Different ppl have different mindsets. You can tell them and show them that you Only Want Full Honesty and Even Show that you don't have thin skin...but if they aren't the same...they may Still do that...cause they looking at how they would feel. It sucks, but it is what it is. They are really cowards and pieces of 💩 deep down inside. They just don't wanna feel that they are...but they really are. FR. IJS
We all deserve a proper goodbye! Not just silence and being ignored, being left in the cold and confusion. No, ghosting should not be tolerated in any shape or form
It's the meanest thing I've ever had to endure. 2yrs of 😖 until literally one day I realized I'm the one who chooses to have all these heavy feelings for him. I simply let go.
LADIES, COUNT YOUR BLESSINGS; LET HIM GHOST ON!!!😊😊 THEN GO DO YOUR HAPPY DANCE AND BE GLAD HE TOOK THE COWARDS WAY OUT. SOME LADIES HAVE TO FIGHT THEIR WAY OUT OR EVEN 'GHOST' THEIR WAY OUT.😮😮😮
Ghosting or dragging it on.. those aren't the only options. How about some respect for each other with some honesty!?! (It can be kindly said) Ghosting a cowardly move.
It’s not entirely true that they don’t wanna look like the bad guy because they end up coming back and acting like they are and always were interested. Most of the time they are manipulators and they know what they’re doing!
Amazing how they know how they’re good with communication for intimacy though 😏 But they have “trouble” communicating any other way. It isn’t your issue, it’s theirs. They’d be afraid, and rightfully so, of your response if they said “hey, my goal was sex, I got it, I got bored and I moved on..” That’s really what it’s all about
Don’t have to give a reason just say I’m not interested anymore. That’s way better than being ghosted. At least there’s a mutual agreement. It hurts but respect them for ghosting you and not wasting your time. Using you as a placeholder. That was a blessing, so allow God to send the right person for you.
This! I tried to communicate so many times. He kept saying “I don’t want to talk about this right now.” After the third time I heard that in three months, I sent him a text saying I don’t want to talk anymore and blocked him. This fool had the audacity to go crying to my mom, the mutual friend who hooked us up begging me to talk. Yeah, I already tried that, you didn’t want to talk, now you don’t have anything I want to hear.
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Unacceptable as an adult either Male or Female!!! Funny how anyone can come up with an excuse of this behavior being acceptable!!! 🧐😭 the crazy days we live and try to love in!!
To all men ... BETTER TELL HURTFUL TRUTH THAN LET WOMAN OVERTHINKING, ANALYZING, SEARCHING FOR TRUTH.WE CAN'T FOCUS ON ANYTHING AND THEN KNOWING TRUTH WE CAN SIMPLY MOVE ON KNOWING WHAT REALLY HAPPENED AND KNOWING THAT WE CAN NOW MOVE ON. MY DIDN'T AND I AM NOW ANALYZING, CRYING, THINKING IT'S ME OR NEW ONE. IT IS MUCH WORSE THAN TELLING TRUTH.
So ghosting is letting someone down easy? Nah. Many ghosters turn their attn to their nxt victim and don't care -- or may even enjoy -- inflicting pain on others.
What do you say about a man who actually breaks up with you, we have an actual discussion, say goodbye and then have a lovely closure text and then he just proceeds to text you every day? The only thing missing now is our regular phone calls and actually seeing each other. He even went so far as to call me one day to see if he feels any differently, tells me he still feels the same as when we broke up, and then continues to text
What happens if you approach the man/woman. Let's just say a man. How do I approach him and ask him to be honest? As hurtful as the conversation will be on both sides I want to hear him out and I also want to tell him my side too. & From there we can make an honest decision on what's best for both of us because if we don't it's gonna end ugly. And I can't take that kind of pain where he just leaves and we both move on without saying a word. I'd rather have the conversation now while the vibe is feeling off. Would it help I put out my honesty first and let him know why I'm even holding on at this point? I mean what is girls say is hurtful too. Would he be able to open up and be truthful if I brought it to him first? Or should I ask him to be honest first? I feel if I ask him to do it first he will just lie and not tell the truth but since I am willing, and I brought my Truth of the situation up first in an honest and respectful manner maybe he will be more likely to keep it real with me.
