I feel like men are brought onto this show only so they can be ridiculed. You have to give someone a chance to speak before you boo them! I totally agree with him. Looks do matter but he didn't say it was the be all and end all of a relationship- these women aren't really listening to what he's saying!!
I totally agree with Steve on this one. I whole heartedly think you approach someone because of your attraction to that person but you stay for the personality.
I agree with the man. Your personality isn't written on your face, but it is one of the first things people see. You don't have to be one or the other; be a double threat. Look amazing and have an amazing personality to back it up.
@She Rolls It's not great but it's the truth. Looks are mostly determined by your facial bone structure. You can't Change that unless you use plastic surgery.
Very good point. Joe Rogan came up with an awesome analogy. You have this car. It is free. But it starts out pretty plain. You have the choice to turn it into something amazing. The sky is the limit. You can beef up the tires, tune up the engine, give it awesome exhaust, paint job, etc... The only catch is that it requires effort. If you, decide to make the engine baddass, then why not have the outside clean, looking polished. You'd take pride in it, and take care of everything together. You aren't going to have the car look and sound incredible, but have the upholstery smell like piss and sweat. Everything is connected. Everything works together. This amazing car is going to cruise with other amazing cars. But if you don't put much effort into your car, you will cruise around with other car owners who also haven't put forth much effort.
I agree with the guy. In my anecdotal experience with dating both women and men place a good amount of emphasis on physical attraction. Most women in the audience are just trying to be politically correct and not seem superficial.
@@rodw.9050 And so this is one of the many reasons why society 's standard of beauty has caused so many pyschological problems for people e.g. eating disorders ,body dysmorphia and whatever so just stop with using the word unattractive or ugly. And it really irks me that there are such men existing trying to bring down women's looks just because they do not meet society 's beauty standards.Using words like "ew she looks disgusting ,she is unattractive " SUCH MEN NEEDS TO BE GONE FOR GOOD. MEN are disgusting if they act in such a way or maybe to defend themselves they will just say they are being honest af with stupid excuses just to support their reasons for saying their claims. We women dont need to meet society 's expectations to be considered as beautiful.
I agree with him to a certain extent. Let's face it.. Looks do play a part. But you cannot love someone based on good looks alone because personality goes a long way.
I dated a girl for a month through online dating she looked no where near as good as she did in her pics, but her personality was awesome but It didn't last long because she could sense I wasn't really physically attracted to her. Even though I was kind, I never told her I wasn't I lied. Personality does make you more attarctive but let's face it nobody wants to hear that personality sugar coat crap where " your goodlooking now", cause let's face it if you don't legitimately feel like your physically attractive enough to your partner for at least something you feel like crap, and I felt horrible ik she was hurt and that ripped me.
"Looks" still is the major thing that gets someone to notice someone else. Of course, there will be a time when you find a person attractive based on who they are, happened to me with my current gf. I could find other women way more attractive than my gf, but since I've had a harder time attracting women in the past. I pretty much had to curve my preferences in women attractiveness and give my gf a "chance." True, that if the looks are there, but if the person's character sucks it makes it a lot easier to break up with them. BUT! when the looks are not there, but the person has a great character. Breaking up with them is totally difficult, and one begins to connect more with the ok looking partner on a deeper level. Happens with me. Personality does go a long way, but it is the person's looks that get someone notice in the first place.
I'm a woman and I totally agree with the man. Humans are shallow creatures, maybe men are a bit more sometimes, but either way, looks are what first attract you to a person on some level. Every woman in that audience was either lying to themselves or just everyone else. And to Bethenny talking about this man with all of this confidence coming up to a woman and catching her attention- what made that "confident" man want to go talk to that woman?? Her looks.
