Pico bad take, personalities are shaped by the world’s reaction to us. If she looked different , she’d be treated different and hence would BE different.
@@commonpeace5595 This is true, but not the point of the question. The point of asking yourself that is to make sure you're not trying to become someone's friend simply because they look good.
Karan Chopra incorrect, I accurately pointed out a flaw in his reasoning. Attractiveness often comes with confidence in women, and also trustworthiness. Ugly women develop coping mechanisms that make them unlikeable and spinsteresque (look at women in political positions). This oversimplistic isolated view of attractiveness and personality betrays a lack of experience of dealing with good looking women.
Just realised my dog is a girl and so I'll be putting her up for adoption tomorrow morning. Sorry but if she isn't ready to settle down and start a family then what value does our friendship have? Unfortunately for her.. None anymore...
This "boys only"/"girls only" segregation is what drives a wedge between us. Some cultures are very severe in enforcing these kinds of cyclical gender norms. Guys can get a lot more value out of interacting with women than mere basic carnal satisfaction. For example, the exchange of ideas, knowledge, experience and opinions on different topics. There's more to being human than procreation!
This is so incorrect in so many ways lmao ....guys and girls can be friends because *suspenseful pause* WE’RE ALL HUMANS and women offer more than just sex, that’s very problematic thinking fr
Friends are aquired naturally tho, the fact that a guy is so nervous about approaching a girl he follows online says more than enough. Nobody goes around and follows people on the net checking out all their stuff, hoping that thry can become friends one day... they are following them cuz they are in some way attracted to them. It would be dishonest of him to himself to make him believe he only wants to befriend the girl, when clearly his actions says otherwise. Never in my life have I heard of people, outside of people with social/personslity disorders, seeking out people to befriend. It happens naturally, friends are aquired through interactions. He can surely become this girls friend in the future, but to lie to himself that this is all he wants, now that is dishonest.
Lol. What more do women offer other than sex on the front end? You gals suck at having a personality and I've talked to many women professionals. At the end of thw day, the reason so much women are single is because they don't know how tk keep a man. Don't get me wrong, I love women but trying to make women to be as exactly the same as the bros is not true.
@@piisirrational1758 it was a joke. If you watch the video you would understand thst I am poking fun at the fact that he think you can only talk to a girl if you want to fuck them.
Think you're just 'friends' with a girl ?? Ask yourself this question, will I feel jealous to know that girl is sleeping with someone else and not me ? If your honest answer is no, congrats you're just friends, if yes, then you're not just 'friends' with her.
Ehh you're definitely 80% right though. I'd be down to sleep with one or two of my friends but I also know in the back of my mind that I would never see myself dating them. That's why I would rather just stay friends than potentially ruin our friendship with sex.
@@GiggleGrass Well bro the way I see it, a friend means just a friend, be it a guy or a girl to me. You can't sleep with your guy 'friends' right ? If you're sleeping with a 'friend' then it's much more than just friendship, it's called 'friends with benefits'.
@@rodricdcruze4853 but if you're attracted to them and aren't sleeping with them then they are just friends. I think it's fine to be attracted to some of your friends and even feel a bit jealous, as long as u aren't overwhelmed by the feeling (and don't act toxic) and value the friendship.
The guy who this advice is aimed at, the guy who dishonestly “befriends” women, is not in a position to vet for a wife. Complete disconnection from women in combination with individual development is needed first.
@Craig Okay, why do you have to vet women to be wives, why can't they just be a person? Also, how do you expect to get know a woman at all if you're not friends first? Isn't a wife also supposed to be your friend, or is a wife only seen as your property and nothing else?
Lmaoooooo just because they don’t show interest doesn’t mean they don’t think you’re pretty etc 100% I promise you if you asked any of them to fuck they’re gonna say yes Elliott is right
Yall drive me nuts. Why do you think he is nervous to the point of awkwardly trying to figure out whether to fkn say hi or not? Are you that nervous when getting to know a friend of the same gender as you? Maybe there really is more to his inventions than just wanting to play chess and checkers together
Eliot is right about everything be said. If you have a female friend the only reason she is your friend is because one of you was attracted to the other or both but no moves were made
"How do I get the guts to say hi to a girl that I just saw in person that I've been following online?" *Say hi to her* Get out of your head and into your life.
