The reason I'm addicted to internet, is because of lack of social skills. Somehow, being online sort of feel like im socializing. Hope some can relate.
yes, although I know that the PC can never be real social skilling but only social killing. Because the time you spend in the PC is stolen from your time with real ppl iRL. And the fake PC interaction weakens your feeling for real ppl , bereave you of the super-sensible energies of live people,and of having your own human energies being received by others. I very really feel a new human lack,which was confirmed by an energy therapist. Please start study and practise socializing before you cross the line where it is hardly possible anymore, We become strange in the end,and normal ppl shy away because we become void f human energy. People like healthy people, you see, even if the deprived, sick ones are really good inside behind the social lacks.
I totally relate, a little scary. But I take my online friendships seriously, although I have to wonder if my friends do . All we can do is choose to be a good friend, and endeavor to reach out more, face to face and online.
Money doesn't buy happiness. It buys you the means to happiness. People that say money doesn't matter or doesn't matter too much do not have real experience with hardships.
i here you buddy. I'm so broke i can't even afford the drunk part. This phone was issued to me by the government and my wifi service seems to be currently coming from "7 oak st" even though I'm doing my 3 hour sit down in front of starbucks before they eventually tell me to leave, thankfully i hunkered down in my hometown, which they would kick me out of, if everyone around here didn't look at me and go "omg, isn't that "x"'s kid, or just (ELI WHAT HAPPENED!), didn't he grow up here, man how far we can fall" and usually give me a few bucks. I have horrible mental illness and honestly the only reason I'm here is because many suicide attempts have failed. I don't believe in god but i sure believe in the devil. cuz i think im in hell
@@forgefathereli8354 take a job- any job you find...earn some money- rent a room somewhere and work overtime on whatever you think may change your life :) take it easy man- life is beautiful. It's not only about getting a really good job or about having tons of money and hundreds of friends! I wish i could help you and i really hope you'll get better and better!
@@albertgeorgy6827 Its not that i didn't or have stopped trying.. I'm the perfect example of the conditions talked about in this video. My lack of work ethic mixed with my mental illness makes it so that even if i push through the mental pain of not wanting to work i then get physical symptoms such as sweating so much it looks like i just swam laps in a pool even my shoes start to fill with sweat, no amount of gold bond that i can afford stops this. I also break out in a rash and get these strange bumps all over my hands particularly between my fingers, imagine thousands of painful zits forming all over including your balls, asshole, and taint. So to the point even in the rare event someone lets me work for them i break down in physical pain whether i be lifting stuff in the back room or working at customer service or being a states youngest ever elected mayor. But as people point out "how can you be so aware of your problems yet not fix them" which is why i never get social security because i don't pester the police, i don't make a scene. I use public facilities to bathe. So i don't eventually get sent to the psych ward for just standing their blank eyed for weeks. Because I fit a fucked up niche in this world, I'm the story of how you can still come from wealth, a good family, have all the benefits in the world, but between mental illness and poor choices anyone can end up on the streets. I think thats why they keep me here, when every other transient person I've ever witnessed come into my town has been handed 80$ and a bus pass.
@@improvedguy9434 I mean think about it, KNOWING your in hell would definitely take away from the existential dread that your entire life MIGHT be "a living hell"
2:16 Good finances is important 9:05 Poor social skills 12:03 Poor relationship choices 13:12 Lack of Emotional Intelligence 14:25 Fail to work on the things we want to work on (focus and self-control) 16:12 (work on our dreams) 17:41 Addiction
@@mrwisefluffer I think that would be called garders in American English. Suspenders in American English hold up your pants, although you may call pants trousers in British English and use the word, pants for underwear.
Sugar addiction. Coca-cola was always kept on hand in my household growing up. We basically drank it like water. (You could say... we were a family of "coke" addicts.. har har..) Not surprisingly, we all grew up morbidly obese. It wasn't until my mid twenties that I started trying to change my habits. I've become much healthier since then, but the damage has still been done. It's still going to take a lot of time and dedication and thousands of dollars in dental and cosmetic surgery before I finally start looking like an acceptable looking human being. Even right now, I'm struggling internally with my want to go out and get a cherry pepsi. Don't let this happen to you or your kids. Drink water, eat well, use portion control, and make sure you're exercising. Obesity and addiction isn't pretty.
