You know what, just bless WongFu. Watching their videos is like having best life teacher, makes you rethink stuff and also about these lunch break series, it feels like sitting with friends and having really great and important talks, cos not always we have that chance but it feels so good and healing, that’s just how it feels. Thank you, WongFu team! More more great projects and ideas!
Man that’s totally the experience. “No dating till you graduate, get a job, buy a house!” Then suddenly it’s non stop suggestions about my parents’ friends’ daughters.
Thank you Wes for pointing out that you don't need to be in a romantic relationship to be happy. As an aromantic, I have no interest in dating or marriage, but that doesnt mean I cant have meaningful connections and relationships that are just as important as romantic ones. Marriage is a social construct!!
It's so subjective. Everybody has different needs and are at different points in their lives. But some good advice here and do what works for you. Have to try, and see (date, socialize, etc) what you're ultimately searching for.
ILLUMINATING!!!!! Thanks so muchfor sharing these highly relatable and entertaining insights!! Really enjoy each of your inspirational personalities and please keep shining!!! By the way, did somebody mention a possible Lunch Break spinoff called "Wes Happenin", hosted by Wes? LOL.....Just an idea! With Gratitude, Largy (The AcrõGecko)
12:12 What was that pause before Mike said "Girlfriend"? It looked like he was gonna say "Boyfriend" lol BTW I'm not judging, just stating my observation.
Maybe I'm the few ones, but I don't judge my partner or anyone based on what they do with their own life and right, unless the situation is extreme to the point where he/she is a serial killer or those kind. If people argue with their partner over commenting a picture or liking a picture, that just means that individual is very insecure and seems borderline crazy. If you think about that logically, who they like and who they talk to about a photo is their own privacy and their right. People in a relationship, it doesn't mean you dictate their life nor do you have the power to control their life. It's supposed to be two people coming together, grow together, and enjoy each other's company. It really should just be a solid friendship that you enjoy spending time with, then you build love interest on top of that. Just like I would want my partner to respect my boundary and privacy, I would give that fully to her as well. People that tell their partner they cannot have certain group of friends or be with these kind of people, they need to understand that they are in no position to ever tell anyone any of that. Even if you are the President of the United States, people don't have to listen to him at all because that's their right and their own life. Just because two people are in a relationship, it does not mean one or the other gets to dictate over the other person's life. Do people not realize this simple logic? It's also very hypocritical for people to say "you can't like or leave comment on this person's photo." If I'm a guy and I like another guy's photo, are you going to be like "are you gay?" That's just immaturity and insecurity. As long you aren't cheating with another person and having sex while you are in a relationship, I don't have the right to say anything about your life because I'm not your parents. It's literally that simple.
I don't think love at first sight is realistic but then again, I believe in past lives and reincarnation, so maybe subconscious love at first sight could be a possibility because you know entangled pasts (like maybe in a past lives two people were lovers, and then their souls might meet again in another lifetime). Lol, but IDK cuz i've never been in love or dated or felt that sort of intense connection.
See, I am a recovering insta stalker elite, so I know the benefits of stalking... However, those benefits are very inesided and won't do good if the hope of the relationship is long term success (people are not 1-D projects that can be understood by reading about them... People are so much more, let's respect that)
@@aaiish9097 it really isn't. In fact, it is insulting to yourself for not getting to know the person for yourself and insulting to the person to think that you can know them just because of what they posted at the moment they felt like posting a certain side of themself when we do not know why the posted it and the circumstances around that time
@@parepidemosproductions4741 exactly and more people should realize this. I wish they would give social media classes to kids in school these days because its much needed
@@aaiish9097 yeah, along with civics çlasses maybe... A lot of society is faultering because of how education is being seen as a job factory rather than shaping the human
Idk how y’all can eat and talk. If I’m eating, I’m only focused on eat lmao. I want to enjoy and savory my food. And on top of that, I’m ugly eating cause I’m hungry lol
Yeah, to be honest it was actually really helpful and it’s made me think a bit more on how to engage with people when dating. It was also nice to hear that I’m not the only who feels so pressured to couple up. Since all my friends have gotten married and I’m the last single person in the group it’s just painful when relationship status comes up because I get ganged up on.