It's rare I see a thin women or a little overweight women holding hands with an very overweight or obese man. It's not rare to see these same women with overweight man or healthy normal weight. Women giving men a hard time for something they also do almost as often. I could see if he said he doesn't date overweight women, then all the hate he gets on the show might make sense. Men and women usually don't marry someone that has a very big weight difference from each other. Back in 1950s when women were less independent it was not rare for a women that's normal healthy weight or a little overweight to marry a man that's obese. Nowadays it's not rare for an overweight man to marry a women that's not overweight and is normal healthy weight.
Women get to chose the highest quality mate. It is clear women have a much higher bar to induce physical attraction relative to a man..This is why men approach women at such a high frequency after the advent of cosmetics. At the same token, women swipe right to very few men on dating apps..Once physical attraction is skewed upward, the demand increases. .Since women have a plethora of options, it makes sense to raise the lower bar (weed out the lower quality) rather than lower the upper bar (not natural). If there exists a pool of men with equivalent personal value, it is evident that the most physically attractive mate will be selected if there is NO bias. Also, cheating is running rampant these days....Increasing the number of options raises the probability of cheating when all other factors remain constant. Since there exist more opportunities for reward feedback than previously encountered, there is a higher temptation to follow the wave of euphoria...
Why do you think its shallow for a man to want. His woman to be attractive ? Its wired into our very dna as it is with every other mammal on the planet , to say that is shallow is to say that the continued existence of life is a shallow desire , And by the way, no one said that a man does no. Also won't a woman with a great personality , they are not mutually exclusive traits
tbh I would be heartbroken if my S.O didn't find me visually appealling and only liked my personality (which is nice and all) but even if I knew looks didnt matter, I'd still feel like a failure.
I guess to each their own. But if someone fails to present themselves attractively, then they can expect to attract someone with the same mindset. If a person decides that he does not need to dress nice or take showers because he has such a "wonderful" personality, then he can expect to attract a woman who is the same way.
That guy IS ABSOLUTELY RIGHT!!!!!!! Lol I'm a woman but at first ESPECIALLY MEN have to be attracted. They are physically beings much more so than us. It just is!!!!! Women need to get a clue. It is so funny we want to know how men think, then once we hear it we're like NOOO!!!! Yeah right! Get outta here lol
So those who are no up to their standard of good looking will normally be not given a first chance. Think about it ,if a person was good looking but their face was ruined in a car accident ,i bet that person wont be attracted to him or her anymore . One day, if all the good looking people had their face ruined, their boyfriend or girlfriend would break up with them because of the MUCH emphasis on looks ? What a stupid world we live in
Steve killed that crowded. I knew it was going to one sided as it usually is in all female crowds. The truth hurts, alot of woman just want to hear what they wanna hear and want someone to kiss their ass. People like Steve and Tariq Nasheed tell the truth when it comes to relationships.
I HATE to admit it as a woman, but Steve is right....I mean, look at Nicole...she was married to a comedian, so OF COURSE she would say personality (not like Eddy is bad looking), and Nicole has a beautiful personality & everything, but notice that Eddy & her now fiancé are marrying Nicole, and GORGEOUS ass woman WITH personality, not an ugly woman w/ a personality. All in all, BOTH are right....you need BOTH #JustSayin
Every one is sooo politically correct all the time. But the dude is right. All those women trying to be 'better' than 'normal people'.... Please, I hate people that lie to themselves. It's like those questions; would you lie to the police- or give your life for a friend? NO YOU WOULD NOT!!! But everybody all acting high and mighty..... Haha
steve is right on this most of the women on this show are fakers, even the one who is married for 25 years just confirmed it. When I first met my husband he was "gorgeous" thank god he has a personality to go with it. So essentially she just said she was attracted to him by his appearance.
