I would rather be weird than normal. If someone is weird, they're willing to be themselves around others. Normal people don't stand out and they're all uniform. Weirdos like me stand out and are unique and beautiful!
My question is: what is normal? I like to be myself and if that’s abnormal to social standards well too bad. Embrace your “abnormality” people. Love who you really are.
People do sometimes try to be normal to fit in, not to be criticised, not to feel rejected. When we grow we finally learn to be our regular self. This process may sometimes take years but I feel it’s worth it.
Thank you for this Julia! Sometimes i bash myself for being odd and weird and not normal and mainstream like the rest of society. My hobbies and interests have been different from a lot of people my age, I was into cars, planes, trains, architecture, geography, world topics, asmr, abscract art, books, social topics, mental health, and creativity, when other people my age were into sports, partying, mainstream stuff, i always felt like I had to adjust myself to fit with mainstream topics, but I hate mainstream topics. I never try to think that i'm better than others or superior to everyone else for my interests. Weird people and outsiders make society great. We wouldn't have people like Billie Ellish, Einstein, Bill Gates, Madonna, Edgar Allen Poe who are creative and unique. It's great to be different than the rest. People loved me for my oddness, quirkiness and open-mindedness to things and people.
Well Articulated and very true.If we live for peoples approval we will also live in fear of their disapproval.-Let go of self-punishment,you dictate the terms and your real friends will gravitate towards you..Its not what other people say it’s what you whisper to yourself that matters peace
I used to enjoy being weird, I embraced it, and even surrounded myself with a few weird but genuine good people, but somehow now, with anxiety and overthinking issues, and because of the fact that I'm stuck at home, jobless for a year and half with the pandemic going on, I suddenly find myself struggling with a lot of stuff, and one of them is obsessing over what's normal or not. So it never ceases to amaze me how most of your videos are exactly what I needed to hear and wanted to affirm from someone. Thank you Ms. Julia. If I ever land a job soon, I hope to join your Shift Society, or who knows, maybe I won't need to. I just want to be able to smile again. :)
Everyone has self doubt.... very, very true.... even people who don't appear to have self doubt. There has never been a human being who walked on this earth who didn't grapple with self doubt at times in their life. It's part of the human condition.
Imperfection is beauty,madness is genius sometimes,i’d rather be ridiculous than boring,rather try do something remarkable than never try..This is your LIFE Don’t play it small,find a compelling future,its not what other people say that matters its what you whisper to yourself- Life is the dance between what we fear most and what we desire 😉 Great post very valuable advice much love😊
I never believe all of my thoughts, in fact quite the contrary. I'm way past that thank goodness... you know it's funny even though I know all that stuff about overthinking and getting stressed out. I sure was doing that yesterday really bad. What's going on with this Delta variant and the vaccines has got me Beyond upset.😞
This is a great video! It's helpful to know the things I think and do are what everyone else thinks and does too. I'm not a weirdo, I'm just normal. I don't want to be like everyone else. Screw normal! I want to be healthy : )
well said-Screw what everyone else thinks ,you can go to the next level,You are enough ,don’t follow the herd Or you will end up at the slaughterhouse!! peace
You say to those who watch you, prove your presence or say hello, and I tell you that I am not only following you, but I am chasing you and looking for you almost every day, and the strange thing is that every video you publish is like a sign or message, as if you are talking to me alone! Just like this perfectly resent one ♥.. Your work is absolutely unique, lovable and courageous💃💌🌷..
There's"normal" and "normalcy". Normal is a place we set in our minds eye that we go to. Normalcy is a state of mind in which we maintain. *Key note: Normalcy is the the transition point Into integration of values and routine.
I know. I've been working on this for a long time. (Gross understatement, much longer than you have been alive) I'm behind you, but I know where you're going. I'm going to figure this out anytime now. I've been thinking about it since candy bars cost a nickel. Anytime now I just know it.
Hi Julia. Thanks for your helpful videos. I tried to receive your 10 minutes mindfulness by email but I got this message : This message has not been downloaded from the server. Please check it if it’s right.
You're speaking of two kinds of "normal". Abnormal is normal = The average world view or lifestyle. Normal is abnormal = A healthy world view or lifestyle.
I have spent half my life feeling like I am never going to be an adult? Because I am a big kid at heart 🤪? I love it now! I think it actually draws people to me and makes them feel young at heart too🥳🥸
I never wanted to be normal. When I finally started to love myself and to embrace my abnormality - I've opened up completely as a person and people started to like me more. Magic! :)
Julia , I Must say you are a fabulous communicator with very deep insight into the human condition. Mindful meditation , Walking twice a day , Yoga , Pilates , clean eating , avoiding negativity and gravitating to positive thoughts , self compassion , has changed me to a very very abnormal Thankful, grateful, better person.Thank you for what you are doing to help/guide people help themselves !!!!!
Thank you , julia kristina. You did it again. Love your english style/expressions. You are, an educational experience, to me. Please, smile more often on your channel. Your smile.
