Do Narcissists Regret Losing You? 

They don’t regret losing you, just what you can do for them.

The truth is a narc knows how bad, hurtful, selfish, egocentric, ignorant, undeserving, unfaithful they are and nobody literally NOBODY would love their true self so they create a fabricated face to manipulate you so that you would love them and they would get the supply THEY want and sometimes it gets hard for them to maintain the double face so they get frustrated and burst out all the anger on you once they realise you can tolerate their any abusive behaviour That's who they are

They only regret losing the supply They don't love you Find someone better .. to love you back this time

My ex narcissist husband blames his mistress at the time, he said that she was obsessed (this girl at the time was one of many women in his life) with him turned it on her, nó regard for my feelings or our children's feelings, live in PEACE NOW don't have to take any abuse ANYMORE,

They don't miss you - they miss what you do, just like they don't love you - they love what you do.

I am sorry for cheating but it was your own fault. Classic line from the diagnosed ex narc

It was always my fault for the problem and it was always my actions that led them to be mean to me. I finally overcome all of this nonsense and moved on

They don't regret losing YOU...only what you supplied, & only when they find that other supplies fall short of yours

Narcissist in my life have not yet accepted his mistakes even once ..I was always the reason behind his bad behaviors .

My narc dad flat out told me..I have no regrets. A man with no sins is a perfect man, and a liar.

They aren’t normal, how could they ever feel the way we do. They can’t that’s why they liked us in the first place. We FEEL IN LOVE WITH OURSELVES BECUZ THEY MIRROR YOU. Let all this sink in. I’m coming full circle. I’ve been researching this for two years. And you are helping me come full circle with your wisdom. Thank you.

My ex told me that he didn't want me long term, he just wants me to get him through his rough times. Everything that you say in your video's are 100% accurate. They often tell on themselves if you just listen closely to them. Recently I asked him how he was feeling inside and he responded by saying "I'm a very EXTERNAL, I was like WOW! I told him that was so sad and that wasn't something to brag about . I wonder if someone told him that before leaving him... in addition, when ever he calls my phone he say's " are you happy now" and I'm like huh? he says "don't you feel good hearing my voice", I'm just like you can't be serious. these people don't have a drop of feelings and once you know the real true meaning behind their behavior it's kind of sad and you begin to feel so sorry for them. I'm no longer even attracted to my ex because of his narcissism, It's actually a huge turn off and I simply look at him as pathetic now.

It's sad to go into a relationship with a loving heart and hopes of building a long-term future with somebody. Only for that person to feel that as long as you're around they don't have to cook or clean or do some of the things that you were doing for them out of your love for them. You were too you were just being used and you never meant anything to them. As soon as you pull your energy back they suddenly engaged and show interest and behave the way they should have behaved from the beginning. It's sick and it's twisted. Mine used to tell me how lost he would feel without me. And would say what would I ever do without you. I told him you would just hire somebody to do the things I do for you. There's no emotional connection we never bonded. There was no intimacy or romance. He can hire someone to be his cook and for sex and for cleaning which I'm pretty sure is what he's doing now. He just has to settle for random spurts of supply then having someone be with him full time in a committed relationship. Which I find very sad and depressing for him not that he notices the difference cuz he doesn't know what happiness is.

Absolutely we are a source only. My ex narc bf's first response when I quit an abusive job was, "Why did you do that??? So no more free pizzas?"

Thank you so much for all you do. You’ve helped me so much. I’m having a bad day today and you always remind me that I am not crazy and have come so far from enduring narcissistic abuse.

I think they don't. In my experience they are incapable of empathy so, if you're no longer part of their sphere, it's 100% your fault. Instead of looking at why you're gone, and possibly having to be accountable for it, they turn all that on you so they can move past you with no regret or responsibility. And if you share friends or acquaintances, you can be sure your absence will be loudly proclaimed as your fault.

They don't regret losing you, they regret getting caught....