Bro if you don’t think men and women should be friends you’re missing out. We’re all souls out here, gender is transient. There’s a lot cool beings out here who are feminine. You don’t need to hook up with all of them. Female friends ftw 🙌❤️
As an adult male I really don’t see the point in making female friends. Why would i build a connection and attraction with a woman just for us to end up barely talking or not talking at all once we find some one we want to date? Like what more would a female friend add to my life that I wouldn’t already have with the family and friends i already have? The only thing they could add is intimate love and affection for me. This isn’t knocking people who are opposite sex friends. if you can make that work, do that but for me, that just wouldn’t work.
You’re a smart man. I stubbornly held onto the notion of “female friends” ended up realizing they were all in for a benefit one way or another and most not even consciously realizing it. I just cut off all my “female friends”. Truthfully I wish I knew this sooner as it was a waste of time and uneeded drama, and they in turn, wasted my time. The only female friend I will have is the one who will lose sleep over my well-being and that would be my future wife.
Okay, I'm a man. I have nothing in common with women unless we're dating or want to get into a relationship. I try to be cordial and respectful towards women because they would cry rape or sexually harassment if you're to friendly with them.
I have ONE female friend and she’s a lesbian who used to be my roommate. I think that’s the only “exception” where a man and a woman can be “just friends”
Sex transmutation goes a long way. Not only do you stay away from releasing your energy through meaningless sex but you make big sacrifices on a daily basis to become the strongest you.
So many uptight people on here who are offended by everything he said. He made a lot of great points about the impossibility of men and women being just friends. It's true because that sexual and romantic feeling for that will come around, and it'll make things awkward if the other doesn't feel the same way. This is when it comes to straight people of course. I used to try to be just friends with women when I was single in the past, but it never works out in the long term. So I eventually stop being just friends with women all together. I'm always willing to be "friendly" with women whenever I interact with them, but that's it. Real men don't waste time with women who doesn't want what they want. If there's no win-win situation, it's best to walk away forever. Steve Harvey knows that too.
“Men and women are not meant to be friends” That’s a dangerous, and materialistic statement. I am not above it, I have fallen into this paradigm over and over again, and probably will again in the future. But to say men and women cannot just be friends is like saying there is no transcendence in life, we are all victim of our carnal desires and materialistic nature. There are people who have transcended this and can restrain their human nature enough to befriend the opposite sex. Unfortunately, it’s not common these days.
Men who find a woman attractive can not just be friends with her! It is in our nature to want sex with a beautiful woman. Soo being "just friends" would cause lots of tension!
That men and women are not meant to be friends doesn't mean that you can't be above materialism and hedonism. You can be friends with a woman and not want her sexually, but it will always be better to be friends with a man. Just analyze your relationships. See what happens when you introduce one woman in a group of men; you can no longer talk about how you want to restore the order by reviving the roman empire and conquer the world.
you see but as you say, by having to restrain your human nature to achieve friendship with a women, is not to follow your own nature, and in my opinion, to go against nature is not beneficial to your life. I think you can be partners with a woman which might seem similar to friendship in some ways but not friends. partners in the sense that you support each other.
@@vasquinhodoceu Bingo. Why would I go against my nature to befriend a woman? It doesn't benefit me at all, and I'm mostly concerned with what benefits me, socially speaking, because that's what allows me to work towards making the world a better place... now, if it's a woman I am absolutely not sexually attracted to, then sure, we can be acquaintances. Call that 'friends' if you want but. Yeah.
to the mad defensive people in comments, this guy is speaking in Generic terms, your situation might be an exception.There are actual studies and surveys that show most friendships with men and women involve someone having an attraction/feelings to the other. ALL of my experiences with guys : from high school,to college, to work proved to me that I cannot be "just friends" with straight men. They ALWAYS prove to have a hidden agenda of wanting sex or romance. When i made it clear "friends only" every single guy magically disappeared 💁🏻♀️.
Oh yeah so saying "we only want you for sex and not because we care about you" is ok? I get what you're saying, that men and women are bound to have feelings for each other, but that doesn't really explain how he terms it. He says it in a way that kind of indicates that women are just some sort of tool and that men don't really care about women, just that they want them for their own desires. This mindset is extremely outdated especially in this time and age to think women's only purpose is that. I hope this cleared how i saw it and why i don't really agree w u
@@LaLa-ig5jf most of the time it's infatuation to be the hero in that woman's life. Yes I'm guilty of that but once you actually look at the woman's character trust me you'll find out you wasn't compatible for her besides liking how she looks. Most men's crushes are usually very beautiful women with some type of self esteem issue or they very petty. Trust me that song beauty is only skin deep will make sense the older you get. Trust me if you actually spent time with that girl around her friends, you will see that attraction will fade off after 6 months. It's an infatuation problem. Women do it too by catching feelings for a very attractive guy off of conversation when the guy is just being friendly. Flirting itself should only be exclusive for serious committed couples unless your friends with benefits. Flirting can make friendships very confusing.