I sincerely applaud you on this. The fact that you were raised on it and are fighting against it says way more about you than what society or the info in this video is trying to pin you down as. Keep moving forward. You definitely got this.
I had a bad experience with addiction. Lost my job, girlfriend, most friends, and nearly killed myself many times. After months in rehab and many years later with constant exercise I have been back to my old self. Or as close as I am going to get. Great Video!
9:28 I can confirm this. I have autism and have struggled since around my early teens with socialising and making meaningful bonds with people and have been pretty much alone for last 12 years or so. Loneliness is physically painful, it makes your heart ache and at it's worst makes you feel like you're struggling for breath, not to mention the mental pain and feelings of absolute hopelessness.
i hope you have managed or manage to make the most memorable and beautiful relationships one day. i can’t possibly begin to tell you how much i’ll manifest and hope that for you and anyone else who’s in a similar situation. you’re a beautiful person. we’re all beautiful. you deserve to see that within yourself. you deserve love. you deserve those loving relationships. i understand being lonely and in pain. i deal with that everyday myself. please be safe❤️
Go to the gym, counseling, support group, dance class, even a trade or college course, this is how you meet people. It’s so important to have connections!
I have all the symptoms that he mentioned with poor social skills... I am totally stressed and blame everyone for my issues... I get upset quickly, I continue arguments... I have all the signs and I can just feel the insanity coming closer and stronger everyday...
@@MUSHROOM300 I play disc golf. I have played for 25+years. It allows me to get out and make contact with people when I choose to. Some times I just play all 18 holes by myself. But I slowly meet people and occasionally make a friend. But disc golf is always there and it helps me feel connected.
Hey Carl. Still fighting, still got options,.. maybe we should call India daily to remind us what to do that day and have 20$ return on the deposit per day when we don't waste that day totally.. hmmms hmms .. I definitely need something like that.. Married a lady that sadly is just as unorganized as I am.. and told me 30 minutes ago she's sleeping elsewhere for a few days because she can kick my ass and throw insults over me in front of anyone.. i'm not allowed to ask her to go back to the doctor for a mental check.. hahaha! Whatever. Decided now.. Going to school again and hiring an Indian organizer. She can keep her nasty attitude elsewhere as long as she wants. I'm focusing on me now. Almost 40.. dumped all but one buddies last year due to toxicity and disrespect and troublemaker in their behaviour. Just keep swimming.. land ahead. GL HF buddy.
@Eric Schimmer not just freeload but abuse in disguise as "mentoring" (bernian) or.. yes alwas cut you short and demand and dont give back same feeling and demand praise when they do a little bit.. walk into your kitchen in theyre shoes .. try to get you hooked on something theyre buddy produces.. or give your other friends the eye to scare them off .. many kinds.. complain about they're own long time and have no time to listen.. theyre always more right then you just by inunating with theyre tone like theyre more grown up.. Basically many types that all thrive on having a "bitch" buddy... just cuz he's well raised and honest and maybe a little coactive or gullible. Many things to consider. Good to talk about it with other people maybe uncle, and get a fresh look and honest opinion on it from someone not involved. Maybe you're just tired and took it too badly and sonetimes you learn you should stay far away from them.. best to listen then.
They should teach us everything about finances at school. This should be one of the most important topics in school. They don't do it. Why? I guess we all know it's happening on purpose.
Yeah no. It isn't as easy as it sounds. In many schools it's already being taught but teenagers being teenagers don't care and just see it as another annoying and unnecesary class. Those same teenagers usually are the adults who post things like "whY Didn'T scOoL tEaCH me tHIs!!1!!???"
@@ajnero4505 I don't know what teachers teach in other countries, but in my country they only teach us to find a job after school, because if you don't work, you will die of hunger. They will not teach us anything about banks, money and insurance companies. They do it on purpose. Find a job, take a mortgage, go into debt for 30 years and live as you can. I'm not complaining here, I'm just telling the facts.
6:40 im no expert since i have not used a loan, but even in highschool we were taught that loans were invented so that people without money could start their business earlier allowing them to earn more money during their lifetime. Loans have interest rates because they should be used to earn money faster. Loans should be used strictly for earning more money, not on leisure or quality of life expenses.
I hate the term "necessary debt" because there are often easy workarounds for these things that are widely considered "necessary" yet turn out to not be an immediate necessity or nearly as beneficial as they were made out to be. I really think going into debt is something people shouldn't be so lax about ...especially the government.