No! They regret losing the service you provided and they’re angry because they have to either work hard at trying to manipulate you back to your duties, or work even harder at turning on the narcissistic charm to get a new servant. They regret you’ve caused them to have to put in an effort to get things back to where they like it. To where they believe it should be. YOU never existed in the first place to them, so how can they regret losing something they never knew existed. All you ever were was a service provider and now they have to start looking for another service provider.

My narc said the same thing you said. The first time around he said "I had a spiritual awakening , God doesn't want us to split our family up." Then when they were caught with inappropriate texts from someone of the opposite sex the 2nd time around, they tried to convince me that this women unbeknownst to me was the reason why we reconciled in our marriage the first time around. Soooooo I was like 🤔 was she the reason why we stayed together or was it God? He changed his answer to "both".......Really....

I had a friend I discovered the hard way was a narcissist. I had not spoken to him in some time because if his lack of empathy and abandoning me (no communication with me but engaging with mutual friends) when I lost family members who passed away. He "reached out" saying he missed me and wanted to meet up for a coffee. I didn't think it was worth it so decided on a phone call instead. He blamed me for not engaging with him. Blamed me for not wanting to forgive him, blamed me for not being a good friend when my family members died. I stumbled upon these videos and realised what he is. I will never go back. I count myself lucky to have realised that he is not a friend and I am able to walk away.

I once told my narc ex at the beginning of the relationship that, "i felt so lucky to have him.", and his reply was "I'm lucky you see all the good in me" 👀 I shoulda ran then. He never reciprocated compliments and actually got jealous and competitive with me if I excelled or did good at something. , for instance, if I did even a minor good thing, he would put it down and tell me how either he or another girl did it better. Then at the end he kept saying that he wasn't sure if he even liked me anymore, but didn't want to break up. Well I called his bluff and ended it, way too many red flags

Yes, he cried and claimed he had had an epiphany. I was doubtful, but at the same time wanted to believe it. But as I had experienced in the past, it was short lived. Once he thought he had me back under his control, he reverted back to his old ways. Then I immediately put an end to his manipulation. He now knows I know and leaves me alone.

Perfect description of how they really regret. Spot on. So many abused people humanize the narc’s regret to feel better short term, but when you have really lived with a high level narc and healed from their toxic gas - this is truly the real deal. Good job. Hope your site builds !

My husband's parents are narcissists...exactly how u explain they have been manipulating him emotionally and finally I made my husband left them for good......what i meant to say even the parents who are narcissists are deadly to their own sons....so never ever believe any narcissist.....

It is true that they do not feel any regret at all when they lose someone,they just continue to feed their ego.

I’m very hooked on this channel. I just discovered it this morning.

In my experience Narcissists are afraid to be alone because they feel abandoned. My father always worried that my mother would die before him and that he would be abandoned. It was not about cooking or housekeeping. He could cook better than my mother and was also better in housekeeping. My husband was also afraid of being abandoned. They are like children, whose parent is abandoning them.Narcissists are broken people. Something went very wrong in their life and they are still in surviving mode.

In the end when I was dating him. He left his baby’s mom for a new younger supply I believe. And Here we are 7 years later and we had dated 9 months before the accident then on and off for 2.5 years. Anyways he told me how much he hated his baby’s mother while crying and feeling like the POS he actually was. I was just super confused and did not understand. Him even just talking about her made me feel unloved but back then 2.5 years ago, 3 years ago I had absolutely no idea. Keep in mind survivors, THEY ALL HAVE DEPRESSION, that makes the real deep rooted problem. Unless you know and have heard of what’s really going on, you will dismiss it and blame it on depression. This IS NOT THE CASE. Just another mask on their pitiful face at the end of the day. It’s the most saddest crap I have ever heard of in my entire life. I had no idea people were like this. Be very careful who you love.😑👈🏻

I just left my narcissist boyfriend of 2 years. Total no contact text me all the time which I didn’t reply call me I don’t pick up. I tried to leave him more than 8 times finally got him out of my house. Packed all his stuffs and put outside my house text him to pick them up give him 3 hours to clear up. Told him when I got home any uncollected stuffs I will throw away. Finally he collected them. I was his primary supply highly manipulative. Have to be brutal and stay no contact at all times. After more than a year he still text me I just ignored. I used to follow other narcissistic video talk but recently I stumbled upon your video Dr Danish and I find it so interesting and so true. You explained it so well and I thank you.

