Does everyone live like this? Help Me!!! [Hello Counselor Sub : ENG,THA / 2018.03.05] 

when the hosts are better parents than her parents

"her grandparents live in the building next door so she goes to them to be loved" ARE YOU JOKING

I want Jessi on one of these shows, she'll set parents straight.

I don’t get why this mother is crying. She doesn’t deserve to cry when she’s the root of all of Haeun’s problems.

i have a few words for that “mother.” your child is NOT your second life. don’t push your aspirations and dreams onto them.

I cried when she said "I didn't think many people will acknowledge me". She is just in 4th grade, my lord 😤

She's doing more than I am doing in my entire life

I couldn't help but notice how bubbly and happy she is when she's going through so much. I feel like she was really enjoying that the adults around her were complimenting her and giving her the validation she was seeking so much from her mom it must have meant so much to her and she definitely won't forget her time on this show.

she doenst want a daughter, she wants a second chance to be what she couldnt

the mother wasn't good in studying and right now she and her husband aren't good in parenting.

look at how she talks about her awards with the host, that just shows how she craves for validity with her awards even though she wasn't in first place

4:08 her laughter is so beautiful 🤩 please don’t make her loose it with so much stress 😢

They say sad people laugh a lot, you know?

"Life is too hard." When a child says it, it's heartbreaking. If she makes it to adulthood and feels the same way, still isolated, the resulting actions could become much more grim.

This is why parents should not put their frustrations to their children, just because they haven't done it when they are young. :)

I love the guy who was sitting next to her, he was mad nice and kept wiping her tears for her. If only her mom would do the same and actually love her

“I didn’t know so many people would acknowledge me” OH MY- THAT BROKE MY HEART.....

When he said 'You must read to eat.' I got very angry. No child should be left without proper food. If the mother knows she'll be late every day, then she should meal prep in advance.

i really want to tell the mother that, soon that child would grow with a mindset "even if i follow her and do good, she wouldn't still appreciate it so why not just do what i want?"

I really respect the guests and hosts to have so much patience to not get up and yell out for the little girl who's suffering at that young age

I don't know why only 145 people voted for her. This is definitely a serious concern.

"I buy rice balls at the convince store" FOR DINNER?! A FOURTH GRADER BY HERSELF BUYING HER DINNER?! AT LEAST PACK SOMETHING LIKE A BUSY MOTHER NORMALLY DOES THAT IS IF YOU'RE REALLY THAT BUSY! Also all of her awards WOW! what a brilliant young lady...

Setting kids up for burnout is so upsetting. Especially at this young age. No cartoons?! Regardless she has amazing emotional intelligence being able to catch the hosts jokes. I hope she’s doing amazing because she sounds like she has great awareness to her needs but also very capable of success to what she wants

I’d love to know how this child is doing today. I hope she is well-adjusted. She has a beautiful, loving spirit and although the entire panel was supportive, I loved the attention and caring from Din Din.

Just one advice : You dreams are not your children's, don't make them live your life

It hurts me how she's crying one minute then smiling the other...it made me cry.. She doesn't deserve to live like this...I hope she gets what she wants..let her live

23:44 that was so cute when she said she'll take his place once he retires, I'm so glad she is still trying to be happy even though there's been so much stress on her :(

After she said she was VP, I said aloud, “her parents were probably pissed she wasn’t president.” The host had the same idea, and it breaks my heart to have been right. This is so sad. Children are people, abs they deserve the same rights. She got an “average” for PE and “planning leisure time” when she obviously doesn’t have time to practice either of those things. Just because she’s smart doesn’t mean you should take her life away. 😭😢 She seems like such a good kid, too. She’s extremely smart. I’m glad she was acknowledged by so many. This is why Asian parents have this stereotype of over-criticizing and under-praising.

