren’t scared to speak about God and how it was through him that they met each other😊
I’ve posted this request before, but I want to post it again because I really hope it happens: *Do all asexuals think the same* I think asexuals need more representation after being underrepresented and misunderstood for so long. I’m so curious to see the opinions of other aces.
You'd be surprised how capable and willing you might be depending on how your life goes. Cheating is wrong but saying you don't understand is foolish, you must learn to understand why some people cheat so you can avoid the pitfalls that lead to it.
@@noahfletcher3019 i understand the pitfalls of cheating or certain situations that might cause a person to cheat. People lives are their own business. I know alot of people that cheated but it's childish. As far as being in a couple relationship but having a side chick or just simply being with another person. Why be with the person you cheated on in the first place? Of course there are hot baddies and Mamacita's. But if people can't keep a relationship with that person then to me they will never have a concrete strong relationship if you or the other person is being cheating on leading to trust issues down the road. It's different when no one cares if your in college. Or just simply dating but if it becomes serious to you or your partner. Well then like I said your life, your business.
My thing with cheating is I won’t be jealous unless u give me a reason. If I find out I’ve been cheated on, the relationship is automatically over. The thing that would really get me though is if someone cheated and then gave me a disease. You can get over a breakup, but some of those diseases last for life.
Lawyers literally say as beautiful as marriage is, remember, “it’s the most legally binding thing you can do, apart from dying.” So as much as it is a devotion of love, it’s a huge ass commitment people need to take seriously
aren't divorce rates like 50%? so many people rush into marriage. one could argue that in the past rates weren't so high but that's probably because it was harder to divorce or get out of an abusive relationship. either way people take it too lightly sometimes and it ruins so many kids lives. I'm lucky to have both of my parents together, most other teenagers I know don't or their parents are on some sort of hard drug