@@wesnohathas1993 Don't go to university for the sake of going is one good way to start life with debt. Never take out a payday loan - full stop. Don't waste money on a new phone if your old one is perfectly good if you aren't a moderately wealthy person. Don't by a car you can't afford to maintain.
@@darthsawlex8257 Internet installment loans are just legalized loan sharking . I had to learn that lesson the hard way. They screwed me up so bad I was almost suicidal. Fortunately, I managed to get myself together and once I got rid of them it felt like a huge weight came off my shoulders.
@@AnonymousUser77254 My other motto is to never be late for work, drive a new car every 4 years and smoke some weed inbetween. People stress because they have to provide for all the babies they made and hope the boss dont screw his wife for her next promotion. Rather be the boss with no tails behind your back. Now that is life without any stress. Zero.
It was meant to,to destroy our human feelings,core essens, aspirations to develop our higher self,which is slumbering unconscious in most of us. We have to want realizing ourselves even stronger than before. It is so well worth it,they say who did it.
For most people it has done more harm than covid ever could I bet. For me it was a blessing in disguise because I seriously needed to sort other things out and it gave me the time to do so, but it certainly must have really harmed a great many people (maybe even most people). All I hope is that it may make people appreciate more the connections we have with others and remind us all that nothing is certain or truly predictable, that we must engage in the moment we are in. Good always comes from bad things. As bad as the deaths and the quarantine/lockdowns alike have been for everyone, I just hope that many people will be helped by perspective it will have given them. Only time will tell, in a few years we'll know.
by far one of the most useful video's i've seen on youtube. It's a wakeup call. Thank you so much, Thoughty2. You may have saved a person's life with this video.
"Financial stress is harmful" - Well this video can't get worse, let me just watch a little more "Poor social skills cause loneliness which is harmful" - Ouch well, surely we're at thie video's peak. "Video games and Internet usage are harmful addictions" - AAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAH
@@TheCyberTroll Because it makes the good things mean more. :) If it were the easiest thing in the world to do something like write a novel or start a family, etc. then we'd never appreciate anything. More than that, if life were easy we'd seriously be BORED out of our minds. We'd basically want to die from boredom if everything was easy, lol. I'm sorry if you're struggling, though.
No! No! It can't be! Not my video games and not my internet usage! Anything but those! Actually, video games and internet usage are just two of the many things that some people become addicted to. My dad was a recovering alcoholic who had 40 years of sobriety when he passed away. In the latter half of his life, he had a second career as a counseling psychologist specializing in the treatment of addiction. He told me that one of the things he learned was that it seems as though it's possible to become addicted to almost anything. One of his clients was addicted to reading. If this guy picked up a book and started reading while getting ready to go to work, he would not make it to work that day.
Its 2020 you can be a handsome youtuber with a mustache I myself am a city lion trying to start a pride but people run away from from a guy in full lion
11:19 - “...especially when loneliness, traditionally high in the elderly, has been growing in young adults and teenagers, it’s no wonder, then, that in the U.K. alone...” “Upon my word! even the U.K. is lonely!” This is a splendid video, by the way! Good work!