WELCOME! to the world of hypocrisy of women's opinions. I once remember that the first teacher's aid I had my first years of teaching, I am a special education teacher, and we were talking about relationships and the hardships of it. I decided to state something I feel is true about women and how they pick their partners, and my belief is that women pick men based on looks and how attractive a particular man is in their eyes. She then tried to debate me and stated how "looks" didn't mattered and how it was about "Confidence." One day she stated how she was happy that her husband was fit and thin. And how it was a very important expectation of hers, a preference, and very important for her in the past that the men she was selecting be thin and slim. Due to her not finding "fat" attractive at all. Talk about hypocrisy? And yet...she would point out how looks didn't mattered and it was all about "confidence" ??? -_- Fucking confusing there! imagine if a man states a thing like that?? He gets attacked and insulted by women....-_-
in a way he is telling the truth. sexual attraction in a relationship is important although personality is more important. But look at it this way in order to have a relationship with someone you have to picture yourself being intimate with them
The dude was right!! He was talking about what INITIALLY attracts a person to someone. If you've never heard that someone speak, then how can you feel their energy or know about their personality? It IS the looks that initially attracts people. If a not so attractive person is starring at you from across the room, most women are like "Ew", but if a nice looking man stares, they most likely smile back.
I always have this argument with my female friends! Because I don't think you look at a person that is unattractive and think "omg he is so ugly!!! But I bet he has a great personality! " that's bullshit!!! If a person is ugly you will judge them by their looks before you judge them by their personality.
Exactly! Tinder is proof of such behavior....They will say "aww, he looks so nice". A week later...."man this guy is an asshole". Clearly, most women are seeking men who yield the most options, which reinforces their behavior..... Personality is an illusion that is distorted by the external expression and ego. Since the gap in attraction is spreading further apart, it will only get worst and more men will be deemed unattractive...
the first thing ppl see male or female is someones looks.....that's simply what the guy is saying ...if someone has a great personality u would not know until u talk to them.
I think people understand the word "matter" differently. Yes, you do approach people you find physically attracted, but you're not going to get interested in them and keep talking to them if they don't have the personality. A guy with good looks with no personality isn't going to make you stay, but a guy with a good personality and just okay looks is a keeper. So in that sense looks are not the thing that matters, even if they play a part in the beginning of the process of getting to know other people.
Well..technically..to a lot of women "ok" looking may not be enough, to a lot of women just being "cute" is enough. And btw! women tend not to find a lot of guys "cute" enough. On an online dating survey, most women found 85% of men in the site to be unattractive. That is huge! you might say that online surveys do not count? but it is in the online world where both men and women can be honest and answer a survey truthfully. In my experience, being a 6/10 in a woman's eyes is enough for a man to get a date...yet! for a lot of women I came across I wasn't even a 6/10 in their eyes, reason why I was single for a long time. I was nice and a good person to them, but my looks kept me in the "just a friend" zone. In my experience, looks are a major big thing that get woman to notice a man. Character keeps a man inside a woman's personal life, but if the "looks" isn't there then the man is only good enough to keep as a friend, not a "dating option."
You are generally given the benefit of the doubt when physical affinity is strong. It skews the perception of all traits in the positive direction and often negates negative traits. If you reside at the absolute max position on the scale of attraction, negative traits are generally less depreciated relative to someone who resides at the absolute minimum position. The receptivity to personality changes as a function of looks. Therefore, they are NOT mutually exclusive but rather work together to create a positive feedback loop (chemistry).
I agree a hundred percent with Steve if I'm not attracted to you even a little bit then im not going to walk up to you and try to talk to you on that type of level. Now well looks keep a man no, but they definitely will get one.
I'm just going to say when I see someone good looking I'm instantly attracted if I find out they have a crap personality then I move on but what I mean is that I don't date based only on looks buuuttt they are the first impression and kinds matter
I dated a guy who I was not physically attracted to at all, but I really liked his personality and at the time I was desperate for love. It wasn’t worth it...I felt that eventually I’d get attracted to him and would enjoy being intimate with him, but I never did. So I broke up with him 🤷🏻♀️ don’t let anyone guilt trip you into getting in a relationship with someone who you don’t find attractive just because they are nice to you. You NEVER own someone a date. Ever
I agree with the guy. No one is going to be with someone they don't find attractive. Sure they may not be "attractive" to other people, as long as they are attractive to you, with whatever makes them attractive, their personality, smarts, or whatever. You just can't be with someone who you aren't attracted to. Idc.