Is it me. It seems like he is givthese ghosted a pass. Thes guys need to be accountable for their actions.. I'm so glad that after the 2nd chance I didn't have sex with him. Glory Glory Glory. 😊
was a relationship for over a year, he dumped me over text but we became a situationship, things were great until he slowly stopped talking to me. christmas day he admits he’s been talking to another girl and that he’s so in love with her.
If you get ghosted, you dodged a bullet. If he/she cant give you the reason why he/she isn’t interested they are too emotionally immature to handle a relationship.
Ignoring someone and denying them closure IS intentionally hurting them. Ghosting actually hurts MORE than straight rejection bc they didn’t even deem you worthy of an explanation.
It's worse for the woman receiving it than the guy refusing to acknowledge it. No excuse. A painful truth is always better than being ignored or a lie.
Boyfriend ghosted me after 6 months. Literally one day being intimate, saying I love you, calling me baby to never hearing from him again. Did no contact for a 30 days then sent a "closure" text. Still no response. Worst heartbreak Ive ever had. And I've been married and divorced. It's definitely less painful to discuss now but I'm very far from healed.
Nothing is worst than ghosting. I feel like. Dragging it along can be obvious. But what’s so wrong with men and their effed up emotional intelligence that they can’t use their words to express themselves?
Ghosting is childish and cruel. We are adults I d rather hear an honest truth than disrespectful discard like I’m some garbage after dating for two months
Some say they ghost because they don’t wanna get involved emotionally.. I still think it’s better than ghosting to just hurt someone’s feelings… But the weird thing is, they’ll keep coming back.. 😂
@@heatherceravolo161 I believe it may have something to do with their egos… Maybe it’s an ego stroke if they come back & realize they still have access to you… I notice they do it with girls who tend to be forgiving..
@@ragingphoinix9144This makes sense. Usually when they come back they have some grand excuse like they were sick or someone died. They left the door open by not telling you straight up that they weren’t interested.
I got ghosted and definitely believe it's retaliation in my situation. I believe his feelings got hurt because he took something I did as rejection. I thought we'd be able to talk about it and continue on, but he ignored my 2 calls and 2 texts afterward. I thought he was mature enough to express himself.
@@kikilicious99 never thought about it this way sounds right maybe they did it too get back at me because this guy asked me to go get food I one day with him I wanted to go didn’t want to pass it up but at the same time I was so tired I communicated that too and also had some fears and reservations idk why just has some hesitation’s he prob took that I wasn’t interested but still talked to me even after that so idk then a few weeks later he ghosted me but we hung out 2 days before so 2 days after he stopped talking to me mid conversation like I don’t get it. I feel stupid maybe idk if he really liked me or not I feel like if he did he would’ve have just abruptly left like that
I would agree on the dragging along. A guy I had been dating for a few mths: talk every day, dates every 2 wks (we lived 4 hrs from each other), went camping with my family, I had met his kids. He ghosts me after last time at his house. Finally, a mth later, he texted me and apologized. I asked why he did that and he said he liked me a lot, but my weight was an issue for him and he didn't know how to tell me. 😳 Nothing with my weight changed since the first time we met and he always said I was beautiful. I wish he had just let me go after the first date before I started to think it might work out. I had never believed in long distance relationships but he made me think maybe they could. 😥
He dont get another shot. Accept Accept the apology but don't forget acceptance and unconditional care and love is not in him. The person who is meant for you is coming.
I dated a man for 5 months. Confusing part was he ghosted from the beginning but NEVER left for good. He would initiate coming back and say all the things as though he is interested and things would change but never did. Stephan please do a video on this to be more in detail. ( why ghost and still sticking around)
@laurae4221 I get that. That part is obvious. However, we went back and forth for about 8 months with him showing and sharing emotions. He still text me to this day regardless if I respond or not. The is obviously some reason other then I put up with it that a man would do this. I would think once he gets resistance he would finally walk away.🤷♀️
@annaisis7510 i agree, crazy thing is.. he was not dealing with anyone else during our time of dating. I know because of different things I checked on. Plus I always spent the night and stayed in his house when he wasn't home.. he was a 50/50 guy. Half the time expressed himself as though he wanted a relationship then 50 of the time I felt as though I was booty call. But this didn't start till after 3 or 4 months.
