Doctor REACTS to YOU | Psychiatrist Analyzes Stalking in "You" | Doctor Elliott 

I would love to see you react to the show as it goes on. There's a lot of material for someone in psychiatry to react to, especially in the later seasons.

'Did you know, the law requires gas leaks to be reported?' He's such a charmer, isn't he? 🤢

7:52 bro started talking about the whole plot of season 4 💀💀

This show is at it's best when it goes 100% off the rails. And that happens more and more in later seasons. S1 is pretty tame compared to 3 and even 2.

Somehow, "Luring a child into your Hannibal Lector cage," had me laughing for like three full minutes.

As a woman it's sad that I have to be REALLY aware of what to post online. My neighborhood in the small corner of the photo: NO. Posting my exact location irl: NO. Posting the scene from outside my window: big NONO.

Would love to see you react to more of the series! It's disturbing to see how Joe worms into people's lives without them even realizing it. There is definitely some interesting psychological issues that come into play in seasons 2 and 3 as well.

I recently had an online conversation with women and men about an incident, where a young woman and a man briefly met at a post office. They didn't know each other and she was only speaking one or two sentences to him, totally smalltalk. Half a year (!) later, she found a note on her car from this man, who, just recently, noticed her car in traffic. Which means, after the encounter in the post office, he followed her, saw her car and remembered her car tag. So he was in traffic, too, saw her car and IMMEDIATELY followed her until she stopped. He then waited until she went into the house and left the note on her car with his number, saying he wanted to go on a date with her. So when we talked about this behavior I was literally shocked about how many men AND women find this totally acceptable. With men primarily saying "How else should he have approached her?" and women primarily saying "This is so romantic and charming!" I was baffled. Like... They only met for a few minutes, barely speaking to each other and half a year later he still remembered her car tag, followed her instantly (and secretly) to her home and didn't even give her the chance to notice him or see his face. Because she definitely didn't even remember his face and was highly irritated. Throughout the conversation there were plenty of men saying that it was totally okay to follow a woman they're interested in, because "How else should I get to know her?" Well, how about speaking to her? But no, that would be weird, they said. After all they don't know each other. But secretly following someone is okay, it's not like you want to murder her or do her any harm, you just want to get some information, where she lives, and so on, without asking her, without giving her the chance to consent... I asked them "Would you say it to her face that you're now about to follow her?" The men were repulsed and thought this would be psychopatic. But they had no problem with following her secretly. Another guy even said he used to secretly sit in his car in front of the houses of the women he fancied, for HOURS, just to look at them and feel near to them and he couldn't see anything wrong with that kind of behavior. When I criticited it, he wanted to be pitied because he is "just shy" and "didn't know what else to do" and if you critizied people for secretly following others and observe them, you "deny them ther sexuality and their sexual needs". Another disturbing part was how many women in this discussion found the note on the car to be cutely romantic and completely ignored the fact that he was impulsively and secretly following her, driven by a brief encounter half a year ago. At the same time there was a parallel discussion about women being, or being more accurate, feeling followed on the streets in the middle of the night, where the same women demanded men should be signalling that they're harmless when they happen to take the same way as them. So, bottom line: "Feeling" followed felt dangerous to them, but being actually followed to their homes by a stranger is "romantic, charming and brave." Yes, my face looked exactly like yours when I read those lines.

I really liked your comment about how the behaviour of this character, as pervasive as it is, points more towards his personality than any distinct mental illness or disorder. It's a truth that the media often ignores, that mentally ill people are far more at risk of violence than they are of being perpetrators of violence. And while it can be tempting to explain horrible behaviour away by pointing to an illness or disorder... Some people are just horrible, awful, despicable human beings who view themselves as the lone hero in a world of disposable NPCs. And that is far far scarier than any "mentally ill psycho" that TV or movies can throw at us.

I work in the hospitality industry as an assistant manager in a big chain coffee shop. It's my job to build rapports with customers, be polite, friendly and give good service. Unfortunately, as a young woman, it had lead me to have not one, but three stalkers in the 8 years I've been doing my job! Weird creepy guys take me doing my job and being friendly as me being into them. So, for me, this was a vey interesting thing to watch you react to and analyse.