Married 20 years to a narcissist . Scary man. When I became pregnant 1st time, he made me have an abortion. When I told him I was pregnant, he said. “I don’t want a FUCKING KID!” He said “You are getting a FUCKING ABORTION!!!!” So he drove me. There is more to this story. All bad. I divorced him 30 years ago. AFTER 20 years of abuse. I have had much much counseling , still am, 30 years later. I have never remarried.

My mother is the narcissist. I'm six months with no contact and I'll never go back. I finally know what calmness feels like. I finally know what true happiness feels like. I look 20 yrs younger. My dad was hoovering but I completely ignored him . I honestly thought they would try harder to get me back especially my so called father but no . All my relatives are black balling me because of what ever lies she is spreading about why I left . But I'm gone now and so glad that i am . The monkeys can have her and i hope she breaks their soul because she couldn't break me and never will .

Thank you so much coach. Really really loved your work. I couldnt figure out the harm that was done to me until i found your channel. You just gained a new follower. God bless

Well, I cut him off AGAIN yesterday. And he responded like usual. He called me 17 times, then when I picked up, acted like he didn’t devalue me the day before. Just tried to carry a casual conversation. I told him I deserve better, and I’m done with this relationship. He still had no interest in being accountable, instead accused me of being with other people. He wanted to know who I was listening to, that made me want to leave, then went on again of accusing me of replacing him with someone else. Which all of these accusations are false. He bluntly told me I’m the problem and ruin everything, and said he can’t believe he bothered to try and work things out. 🙄 When I left him, this is my 3rd time cutting him off. He ended by telling me to leave him alone, before he looses him mind. So far today, he’s tried to call me 10 times already.

Danish… you explained so well . Each word of have said is completely true. My husband is a Narcissist. I have been living with him for 27 years of hell. Ultimately I got the strength to get out of this abusive relationship.

I think the most toxic thing is that I myself only saw, what i could be used for, conditioned by growing up in a narcissistic family...

Thank you for your videos. Pls don't stop.

I'm at a crossroads of wondering and I'm a narcissist or do I just move on quickly because I've already determined what I wanted and when said person doesn't meet those expectations. I've been hurt and have a better idea as to what I want in life. I make my intentions clear but when things go differently I move forward but when I get called out for it. I am legitimately regretful but it's more because I made someone upset versus having set a standard and felt distance so I move forward. I never lie in my actions but explain why I do them and I'm never impulse in those decisions it's usually a string of events that hit me to move forward. Well I guess all in all I appreciate your videos because they've made me do some serious self reflection now I'm just at the point where I'm trying to figure out is it me or do I just have bad luck picking partners/and friends. Idk well I appreciate you.

They don’t have regrets. Among the many cruel things she told me, one was “I know you love me. But guess what, you love me more than I love you”. Whenever you find yourself in a puddle of accusations of things you have done ( that you know you haven’t), know that you are being gaslit. Chances are you are dealing with a narcissist. I kept on hoping that I would be that safe space where she can heal. I kept on tolerating her anger outbursts. 😞

It was exhausting . After one month of our relationship I started to feel that my energy is drained, always sleepy, worried . During break up he insulted me a lot . I became mad then ..But I am now better ..praying to God for complete healing🙏🙏