By his logic, people that are bisexual can't be friends. I'm a straight man, and i have had lots of platonic female friends over the years that i didn't do anything to, because they are human beings too, Elliot is starting to pander towards Incels
There's a reason why men with a lot of female friends never have a GF. 1) They adapt behaviors and traits from women that make them be seen as "just a friend". 2) They're announcing that other women don't want them sexually and women want men who other women want. 3) Anytime a female friend has to introduce that guy to one of her single friends it shows that he isn't confident enough to do it himself.
@@Kole1389 Ok, so in that case, were a straight man and a straight woman. I'm man, cause I protec, and liek girls. And hes a whaman, cause likes flowers and staying home- So why dont we just constantly wanna frick? Oh yeah, cause that logic makes zero sense my guy.
@@homie_stok You can be lesbian and still be feminine. Eliott is taking it too far here, but it is hard for a traditional male and female to be friends in a conventional sense.
I don't really agree with the idea that men and women can't be friends. I think it's definitely not a good idea to try to be friends with a woman that you are attracted to as it's not honest with her or yourself in terms of what you want. But I've known plenty of women who I've been friends with that I'm not really interested in a romantic relationship with or a sexual relationship. In that respect, they are very much able to be a friend because I don't see them in a way that facilitates anything else
@@stephaniehavoksen1761 It sounds like he's just addressing the perspective of the guy who initially wrote him the question. Not just giving a broad catch all answer that applies to everyone. And the guy who asked clearly likes the female he's following but is taking a passive approach instead of just handling his emotions honestly.
You misunderstood him. And first of all, if this guy asking a question STRICTLY wanted to be friends with her then he wouldn't be asking this question. He'd just talk to her as a friend and see if she's amiable to pursuing a friendship. Bruh, I can talk to ANY woman, no matter how sexy, without flinching IF all my intentions stop at friendship. The problem is, if you qualify as sexy to me then I DEFINITELY don't want you to be my friend.
And when you're not interested in a woman sexually you get to see how a lot of them are just boring as ppl, especially the beautiful ones, because they don't have to be entertaining to get attention like guys do. So if I'm not interested in you sexually then 9/10 I'll just go hang out with my boys. Not you lol. A lot females think they have "male friends" who are really just lurking and waiting for an opportunity.
as a woman- no one wants to marry you if you listen to elliots advice. what is wrong with this man!? its actually disturbing that this video has 6 thousand likes
my best friend who’s male saw this video and now he’s blocked me :( and we’re not friends any more :( 10 years of friendship down the drain :( sike. he’s my bestie and a better man than you’ll ever be.
I find that friendships with women can be complicated. It IS possible, but then romantic feelings or attraction can hinder it from being a truly great friendship. I'll either be suspicious of ulterior motives (from both sides) and/or be avoiding temptation. Being friends with a woman because of shared hobbies or work is a little bit easier to define. anything outside said hobby or work is overstepping boundaries. But for me that's not as deep of a friendship as with my bestfriend, who is a man. I can literally tell him all my insecurities, fears, and hurts and he builds me up and encourages me through rough times. I do the same for him. But if I do this with a woman... I am guaranteed to catch feelings and start complicating the friendship. Sexual attraction is so powerful, that even the smallest, tiniest bit of it can confuse camaraderie with romantic feelings.
Elliot , as a woman who has followed you for years, I must say that I am hurt by the message in your recent videos. You don’t seem to realise that women go through their own trials and tribulations. Women are so much more than wives. Do you think that if a woman isn’t married, she isn’t worth knowing? How would you know about the pain, and challenges she may have faced in her life. I have male friends, completely platonic relationships. These friends have nothing to do with sex . Not all men are driven by sex. Some enjoy platonic friendship with men and women. I would never in a million years talk about men in the way you have done for women. I am so surprised that this is how far into the darkness you have fallen. When you used to be so inspirational for for both men and women.
