It's better to be alone than be with a man you have to provide for. The moment the roles reverse,the woman becomes masculine and the leader in the relationship which unfortunately causes her to start craving for care from her man. A woman is a helper and not the provider, she has to be in her femininity to be able to submit to her man. Once she becomes the provider in a relationship,she loses respect for her man and develops resentment for the man cos he is supposed to do the things she is doing for him. Ladies, anytime you get into a relationship where you shift from your role as a woman, run. You will build up a man who will cheat on you and spend on a woman he will be providing for cos he will be looking at you as a mother since you take care of him. In the long run he will also resent you cos you will be in the controlling seat and he will find a woman who will rub his ego to feel like a man. It's okay to be single and working hard for your future, you will meet a man who is on the same path.
I agree completely u spoke the truth....however, just remember that a man will pay for the woman he wants! A man that wants u will not let u do it....men make money to buy the woman they really want and that's just what I believe point blank!!!
Wow! Zulu on point👌. I started dating this guy we are same age 38 and it's been exactly 1 week, you'll be suprised I have been asked for data, airtime and lunch money🤦♀️. Mind you this guy works, I have already ended this nonsense. The disgrace we come across with 🤣
The only preacher who preaches freely and the word is deep While those who ask for mny in Churches are not telling the whole truth Please God keep for this man a place in heaven I humbly request you our creator
And more often than not, that poverty upon the person is spiritual, its a curse and even the help you give them they will lose it later. It will not benefit their lives at all or even if u marry them you will lose all you have because of joining yourself to that spiritual condition.
@@durbansaladyinaccra2173 woow! That's awesome but l quited that relationship coz it ws only stable wn l ws giving, but wn l stopped they started throwing words towards me,
This is the truth, I wish I had sent his ass back to his people sooner! Ruined my life and future being with this trash...and my momma said he was trash long ago 🤦🏽♀️ I wish I had listened!
Good point Benjamin a 24 year old has no business concerning themselves with a serious relationship! they should be focusing on developing their career. Well said
Plz ZULU be kind...some of us have bn the head of the house for over ten yrs...I got tired and left...I didn't care how long I bn there...today i look back and seriously don't regret anything...
I am sorry ladies but don't try to save someone. The ending is usually sad. They will cheat on you, leave you and show you madharau like you never saw.
Honestly!...am that girl that you were talking about!...am very good at giving but receives nothing at the end...I’ve lost a lot of money in the name of love...relationship ended and he promised to pay back...am still waiting...sadly,I have had friends and close family members trying to take advantage of me but now my eyes are so open and I look like the bad person since I don’t want to send money anymore....am done and done...let me build myself with my money...God see me through.
If you find a beggar just drop ur support and move on thats very true Zulu. I tried to support someone for years but thea was no improvement yr in year out. Until l could not help.
Cheiii, self interest rules the world, not Love, God have mercy. Zulu Zulu, how I wish every young lady out there can listen to you, the world would be a better place to live in. We have surely swallowed in alot of nonsense
Not everybody wants advice this is so true 😂😂😂. As painful as this is, this is so true. 😅😅😅😂😂😂😂😂 Sometimes we just waste our time trying to speak sense to people.
Woow!! Am. One of the victims of love, l ws romanced, scammed en dumped, but since Mr Zulu came in he has opened up my mind now am busy building myself am in Australia now working no relationship, thanks Zulu for ur wisdom 🙏
Sorry for that. but it's two way. Either a romantic broke guy who thinks about you and has all the time, or a busy stable guy who wont have time for you.
My name is Sandra I watch your program Benjamin Zulu is so true with everything he is saying where were you when I was younger when I was making decisions in my life I am 64 years old people are so mean
Guys if I am scared of something in a relationship is something like this cause they are untrustworthy and just see you pour yourself genuinely into nonsense
Benjamin zulu needs to come to tanzania; and see all these females above 25 embarassing the nation😩! Please do tours haha! Teach us. He’ll be shocked to see it’s not just pre 25s! Majority is the 25 year olds and above clowning.
I have a conman in my life. I spent the last 10 years of my life managing his businesses but now he says he doesn't know and recognize me. I saw the red flags and ignored and now paying for my foolishness. I want to leave for juba na hata sina fare, don't know where to start.