I had been in a 10 year long relationship with a narc who knew exactly how to play me. I loved him unconditionally, believing one day he would commit to me. I thought that because he always came back to me. And God knows how many other's were getting the same treatment. Never knowing what he was, after 10 years I got out and I did it by leaving the state I lived in. It took years to get over him. I never looked back. And then came along the next narc. You see, I like a challenge. Only this one was covert and a thief. Still, I had no idea what a narc was until one day I googled, what does it mean when your partner disappears without a word and google replied, "it's a malicious act." I was floored because I realized that was true. That was the beginning of my journey to my initial understanding what a narcissist was. All over my You Tube page help appeared to educate me and I was ready to see what I had never understood, something I could not, at first even comprehend. And then I started to get it. It's not me. A hollowed out shell of a being, not a human being, that's what they are. They are people who do not have the capacity to feel, to love, they have NO conscience. They are users and as Danish tells us, it's true they are all the same, like a cookie cutter. And don't try throwing it up in their face. When I realize what I was experiencing I went gray rock. Dead silent and I never looked back. I'm repulsed by the sight of him. Once you "get it". There is no challenge, they do not and will never care never. Not you, not anyone. Stop talking yourself in to remembering moments in your relationship where you swear they cared. Nope. These people are chameleons. They are not capable of loving anyone. They are miserable, void, users. Nothing more.

One girlfriend admitted to me that she only stayed with me for four years because I took her out and spent money on her. What a fool I was.

“If you were peaceful, I wouldn’t have cheated” while he’s dishonesty and hypocrisy are the reason why I am not “peaceful” . will accuse me of cheating when he’s the one cheating the whole time. Will make it seem like it’s always my fault. I lost a chunk of my life for this creature. Being with a narcissist is like being accompanied by a demon. If hell exists a narcissist creates it on earth. I’m trying so hard to stay positive and heal. but deep down I want him to not exist anymore.

On point here and yes, they are soulless beings without any conscious. Stay away as they are incapable of learning, change or compassion.

A narcissist always projects outward to assign blame when all he needs to do is look into a mirror

Do I think he every regretted anything, no I don't. Regret brings about change if you want to keep something you value. He didn't want to keep anything except "a person there for hours and hours every night babying him and being there for him to just text". He wasn't even consistent some of the time and that's when you figured he was talking to another supply or supplies at the same time. I was only a space holder. When he got ready to go, he would just disappear without saying a word, and if you called him out on it, he would say he just fell asleep which was complete crap

My mom used to say that am not her daughter and also say why am I talking to my husband, who is my real paternal dad. She used to abuse my character and use foul language and when she got more insecurity she would sprung on to me and scratch my shoulders and beat me. Even if I cry, she will never come to console me. Real monster

I deal with a covert narcissist which will soon be my ex wife. She said and did everything possible to turn my son against me. Do to her behavior the court gave me primacy custody. Delusional, liars, emotional time bombs, thieves, and have no problem giving you the silent treatment for as long as they think you should be punished. No morals, loyalty, love or respect for anyone. There conscious is seared. Love bombing, devaluing and discarding you in a constant cycle. If you are an empath you are a target. These parasites are demonic.

Ur video actually feels.liem you have walked into my life Im currently goi g through exact same thing I have left 23 yrs of covert narcissistic marriage but he all of a sudden has realised he made this mistake and that mistake when all in all I know what he is regretting its the maid he lost its the free entertainment of his children gave him he has lost that he is alone now where before we all.served him day n night and in return he paid our bills which in his eyes we were even .ur words are sooo spot on he doesnt want to invest his time and money into another relationship he has to retain what he had for 23 yds

May God bless you sir

“I don’t want to love my life without you, I wasn’t able to show you then, I didn’t get it, I get it now, I’m ready now. I’ll never hurt you again, I only want to take care of you, we make sense together, please don’t leave me, I can’t handle seeing you with someone else.” along with crying, is what I’m presently experiencing

Worst thing is narcs disrespect their sources of supply . So it is advisable to break ties for good

My narcissist told me that he can't remember having said something, that he should have kept his big mouth shut, stuff like that. Before he used one of his 'women' to start a smear campaign in a social group. I could feel that he was sorry afterwards and he was literally trembling whenever I was nice to him. I just ignored them reg. the smear campaign and acted as if I didn't know what her badmouthing was all about, which must have confused them greatly. I'm not buying into all that fabricated drama. I'm past all the confusion I felt and try to learn as much as possible from videos like this one. Thank you, you are my support system whenever I think 'maybe he wasn't so bad...'

