the one who doesn't want to have kids must start this discussion. because getting married by default automatically means wanting kids. not two options. only one. so unless he never said he doesn't want means he wants. otherwise why the hell get married at all
@@eff9266 that's not true. People get married for many reasons, but mostly because they want to commit to each other. Some married couples don't have kids, some unmarried couples do. Kids are an entirely separate subject.
@@mads7157 no it isn't, you saying "some" explains it all, some exceptions might be there, but generally people marry to start a family, the one who doesn't want a family and still wants to marry supposedly for "other reasons" should tell it beforehand.
@@Aslibandi many people do desire to be married before having children, but that doesn't signify they get married in order to have children, nor does it mean all married couples desire kids by default. You should never assume whether a person wants kids or not, and as I said, conversations regarding kids or any lifestyle decision should be had before marriage.
@@mads7157 not many, the percentage of such people would be way too low especially they're from the west, apart from West and some European countries, the point of marriage was to start a family, that's why the concept of marriage was introduced, the ones who do it for other reasons are the ones who should talk about it upfront before proposing or accepting the proposal, because that's not usual in most of the countries that you want to marry but don't want kids.
@@Justme-tz1tt husband who knows how lovable you are and doesn't want you being loved , at all. Had it happen . By whole in law family , jealousy sucks.
Well I mean when you have children your whole life becomes about them because they depend on you for literally everything. Why is it bad that he's not ready to have her be completely consumed by being a mother. He just wants to enjoy their relationship while it's just about them
You know, I would be very concerned to have a saddistic megalomaniac as the father of any children, but oh womens love can change anyone, right 😅. So romantic
Absolutely not. When a woman becomes a mother, all her attention and time goes to her kids. It's not crazy to be in love with your partner and want to spend time just the two of you before having children.
@@LulluNaticyes its not crazy to be in love with your partner and want to spend time just the two of you before having childrens but in here his this line i am not ready to share you with anyone was like compare his own children and thats was so cheep line thats was not right too ok and absolutely when a women became a mother her maximum attention and time goes to her kids its a norml matter being a father mother is not a joke and easy every one known that too ok..🙃🙃
@@LulluNaticyes its not crazy to be in love with your partner and want to spend time just the two of you before having childrens but in here his this line i am not ready to share you with anyone was like compare his own children and thats was so cheep line thats was not right too ok and absolutely when a women became a mother her maximum attention and time goes to her kids its a norml matter being a father mother is not a joke and easy every one known that too ok..🙃🙃
Agreed. That goes both ways. One should only have relations with someone you wouldn't mind having a child with. It's just called being responsible with your body.
One thing that upsets me the most about relationships and dating. Is that when you try to be up front about your wants and needs, For example I don't want children. And when I ask a guy this question early on, I had one who said this is too soon of a discussion and I replied absolutely not. I just don't wanna waste your time or mine. So, do you want kids? And they said yeah someday and I said well I don't. He was quiet eventually I ended it. I know it freaks people out to be upfront but idc at this point.
Tbh what you did is absolutely right..... I mean that was okay.....one day he'll thank you for being upfront.....you will find someone who wants same things in life and so does he...... Trust me I know a couple who are married and one wants kids and other doesn't and now they don't know what to do......See now this situation is gonna be unfair for any one of them so it's better to be honest earlier than being unhappy and resentful later
деяким людям дійсно ще потрібен час. це не значить, що вони не хочуть взагалі, але у них можуть бути більш важливі справи. наприклад, спершу збудувати чи купити свій дім, та мати хорошу стабільну роботу. а деякі навпаки, "хочу" і все тут, але не продумали свого майбутнього, а головне- майбутнього дітей. Не всі шлюби і тримаються довго. Інколи настає швидке розлучення, тож навіть добре, якщо немає спільних дітей. Адже самотній жінці з дітьми важче ніж чоловікові. Він знайде іншу і все. А вона може лишитись з дітьми до старості. І вже в майбутньому діти можуть мати проблеми зі створенням сім'ї. Тож надто поспішати теж не варто. Почати можна з домашнього улюбленця, чи навіть ляльки для підготовки, котра імітує справжню дитину. Так навіть людина, що не хотіла, чи боялась батьківства- може передумати, знайти для себе цікаві сторони. Наприклад, не треба ділити нікого. Навпаки, якщо буде донечка, то тебе любитимуть дві твої красуні, а не одна. Та і син теж любитиме. Ти не будеш сам. Навпаки! Це ж не тільки її дитина. А спільна. Ще й схожа буде на тебе:)) Буде дивовижним бачити як вона росте на твоїх очах, розвивається. І яка така сама вперта чи талановита як ти:)))
Not everyone wants to be a parent and not everyone is fit to be a parent. But this conversation for sure must happen before getting into a relationship or a marriage not after it
Not wanting kids is okay but his reason for not wanting kids is just shocking ..i thought he would say something like "i don't know if i would be a great father maybe after some therapy "
Certain “Men” will tell you what you want to hear before you commit. Once they know you have invested your love into them that’s when the truth comes out. NOT NOW means “not until I say so”; which usually means NEVER. DO NOT EVER GIVE THIS MAN WHAT HE DOES “NOT” WANT… you will pay dearly in the end and unfortunately so will your children.