Look If you had One shot To sit on your lazy butt And watch all the TV you ever wanted Until your brain turned to mush Would you go for it Or just let it slip? Yo Remote is ready Eyes wide, palms are sweaty There's Flintstone's on the TV already Wilma N' Betty No virgin to channel surfin And I'm HD ready So I flip, garbage is all I'm getting There's Simon Cowell Who folks wanna disembowel He opens his mouth, always says something foul They're dying, Wow! Wannabe's are crying now He votes them out Time to throw in the towel Show's based on reality Oh the humanity! Oh! Ozzy's family! Sho' loves profanity! Whoa! The insanity! Oh! Dogs that crap and pee Home of depravity? No! They live happily Yo! Plus "The Ali G Show" And "Celebrity Mole" Oh there's Anna Nicole She's scaring me "Look ma, no cavities!" Oh! It's a station break Better go out to the kitchen and microwave something "You're gonna lose your mind watchin TV" They told me, they'd scold me But I still tune in every show (show) My cable gets C-SPAN, TV Land and HBO The Travel Channel, Discovery, and Lifetime (yo) "You're gonna lose your mind watchin' TV" They told me, cajoled me "Turn off those music videos!" (no!) I'm gonna watch C-SPAN TV Land and HBO The History Channel and QVC and Lifetime (yo) "You're Gonna..." My butt is aching As I watch NASCAR racing That show about undertaking Larry King to "24" to "Law and Order" The Weather Channel's boring like 60 Minutes Ancient reporters next up on "E True Hollywood Story" The rise and decline of twelve actors named Corey Shows for next fall, they've already been naming "CSI: Boise", and "Touched By An Uncle", both sound prettying lame, man so does "Everybody Tolerates Raymond" and "King of Queens" jumped the shark the first minute I can't believe Richard Simmons ain't in it. I'll move right on to "8 Simple Rules for Dating My Teenaged Daughter" Then I bet I'll watch "The Bachelorette" Followed by "Welcome Back, Kotter" And "The Muppet Show" where they go "Mahna Mahna" "You're gonna lose your mind watching TV" They told me, they'd scold me But I still tune in every show (show) My cable gets C-SPAN, TV Land and HBO The Disney Channel, and A&E and Lifetime "You're gonna lose your mind watching TV" They told me, cajoled me But I still love Lisa Kudrow (drow) I'm lookin' at C-SPAN, TV Land and HBO The Playboy Channel and Court TV and Lifetime (yo) Never missed "Melrose Place" or "Lost in Space" I've seen each "Amazing Race" and "Without a Trace" But I only watched "Will and Grace" one time one day Wished I hadn't cause TiVo now thinks I'm gay Oh, and "Fear Factor" I watched maybe a half hour After that felt like I needed a long shower Network execs with ***** ambition "Next week on FOX - watch lions eat Christians!" Like to tie up those programming planners Make'em watch all of that junk 'til their heads explode just like "Scanners" Leech-covered grub-eating fools on "Survivor" Look, there's James Lipton discussing the oeuvre of Mr. Rob Schneider And there's Gilligan and SpongeBob, plus there's MacGyver And Jay Leno has got Madonna and hey, there's Luke Perry And a special all pig-latin episode of "Drew Carey" Wanna turn on ET cause I'm a gossip freak And I gotta know who J. Lo is marryin' this week A 30 second spot, then we come back to "Are You Hot?" I was planning on recording "The Sopranos". I forgot! I love shows with or without a plot I stare 'til my legs are numb, my eyes bloodshot Because I only have got one brain to rot I'm gonna spend my life watching television a lot "You're gonna lose your mind watching TV" They told me, they'd scold me But I still tune into every show (show) My cable's gets C-SPAN, TV-Land, and HBO The Sci-Fi Channel and AMC and Lifetime (yo!) "You're gonna lose your mind watching TV" They told me, cajoled me, "Turn off that Oprah Winfrey show!" (no!) I got it on C-SPAN, TV Land and HBO The Learning Channel and MTV and Lifetime (yo!) You can watch anything you want to, man.
The purpose of life is on it's name ->life = live So by living you fulfill your purpose. Also all life spoils because everyone dies. But if you are into things, try and be better.
I grow up in the 90’s well late 80’s And that was a in healthy time to live in U.K. the rave and clubbing days ... I wouldn’t change it but .. I spent many days awake dancing and spending 😎😎😎 In my 40’s now and just started growing up 😱
That was funny, before he finishes his point you throw out the answer, I can even picture you hitting your fist on the table as as sign of an amazing answer lmao
It’s encouraging to me that even if I’m not great at everything, I’m constantly improving. I’m exercising more, making more freinds and better freinds, slowly improving my bad work ethic etc
I genuinely couldn’t sit through all of this because it was causing me too much stress! Haha. I agree we all need to have avoid certain things, and have a strong system for accomplishing others. But I think the other is different for everyone and we all need to find what works fo us to achieve success and happiness. Also, it’s important to remember that the overwhelming likelihood is that every single one of us will inevitably fall on hard times in some form another during our lifetime.