You were bang on about the potential divorce and retaining a slave. I was that child. Left with the narc parent and immediately burdened with every single duty, plus paying rent ... as a teenager.

They regret not killing you completely if you got away. Meanwhile I regret all association I ever had with that person. They are embarrassing Lol

Thank you Danish .Every word you speak is bang on .

Very nice topic my husband did same thing with me now I understand better thank you very much

He said, I failed. That’s how they feel.

Really loved your talk coming from the bottom of your heart

I also think that no one is ever regret to loosing somone

So my ex wife discarded myself and the kids. The entire time she was cheating, she blamed it all on a bi polar manic episode and said she couldn't control herself. So I took her to various doctors and brought her home for awhile thinking she was having some sort of mental breakdown. When she was home she said she prayed and God was changing her and our marriage would work out. She'd been promising to change for years, would behave for a day or two and go right back to being herself. As long as she said she was changing, you had BETTER see it and acknowledge it, even when it's clearly not happening! She swore this time was different, and then went right back to cheating, getting high, and left me with the kids, AGAIN!! At the time I didn't know she was a narcissist until I started researching to see why she told me she was one night. Once I found out about the discard phase 🤯 it all made sense. Our marriage and family had literally blown up in an instant. And after she cheated, there was no remorse. She just kept doing it with no emotion, regret, or hesitation even though she SAID she was sorry. She wouldn't stop. Now she's smoking crystal meth and sleeping with anyone who'll lay down with her. It's insane. I'm a covert narcissist survivor.

Always true

No they do not, they don't like losing and will always try to hoover you back or reconnect even from a place of negativity. They only regret losing control of their supply stash. Their ego takes a hit if they cannot secure new supply in place of you and then here they come back "out of the blue."

Money, status, household, family ... for showing off

I couldn't agree more, thanks Danish

Thank you for your advice, now I know why my friends ex is still,after all these years, meandering around her like a starve-crazed shark!

Bashir I like 👍 So much Your Definitions and Terminology of What is a Narcissist. Only Someone who Suffered So much from Narcissistic Abuse and Narcissistic People can understand and learn from You So much. Thank You Bashir 👍 😃 Efrat.

What you said is true now I understand what I went through with husbands and relationships ECT bipolar are targets for narcissist I know these things but don't understand why and how also you have to work on connecting with your inner child and learn to reparrent yourself pay attention to your feelings and do a lot of self care meditation and prayers 🙏❤️💙 so grateful for the truth 😊 you share in your vidios and your experiences I feel for you and know it made you a better person and a support and blessing for us and our healing thanks 😊💙☘️🙏😘

"I wish we could go back to how things were before"....this was after I dumped him for lying to me about everything.

Thank you for exposing the truth

They dont even know who you are during the entire relationship

Really , all of your vedios are very useful to analyse my life, thanks Coach stay Blessed 🙏 do more

No. They wouldn't be divorcing me if they had any regret in that regard.

I'm sa grateful to get to see your videos very good work you are a saver ❤

My narcissistic ex husband said, says I never used you, this is what happened “ excuses, lie, and manipulation”.

DB, the misogyny aside, this pattern more or less pronounced in some cultures? I love ❤️ your teachings.

To my surprise he always used to say,you can take your children along.. To avoid spending on them ..

We opened a business together, but actually I was working for him. ( supply) I thought we were a real couple. I wanted to become mother, after I had my baby, I decided to take care of him. My ex husband (narcissist) told me straight: what do I want you in my life for? If you don’t help me as before… We were like this for a couple of years, I begging, he abusing…he discarded me saying I hadn’t met his expectations of a wife. (Notice that our boy has autism and required a lot of extra support from my side) it was not easy to go help my ex as he wanted.

My narcissistic ex-friend began completely ghosting me a month before his birthday when his company went through an upheaval. I know that he was spending time with his toxic girlfriend that he had led me to believe he had dumped. Then a week before his birthday he tried to make nice and I refused to see him and then refused to answer his text. When his birthday passed and I didn't acknowledge it he asked me what was wrong so I told him. He gave me 2 apologies, neither of which was sincere... first he apologized for ghosting me but told me that it "wasn't intentional." Then he said "whatever I did I apologize." I had just told him what he did. What bullshit. He showed me who he really is. Goodbye, I went no contact.