Why was this book and movie so popular? Its basically about a woman falling in love with a controlling sociopath. Why?! Just why?? Don’t want to share you with anyone. If that doesn’t scream “danger, danger, warning!!” 🚨
Because he's rich and handsome and the women who read it can fantasize about being with him. I never really understood the appeal either. The whole story just seemed, ironically, very childish.
It’s hard to like this movie, whole thing was too cheesy & cringe, she’s awkward and a terrible actress too. I saw no chemistry between them and they made her character dumb.
I would add that this whole horrific "story" is sick. He is a narcissist, he is abusive, she is a victim and that stup!d no one that wrote this sh!t tries to sell it as romantic and a love story 🙄 when it's only a s!ck sexual fantasy of a s!ck mind.
I loved the movie and he was good. She came across naive, bitchy, not real chemistry for sure. She came across as controlling, even more, as him in some areas.
This is one of the reasons why people get divorced: putting the cart before the horse. How are you just having this discussion after wedding? Shouldn't this have to be one of the most important things you get to know about your partner before getting married? If he says No now, then what?
@@eff9266 what if he had said never? The reason she should have found out incase she wanted kids and he didn't so she'd know whether to go ahead with the wedding or not.
I think this conversation must take place BEFORE marriage, dont you think? So you can prevent accidents like choking on your food when your spouse mentions the topic "children"😅
I never understood why anyone found this series to be about romance, love , etc… I never read the series or watched the movies but seen bits and pieces of it and found it cringe worthy.
@@sowbhagyalokanath1567 but why would she get pregnant before discussing and agreeing to plan and to get to? ok if just accidentally but did they at least tried to prevent? or just like that lol? yee haah, let it be what it will be, whatever
The fact that so many ppl liked the way he behaved when he was so controlling is what always baffles me. And somehow, the movies made him better than the books. So think about that
Not everyone wants kids in marriage…and that’s totally fine. People should start thinking if they want kids before marriage and look for the right person who doesn’t want kids either. Their marriage would last a long time.
Exactly the type who will run off and cheat because he "didn't feel special anymore" when she has to shift her focus a little to a baby that is literally dependant on her for survival.
وه يعني غاير حتى من ولدنا عليا ....مقوى سعدي ههههههه هاني ماشية نرقد خير ❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤هذا هو الحب و ألا لوح ❤️❤️🤪🤪🤪🤪🤪🤪🤪 نعشق انسان اسمو أسامة صمتي مطلق مزبل حالتو حليلة موش مزيان 🇹🇳🇹🇳🇹🇳🇹🇳🇹🇳🇹🇳🥰🥰🥰🥰🥰🥰🥰🥰🥰🥰
يا محلاه أسامة 😂😂😂😂 ما يحبش يشاركني مع عبد آخر 😂😂😂😂 ملا كعبة مهوش عادي .....كان يسمعوا بيا الي أنا حتى مرة لا عملت معاك قهوة ، ما يطردوني من تونس ، ما يحطوني في الرازي ....عامل قوارص و الله جانا عامل كونوليا ههههههه
Can you please please keep making videos like this. Honestly this is the only thing I’m looking forward to watching and listening to. Been rewatching your old videos over and over again. I was so happy this morning when I seen you uploaded. Been going through something and the days are getting harder and harder. But listening to you just makes what I’m going through better. I’m really tired…. I’m really broken. Please don’t ever stop making video 😢
1 of the reasons for having divorce these days. Maybe now a days it takes too much time to know what ur partner thinking and what he/she likes to have.
لا موش لدرجة ما يحبش يجيب الصغار....و الله الڨارص الي تابعني وقتاش وقتاش يجيب صغير ، أنا نفهموا ، مستحيل يقول لا على الصغار ...مالا طول فترة الخطوبة ....عامل كونوليا الڨارس ههههههههههه
Everyone in the comments section is in agreement this should have been discussed long before you got married. I mean I don't really understand how you could get married without at least having this discussion whether you actually want to have kids or not
Y'all are saying she should've discussed it before marriage and forget how innocent she was in the movie and that she was a virgin when they met. She probably thought it was a given when you get married.
What she's trying to hint at, is she's pregnant! Before getting married, you dang well better know how a woman's cycle works, so you can avoid those fertile days. If you don't know how her cycle works, then you shouldn't get married until you do!
@@eff9266 : They're married, that's what happens when you get married, you have procreation relationships. You don't want to procreate, learn when to not procreate and make actual babies!