It’s tough for a lot of guys to be honest? Why does this feel an apologist video for men and bad behavior? Emotionally mature and evolved men should be able to handle a conversation tactfully and diplomatically. If they cannot act like an adult, then they need to enter the scene when they can. There are no excuses. Treat others how you want to be treated.
What if they clearly showed they were so into you the chemistry was off the chain and they literally told you how much they needed and wanted you but then POOF 🙄 What happened?
They got scared of their emotions? Some guys ghost the "perfect" woman because they get spooked and don't feel that they are good enough for them. Stupid, I know.
I definitely agree with this because I have moved on along time ago from my ex and how is trying to come back into my life now but it's over for him when I wanted to be with him he didn't want to be with me so I'm done with him now because better is coming for me and I'm not going to ruin this!
They should grow up and just be honest no matter what!! stop being a child. 1 Corinthians 13:11 says, "When I was a child, I used to speak like a child, think like a child, reason like a child; when I became a man, I did away with childish things" period!!!
Women would prefer men to say that too them adleast he was honest and set her heart free instead staying in limbo wondering growing insecure cause she didn't get closure if he tells her she's free right then
This man ghost me 2 times.. told me how much he loves me and made me promise to never leave him..and he was so happy to have me back and he was never going anywhere..then after 5 months he ghost me again...so hurtful😢 but he won't get a chance to do it again 😡
I think it's rude and quite frankly it's cowardice to do this.Grow up and take some responsibility!! It may hurt me but speak to me and let me know . It's hurtful, it's not tough for him,but tough for the woman who now needs to build herself up again ,it's really hits your confidence.
I'm going to be 15 years divorce and every day man is getting impossible and women with all this stupid empowered and Alpha don't help either my old fashion dating thing. I go to church, I pay all my things, my kids are great and not at the house and man it's not a problem for me anymore. I was born in Illinois and grow up I'n Puerto Rico. 😂 Saying hi from Puerto Rico
The last man I dated was someone I've known for decades. He ghosted me and I moved on. But I didn't feel like it should ruin our friendship so I reached out in a friendly way like it was before. When he found out I was seeing someone else he completely cut me off and refuses to speak to me now. So I lost my friend anyway.
What happened to me. He lead me on thinking there was something there and then ghosted me. Then, when I scoped him out to find out if he was single or not, he wanted to play the victim accusing me of stuff. This is why I’m focusing on myself and well being from now on. These men aren’t worth it fr….forget them
Many people don't know how to communicate when the relationship is not working ~ it's about emotional maturity ~ in my relationships I would state that you feel you want out just say I can accept that ~ but every time they all do something stupid to get out ~ but that upsets me more
My experience with online dating is that when I do have this conversation a fair amount of the time I receive nastiness and attitude in return. It would be helpful to know ahead of time who could act like an adult about it and get their bruised ego in check! Love your videos!!
True - but at the end of the day if we are adults have the conversation. It's the most respectful l thing to do. Especially if there is real history there. I don't mean to sound harsh but adults will do things that make themselves uncomfortable but they know they have to do. Children don't though. It's childs behaviour and never acceptable. Just have the conversation and be done with it.
Keep it in perspective and how it goes. (Don’t get caught up in your feelings). You’re just talking nothing more always remember this. There’s been no real interaction you’ve never even met in person this should never be a big deal honestly. Remember keep it in order how it goes you’ll be fine with no problems. Peace ✌️
It's not just the sudden cessation of communication, but the brew is mixed with wasting my time ..wondering if something happened to you, if I did something wrong, etc Just one simple text, if you can't face me and have an adult conversation (something you clearly knew how to do when you came towards me), a simple text would do: "I've decided to go another way " I would clearly get the message.
Being ghosted is a litt of abuse isn’t it , yeah that is not a good thing any way be ready for it to just burn it n lies n taking for granted that all bad in it self not marriage material
I should have noticed 2.5 yrs ago. 3 weeks now NC. He said it was only for the sex. Blew me out of the water,out of nowhere. I'm sure I'll never hear from again. Hes 55,get ur shit together already....
Ii wad ghosted recently for the first time and I'm stuck what should I do ? Imm disgusted because I gave him a second chance for an issue from years ago. He is an azzfor doing this without warning. It cool though. His loss. I sent him a few text messages but after no response I stopped initiating contact. I thought more of him and I'm disappointed because I really cared about him but f it. I know my worth. So on to the next one. Men are like busses. Miss one and catch another