This is how you destroy a parent child relationship. If you’re a parent never do this

It's really sad when she said *When I grow up I'll be a good daughter* when she is like the best daughter one can get

she's so happy showing off her accomplishments, you can see she just wants to be acknowledged and complimented many people criticised this show for not having actual experts/ therapists but at least it's already a good thing these people know through this show that their problems are valid and they're not alone

broooo. If this mom knew me. She wouldnt be like " doesnt everyone study like this " BROOO I DONT EVEN TOUCH MY BOOKS??? i dont even study that hard wtf-

Dindin advice cracks me up "in that case, show your mom what the real zero is" 😆😆

a child should not be crying so much in 30 minutes. dont just say you love your daughter; make her smile.

Her smile when they were seeing her awards. I'm sobbing.

She will forever remember DinDin and how the hosts treated her. She felt so loved and appreciated.

When the mom said that she'll be free once she's in college, I was thinking "At this rate, she might commit suicide before then :c "

Dindin is looking like he’s about to sign the adoption papers for Haeun to make her life better

more sad to see that she laughed so loud and happily but actually she's in pain.. It's like she just want to laugh loudly so that she can forget her problem for a moment:'(

I love how they looked at each award and complimented her for them

don't they realize how serious it is when a child sends into other adults for help.

I'm korean and my mom also gave me a rigid schedule...I finally snapped my last year of high school! quit everything, skipped school, started flunking classes, and got diagnosed with severe depression... I got into a great university and my parents were so happy!! but guess what? I was still depressed af. got expelled. spent months in therapy. how did all that studying work out for me huh??? basically: dont be a shitty parent if you really want your child to succeed

Bro- my heart dropped when she said she didnt know so many would acknowledge her broo--- thats so sad

I know it’s been 2 years since this video was posted, but I can relate to this little girl a lot. I play 5 instruments, I speak 4 languages, and I make sure that I am top of the class in every subject. I’m class president and in the Student Council. It’s heart breaking to see someone so young going through this and saying that life is too hard. You could say that I have lived everything that she is going through, and right now I can’t really say that I’m happy. I hope that the mom has understood what her daughter is going through, and that she has lessened her extra lessons. Love from the U.S! 😊

Many parents would kill for a kid like that. Why can't she and her husband appreciate what they've already had?

She scolded her for getting average on p.e. how is she going to get excellent on p.e when she doesn't have time to play?