You have to keep watching!!! Season 2 and season 3 get increasingly bizarre and some people think too unrealistic so interesting to see your reaction.

I 100% want to see videos on all the episodes of this show. There is so much to unpack. It’s one of the reasons I actually love the show. You can choose to watch it as pulpy, soapy mush, but there’s a lot more interesting pieces of subtlety on how “normal” people rationalize a whole spectrum of toxic behaviour as well as social commentary on who gets to be considered “normal” in the first place by society at large.

His whole narcissistic personality is why I find the show so intriguing. I like watching and analyzing messed up people lol. But at some point it just become too much and I had to take a break.

I'd never heard of this show. I'm not sure I could watch a full episode of this. His behavior just gave me so much anxiety. I really appreciated your reaction and analysis, though. Always glad for one of your videos!

Fun fact: In Norway, stalking is only criminal if the victim's aware of it. This, of course, is something legislators are working on changing, but it seems to be difficult

One of the things I loved about the show is the music. Something that seems romantic in other movies is now underlined with that electric heart beat like… I don’t know how to describe it, it’s creepy and shows the true nature of stalking and obsessions.

This is one of the most chilling things I've seen. What a creep

Yet again watching at the end of my day to cheer myself up. As always Dr Elliott being inspiration and cheering me up with his videos. :)

There's a line in the book when Joe sees Beck's place for the first time, where he mentions how he fantasizes about putting bars on her windows. So much crazy shit was said in the book that should have been put into the show but wasn't.

If you keep watching the series and seasons, you'll see that this is closer to OCD than anything. He wants to live in a perfect relationship above anything. Since nothing is perfect, he will keep searching for it endlessly, and doing anything to achieve that, like people washing their hands to get rid of dirt. In this case, he will murder as many as it is necessary to keep relationships out of dirty. He is not quite narcissist, this will become clear as he blames himself when frustrated (specially in season 3). There are many, many patterns of OCD. The perfect panning is part of the compulsion, collecting clothes is also related to this.

Loved the insight into Joe's behavior and would love to see more! I'd suggest clarifying which season you're reviewing as some are still afraid to spoil season 3 (glad I took this gamble lol)

Do another Hannibal one!! I love these more sinister ones...

I would love to see your reaction to Eleanor Longden's Ted talk on schizophrenia. Particularly your view on her quite rare way of how she is now medication free and uses her schizophrenia. I really hope you do a video on her. Love your channel x

Been waiting for this reaction! So glad you did!

Hello Dr Elliot. I discovered your RU-vid channel a week ago and since then I've watched all of your videos with much pleasure. I'm a medical student and you have turned out to be very helpful and enjoyable. I was wondering if you could consider reacting to sex education because it deals with many phycological issues and includes LGBT representation. Thanks a lot for your good work 💯😍

On the one hand, I'd be fascinated to hear you analyze more of this show. On the other hand... this show creeps me the hell out and makes me so uncomfortable.

It's the deadpanned "Oh, that'll do it" when Will smacks Benji with a mallet for me. 10:58

I would love to see you do a react video on the movie "Mother" with Jennifer Lawrence!!! That movie left me feeling so anxious, stressed and grossed out. I would love to hear your opinion on the psychological elements in it, specially the ones related with Jennifer's husband in the film

I would love to see full season 1. I need to understand why do I like Joe and why am I rooting for him to get away with everything 😅

Great video as always Elliot! I was wondering if you would review The Sixth Sense, Bruce Willis' portrayal of a child psychologist, Kyra's mother's Munchausen by proxy disorder and the themes of redemption, loss and moving on :)

I would love to see you react to Dexter, now that a new season is coming out!

Awesome reaction! You'd be happy to see how much you got right about him watching the next episodes. 😅

Do you intend to do any more videos covering House MD soon? I know the show is terribly inaccurate, and as I've been starting my Biomedical Sciences study I've had more and more issues watching through it lol, but it's still a really cool show I think for these types of videos. It brings up a lot of "stereotypical" views people would have of medicine and doctors.