I don't think it's shallow to say that you're attracted to somebody's good looks. That's just human nature and we're always going to be attracted to people whose appearance appeals to us...no need to pretend like good looks don't matter. It's only shallow if you judge somebody and treat them based on how they look with no regards to who they actually are.
I do think that personality is so important and becomes a lot more important down the line but the first time you meet someone, you are more than likely going to approach them because you are physically attracted to them. I've always said that looks is what draws you in but personality is what keeps you. You can meet the hottest guy but then that attractiveness goes way down when he speaks because he is a douche. The opposite can also happen. You may not be physically attracted to someone at first but once you get to know them and find out their personality they can start to be good looking in your eyes. It's happened to me where I began to see someone in a different light after I got to know him and know his personality in both of the situations I just described. It is like someone commented below, in a relationship you need both. You need the physical attractiveness in order to have the physical connection a relationship needs but you also need to be in love with their personality for the emotional connection that a relationship also needs
Here’s the thing with personality approach is that it will work when people are already familiar with each other. It could be a coworker or friend who you see daily. People that have an established platonic relationship in which personality is the driving force of daily interactions. On the other hand, physical attraction plays a key part when someone is cruising around. Your looking for someone to get your attention. Overall, a relationship based on personality or emphasizes on it usually involve people that already get along despite looks. For most, physical attraction occurs when people are looking for their “fish” you have to pick one that stands out to YOU.
A lot of hypocrisy here of course personality and confidence are important under the first initial condition that you are attracted to them first other wise they are in the friend zone asap
I totally and unashamedly agree, looks are important, not the end all be all but definitely a factor. Some people's personality just isn't enough for them to escape the 'friend zone'. It doesn't mean your superficial or haven't dated someone you deemed 'not good looking', but at least be honest. Attraction is a personal opinion of what characteristics you find appealing.
One of my best friend is insanely handsome, dresses fantastically well and looks like a movie star. He can't seem to step outside of his house without women, from all kinds, throwing themselves at his awesome personality that they seem to deduced he possesses without speaking a word.
it's insane because women are attractive to very few men (rate most men as unattractive on a relative scale).....Once a male reaches the upper tier, you notice a majority of women acting way outside the ordinary realm of behavior.
nick ty Many teens are that way, but not all, same with adults. Looks are more about taking care of yourself, inside and out. I have met many guys that would not be considered the hottest, but they take care of themselves, inside and out, and that confidence glows and ones feel comfortable around them. My brother is not the hottest, but he does all of the above, and he is always surrounded by gals for his ways are attractive and it is a confident, at ease, natural type of confidence. Real life is not about sex. There are way more important things, and if you focus on the important things, including developing all aspects of yourself and how you treat people, you will attract someone that is real and has depth. How old are you? Are your parents not teaching you to value yourself, and develop your talents and skills and interacting with people on levels that ones are attracted to?
From your other comment, about you wanting to exterminate the human race, you better take the time for you have real serious issues of self hate projecting in very illogical, destructive desire that is very high risk. Your ability to choose how you craft your self, is very deviated.
Looks do matter! Do not choose your true love based only on their good personality. Because, if you do, you will cheat on them with someone who is easy on the eyes! So therefore, looks are just as important as personality! --You will not fully, completely be in love with someone if you chose them solely for their great personality!
for women it's money & personality Looks also help big time it's not the main main thing but yeah good looks help create more healthy kids aka more babies for men it's looks & personality.... mostly looks
I got fat-fished by a guy! Chatted for a couple of weeks, exchanged pictures etc. Then we met up. He was at least 100 pounds heavier than he claimed to be (old pictures) and completely out of breath walking up a flight of stairs to the restaurant. Just could not so it! No physical attraction from my side. I stated clearly that I needed an active and healthy partner as I thrive on outdoor activities. Why do people set themselves up for disaster?
