Don't talk back to your Parents! - Nouman Ali Khan 

may Allah make us the best children ameen

yes! I'm muslim and I was talking back to my mother this morning may Allah teach me better then that

I really struggle when it comes being good to my mom sometimes it's really hard May God help me

I think at times God tests us when dealing with our parents. We can be good in all acts of worship but at times our parents annoy us and we talk back or behave sulkishly but the Quran tells us not to. Some people have really easy going parents but they are tested in other ways and some might find it easy to perform other acts of worship but might be tested with a parent not so easy going. May Allah grant us patience and humility when dealing with our parents and may He guide us to the path of those on whom He is happy with. Amen

ohhhh!!!!! whatever he said in his speech it really applies to me. I think iam the worst child...... insha allah i willlllllll change. Sure!!!!!!!!!!!!!

This is the hardest thing to follow may allah show us the right path

I hope some scolar would also explain about toxic parents. Who are abusive to their children and never show them atleast a little love.

I find it hard sometimes to treat them the best. But I really try hard to do it. Please make dua for me.

"Don't kill your kids because of bankruptcy." Boy, am I glad you mentioned that? I think that the value and high reverence of parents is clearly understood in the Quran. The reminder of how we need to treat parents should always be on the top of our minds before we speak our raw feelings out loud. Filter and think first before hurting their feelings or anyone else's. However, our Muslim speakers tend to take interpretations and translate the applications of the meanings to black and white. We need to go beyond this for addressing real world problems that is leaving a deep divide in many. I think in these days, these kind of speeches from our Muslim brothers do not go deep enough. These topics are covered VERY GENERAL and BROADLY. What about in-laws or marriage? What about if your parents insist or FORCE on you a lifestyle which you do not choose? Such as choice of a career, a suitor, or life goals that they have in mind for you although you have different aspirations or want to make your own choices? This is happening a lot! What about mental health? Some people may suffer from bipolar, depression and other psychological issues and this could apply to the parents or their children. Believe it or not, this occurs more often than one would think! For some parents, you DO do the best for them, but it is never good enough. The complaining or unattainable unrealistic cultural expectations from one parent or the other or both is never ending and exhausting. I have seen all these scenarios occur. Where parents do stifle the decision-making, self confidence, and other important developments of their children although they are full adults. There is a culture barrier from generation to generation and I agree that there should ALWAYS be a very high level of respect and adoration for parents. Yet again, there is a gap that is growing as times change, and many of our speakers and leaders are not going into depth enough into addressing the real ROOT issues this generation faces. For example, this speaker is young but he preaches the same unchanged message that I have heard for the past 20 years. There is a disconnect, or a lack of genuine understanding of what kids in this generation are facing today. As a result, the guilt for some children is overwhelming. No real support seems to be given. We need to do more than just preach ....we should offer real solutions to problems that are faced today. This lecturer doesn't talk about HOW TO CONNECT WITH YOUR PARENTS AT ALL. And many of them don't. It almost sounds like obedience is the best method. Don't even try to attempt at true understanding or discussion. This is troubling to say the least. You can easily lose your kids and the umma this way. It doesn't offer real solutions to deal with frustrations. More understanding and discussion will lead to better relationships and healthier growth. It's not the easy route, but it's worth it if you love your parents, children, and family. Jizak Allah Khair.

Give your parents the very best

Rabbir HamHumaa Kamaa Rabayanii Sagheera! ... A duah For our Parents! 💪 Ameen Ya rabb

Brought tears to my eyes.. Thank you for being such a great teacher. I'm learning a whole lot of things from you. May Allah bless you :')

May Allaah (S.W) guide and bless our parents and may He (S.W) guide everyone to the right way aameen.