I saw a quote “people need to be comfortable with being uncomfortable” sometimes it’s uncomfortable to be normal but then you figure out who loves to be around you and vice versa.
I'm an over thinker and was to be that way by my mother as she was that way. With her having passed away 2 years ago and I am living my own life I'm finding the way she taught me is getting in the way of my relationships.
I really do not like that word "Normal"! It's been used as a weapon against me so many times. Doctors use it to dismiss me and the things I deal with regularly. People tell me I need to try to be more normal to fit into their own anxieties. One of my favorite sayings is: "Why in the hell would I want to be normal"? Normal people suck. And "nobody ever accused me of being normal". Accept the Medical doctors, of course.
Excellent... I grew up in an environment that was pretty homogenous and uniqueness was kind of viewed as a threat... I am unique! Now I live in an environment where uniqueness is viewed as an asset.. it is much healthier and I am still unique! =)
I encourage everyone to share thier thoughts on this, its key in recovery from past harming patteren, addiction or otherwise. Often we feel shame, we isolate and its spins out of control. Strength in numbers when trying to figure out and accept ourselves.
Yes well Articulated,,Hapiness is a inside job. When you don't judge yourself Or downgrade what makes you happy then other people who judge you doesn't matter as much..!! peace😉to you
Wow! I'm practically stunned. You have now left me asking myself a very important question. Is that the best video on these types of subjects that I have ever seen in my entire life? You know out of the 10 billion videos like this that I have watched from other people, 99.999% of the time I don't agree with something somehow. That video left me with nothing to whine about at all. Bravo!😁
You know actually what I'm worried about at this point is that I don't care what people think anymore. Or maybe that's progress? But I really would have to say that I think that's a fine line. If you stop caring too much pretty soon you don't care about your appearance or whether your house is dirty or pretty much anything anymore. Oh okay you said not to do that. Thank you. Sorry I'm commenting as I'm watching.
You know I watched this a few days ago and loved it. And I'm watching it again right now, I don't know what my problem is, but yesterday I did everything that this video told me not to do and it was a disaster. It's like I completely forgot everything I learned, but I recognize that I did it, so that has to be progress. I just don't get it? It's like it's impossible for me. I've been going around in this same Circle for almost 50 years.😞
I absolutely love this video, it’s so true I always thought I was the only one that did all of these things. As I have started to grow and increase my self awareness and vibe. With the help of many of your videos and a few other RU-vid creators. Now I am seeing so many people struggling with these things. Thank you creating these amazing videos they truly do help people like me!
Yes game changer & well articulated!!.Do you Remember who you were before the world told you who you should be.she is Still there- go after HER🙂. peace to you
I sqw a quote once that said, "Be Original, Dont Die A Copy!" I also have a tattoo that says, "Be Your Own Hero" we look up and idoloze all these celebrities who live unattainable lives for most people and we feel worse about ourselves when we compare ourselves to thise people. I try to base my view of whats a normal life on the fact Im 30 years old and I have my own place, I have a full time job, My bills are paid up to date, I have cloths on my back and food in my fridge. And because I have all these things Im normal and successful because thats what I saw my father doing when I was a kid. Be Your Own Here or else Youll Die A Copy of someone else!!!
Yes well said mate- No human ever became interesting by not failing. The more you fail and recover and improve, the better you are as a person. Ever meet someone who’s always had everything work out for them with zero struggle? They usually have the depth of a puddle. Or they don’t exist.” -
I'm not sure exactly what normal is LOL I just know that I have really never consider myself normal nor do I want you be 😁 Thank you Julia your the best 💓❤
Hi Julia Kristina. I generally love your videos and their contents, but I don't agree with what you're saying in this one on a couple of points. Not everyone worries about what others think of them, not everyone has self doubt. I've done a lot of work on myself over the years and came to realise that it's all fragile ego which is behind all of this nonsense. Once you raise above the ego and realise how superficial and delusional it is, you go deeper. So, I've done that and these days I don't care less about what others think of me, because as long as I have good intentions and treat others with respect, that's all that matters. I know I'm perfectly imperfect and that's enough. I'm happy, fulfilled and satisfied with my life. 💖 I just struggle with your generalisations here, a little bit. Not everyone feels/things the way you say they do.
Normality is a paved road It's comfortable to walk, but no flowers grow. -Vincent van Gogh I read this qoute recently and I really liked it and today I found this video so iam gonna take this as a sign to just start being comfortable showing who iam and what I like instead of just trying to fit in and, to stop trying to find a place to belong to and to trus myself more ✌💜😁
Your videos have really helped me a lot and I'm just so thankful that I came across them. Most days I struggle with how other people view me and this causes me to try to be 'normal', what this does is lower my self esteem because I'm only being a shell of myself. Now I know that I should always show up and show out!
Hi Coach!! I had struggled with self doubt and feeling abnormal for a long time. Thanks for helping overcome this! It takes a lot of work but it is worth it! #Shifter #SeniorShifter