Yo, don't get hurt. He speaks from the guy's pov when he thinks about "being friends" with the girl, since its obvious that he likes her in a different way. It doesn't count for all women neither for all cases.
@@Obi_Omah I think you should take a seat and really think throught all the nonsense this guy has been feeding you and re-evaluate your values. cuz I really think you got brainwashed.
"Oh but not everything is sex or marriage when it comes to women , Elliott. That was not the point of the question" So why the guy was SPECIFICALLY nervous about talking to a girl online? He sure didnt have any trouble asking Elliott, neither put on his question that "I also struggle with making friends online"
@@lordfartquaad9491 yeah, using Elliot's words, you can (and most people probably will) have outcome dependence even if you just want to be friends with someone.
@@lordfartquaad9491 I'm not seeing the connection with my comment, but I agree with that. My other comment was agreeing with you too, that making friends (regardless of gender) is scary too.
@@lordfartquaad9491my bad I can see how what I said isn't super clear. I meant that if you're trying to make a friend, unless you're super confident you might still feel a bit of anxiety (or in my case a lot lol) because they might not reciprocate that feeling of wanting to be your friend. In other words you can be outcome dependent, where the outcome is them liking you (in a platonic way).
My wife is my best and only friend, and she is the only woman I care to be friends with. Elliott, you become more wise as time elapses. Keep preaching bro
So, I am the only mf here that has female friends? & y'all wonder why ya can't talk to girls. How you going to talk to your crush, if you can't even have a female friend.
The only woman i've successfully built a friendship with is a lesbian. She's got the same good sense of humor like myself and she brings no drama. Yes, this is rare.
I think being attracted to someone doesn't mean you can't be friends. However if you're only talking to someone because you're attracted to them and they think you're a friend then you're not a real friend and you're manipulating them.
Totally agree with this Elliot. A few points to add: - In any male-female one-on-one friendship situation, someone is getting friendzoned (mostly the guy). - There's a limited amount of feminine energy that a man can deal with on a regular basis. If you're a man that high on compassion, tolerance and patience, you might as well use those on perfecting your interactions with the most important existing women in your lives - i.e. your mother, sister, wife, daughter etc. - In these times of pornopgrphy and promiscuity, you can never be too careful about male-female interactions. - For a man, whatever a male friend can provide you (in terms of company, life advice, sports, activities etc) it's gonna be much more fulfilling than it would be from a woman plus there'd be lwss sexual tension of any sort. Same applies to women who are better off with female friends. - if you've found a woman who is your true "friend", she's a prospective life partner. If not, this can complicate issues when you're married to someone else as having a female friend who is a better friend of yours than your wife is a recipe for disaster for obvious reasons. Same applies to the opposite scenario - wife having male best friend.
@@manny2493 and 95% of the time it is UNNECESSARY POINTLESS talk. man i can't even begin to count pointless arguments i had to go through with women when i was a teen. you just have to walk away when they try emotional bullshit. don't try to be friends with a woman they are only gonna bring you down in any possible way it may be honor, time, money whatever it is, not worth being friends with a woman.
@@Ainttrippin eh women say the same stuff about men from their side and still end up sleeping with them. He can have his opinion about women, that's his life. I dont think it's the best outlook but I also wouldnt call someone an incel over that.
Lmao seeking a wife with women that come from broken homes with horrible divorce stats what a horrible advice there is no “ wife material” and even if there is it’s looking for hay in a needle stack not to mention a idealized “ wife material woman “ won’t give you the time of day when your in your mid to early 20’s you gonna end up being a 40 YO Virgin by the time you be good enough to atract these women because quality women look for quality men the idea of marrying just to have sex Is just horrible in the west
Nah man, I respectfully disagree. I friend zone women all the time. Attractive ones as well. It helps you loose that anxiety of approaching women. I’m pretty sure this guy wasn’t looking for a wife when he asked the question. He sounds like a kid, most likely loosing that nervousness. This red pill that your pushing is not right. I’ll stick to AMS advice for that when it comes to women. Everything else you cool man.