Salam Alaikum. I really needed this today. For the past few years I have been trying to be a better son and Believer. Today, during the last 10 days of fasting Ramadan I slipped up in annoyance, negative speech and gestures towards my mom (who is the most hard working and down to earth); I gave into anger and frustration which I almost always choose silence or healthy conversation over. Through my guilt I found myself here. "Why am I doing this during Ramadan?" "Isn't satan the accursed in jail?" My nafs never takes a day off and it is inseparable from me. We already made up but I can't easily forgive myself. It makes me hate myself like I used to before Islam. I took my oath but still slip up. I will pray and ask for forgiveness but I still feel unworthy. Sorry for this public rant. Just maybe something relatable for someone out there one day. As the speaker said, "keep your mouth shut and head down" with your parents.

No one taught us the meaning of this ayah like this, SubhanAllaah. Just want to go to my parents right now and saying sorry for whatever I did to them and thought about them and however I behaved with them...You never seem to realize how it feels like until you are yourself a parent. You have to sacrifice so much for your kids and only Allah SWT knows what the parents did or are doing because the babies are too young to remember and so HE orders the children through HIS book, Wa Bil-walidayini Ehsaan-an...amazing...Jazakumullahu Khayran ya akhi Nouman

This touches such a soft and painful spot for me, my mother often uses me as a punching bag (figuratively), I used to be good at remaining silent but wallah I got tired - I know I'm wrong, I'm trying. If your parents swear at you for nothing, must you remain silent? Obedient? I am trying, I ask Allah for help, please pray for me

Good gestures is a characteristic of Muslim I'm a hindu i was there nearby a railway station in Chennai, India I took an auto for going to somewhere The driver was a traditionally well dressed Muslim guy with long but well mannered beard aged between 40-45, from boarding to getting down he didn't say anything neither I except the fair n location but his smiling gestures/his attitudes without even sharing much talks...was something that i can never forget. that time i felt if the beloved Prophet Mohammad(pbuh) had such type of unexplainable charisma... and how if we got the same experience in our day to day life if all our muslim brothers make everyone feel like the same!

now as an Adult i feel so ashamed of my self for fighting with my mom on things as a teen i wish i could fix the loss i have had.

Jazak Allah khair.... May Allah gives long life to sir nouman ali khan... he is the best....

I am crying right now

Wabilwalidaini Ehsaana..Subahan Allah the beautiful explaination Even I noticed that in Salah the last dua we have also includes dua for our parents ..Rabbijialni muqeemaslati....

It hard when u have abusive parents may Allah make it easy on us

Say : Subhan'Allah ×3 Alhamdulillah ×3 Allahu'Akbar ×3 Subhanallahi wa bihamdihi subhanallahil azeem ×3 Alhamdulillah we just earned great rewards!

in my view this man is right Allah bless you bro noumon Ali khan

Thank you. I am a trouble son. I hope we all can be the best for both of our parents

Masha Allah sheikh beautiful reminder may Allah SWT make us to love our mothers and father's

A powerful reminder in an unusually engaging way to encourage us to want the best for our parents. The advice was on-spot!

Treat your parents in the best way and you will see the result in your life. And you will find you and yourself in peace. They are privileged people..respect them.

Alhamdulillah. Everything in the light of knowledge explained. Mashallah brother Norman. Your amazing explanation

this is so real may allah forgive the kids that speak back to there parentes

I really needed that ! Thank you

Thankyou sir for sharing your ideas and knowledge and guiding everyone towards Allah.Allah the Almighty is great.

May Allah Subhanahu-wa-taa'la grant you Jannah. Thank u

Anything that are not the best for the parent is haram. Very powerful word. May Allah grant us guidance to give the best we can for our parent. Amin

*MashaALLAH. The Almighty is great... I'm A simple Human. Growing Up to understand people. Hopefully Our kids can respect Us to be A Good in their life. Aaamiiin.☺

Alhamdulillaah excellent! Baarak Allaahu feek.

jazakoum lahu khayran for that

I love u brother noman may Allah protect you

may Allah grant all muslims jannah

May Allah bless us with this implication

Parents are blessings:)

i..i..idk what to say i mean im just ok with my parents but this was way more that a wake up call for meh and i bet for the others ....Hamdullyllah ....Thank you brother .....jzaak Allah keer

Masha my Allah blessed u

Dude I don’t know what to do anymore. I’m 14 years old and I yell at my parents all the time and instantly regret it and pray to allah to forgive me. I slam the door in their face, I start yelling talking badly (no cussing though) and wallah I feel depressed and I don’t know what to do and I just hope one day ima get put straight. Someone please tell me what I should do I don’t want to go through this anymore. Please keep me in your prayers.

