Love that Charlene is there to give a woman’s perspective on things!! I still think when it comes to having kids, still better to 想好过不想。After all you are bringing a child into this chaotic world, it’s the parents’ responsibility to be able to provide for the child not only financially but emotionally as well. So need to have the right attitude to prioritise the child’s needs, and all these need to 想. Think and then be prepared for all, before simply having a child. Good to chat with teachers to see how some irresponsible some parents can be…and this will ruin the child for life, especially if no access to therapy.
Well as someone who works in the special needs industry, I know of parents who regret having children though. It’s sad… maybe you guys can shine some light on the special needs community in your perspective platforms too (:
For real, please stop dumping your kids onto your parents. Purely for play and for a short time and IF your parents want it, that's fine. But expecting your parents to bear the hellish burden of taking care of your kids is just cruel, especially if they're already getting quite old. Even if they're not that old yet, seriously nobody likes the non-fun side of taking care of kids, their cleaning up and their tantrums. It's EXHAUSTING. Parents who go around preaching that having kids is great when on the side they dump their kids to their parents to kang the heavy load needs to stop it. The reality of having children is super jiaksai to be honest. Just because your parents or your in-laws jiak the sai for you doesn't mean that everything is fine. Tell the truth. There's a reason why so many people want to be childfree and more power to them! Charlene is correct. Kids rarely impact a father's life - unless the father is very involved as they should be. So ladies, make your own decision if you want to have kids or not. Don't give a damn if your boyfriend/husband says they want kids. Their vision of having kids vs your reality is VERY different.
Charlene made a lot of sacrifices. I got to spend with my child when I was full-time jobless when my child was 8-12months. Quite fun on the family, not fun on the finances.
I have 2 small kids. Elder one also covid baby. Her childcare fee was $0 for 1st 2 years and now is $35 monthly. Younger one from 2 months old onwards all the way till now 2 years plus $200+monthly. Why Elder one $0 cos I'm self employed n during covid business very bad so dropped into low come category.