I resonate with this kid so much it hurts. My mom is the same way. When I graduated I was always doubting what I wanted to study in college because my whole life most of my family is the traditional "BE A NURSE! DO YOU LIKE HOSPITAL?" kind of family. I get it because when you are foreign you hear the health is really successful, so you want your kids on a stable, nice income. However, limiting your child from doing stuff they want to do is not helping. I wasn't even allowed to even have a sleepover, with one friend! Now I'm not even allowed to see half of my family. When I was little, everyone knew me as a very dreamy, smart kid. When I was started elementary, I had class with my first best friend and a very rude grouchy 67-year-old grandma. This lady was wicked to the bone. She would write up anyone no matter how ridiculous the reason is. She would YELL, you heard me right, YELL AT A STUDENT FOR BEING SICK. She always tried keeping me as an outcast because as I child, I threw up very easily. I was never terribly sick, it just happened. I was also a very brave 5-year-old, so I always retaliated. Despite both of my parents knowing how bad this "teacher" was, my mother would always scold me for being a trouble-student. Sometimes she would say, "Are you mental? How are you not ashamed?" which caused my self-esteem to drop like an avalanche. She knew I was smart, and I did stuff to please her. I always hated homework, but I would do it for her to stop nagging me in the middle of the night when everyone is tired. She would always shower all of my other siblings with love and praise and gifts for raising their grades just a little bit. However, when it came to me, it was always just "good job" "keep going" or "number 1" I was so tired of them not paying attention to me unless I do something that they don't like. ᴵᶠ ʸᵒᵘ'ᵛᵉ ʳᵉᵃᵈ ᵗʰᵘˢ ᶠᵃʳ, ˢᵒʳʳʸ ᶠᵒʳ ᵗᵃᵏᶦⁿᵍ ᵗʰᵉ ᵗᶦᵐᵉ ᵒᶠ ʸᵒᵘʳ ᵈᵃʸ ᵗᵒ ᵛᵉⁿᵗ. ᴬⁿᵈ ᵗʰᵃⁿᵏ ʸᵒᵘ ᶠᵒʳ ᵇᵉᶦⁿᵍ ᵃ ᵛᵉʳʸ ⁿᵒˢʸ ᵇᵘᵗ ᵏᶦⁿᵈ ᵖᵉʳˢᵒⁿ ˡᶦˢᵗᵉⁿᶦⁿᵍ ᵗᵒ ˢᵒᵐᵉ ˡᵒˢᵉʳ ᵒⁿ ᵗʰᵉ ᶦⁿᵗᵉʳⁿᵉᵗ. Eventually, she just started focusing on negative things. I was never allowed to have a B, just straight A's. Keep in mind, this is still early elementary. I tried talking to my Mommy about my feelings, but she just brushes it off as me being "lazy" or "too young to feel this way" I grew distant from my family. I was only a good girl when I listened to everything my Mommy said. The only person I talked to was my Daddy. He kept my feelings a secret because I didn't want them arguing about something else. Currently though, he was deported for a few years now so I have nobody ƈ ͡ (ुŏ̥̥̥̥ ∀ ŏ̥̥̥̥) ु In middle school, I developed a passion for making video games. My Mommy tried discouraging me every minute she gets. Telling me games are made to brainwash kids, and this is why America is so lazy. In retaliation, I stopped doing the best in school because all motivation was gone. I did everything I could to prove to her I was really good at it and it's what I want to do when I grow up. Me and my best friend were both the only girl aces in that whole class, but she took with a grain of salt. She forced me to transfer to an academy because my sister was going to be attending there to get back on track. Now, I was the only one who has not stayed back a grade in the family, so this was obviously useless to me. Her excuse was, "you have to watch her for me!" why am I babysitting my older sister when I could be taking this time to better my skills at my craft. This was my last year in middle school. My argument was if you really need someone to watch her send my older brother. In my school, I was accepted into a class that will make lots of colleges look at me and a lot of scholarships. I'm doing something for my future but you want me to throw that away to babysit her. She didn't listen because she is a stubborn prick. I've never been a fan of big changes, as summer came around I grew way more reserved than I like to be. I was always pretty alone and hated everything. I was known as the "GAMER GIRL" or "DOODLER" because I had absolutely no gas in my tank, I would do anything but the work so I don't cry like a mess in front of everyone. It helps with stress and makes sure I don't pass out in class too often. The work that the academy gave was rather heavy and high expectations, the thing that I hate because of how I was raised. I finished the year with C's B's and a F, so I threw my report card away so my mother wouldn't find out. But my sister was being a bitch that year, so she decided to go to the front office for a copy and show it to my mother personally. nd the teacher let her! It was as if he didn't even care. Oh wait! He didn't. My mother tried to properly yell at me, but I ignored her. She started hitting me but I acted unaffected by it and ignored her. She kept screaming, "YOuR GoNna let THE BAd SPirIt TAkE OvEr YoU!" No mother it's not a bad spirit it's you being negligent. I didn't care. Eventually, we both just sucked it up and got over it. Finally, when I was about to graduate, she finally listened to me. But I know better. I didn't tell her much, but it was more than enough for her to see how much I was hurting. When I graduated she finally started giving me the affection I've been craving for years! But I faded into the background again. I expected it, it was nice while it lasted. I am so scared that I don't know what I want to do in life anymore. I had no choice but to listen to her. Now she just expects me to be able to make decisions by myself. To be a leader. To be social. Thankfully she's not suppressing me anymore. but the rest of my family is even worse. Specifically some Aunties and Uncles. Making money off of games is unheard of to them. They tried so hard for me to doubt my career choice that a month before the fall semester started, I changed my whole plan from "I am going to do what I love and if I fail, I'll pick myself up and try again!" to "I can always study what I want later, I need money now!" I'm a freshman learning to become, you guessed it, a nurse because almost everyone is doubting me and I don't have the confidence, trust, or experience to go with my gut. I regret it immensely because I don't know how long I will be here. What if I die before getting a taste of what I wanted to do. I see the sadness in my Mommy's eyes because she was so overprotective of me, and led me without letting me see the map, I don't where I'm going. I'm lost. Watching this video has forced tears of envy, frustration, and loneliness of years. I've never cried about this before other than in 5th grade. I hope the best for this little girl. ♥♥💖♥💖Lots of love💖♥💖♥♥ & ✨✨Good luck✨✨