I talk back to my mother and I always angry at her May Allah forgive me

Ameen beautiful lessons

Subhanallah eye opener

I love my parents.. wish I Pray that they move in the same house. Really miss them

Beautiful MashAllah

but what if your mother keeps shouting at you and swearing at you and always talks bad about others? then what should we do? because there's a limit to everything. what should we do?

In shaa ALLAH 🌸💖

I struggle to be good to behave to my parents but Allah will help me to be the best

Thank you so much

jazak Allah khair

This man is awesome

جزاک اللہ

JazakAllaahu khair sir

very nice......ameen

No one teaches like that (Y) jazak Allah

Keep going this nice work

Love You Sir !!!

Thank you for this video.i needed this😢❤

parents can be your test subhanAllah. state your opinion you have a right to esp as an adult just be respectful about it

Very good explanation

well my Dad left me nd my mom whn I was 1... 😌😌soo I only have to got to be good to my mom.. ehehehehhe thankuuu v much allah...its sort of a pressure relief..🤗🤗🤗

What if the mother is someone who keeps blaming you with things you haven't even done? I'm so done

الله يهدي اولاد المسلمين ويصلحهم في امه الصالحين

You guys have given to much respect to parents . What about parents doing wrong to one of they children. Being unreasonable to the old child after using him all his life . Pakistani culture

It's also mentioned in sureh Isra and you will be told to read your book of records and you will be auditor yourself on the day of judgement and while mentioning major sins Allah has mentioned to not even say 'Uff' in the middle of those ayahs. May Allah make us of those who comprehend and reason and do righteous deeds and stay away from sins , May Allah make us ashab of Qur'an who not only reads it but who reflects and acts upon the order of Allah Subhanahuta'aala. Ameen

I try to aspire to be a psychologist but my parents are doctors so naturally they want me to do that. It gets hard to be respectful to them and still not give in. At times my mother gets emotional and she almost starts to weep and that breaks my heart so bad because I swear there's hardly anything worse than seeing your mother cry and knowing it's linked to you. She says a lot of things that she doesn't mean when she's like that and those are very hurtful phrases. They've Always asked me to do what makes me happy but at deciding points like these, they want me to comply with their wishes. I can't do that, with all due respect. Any advice would be appreciated. Please make dua for me :)

May Allah forgive me for talking back to my mom

my daughter who wears hijab but i can never say anything without her getting offended or saying oh well you said this to me not only that she has trained her brother and sister to do the same thing to the point her brother now does the same thing. sometimes i wish i was single and never got married and died without getting married or having kids

29 March 2022 ﷽ In this dream I see a small hill and that I have to climb on this hill and say the Adzan (calling for prayer). I am also accompanied by some people. As I walk towards this hill, I am confused at first because I have never done this, but I feel that I have been instructed to give Adzan. So in some hesitation I continued to walk towards the hill. When I get to the top of the hill and begin the Adzan. When I begin with ‘Allahu Akbar Allahu Akbar’ my Adzan does not sound professional (like the Adhan given in mosques which has a beautiful tone of recitation). But as I continue further in reciting the Adzan, reaching the part Ashadu an La Ilaha Illallah, Ashadu annamu hammadur Rasool Allah’ it continues to become better and professional. When I recite the part ‘Hayyalas Salah Hayyalal Falah’ I do it with a professional tone like in the mosque. Then I see that more religious people beneath the hill start noticing my Adzan and they seem impressed. I finally say ‘Allahu Akbar Allahu Akbar, La ilaha illAllah’ in a beautiful and professional way, then it comes to my mind that this Adzan ending sounds just the way it was done hundreds of years ago in Makkah, when the first Adzan happened in Makkah. Dream Ends 🌟Please find more about these important dreams of Muhammad Qasim. We are the last generation of this world

Great lecture

سلام علیکم thank you very much brother.