Phil achieved level 10 dad in this lunch break. lol "I believe in attraction at first sight" "Yeah. That's like love-ish...right?" "OH GOD I AM SO WORRIED FOR YOU!"
Love what Wes said about some people don’t need a companion and are just satisfied with their friends and family and health etc. I feel the same way. Also for people who aren’t aware there is such thing as asexuality and aromanticism. People that identify as asexual don’t have sexual attraction for people so they may not like to kiss, hold hands etc. And then there are people who identify as aromantic who don’t feel romantic attraction towards people. They have no desire to date, get married etc. At the end of the day just live your life comfortably and by how you feel and what you want. Don’t let people make you feel weird for not wanting what’s considered the norm in this human life. We are satisfied with different things.
Glad asexual and aromantic perspectives are being voiced and included! When Wes was responding to Phil’s suggestion that all humans want companionship and implying a romantic/sexual partner is the means of fulfilling that universal need--- and Wes forwarded the case of people who don’t feel that need and can instead be happy with friends, family, career, I immediately thought of aromanticism too!
Something to add is that just because an asexual doesn't experience sexual attraction doesn't mean they also don't want to kiss or hold hands. Sure, they might not want to do those things. But plenty asexuals do want to, they just don't experience them as being sexual. For me, I'd say they fall more under sensual attraction (attraction to sensory experiences to be had with someone, ex. touch of holding their hand, sound of hearing their voice, etc.) and romantic attraction (attraction to romantic experiences to be had with someone, ex. expressing affection and/or commitment). I guess for sexual people they'd just have an added lens of sexual attraction through which they'd experience kissing or whatever else.
Thanks for the words of affirmation Wes @14:10 !!! very hard to explain this to your traditional parents and inquiring friends of when you will be partnered up
ah wes described exactly how i feel. i’m 25 but not really interested in dating nor do i have the urge to get married because i’m already happy with my life and just being around my friends and family. i don’t want kids either so i’m really glad my parents support how i feel and don’t pressure me into marrying and having kids.
Loved the convo :) def think that as you get older, too, there’s more self-acceptance of who you are as a person . While those societal pressures are still there, you develop the confidence to just be like: “nah, I’m good, thanks.” :)
Be patient guys, you will all find the right one for you! For me, being single has taught me a lot about myself. Made me realise what I actually wanted and that I needed to work on aspects of myself. And that is okay. Because our timeline is different from others, doesn't mean that something we've failed or something. We are on our own path living a beautiful life.
I feel like if you have a problem with your SO liking photos and/or leaving comments, that's just a sign of insecurity/a shitty past. If you fully trust them, there shouldn't be a concern about something as pervasive as that
Do it. Ask her out. You are young, you need to practice. Even if you are shy, you still need a certain amount of comfort or confidence. You cannot get the experience if you don't do the work. But it's also hard to say, not knowing your exact situation. If you can have a casual conversation in a school setting, that is already a plus. If you have had almost no interaction with this person beyond "hi," than your job is a lot harder. There has to be a certain amount of rapport and familiarity with you. She has to be comfortable with you. Which means you have to be comfortable with yourself first. If she at least laughs and smiles around you, that's a positive sign that it is possible to escalate the interaction to a coffee, tea, or dessert date, etc (it's helpful to know what she likes. Maybe she likes Spanish churros dipped with sipping chocolate or gelato). And the key to being comfortable is to not have any expectations, or attachments to the outcome. Attachment is the vibe of neediness and fear. The most desirable, attractive people are not needy, nor weak. Have fun, whether you are compatible or not. Just remember, as you get older, you're going to meet more and more women. Work on yourself, improve yourself, get more experience. There will be a point where you don't have to chase dates, you will attract it. Effortlessly. It will just happen, as you mature into a person that people find fun and safe to be around. Then you'll have to choose between 5 different girls. But it starts with the first step. It starts with gaining experience.