These women are only hearing what they want to hear. They are on the defense and not understanding what he is saying. He’s not saying a woman has to be the best looming or a beauty queen, and he is not saying looks are more important than personality. He is saying men approach women they find physically attractive then get to know the personality. If the woman is beautiful on the outside with a bad personality, then her looks don’t matter at that point and he is not interested. I have had men approach me who weren’t all that good looking but their personality made me see them differently and I was attracted to him physically. It is natural to want to be with someone you find physically attracted to. My ex husband chased me for months but I wasn’t physically attracted to him. He wasn’t ugly but his looks didn’t win me over. The more I got to know him the cuter he became. I’ve also met men I’ve been really physically attracted to but their personality made me unnatracted to them.
I'm a plus size woman and I support the guy %100. A person can have great personality, but I wouldn't know until I speak to them, and i'll only speak to you if I like the way you look. You don't have to be George Clooney, just look like you take care of yourself.
I am a woman and the guy is right. If a man approaches you or you find someone attractive before you even speak to them it's because he or you SAW something that was attractive. You cannot know someone's personality off the bat. Ladies; has any man ever walked up to you as a first time seeing you and say " hey baby I like your personality". NO! He refers to something he saw..maybe your eyes as they're usually the safest bet or your overall attractiveness....and let's not get it twisted...women like to be complemented on how they look....double standards....
Pretty Privilege is real. That is NOT to say that looks are everything or that everything can be discarded for looks, but as a matter of fact, looks *DO* matter...and today in the Instagram era where everybody is trying to look beautiful, looks matter more than any time before. Let's face it, the first thing we see about people is their faces, and it's the easiest thing to evaluate. We treat good-looking people better, and we think they're funnier, smarter, kinder, etc. The prettier you're, the higher your chances of getting hired, promoted, paid higher, etc.
one thing i've figured out now that i'm "middle aged" is..duuuude, women are sooo insecure. So much so that we lie to ourselves and each other. I mean you don't have to be a model..not at all. it IS possible for either gender to EVENTUALLY fall for the personality but..presentation comes 1st. An average (lets say true curvy like 15-30 lbs over an "IDEAL" cameron diaz BMI) woman who dresses stylish (not outlandish or trashy), with self confidence and a kind spirit, a sense of humor and positive outlook...will win the dating game 99.9% of the time. Like any guy she wants type of win. Ladies..there's no need to make everything so difficult. be you. love you. take care of you and don't be so self absorbed and accusatory. ............just my 2 cents.
Trust me ...looks is first thing to women then the other stuff will be attractive to them after that..Men always have to live in pain that is the reality off this life
The honest raw hard truth is “Yes looks do matter” I’m sorry people but that’s the way it is. At least for men. I don’t think it goes to much with women as men. But then again I’m a man so I wouldn’t know.
Physical attraction is a make or break for us men.. no questions asked. Women can build an attraction to a man based on his actions/personality/treatment of her.. Steve was basing all interaction between men/women on a bar set-up, but most women have met their husbands through friends, at their job, school, church, etc.. These environments give you time to make up your mind about how they feel about him. Also, I hate how no one ever comes to an agreement on anything on this show! It's like Congress, sheesh lol
A man who’s rocking the beautiful chick was initially attracted to her physically. The rest fell into place. The man rocking the average or ugly woman, got her out of friendship & fell for the personality. But he wouldn’t have approached her in a bar. Or....there weren’t many options. Women have more, better options. Also the misconception that us hot women don’t have good personalities or brains is ridiculous. A 10 can have the full package. Let men like what they like. Stop forcing everyone to think you’re hot when you’re not. Don’t redefine what is out of political correctness 😉✌🏼🙌🏼 P.S.- hot women actually are far from insecure. Sick of that excuse. Their lives are funner and they see all the attention. We also understand the shit talk (sluts, “eat a burger”, and so on). Our personalities are bigger hence all the attention we receive. Showing skin is actually confidence. Other women just misinterpret it. It takes balls to show so much. Insecurity hides or is loud- there’s no inbetween. #Facts
Look are VERY important. What is wrong is to assume that everybody has the same ideal of beauty. There is someone out there for everybody. I have a friend who only digs bald women.