My dad said you’re the woman of the house now, when mom left, so I had high school, sports, and to make salad, and a big meal every night. Then moved in with a very controlling, abusive spouse to escape, left him for a malignant narcissist…writing a screen play.

My narc dad became of my faith...then mocked my faith literally attacking me before disgarding me. I am no contact for two years now, feeling free.

My ex said to my family that he was not a good husband and every complain I told them was true and he really wants to make it up to me but I never believed him and devorced him

Here’s what my ex said most recently. If you’re getting messages like this, don’t fall for it. It’s just bullshit: “I don't know if I can go much longer realizing what I lost. I'm so sorry. I really am. I was a complete animal and I deserve it” “All I wish is that you can realize how much you meant to me so you can erase some of how I made you feel with my words. Please accept my apology one day. Just know you were my true love in my life.” “You're 100% right and I'm beyond sorry. I have issues that I'm struggling with and that's not how my heart truly felt towards you. I was so insecure over so many things. I don't ask you for forgiveness right now but please give me a chance to show to you that I'm not the person who did all those horrible things. I was going crazy and also smoking too much pot. None of this is an excuse I'm just trying to make it so you don't feel so bad about yourself because you don't deserve to have been spoken to that way because that's not who you are or how are you in my heart felt about you. This is so awful that I fucked up the one person who actually came into my life and took the time to understand me and care for me. Just don't see this is of manipulation I'm trying to get it to you don't feel so bad anymore because of what I did. I'm trying to make amends. Also I've been unpacking and I found some of your camping stuff. I have a few more boxes to go through and then I will send everything to you. I did not try to take any of it it was just a lot of going on when I was moving and I did not realize it was in the bins. I'm sorry for that as well. I lost everything when you moved out” A hundred texts like that. It’s all lies and manipulation. Pretty words that made me feel vindicated for a few moments, but none of it’s true. Don’t let them get to you. Don’t go back no matter what they say.

You're right.

Thank you Danish

Short answer - no

My narc ex wife basically begged me to marry her for years I finally gave in and I proposed to her what’s so crazy is after I proposed she asked me to do it again so she could record it I thought that was strange. A year later she regrets ever getting married and tells me she regretted having kids with me we been separated almost a year and it’s killing me can’t wait to get this over with

They wouldn't care if anyone was laying bleeding on the road. They do care about not getting all the benefits they used to get. Now he can't direct his criticism.

My husband doesn't regret anything to do with me,he swiftly moved on to live with the secretary from his work. Hes currently married to me and shacked up with her

Never once

THE WORLD OF THE BEAST

No..they don't care..😢

I had confronted my former N bf with evidence of his inappropriate sexual talking and cheating with a married woman ( one of MANY). He decided suddenly that our relationship was over. In his way out the door he said I really do love you. He left. Hasn’t tried to come back. Might be that he’s scared of me bc I write him a letter telling him I knew about everything he was really doing. So I know his secrets. It confuses me when he says he really loved me. If that was do then how could he so easily leave? Answer: he has women stashed all over town. His view of our relationship was that it was somewhere to sleep so he wouldn’t have to go home to his trashy house. Nothing more.

☺they regret my attention and my services to them

Ever hear this " I wanted to do " " I was planning to ". Narcissistic behavior is also giving false hope. This is away of keeping you attached. Word Smith is part of their game. The one regret in my recent relationship is from the narcissist, I am super empath and a practioner of Jesus. That's all that needs to be said.

No, they just move on…

Thank you for your guidance.

I am in the process of leaving a 20 year narcissistic relationship, and I am broken and scared to death

I like all your videos

They regret losing what you did for them, I think that’s all.

On Sunday will be 2 months since my narcissist wife left me and our kids.She accused me of planning to kill her,i have never killed a chicken let alone plan to kill a woman who gave me two sons and a daughter.Its two months since she left,me and my kids are happy without her.