This reminds me how I just googled my psychiatrist because I wanted to see how he looked under his mask. I was curious and his eyes were beautiful. I did not find him. Anyway, thanks for summarizing, I was never going to watch this and this makes that even easier.

This video has convinced me I should not watch this show. Scary. You should do Dexter next.

We tell you for months to water your plants and now....you sob... you got cactus! You killed the other ones didnt you! You killed them, show us the plants Elliott! Show us the remains of the empty potters!

I don't know if you react to video games, or if you even play them at all... but you should try out Psychonauts 1 and 2. The second one is especially dark, and dives into mental health issues like gambling addictions, alcoholism, past trauma, and fractured minds. It is an adventure game about a psychic kid, and all the levels are diving into people's minds and solving their emotional baggage.

Smooth real smooth stuff. I’m learning a lot.

Better keep your books upright, doc 👀

(!!YOU spoilers!!) i love how you mention erotomania, as in season 4, it fully shows.

You should’ve reacted to the part of peach obsession with beck!

Guess I've gotta watch this now huh? Seems like Dennis from Always Sunny has his own series LMAO

6:10 the reaction is killinggg meeee

How do you have enough time to make RU-vid videos on top of being a doctor?!?

You have to react to more. I need your opinion on how insane things get.

Do you think these types of shows make people like this Romanticize even more this personality disorder

Please review Kai Parker in the vampire diaries 🥺

Can you react to Freddy Got Fingered and try to diagnose Gord? (Gord is the main character in the movie)

ohh if only he met love!

Please do more of You!!!

Yes Joe is the too look at

Blur self titled in the background 🤘

please i beg you do another episode of "you" again pleaseeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeee

Please analyse Abed from Community

Can you react/explain the condition of Charlie Chaplins Mother in Chaplin?

I’m still waiting on gender equality in representations of mental illness and abuse. In real life women abusing/stalking men is much more common than vice versa.

its such a good showwww!!!!!!!!

Please could you react to "the Stanford experiment" 🤩🤩🤩🤩

Do case true crime case files

Yay!

Who, me?

The show ends with Joe opening a bar in Philly and changing his name to Dennis Reynolds

YES! 💛😂

Would love to see you react to Sex Education!

What strikes me is the level of arrogance he has in his predictions of what she thinks. Anyone reasonable would have thought at some point in trying to guess "how can I ever know what someone is thinking? This says more about me than it does about anyone else." No-one, doesn't matter how prestigious they are or qualified or whatever, can read people's minds. That doesn't happen (yet, but it hasn't stopped neuroscientists looking for ways to do it for real). If it were me, if I had tried to predict something of someone, maybe that might have improved my confidence enough to talk to them at some point, but I think I would have told myself "this is ridiculous" before that. There are times when you do try to get into people's heads. But that's a competitive mindset, you want to know what they think in a game of chess or something, what would my opponent do? That seems like a strange premise for a romantic relationship to me, where you're trying to outdo each other. But who knows, maybe some people are into it. Oh yeah and adding with an edit; trying to predict someone like this is ultimately just a way to exert control over them in your head. Understanding something allows you to control it, or at least reduce uncertainty and fear.

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the first 10 seconds of this video was pure suffering you earned my dislike

Joe is so narcissistic and self-deluded that each season it's what stands out most. He rationalizes everything he does as something caused by someone else and something he had no choice of doing.

My ex-bf has stalked me for years. This show actually helped me a bit. One of the worst things about being stalked is how there is no logic in it. Any sane person would stop. So to see the wrapping of logic, justification, and lack of personal responsibility in Joe helped me to understand my ex's crazy. It also reminded me to occasionally Google and Bing myself to make sure he can't find me.

you comparing beck to a book which is why joe felt he needed to “protect” her was absolutely mind blowing to me LOL ive watched this show multiple times and never thought about it like that!