These ladies are full of it. I have heard many and many stories and seen it time and time again when a chic picks a good looking bad ass over a good guy with a great personality. Good energy and personality equals friend zone. These chicks need to stop lying.
I agree with the dude as a teenager in high school it definitely matters for BOTH genders. Guys and girls do care about how attractive someone is, its such an important factor it gives you such an advantage, you sre more likely to get a better love life, get a strong circle of friends and to be respected, unfortunately people are not born with attractive amazing genes, life is depressing being an ugly person :(((
You can still make the most of what you have! Maybe you have nice hair? Or good skin? Just keep clean, keep in shape and the magic will happen! I'm average looking but stay in good physical shape. I can keep a conversation going, have great General knowledge and know how to crack a joke. Never had any issues. Just hang in there!
Remember we are talking about two different sex here most women are attracted to a man personally, sense of humor and financial status those things attract a woman more than a man looks as a matter of fact most women don't care about looks as long as he has at least one of the qualities mentioned above. For men it's different a woman personally can attract a man as Bethenny said you might in a room a meeting or seminar and a woman display some characteristics that impresses you but as a man the physical has to match our taste.
Yes, absolutely agreed! There has to be SOMETHING to a person that attracts another. Not everyone is drop dead gorgeous or sizzling hot BUT you can keep in shape, keep clean and work on your personality. If you look good, you feel good! You gotta have some game...
Attraction is NOT so black and white. A hetero woman would not become infatuated by another feminine looking woman or feminine looking man who displays a manly persona. If a male exhibits sufficient masculine characteristics, then there should be some degree of attraction. It would certainly be greater than the scenario that I outlined. The reward system must be sufficiently receptive, which means a positive feedback loop (interplay between looks AND personality) needs to be intense enough to initiate chemistry. Clearly, you had some attraction but it wasn't on the upper end of your range. Looks and personality are NOT mutually exclusive and should not be treated as separate because they work together to fuel interest... The personality maintains the spark that initially ignited the fire.
I feel like both are important but Personality and the way a person carries themself and treats you is definitely more important. The guy I was seeing when we first meant and I looked at him up close and in person, I didn't "Picture myself making out with him", I couldn't even visualize that Until I fell for his personality and ways first. I think maybe because he (The guy on stage) is a man and by nature, men are more visual than women that's why he has that perspective. But I agree with the woman in the audience, if looks were most important than there would be zero couples that make it to there 30th, 40th, 50th, and beyond anniversary because looks WILL FADE with time, and when they do you must still have something the person that you are with likes. Therefore the perception that looks are most important is incorrect in my opinion.
Totally agree and very objective.We will all grow older and so called "ugly",and if looks really matter so much,does it mean that all marriage would doom sooner or later?I think beauty has so many dimensions,a wise and reasonable person should know how to appreciate different types of beauty(beauty of heart,brain and intelligence and so on), shallow people only see looks,and their marriage is not going to do well because we are all growing old and 'ugly'
Women are far more receptive to facial features such as eyes, smile, and hair. Men are more receptive to body shape. Men often find a large proportion of women attractive whereas women often find very few men physically appealing. I think looks and personality work together in tandem (NOT mutually exclusive) to create a positive feedback loop (AKA chemistry). Most people associate these as separate attributes. Physical affinity is a catalyst that spurs interest or receptivity to all other traits. Hence, why a hetero woman is not receptive to a feminine looking woman who acts masculine. Personality maintains the fire that was initiated by a spark (initial attraction).