I can't believe what my mom just did.. I will never forgive her...

But they don’t give me time and this thing kills me I do everything they asked me for but in return I just ask for their love

may ALLAH grant us goodness amiin

Initially I would keep quite because I feared allah and I dint want to hurt him.. I am proud to be the best girl with the best character..no bad habits ,no friends,no outings,,,no relationship,,and deeply intreasted in studies.. My mom became so toxic that she tried to destroy my mental peace and dint let me study.. Allah swt helped and I did not stop.. But she kept on abusing and playing games..to a point where my silence broke,my soul broke She bought me to a point where I was like..if that hurt you ya rab I'm sorry but I can't take this..and I would cry the entire day.. I've dealt with thr most toxic women and I'm still dealing.. May Allah help us all 😭

never thought like this

May Allah help me from stop doing this ameen

May Allah forgive all of us 😓😓Aameen....

I also feel so heart broken I always back answer my parents because I feel like I am big. May Allah forgive me and help me to be respectful. Aameen Yaa Rabb. 😢

Alhamdullilah with my mom I find it easy to be respectful to her but with my dad it’s much harder and I try my best but he’s very argumentative and constantly short tempered and I have deep anger within myself towards him. I normally just talk in soft kind voice but he talks in a rude way that makes me lose my cool at times. Plus we have completely opposite personality’s I’m very quiet and chill while he’s more talkative and social l

😢 I try to just ignore my mom’s acts and action , I try my best not to be mad with her , I try to understand her , but some times I just can’t handle it … may Allah help us all in our tests

this was a wakeup call!!

😭Ustad, I'm speechless. But, Allah first.

May Allah make it easy 😬

what abusive parents , how to deal and still be good with them even thoe they cross the line of reason

Subhanallah

i like this Nouman ali khan for Allahs sake

I am just at the start of getting into Islam again I see many questions about what to do if the parents are this and that etc. we take the word of allah for granted that means it doesn't matter how they are we have to give them the best if they are clearly wrong in terms of Religion we have to be righteous and WITH RESPECT tell them sorry mom or sorry dad you cant say that or do that its not right its maybe not what many of you want to hear but its about allah he gave us the command thats my understanding / point of view at the moment (coming from someone who didnt talk and talked bad about his dad for a long time)

At the right time

subhanallah

please pray for my brother..He is becoming way more aggressive day by day.He doesn't respect my mom and dad even a little bit..He constantly talks back to them and uses slang words(Astagfirullah).It's just getting out of control..I try to convince him but it doesn't work..He is very much addicted to game and he is becoming a liar also..my parents are constantly worried because of him..May Allah(swt) bless him and show him the right path.

Going back to this

It's strange that all these speakers don't talk too much about bad parents, and their punishments for using their children and not leading them to success or even teaching and preparing the kids for life. I'm struggling with my parents right now for being too loyal and dutiful to them all my life, and in the end, I'm faulted for their failures as parents, although I was never given a paycheck during the years I worked, and there was no payoff in the end. In fact, the old man sold most of his land, and is pissing it away on bad ideas. 75 years old, retired, and is opening a farm as if he's 40 years old and planning to live another 30 years. He has went against the entire family, but expects us to be there to help him. Unfortunately, this right of their's "be dutiful to your parents" has manifested into narcissism and unfair treatment. Also, why don't you go into details about the children's rights, like the importance of treating all the children equally? How can parents pick and choose who to help or pay, and who not to?

I wish everyone would place the link of full video from where these clips are taken..(specially vids from nouman ali khan ) Do anyone know the full vid?

sometimes it is hard cuz shaytaan is working hard.... when i try to tell my mom something about islam, shesays i am acting like i know it better and that she teached me everything. but sadly our origin has some shirk actings like if you do that, then that will happen and so on. but i love my parents so much. I want the best for them but it is really hard. my mother thinka that i am becoming an arab person but i am simply trying my best to please allah swt. has anyone an idea ? what should i do? what can i do? what do i do wrong?

Always say yes to your parents and be respectful to them