Men and women are not as diffferant as you think. Most things you say about them depends on personallity, not gender. If a man is a "girly guy" as you say what's so wrong with that? You clearly give negitive connotations to women, you also say that they need to be protected by men, you act like just because they are a diffferant gender, they don't have problems, and they can't be as strong as a man. You say men should be strong and not be reliant on women, yet, in your other video you say you still need there adoration and praise, to not feel rejected, it seems you need women to respect you, yet you can't agree that women need to be respected in the same way. I really can't understand how you don't get that not all women are the exact same, just like men aren't, because , again this relies on personality. Some women would be fine being a stay at home mum, and some women want to work the jobs you say men should have, it's not a big deal. You act as tho the weakened divide between male and female is a bad thing, when really it's not. Not all guys just want sex from women, you blew things way out of proportion in the video, he was just asking about talking to a woman, and you're here talking about getting married. My advice to him would be to just do it, that there's no need to worry. If you want to be friends then do. I hope you look more into the issues you discuss and open you're mind a bit more before influencing other's decisions this way, who knows maybe you'll realise the reality of the harsh insolence you display to women.
Fact is - guys who are womens 'friends' have a low opinion of themselves and hang around the woman in 'hope' it will become something more.... Women use guys who have interest in them for 'resource' if she thinks he can offer her something she currently doesnt have but isn't high enough on her attraction of immediate interest to put him in a usability area 'I'll keep him around' People who fall outside of this group are either gay, in denial or work associated. There is NO 'IN THE MIDDLE' you either act or respond. Stand up or sit down. Be defined or be used. Kindness is a truly wonderful thing and compassion is life changing - just remember your goals and ask yourself is this person walking with me or am I being walked over. Deny it's TRUE? Go attempt to be 'a friend' to a woman who isnt in need. She will show no interest. So when she says 'he's just a friend' remember the reality. He is offering her something that is why she keeps him around. And unless he is gay he is undeniably there for one reason and one reason only. The lion killed all of the other lions offspring including the other lion. Why? Because it eliminated all other aspects of danger in its immediate surroundings. As people we cant behave that way but we can learn a few valuable lessons.... Accept only what you are asking for and walk away from anything less. Do not waste your time supporting a woman who sleeps in another mans bed or spins her tale of why he's a friend. Your real woman your true life partner will not play games she wants a lion not a supporting role. Stay safe guys and look after yourselves 🙏 P.s remember it's a definite intention an internal attitude a belief not a physical thing. The physical world changes as a result of the internal beliefs that are reaffirmed over and over.... Ultimately it means know what you want and accept nothing less 👍
You know... I get this. I get this a lot. And I'm sure he's not saying to be unfriendly towards women. It's just not to bullshit yourself with that intention to "befriend" them. I grew up kind of rejecting masculinity to some extent, I found it easier to develop friendships with women. But, it never felt right. The few friendships I had with other guys felt like it was easier to bond, because we had that masculine understanding of each other. With women... it's like... what do we bond over? The past few days I've been really beginning to wrap my head around what true masculinity is all about, and Elliot's more recent videos have been a big part of that. Thank you sir. I'm feeling ready to take the next steps in this journey now.
The only time I had friends that were girls was in middle school. When I got older I just couldnt be friends with them cause they ruined the friendship. There were many girls I met online while gaming and I enjoyed their company but they had to start acting weird. Flirting then distancing themselves from me. I had girl do that to me. She flirted with me and hell I did the same but then they changed up and stop talking to me for days. Most girls just dont know how to behave and no matter what happens its always always gonna be the mans fault. Shes gonna go on twitter or whatever and put a post about how all men are immature and trash on you and then she'll act like she wasnt talking about you.
I’m sorry but he needs to get his anger under control, men can’t be emotionally lashing out in public i don’t care about his disability, I sympathize as I’ve dealt with mental health problems but there is no way that is okay, in a societal sense. Basically you’re saying you berated men for acting the same way as he did, the only difference is there isn’t a label for the men you lashed out at
@@casinoblues2450 okay what is wrong with you, have you ever heard of mental disorders? Your message has the same energy as "haha oh no you have depression just get over it"
@@casinoblues2450 They didn't "act the same way as he did". They were berading, antagonizing, bullying and talking about him behind his back. He had anger issues, but he'd usually just walk away, jackass 🤩🔫
humans are not monogmous idiot, listen to the ratinoal male (rollo tomasi), richard cooper, cobra tate, geofery miller etc etc, mongomy is good for the 80% of men who cant get many women though
This is not truth, this is completely insane, Elliot really is a chauvinist. I have plenty of women who are just friends, there is nothing wrong with it and it definitely is not always about sex. This legit makes me sick
@@certifiedg7927 That people cant be friends with the opposite gender? Cuz people can. You dont need to get into a relationship after being friends with someone so he isnt saying any kind of truth.