Cant keep a job for long time everytime my view in life from my loneliness crashes against reality then makes me emotionally unstable at times. Spend nights drinking and smoking alone but all this is gunna make you feel more disconnected from the world. Shit i recommend to start feeling included in things even if your not that helps a lil bit with feeling disconnected with people. I also feel better when i go for a run helps clear mind and just say hello to everybody you see will kinda take that empty feeling out but im still working on it
it's probably a reference to the Douglas Adams book where the main character finds a big supercomputer in space and asks it to tell him the meaning of existence to which the machine replies with just a number (42) on a screen...
notice how all these people have an immediate desire to see their own relation to your topic and assert their own superiority as a mask for their real struggle.. This, too, is a fine display of how to ruin one's life and attitude in general. I think your 20 years of experience is great, I would hire you in a heart beat!
I started watching your videos thinking "what could go wrong". Now it seems, Thoughty2 I can't quit you. I'm addicted to random interesting facts and whimsicle moustachios. It's probably not a real addiction. You did say in your video in your video it was okay and I am sure that is backed by science, data, heavy drinking and a possitive mind set... So nevermind. Seems I'm good. Loving the vids. Thanks man. cheers
I know it all sounds irrelevant, but anyone who sees this should consider learning your states sex laws to educate the youth/yourself. I'm speaking of the legal aspects of sexual intercourse, because I bet itll blow your mind how confusing it can be, especially for age groups 16-18-21. Make sure your children know that once you are of age, YOU ARE %100 RESPONSIBLE FOR YOUR ACTIONS.
Yeah bro, i just turned 18 in december last year. Glad my country has 16 as age of consent (not that i want to get with 16 yr olds) mistakes can happen to everyone
Hensen that happened to my old managers son and they were born in the same year. Just he was born at the beginning of the year and she was born at the end of the year.
I've always enjoyed being on my own, and I have never, ever felt lonely, or thought: "I need to find somebody." Ever. I'm with Jean-Paul Sartre on this: "L'enfer c'est les autres." ("Hell is other people"). I work at night, alone, in a good job, and have done so for nearly 30 years. I'm perfectly happy with that.
Yeah l spend more money on travelling and my PC than on girls. Just get a few fuck buddies to ease the pressure now and then. Rest of the time l save up money for my next trip and play lots of PC games to keep me out of trouble.
I've got pretty good social skills, and my emotional intelligence is also pretty good. I'm also highly empathetic...Yet I'm very lonely, as well as suffer from severe depression and anxiety 🙁 Although I'm very glad that I watched this video...Thanks Arran 💖
Start doing things for you! Empaths are always worrying about others. Be selfish for a while and see if it changes your life. I had to do this! No more depression! Go to the gym, dance class, take a course, therapy, anything that serves you! I did this! It works! Even a prayer group is important!
Some years ago now, I spoke with a nurse that looked after end of life patients (palative care) and I asked her the biggest thing those people felt with at their point in life - without missing a beat she said “regret” I asked “like what” again missing a beat, not following their dreams, what was important to them in their lives and now it’s just gone
Anything that can be used will be abused, one way or another by someone. Great video. The tobacco part hit home. I use snus(the things we scandinavians put under our lips) and was a direct result of depression. If I had met the people I know today earlier, I might not have started using it. But I'm a firm believer that its all on me to blame for taking cheap escape routes in life. Dont do any drugs, cigarettes or snus, drink mildly and have fun in your lives. If you are in struggle, try to get over it, be free from addiction or whatever else is bugging you. When you get old that success will be your most valued memory.
In a Tom Clancy book I once read: "The nice things in life, are either immoral, illegal, or make you fat". Thanks for the great video. After a life of experiences the things you list looks sort of deja-vu, as learned, lived, and forgotten. The target that, in the end, didn't fall. But for many, possibly too many, in the midst of those horrible situations, your overarching description of one's mind weaknesses, can effectively help many in the middle of precarious situations. Almost all ancient phylosophers agree on one fact, the same that you conclude the video: the most difficult journey of one's life, is the journey into one's own mind. Gnosce te ipsum...
"And you're probably doing atleast 1 of them allready" Me: Looks around in panic at everything in my tiny, yet overflooded, 30 square meters apartment. "Well f*** me then"
Before my beloved Grandad died, in his 09s, he gave me some advice. He said, don't drink, don't smoke and don't gamble. These things can strangle the life out of your future. They keep you poor, they keep you sick and they keep you from those you love. He was a very wise man, married for 67 years, 8 children, 24 grandchildren and 17 great grandchildren. And loved by us all.
not being good at the socializing thing probably doesn't help but it is so difficult to find any sort of relationship now unless you have the most money and or new stuff. I've literally had people stop responding when I said what my job was before. I suppose finding relationships like that might be possible now but is is far less likely that it used to be
“.. harmless choice at the time, such as taking out an expensive phone contract...” Yeah what if you get landed with a £2K vet bill because your dog got bitten by a snake that shouldn't even exist in your country. (I live in the UK). I’m not joking, this happened TODAY and you upload a video on financial stress and instability and mental health. I swear God is just mocking me at this stage.