BEAUTY IS NOT ABOUT LOOKS!!! Honestly however if your immature then problem is with your brain. If your looking for a meaningful relationship then beauty is also a criteria but not the only criteria. Like if I find a boy with good work ethics, good personality, strong morals, spiritual, mature and understanding then I'll groomnap him😅
I guess for initiating a conversation, looks matter, however, looks loose it's value when they have different mind and the one which you don't relate to. But when there is "not so attractive look" but a beautiful mind, it might lead to something.
Men are visual creatures. Looks matter. Body shape and size matters. It is what it is. Most overweight people won't date other overweight people. Must be the personality I guess...
I mean honeslty in my opinion looks do matter why the hell would you date a women/guy who you don't find attractive, you have to date someone that you are actually attracted to.
There's a difference between being good looking and being attractive. Looks are nice and all, but that's not what preserves a relationship in the long run
True, but strong physical affinity gives the benefit of the doubt. It tends to lessen with age. Looks and personality are NOT mutually exclusive---meaning they both work together in tandem to create a positive feedback loop (reward system)
why is it okay to say that if you don't have a great personality you're not that attractive, but it's wrong to say that if you're ugly you're not that attractive? you can actually change the way you look by taking care of your body, but what about people who have no confidence, people who suffer from personality disorders, anxiety or depression, why is it okay to say that they are unattractive?
Energy+confidence will get that person attention but the looks will let the others take further actions. Energy +confidence only will get you be in the friend zone. And also looks depend on individual too. You might find that person ugly as **** but other people might be attracted to that "ugliness"
and yet girls fall all over ryan gosling/other hot guys/celebrities who they don't personally know .Sometimes i hate the hypocrisy of our sex. if i am being honest then yes looks do matter to me but they arent everything. what the guy meant before those women attacked him is that looks are the door to a relationship they are, most often, what draws you in, and then personality keeps you. i find that this is true with strangers. so my type in a guy is usually a brunette not a blonde so im more likely to be attracted to him. but if i meet a blonde guy and get to know him and like his personality then the colour of his hair isnt really gonna matter. i just hate when we pretend like looks dont matter and we only care about personality. the majority of the women i know including myself do care about appearance but for some reason we play it down.
omg i kinda agree with the man... and it sucks XD haha... because it shouldn't be like that, but it is! most of the time, it is. first, beauty is different for everyone. so at least theres that. but... when the man said "who in this room has a great personnality?" and the woman said "i dont know". and the man replied "exactly!" i was like, damn thats right. It sure depends on the situation... but for love, i mean, when i first met my boyfriend, i thought he was cute and he thought i was cute. so we talked and it happened to click right away. Both "beauty" and "personnality" are involve. but if i wouldnt have been attracted to him at first, not that i woulndt have talk to him, but my approach would not have been the same at all!! i would approach him, i dont know, like a friend, or someone that i maybe wont ever see again. u know. Maybe we wouldnt have date at all. because come on, u gotta can imagine urself kissing the guy, or the girl. I mean, if the guy is ugly or whatever, i wouldnt want to kiss him. so, my point is that, at first, the looks clearly matter. but the charisma then take over.
***** haha ! xD yeah, i dont mean it in a bitchy way. Just, if the guy is not my type, i wont be interesting into knowing his personnality (im talking strictly about potential lover here.). The girl said that the personnality is the most important. that is true. but you cannot be interested in someone u cannot imagine kissing u know what i mean D= It has to have a certain physical attraction as well, i think. :P
***** Sorry to hear that. dont worry i had my share too, of course. I personally thinks charisma is the most important. i dont like the pretty boy next door type. u know the "obviously pretty boy". i dont like it. Why would i even bother to try, there are already a lot of girl after him so. meh. Beauty is different for everybody. i dont want a trophy, i want a person that will understand me and that i will be attracted to. My kind of guy is not the kind of guy of my friends. and thats the beauty of it. I just think that i have to be physically attracted to someone to make a move. but the guy i choose to make a move on doesnt mean my girl friends will do the same.