@@jariyahhh the lady has to be unattractive to guy friend or the guy friend has to be gay.... That's how it works. This is like basic knowledge for most guys
I've been married for 10 years and dont have any female friends and if wemon seems interested in me I tell them I'm happily married quick same goes for my wife. People are only nice when you have access to what they need or can use.
Exactly, they're interested in your utility. It could be anything from your social utility (building a bigger "network"), monetary gain, a confidence boost, or even trying to wrest you away from your significant other. I'm glad somebody else gets it.
Exactly. One of the biggest lessons I've learned in life - trust no one! I can't even really trust my own blood family. The only person I would trust would be a childhood friend. But even that I don't have.
Absolutely guys! Same is for one self,at least speaking for me...its not that I'm unfriendly,but I'm only friendly/ " trying to be friends" or whatever, FOR A REASON...again, not an agenda,just a reason...
@Blue Thoughts Lmao, thank you for this riveting comment. I shall change my ways and be straight for now on. Fr tho I've heard this so many time, not always directing at me either.
@Blue Thoughts Oh oh I thought you were joking . 1. Yes that happens, not as much as you think but it dose. That doesn't mean lesbian don't exist. Just cuz the people you know did that dosen't mean everyone, everywhere is going to be same. 2. Annnnd...? Being bi is just as valid. Even if I marry a man (which I doubt) I know for a fact I like women. 3. Phase? Seriously? Look man, just cuz I'm a bit younger (of which you don't know my age, so you assuming I'm young and calling me "honey" is patronizing) dosen't mean I'm naive, or don't know the basic things about myself. 4. Going back to the whole patronizing thing. Would you said this to a gay guy? I'm gonna to said no (but feel free to correct me). So sexist and homophobic. Pls free feel to correct me! (Sorry if It feel like I when it bit hard, but actually I want to here your response. I'm curious about your answer)
So what you’re saying is that men only become friends with women for sex, which is not always true. Sure some people do have other objectives, but most people don’t. Blanket statements like this can be harmful. Also, what it seems to me as though you have the misconception that all men are straight. That being said, what if a gay dude was trying to make friends with another man. That doesn’t mean that he’s attracted to the other person, they may just be interesting. Also it kinda sounds like you’re referring to yourself this whole video..
I gotta disagree...I was friends with my girlfriend for 3 months. I had no expectations. We gradually grew on eachother. The attraction was always there, but not strong until we became more emotionally attached. I would throw out hints during conversations like “we would make a good couple”, and it would stick to her subconscious. I showed her true loyalty and commitment that none of her other male friends did. And now I am crowned her lover. It’s possible guys. I was just lucky because she’s intelligent enough to desire a man that’s good for her and not one she needs to fix. I guess for me, it was a mix of luck, laws of attraction and consistency. And now I’m happily in a relationship with the most beautiful girl I’ve ever met.
As a Muslim teen I do/apply this automatically as this is in our Islamic teachings But Western people don't understand this,, my friends even think that I'm gay cz I don't approach girls. I was starting to feel my beliefs are fading away and I'm coming out of my roots But thank to you Elliott sensei💛 I feel much better now knowing that great people like you have the same beliefs ( for some degree)
Idk about no women as friends in general, you WILL feel sexual attraction to female friends, but you can restrict your sexuality. They can also be quite benificial, because a) they are better wingmen than your buddies will ever be and b) they can give you good real-life insight into the mind of a women without anything "at stake". When you are in a relationship/marriage that is out of bounds obviously.
I agree except with B. A woman will NOT give you good insight on how they think. They don't even know what they want themselves. Think about it. If a woman's advice on getting girls actually worked millions of dudes would not still be virgins. But yes, they're awesome wingmen.
@@KingBowserVlog she will not give it to you in the sense of explicitly telling it you, but you can watch her behaviour moreobjectively and not clouded by you trying to get in her pants. also she will talk more freely with you, talking more freely about earlier relationships and so on. You can get good insight into the behaviours of women this way
Just tell her hi. We are just like you, we are NOT sex objects. We will gladly be friends with boys but if you disrespect us and you act like this guy, then you can get out and re think about what went wrong in your life. We have emotions. We have hobby’s. We have lives.