Sorry for your dog. Putting yourself in finacial distress for your friend to be better is not irresponsible. If you believe it is, then owning a dog should have been the most impulse decision you made. Which isn't the case because dogs are amazing and they want the best for you, even if you'll never know.
everything this guy said is basically common sense but less and less people have common sense and less and less people are willing to listen to those who do my brother is always in debt to me even though he makes 30 something dollars an hour because I have one of those weird brains and I'm able to think differently than most people most people can't have a conversation with me due to my high level of immense random knowledge and my ability to take apart a conversation or look at a schematic or blueprint of something and figure out its flaws and improve upon it I hate electronics and prefer manual labor when it comes to jobs I'm usually never in debt unless it's small amounts that I'm paying on something in cash payments no one ever listens to me but when they do the rewards are immense but only if you have ever taken my advice or listen to what I had to say
7:07 _"Necessary Debt"_ How tragic is it that we find ourselves in positions where it is necessary to enslave ourselves to some lender in order to continue existing?
@@wesnohathas1993 Yup that is all it is about. Everyone is convinced they need to be in higher standings than their own work should give them so they put themselves in debt in hopes of paying back and making up for the bills to get there instead of just growing organically and making it happen without debt. It would be like a RU-vidrs immediately starting a channel and shelling out 10k dollars to higher advertisement and bots. If they do not put in the work to make that useful, it does not matter. If they put in the work they could have likely gained the same but it would have taken longer. Idk, I kinda explained it poorly because I am in a rush but you get the point I hope.
@@JD-wi2kg Why are houses valued well over what anyone can reasonably afford out of pocket? We have a debt based economy that causes more problems than it solves at this point.
@@seditt5146 you need to buy the materials to build the house, pay the people that build the house, pay the people that design the house, pay the people that inspect the house, wire the house, do the plumbing, paint, and a load of other things. It's VERY expensive to construct a house, so they are valued highly. The price is high because the costs to produce it are high.
Yes. I used to work in academia. I hated writing scientific reports and theses but it was the feeling of accomplishment I felt when I produced another page, paragraph or even just one sentence which made me keep going.
1 Never gamble house always wins 2 life below your means. 3. Make every pound, dollar, etc work to the max. 4. Never borrow money or at least keep as low as possible. 5 always have a rainy day fund save from every pay check even if it is only a 1 pound, dollar, etc 6. Not only know how much you earn down to the last pound, etc but also how much goes out. 7. Never impulse buy wait at least 6 months from the latest must have item. 8.never keep up with the Jones 9. Use cash as much as possible 10 always review the best bang for your buck and what your earning potential is
Welp. Good thing I'm happier when left alone anyways. Gotta love that willing hermit life xD (well for now anyways. Just waiting for the lonliness to kick in aaaaaaaaaany day now)
@@jacobfry5805 I don't care. Most people suck and some decades ago I chose a few good friends over a ton of shallow morons. Maybe with the few true friend I have, I actually might be not a complete loner, so...
I can't afford to support you on Patreon as my disposable cash has been disposed of! However, I did by the hard bound copy of your book from Amazon and when I am through reading it, I can give it as a gift : - ) Love your stuff while I am sheltering in!!
Think back to when you were in middle school or the early years of high school. Did you actually spend any money with the people you were friends with? The real question is, where do you find the right people to form a relationship with. It seems like as you get older it becomes harder to form new friendships.