5 min in the video and i'm obsessed with her laugh, hearing that laugh everyday would already cheer me up

Does she feel nothing when she saw her child crying for her love and affection? And for an actual life to live? How selfish can you be?

That mother is a disgusting human being. She doesn’t deserve a daughter that sweet and talented.

After watching all those people suffering from depression because of studies and the pressure from parents, the best thing I heard is " Tell them what an actual zero is " !

"Show her what a real zero is" DinDin say what I was thinking

If i ever get married and get a daughter like her,i'll be the happiest person ever

I swear some people just don't deserve kids

The hosts are right about everything. Poor little baby girl, I could see my childhood in her. In the summer when I turned 5 years old my mom hired a tutor to teach me all the program of the next school year. I started like that until I graduated highschool, I never had summer holidays. During elementary school I would go to extra class before and after class, and from secondary school onwards I always had 2 to 3 extra classes after school. So I left my house at 6.30 and come home at 9.30. Then I would eat quickly and started to learn for my main classes and my extra classes. until 2 o’clock or so. I never had enough sleep. during weekends I would also have extra classes. My mom made sure to make the best out of me and my time, that was no doubt. whenever I visited my grand parents on holidays, she always brought my notebooks so I could study. I would sit there with her and she would slap me on my face because I wanted to go out and play instead of studying. she kept a wooden stick at home to hit me when I studied at night and fell asleep because i was so tired. She did tell me that she love me and praise me in front of her friends, but at home she always compared me with her friends’ children and all of my classmates. I started to get jealous whenever anyone was better than me, and slowly I lost many friends. My mom would always tell me I didn’t need them, all I needed were good grades. I remember always feeling so exhausted everyday, and somewhere around highschool I sometimes got really bad grade. I just couldn‘t anymore, but back then it felt like it was all my fault. I was stupid, I was not good enough, I didn‘t deserve any love if I didn’t excel in class, because good grades were the only things that mattered in life. I love my mom but I hated her at times. She loves to control my life and only loves me when I do what she says. Everytime when I rebelled she would tell me she is unlucky to have a daughter like me and she would die soon because of me. I thought everything she did and said was right, and I was always wrong when I did something to displease her, above all, bad grades. After I graduated she sent me abroad to study. I am so sure this girl‘s mother would do the same. And then the poor thing will face the harsh truth just like I used to. Sometimes doing your best would still not make you the best, or get you appraisal, or certificate or anything. When I studied with native students who knew the language better than I did, had all the support from their parents, and were the same smart or even smarter than I was, I didn‘t matter if I gave my 500% while they only 50% - they were still better than me. I started to question my ability and developed a deep complex. Because mom always said I had to be the best, I didn‘t know any other way. If I am not the best, I am rubbish, nothing and don’t deserve to live. I have been living away from my mom 14 years now. With a lot of support from many people who really care about me and love me for who I am, I can now, thank God, see things from another perspective and realize how toxic my mother and her love was to me. It was hard for me to finally accept myself for who I am, to find out what I really want to do, to find my own voice, which is different from her, and go my own way, without her telling me what is right or wrong. I’m still struggling with my broken self-esteem and trying to understand my complex, and above all, trying to forgive my mom. This little girl breaks my heart. I so wish she would stay positive and live a good life far away from her mother when she grows up, otherwise she would continue to be emotionally abused by her mother. This woman is so strongly convinced that what she does is right that it scares me, seems like she really needs therapy. What I can say is, the most successful people I know are the ones who are allowed and encouraged to do what they love. Peolple like this little girl might grow up being successful but feeling lost because she will never be allowed to find her true talent or desire. I am sad for her because I know her mother won’t change. The korean society really needs to change these parents minds!