As a guy, one of the most disturbing things that I didn't know is how often women have to deal with men being creeps to them. Maybe it's not as extreme as this guy, but they can have creepy encounters multiple times a week or day.

Loved your reaction to this. Would love to see you continue with more from the series!

So happy you decided to look at this series, Joe is such an amazing character to analyse

You should take a look at Bo Burnham’s ’Inside’ He takes a look at depression, anxiety, dissociation… it’s incredible

I love this series. Always leaves me with so many conflicting emotions, it's creepy in a way very few other series have been for me. As it's from the narrators perspective you can't help but see things from Joe's perspective and it just leaves you feeling gross. I hope you do more of this series, as the season goes on they touch on so many areas of metal health and would be interested how realistically it's done.

I couldn't watch You because the renationalisation and assuming meaning from random stuff (like her not wearing a bra) reminds me way too much my sexually and emotionally abusive ex and my thought process when im getting ready to go outside, questioning everything im wearing wondering if its going to put me in danger with guys like him who think women do everything for a man's attention.

This made my weekend! Was suppose to go bird watching… but plans have changed… the world works in mysterious ways!!!

This guy called out Erotomania so You Season 4 has just brought this guy's theory full circle! Lovely done!

Please make it a series and react to every episode! I’d totally watch!

Please continue this series! I love this show!

hi Elliot, a new show has dropped on Netflix with its current 6 episodes (last 3 episodes will drop the 20'th). One of the main characters have severe PTSD and have some kind of issue with ... (I forgot the name for it, but the one where you hear voices). It's called Arcane and is a show exploring origins of characters you can play as in the game League of Legends. I would love for you to check it out and possibly give your thoughts on the mental illness side.

8:00 mark. You couldn’t imagine how spot on you were, since s4 is now officially done.

A bunch of Stephen King stuff comes to mind: The Shining, Carrie, Misery, Christine, Dolores Claiborne...

You should react to more, because just wait until you see Peach and analyze her in later episodes.

You should definitely watch the whole thing. It gets so much more complex and interesting as it goes.

Idk but this show is always Cringe to me.

Hey, great analysis. I love the first season of the show, as I find shows that are told through an unusual POV character fascinating. I know this might be outside of your comfort zone since it's anime, but I really recommend the show Kaguya-sama: Love is War. It's a rom-com about 2 teenagers who are in love, but don't want to admit it since they think whoever confesses first will be the submissive one in the relationship. So they construct scenarios that will make the other confess first. Its very popular so you shouldn't really have a problem getting views. Even just the first episode I think has plenty to talk about. Please watch it subbed.

Your analysis is truely interesting, I’d love you’d to continue analysing Joe.

My favourite series, so glad you’re analysing it.

Please give us another YOU reaction! 🥺

Ooooooo I hope you do more on this show!!

I remember in high school I helped this guy who sat next to me in music spell some words that he found difficult I was happy too it gave me something to do you know. After that he thought I had a crush on him for some reason and he would buy me gifts and it came to the point where he would follow me home from school and it was a real big issue lucky I'm okay 🎉

Please could you analyse Joe and love's relationship if u decide to watch the rest of the show? It would be really interesting to hear your thoughts!

Would love to see your thoughts on HBO's 'Barry'. It's a dark comedy about a Marine Corps veteran who comes home and becomes a contractor killer, but wants to become an actor.

I’d definitely like to see a reaction to “I’m thinking of ending things” purely because of how weird and expansive it is and how it’s entirely a view into a complex mind and the disorders behind it. Might be somewhat slow for a RU-vid crowd but a reaction with snippets could work. Especially the part at the parents house and jumbled events.

The length of your intro filled me with serotonin.

Love your videos, and itching to see House M.D. Psych ward part 2

Coming here from Cinema Theraphy.. new sub

Hey, Dr Elliott! I definitely love your channel and i will really like to see you react about the serie "Arcane" from Netflix (principally about Powder's character). Thank you a lot for your job here in RU-vid!

Oh wow!!! You were spot-on with Joe having erotomania (recently just confirmed and revealed in the latest season) This really shows you know your stuff doc!