OO OO that’s not exactly true. I found all my friends with just letting it happen. I was not looking desperately for friends. I made many friends over decades and we became a circle of friends who have barbecue often and go out and enjoy life. Never search for friends. Just let it happen. Universe will find people for you who share the same interests and you become automatically friends
To counter your point, refer to the people thay would call SWAT teams onto other gamers, that itself is a crime. May not happen to you but he did say "may" not "will"
Its not about being alone. I enjoy my alone time as well. Its more about having no real friends you can connect with on topics, hobbies or idealogies etc that are important to you. You dont have to see this people all the time and they should understand that you enjoy being alone from time to time but trust me if they really are the kind of people that are compatible with you you will actually meet and see them quite often - relatively speaking - just cuz you like their company. I had a big friend clique but they all just drained my energy... none of them really shared my interests, world views, had nothing to offer me intellectually, didnt understand that i dont want to hang out all day every day, etc. So i cut them all off - except for one other guy who basically did the same. So we were 2 best friends but we told us into our faces that "we arent enough for each other" and what we basically meant was it would be more nice if we were at least like 4-6 people. We were "alone together".
i had one Grandfather who said "Saving comes before spending" and my other Grandfather said "If someone owes you money, you will never be broke" debt is the new currency lent by people who have too much money to people who cant afford to repay it.
Paid my mortgage in 6 years. Here's how: 1. STOP BUYING CRAP YOU DON'T NEED! If it does not directly effect your ability to stay alive, It's a luxury. i.e. If it's not food, water or shelter: YOU DO NOT NEED IT! 2. NEVER TRUST A SALES-PERSON Their entire career revolves around lying to you. This goes double for any kind of advertising. Keep in mind: A sales-person is just one person lying to you. Advertising on the other hand, is a carefully crafted lie, manufactured by a whole team of people. Don't trust either of them, do your own research and refer back to rule 1. 3. THERE IS NO SUCH THING AS A SALE! There is only a SPEND! You might be spending less than you normally would, but you are still SPENDING! i.e.: NOT-SAVING. 4. DO NOT ENTER INTO ANY KIND OF DEBT/CREDIT AGREEMENT Keep in mind, making debt of any kind, is the modern equivalent of selling yourself into SLAVERY! The struggle for freedom is real! The way you fight is to make sure you don't give the enemy any weapons or ammunition against you. Remarkably, it's easy to fight, all you have to do is: STAY AWAY FROM DEBT! Rule 5. FOR WOMAN Remember: He's a strong, independent man. He has his own job and should buy his own stuff. Yes, he can get those tools/toys/cars FOR HIMSELF! If he wants you to get it for him, he is NOT a strong, independent man. He is still a boy and you should not even be in the same room as him. Rule 5. FOR MEN Remember: She's a strong, independent woman. She has her own job and should buy her own stuff. Yes, she can get those flowers/jewels/clothes/shoes/phones/cars FOR HERSELF! If she wants you to get it for her, she is NOT a strong, independent woman. She is still a girl and you should not even be in the same room as her. Financial freedom is easy, there is no magic, there is no trick, no clever moves or quick solutions. While others were bragging about their latest smart-phone and flat-screen TV, I was walking around with a outdated feature-phone, and watching TV on a 25 year old set. Every cent I would have spent on that fancy new phone/tv/car went to pay off my mortgage. That bit of planning and discipline, helped me pay it off 14 years EARLY. Yea, I did not hang with the cool-crowd. But then again, that same cool-crowd now think I'm the coolest thing since sliced-bread, because I'm hardly over 40 and seriously considering semi-retirement. TL;DR: You work hard for your money, don't blow it on crap you don't actually and factually need!
Then you die and someone comes and takes all that money, your almost 40 years old.. buy yourself a t.v. And while your at it get Netflix. Live a little bro 💜
I've been having thoughts lately about how we only have one life and it really is short. I can even admit that lately, I have become fearful of death. Idk if this is what a midlife crisis is but this video really helps cope with it. I'm glad youtube recommended this. And thank you for this video.
Yes it sucks, so keep carpin all them diems. Don't finish up like Grandpa Simpson: ru-vid.com/video/%D0%B2%D0%B8%D0%B4%D0%B5%D0%BE-Hmc819RMVUE.html Seriously, consider the words of Robert Heinlein He makes more sense than most on this topic: "There is no reward at all for doing what other people expect of you, and to do so is not merely difficult, but impossible. It is easier to deal with a footpad than it is with the leech who wants "just a few minutes of your time, please-this won't take long." Time is your total capital, and the minutes of your life are painfully few. If you allow yourself to fall into the vice of agreeing to such requests, they quickly snowball to the point where these parasites will use up 100 percent of your time-and squawk for more! So learn to say No-and to be rude about it when necessary. Otherwise you will not have time to carry out your duty, or to do your own work, and certainly no time for love and happiness. The termites will nibble away your life and leave none of it for you. (This rule does not mean that you must not do a favor for a friend, or even a stranger. But let the choice be yours. Don't do it because it is "expected" of you.)” ― Robert A. Heinlein, Time Enough for Love
I’m 37 nearly died 3 times. I’ve even been on full life support in a coma for 4 weeks. I don’t remember being in any pain. Death doesn’t scare me anymore.