I'm really on the verge of crying...how can someone be so cruel on their kids!? I hate her parents and I love her so much! She's a pure cutie aww

i got so pissed off when the mother was talking, each and every word that came out of the mother's mouth was so infuriating😤😤

I started crying when she cried :'( I really hope her situation will change

Don’t get a child if you’re gonna do this to them

When she said “I didn’t know so many people would acknowledge me.” I broke down. How could someone be so cruel to their own daughter 😭

"i dont think she will be a rebel" LOL ok

"She has her grandmother" TF. Imagine being THAT obsessed. Girl should have been a teacher rather than a mother. Smh😤

This video was sweet, cute, funny and heartbreaking at the same time. It’s been years since then, I hope the little girl is well.

when that person said "i played soccer with my friends and at that time the sky was orange" i could only imagine how the child would remeber her childhood when she becomes an adult when all she could remember was the dark gloomy night sky ,walking back to her house with convinience store food

She wants to be a celebrity She likes to dance She likes to sing too I’ll be happy to see her on stage as an idol or a musician someday maybe?

That mother... >:( she doesnt seem to listen to her child and is closed minded to use her brain surgery as a reason to educationally manufacture her child even though the child really wants to have free time and have a happy life. I feel so sad for the child :c

I started crying when the kid started crying...how could anyone not adore this cute baby

28:32 .. when she gave him a fingure heart, my heart just melted and dropped on the floor... she is such a pureheart cutie.. pls don't make her loose her childish innocence.... 🤒 i love you little one 🥰🥰🥰

She never complain about her mother telling her to study more...she just wanna her mom giving her love&compliment for her hard work yet the mother only say and telling her study study and study

"In that case, show her what a real zero is..." HAHAHAHAHA YOU GO GIRL! FOLLOW THIS ADVICE!

"In the future i will be a good daughter to u,i love you" How tf the mother have the guts to do that to such a pure and smart kid like her..

I just love the way that small girl laughs . She is so cheerful .. I really rewatched the scenes where she laughs loudly .. she really brightens up the atmosphere .. Her future is really bright !!! She is a really smart kid .. I hope she gets to do what she wants ❤️❤️❤️

A little girl says that life is too hard while crying . That’s heartbreaking😭🤧💔

that woman is pure evil, she doesn't even listen and straight up refuses haeun's best friend's request. WOW SHE IS OBSESSED WITH GRADES and not the well being of her daughter

I would be so mad with the parents. And she is so adorable especially her laugh is so cute. Makes me want to adopt her lol

oh man i really didnt want it to end like this, it must be hard to go back home now. hope she comes back again for the show

"i don't think she'll rebel." come back after she becomes a highschooler and we'll see if she's still the 'good girl' you invisioned her to be.

It's crazy to force your kids to study like that, it damaged your kid :/

I cried hard listening to what she's experiencing, saying its hard, and can't do what she wants at that age. All I want to say for the mom is "If you want your child to be number 1, as a parent you should also be an excellent student at that age with more awards and no zero as you want it to be. You cannot and shouldn't force the things you can't do when you were young or as a student or a child. Being that smart and always thinking number 1 is want you want."

She’s such a beautiful girl, and the way she gravitated to those who showed her love and appreciation shows how much she is lacking from her own parents. I really hope she started those dance lesson or just being able to hang out with friends and be a kid. Haeun I wish you the best!!!