Don't listen to people like him, i'm a man and i have had lots of platonic female friends, not every guy wants to have sex, i hate this stereotype so much that guys only want sex, sometimes i want to get to know you as a person
@@NFSMAN50 you're not straight or masculine to be having female friends. You need to lower your gaze from women who aren't your wife or family members. I guarantee you if a woman put you in the friendzone, she doesn't respect you, you are easily fooled.
Love these vids, brother. It's been great seeing you move honestly through the seasons of your life and it's great to see that warrior spirit producing these straightforward videos again.
I remember I had a lot of friends, who were girls. I was friends with them because they were fun to be around. I may now be around mostly boys, but my reasoning for befriending them is still because their fun to hang around. I can care less about what gender they're, I only care if they're a good person and fun to hang out with.
I think you can be friends with a female. If you enter dialogue it could go in many different directions, and doesn't ultimately have to be sexual. Yes sex drive plays part in our lives, but you can honestly control that, and stop viewing women as a means to an end for your sexual desires. Feed your minds, and your spirits, not your bodily, sexual desires. Mind to mind, see who they are, what you are, and if positive connections are made, you have a good friend. Eventually you have to realise how your body tries to influence your mind and you have to control that shit. Imagine people were just a mind, a floating cloud of consciousness that can communicate, no sexual attachment. Its extreme , but it can be like that. You have to think beyond the body sometimes, and see people for their mind, and even how you respond to people's minds. Share with others the gift of communication.
I appreciate your take on this but it is deeply ingrained in us heterosexual men to want to populate the earth with the woman we see most fit(attracted to) soo thats why we can't be just friends it goes against nature. You can be buisiness partners. But just to be hanging out for the hell of it will lead to jealousy, frustration, or eventually sex!
This has to be a woman typing this fairy tale bullshit to friend zone more dudes into giving her attention. No man would ever just ramble on about nothing like this and try to take sex out of a human being like that
😕 I feel bad.. there are guys that I wanna be just friends with. They fall for me and I have to push them away. I WISH men would get to know me. Most men stop at my exterior and never get to meet the best parts of me.
What about my comment made you feel so insecure that you decided to call me promiscuous?? I have zero desire to have sex unless I am in a relationship and there is a deep connection. I dont have fuck buddies or casual sex. If I was promiscuous why would I push them away?? Better question, why would i bother to answer you?? If you can't find a lady maybe its because you dont act like a gentleman. Your comment was very revealing. Don't forget people can follow your comments to other videos and see you're a douche. Why so angry??
but being friends with her means you're not just doing it for the ass? Being friends means exactly what you're saying; long term vision and supporting each other.
You have been on fire recently dude. Been going through a situation and hearing this really added clarity to my life. Sometimes we know something but we let it go into unconsciousness. As long as it stays there it steals our conscious confidence because we feel weak not allowing it to become conscious in our life as something we live according to. I still let some stuff slip in my life and allowed a mindset to creep in that this simple answer just straightened out. Thanks a lot man.
Im being friends with my ex. She ditched me about 4 weeks ago just before covid19 hit. And now she wants me back... She knows now that Im not dependant on her. However I realise that this 'friendship' is gonna go away as soon as she gets that I have no intention of taking her back.
i would say don't seek anything outside yourself! elevate yourself first to a pure state of consciousness and from that platform you can make friends with anyone, men or women, if their soul enhance your life. Even if there is a physical attraction, if you are pure in heart and truthful to yourself, that will not stand on the way of your friendship. also it is important to understand what friendship means to you? why do you want this person to be your friend? friend is far beyong physical condition, it is the quality of the soul,beyong conditions and boundaries. honour and respect, first of all towards yourself and then towards the friend, who you value because of the character and the reasons why you cherish him or her as a friend. Friend is a sacred person that you are willing to not just see as an object but a blessing and teacher to whom you willingly opened the door and let in to your life. I have mail friends in my life who i greatly respect , admire and honour. Purity of intention overcome any physical attraction and you elevate to a standart of excellency in your human expression. In this way i have gained lifetime dedicated friendships. Honer yourself first with purity of heart❤️ and then see equals. mind is deceiving, only trust your heart. love you bro!
Emotionally investing in a female who doesn't want you is just gonna leave you frustrated and bitter when she finds some other guy to be with .... trust
@@randomcat1962 Yes little boys and girls can certainly be friends as in kindergarten. But at a certain point, say 18 years and up the expectations of the sexes no longer are congruent with each other.