Probably a good sign to be fearful or death (as weird as that sounds). Either means that you are happy with what you have and want to keep enjoying it as long as possible, or that you are hopeful and engaged about the future and what you can enjoy and do. I'm not scared of dying specifically but the idea of not having a wide experience of live and being satisfied by what I've done scares me. But it's very easily possible to do that while still being alive. So how alive are we if we're just going through the motions and not engaging with what we do, or doing any of the things we want to? Without that we're just wasting time I think. So I think I know what you mean.
I hope you can turn your understandable fear of death into a love of life so that you treasure even quite ordinary moments e.g. a trip on a bus, the arrival of Christmas decorations in the shops, someone being kind to a child, a dog trotting past obediently with its human ... they are all quiet treasures.
7M years ago we were kicked out of trees... You are reading this because we tapped into the quantum universe... Your mass is made up of mostly Neutrons which is .01% heaver then a proton (it decays into a proton) replaced every 10 minutes or so... If this difference in mass between neutrons and protons wasn't exactly what it is you wouldn't have mass and reading this text. Either we won't remember we ever lived or somehow we survive death into this quantum world.... Understanding all of this will help you live each day with the knowledge that you really shouldn't be here....none of us... Try to enjoy the time you have left.... Read...study...yearn for knowledge.... This beauty is possible because of the exact time you are living in now... What are you afraid of again?
Should have titled this video "The 5 signs of Kali Yuga or The four pillars of the doomed ones if you combine poor social skills with poor relationship choices, " For dramatic effect! Almost shed a tear when Arran said "The important fights we win are not the ones in a ring but the ones we face against ourselves." A bit tricky when someone has no idea who they are. RU-vid, How does someone even know who they are?
Hope you're OK now, Captain Falcon. Relationships can be so difficult. Hope there are some warm friendships to sustain you, even if you feel that marriage is not for you.
Hi! Started watching your videos recently and I’ve become addictive to them. I found it’s funny that, as a Chinese, What you have said in this video is what my parents, and all Chinese patients are saying to their children every single day. It’s common sense in China. But I still appreciate what you have said in here, because looks like it’s new to some people. And they need to hear it.
No one: Absolutely no one: My RU-vid feed: how you are ruining your life RU-vid trynna tell me something I already know. Got news for ya RU-vid , Forty2. my life’s already ruined so joke on you my friend
Well I am utterly doomed then, had severe clinical depression since I was 23, I am now 50, and over last 6 years run up several massive utility bills, etc, and am single, my true love decapitated himself, deliberately, in very public place. Have no close family left, turns out I was never particularly close with any of my friends, totally alone. I do work, work for two separate companies, stress is very close to taking over as my first name not just my second name. Too old to go back and change anything. Si send me £370"000 and save a life!!! No?? Oh well, can't blame me for not trying.
Sneaky ways you can ruin your life? These words: "It's not a problem, i can stop any time i want" I've been there, i was for years. Heavy addict. I luckily got into treatment and those days are way behind me and I'm nearly back to normal. Still gotta quit my treatment medication tho, and i dread the day.
@ keep gaming, eating ice cream, and fapping, and don't drink/smoke because addictive tendencies can translate suuuuuper easily to more dangerous things :P
@@knowledge1366 People think that and one day you get into a car accident and total your car worth 2k to the insurance and have to buy a newer car and have zero credit and get stuck with an insane interest rate because you cant be responsible adult with a credit card.
@@KidSnatchhy That is an incredulously simplistic argument in favor of credit cards. Almost like a credit card ad you get in the mail that's trying to prey off of your fears and insecurities.
@@MastaGambit I'm in sales man. I see it on a regular basis. someone might have the income and need a car but cant get approved because they have zero credit. Their literally is no downside to having a credit card that is paid off every month. especially with cash back.