"Show her. What's a real zero is." hahahah

This is so true. I'm currently teaching English to Korean children. This is their culture, it's really heartbreaking. I have been teaching English more than a year now. I've met different children. Ha Eun is so kind and nice. She still smiles and she's so sweet. Not all students are like her, some are rude and rowdy. Still, I try to understand their situation because this is the pressure they need to endure. I have one student, he's in high school. He's crying while we're having class because he still needs to study until 12 midnight. He hated studying, he wanted to die and just end everything. I can't help but to feel sad and anxious. I always comfort my students. They feel terrible and depress. Sometimes, they tend to sleep in my class but I try to understand them. Imagine studying for 12 hours?! Who won't be exhausted. So I'm really trying my best to make the class enjoyable and fun. Before our class ends, I always tell them that I'm proud of them and don't be too harsh on themselves. I really love my Korean students even if it's hard. I won't get tired of listening to their stories and being their sister to cry on. EDITED: Hi, I'm still teaching Korean students. Thank you for your concern and regards. I'll share all of your regards to my students. For all teachers, please don't hesistate to give a helping hand to our students. I know that we are not only teachers by profession but also by heart. Saranghae everyone! Have a good day!

watching her cry broke my heart

I saw my childhood in her and I'm sobbing. I just turned 18 and I'm hella depressed and lonely no friends no social life no one by my side. I hope her life turns out better than mine.

how could she only got 145 votes?! shees what did other people think when they vote "not a concern" while there's a little girl crying in front of them for being trapped in her mom's ego? I wish Haeun will always smiling that bright and cheerfully and fulfill whatever her dream is cause I believe she could reach it without any extra lessons fighting Haeun-ah!

*I'll forever be thankful that she's not my Mom.*

"Failing what you wanted to become doesn't mean you force your children to be what you wanted, they are their own unique individual, not your puppet."

I cried SO much while watching this, i feel so bad for the little girl. I hope shes getting the love she deserves right now. 😔☺️

I have never had full score at an exam that woman must hate me hahahahhahah

That's how children push themselves too hard and end up comitting suicide. Because the competition is too fierce and there's no one to actually celebrate your achievements.

Seeing parents do this has made me appreciate my parents so much more, I did of course, but now I feel like I should have them by my side no matter what. For both parents and children know you need to have time for each other have unconditional love for each other because in the end of the day it's your family, I'm so grateful I had the opportunity to go home to two parents that love me dearly and have given so much + given up so much for my well being. I know no parent is perfect and we aren't the richest but I have a roof over my head, unconditional love, education, food/Health, and exc. Which makes me happy, sadly I see more parents that don't understand how to take care of the child they made, but if you have parents that you feel loved by take a moment to breathe deeply feel your breathing and say inside your head or out loud I'm so grateful that I have an unconditional loving family. 🧸💖

It saddens me to see how extremely happy she gets when she gets a praise or a compliment. She has had such a tough life...

Everytime she cries I was crying too. Poor girl hope she'll live a life as she wants from now on.

Imagine, she's just 11yo and trying to carry all of her burdens on her own. So heart breaking. Im sure ur teary eyed when u watched this episode.

A 11 year old kid saying that her life is hard that's definitely a problem. Imagine she's just a kid but she already feel that way. It's so sad

This mother is ruining her child's mental health. It is heartbreaking to watch. She and her husband are modeling their daughter's perception of herself, how can they instill so much rejection into her?! The girl is so brave and open hearted. I wish her to overcome everything and grow into a happy adult that loves and supports herself.

She will cut her ties with that family once she can. You can't be happy in that environment. Her parents aren't even over achievers and they think they have a leg to stand on. What kind of example are they for their children?

She is not a mother but a MONSTER. The little girl is stressed because of her “mother” just at the age of 11... She doesn’t watch cartoon or play because she “need” to study?!! Wtf!!

bruhh i cried so hard my tears came out of my mouth after she said she wasn;t aloud to take dance lesson and started crying

When a fourth grader says “Life is too hard,” it’s really upsetting. I think she’ll be on a downward spiral, emotionally, and the results could be so dire. How could her own mother shake her head and continue this torture?