Unfortunately, the same thing happens in families. I was sexually abused by my dad. My mom knew and helped him to cover it up. Even today, no one will accept that it happened. I had to cut off contact with my family because of all of it. Thanks for standing up for victims. We really don't have a voice. Everyone seems to prefer to pretend it doesn't happen.
> Everyone seems to prefer to pretend it doesn't happen. Similar to the violence inflicted on innocent animals for taste pleasure. Humans cannot know peace until we eat peacefully.
Have you read the book the body keeps the score from Bessel Van Der Kolk? You really have to read it, you will find the answers there, you might have to do treatment. I’m starting EMDR therapy next week. Let me know if you want to know what it’s about. You are not alone. Best wishes.
Came here after seeing Colin on ‘Footballs Darkest Secret’. I was at school with Colin and of course had no idea of any of this occurring. I remember his affiliation with Chelsea. Having sometimes dealt with sex offenders during my career I can appreciate the mental strength he displays here with the aim of bringing these things into the open.
literally sobbing my eyes out because i’ve never felt so validated in my life. thank you for making me feel okay about struggling ever since what happened to me. it’s so important we talk about these things
Impressive dealing with difficult truths! Impressive depth, clearity! He speaks about the environment from inside, and has grown so much beyond. Impressive!
I agree that elite athletes are never schooled in how to live in the real world. I think that my abuse in childhood - made me a very great athlete. However, when I finally became happy I discovered that I did not mind if I did not win races. This was the greatest thing of my life. But then I had to learn to live in the world.
The mental side of this abuse can continue forever, you dont have to tell your wife all the details but i hope your speaking to a therapist as they are trained to deal with these things and will help you process what happened. Being abused as a child doesnt make you not masculine as you never asked to be abused and they were an adult and a child would not be able to defend or rationalise whats happened or the implications of it till they are older. Its good others have opened up about it and man or women should always speak up against any types of abuse, i am so glad these men have spoken up because purpotrators thrive due to keeping their victims silence. This is such great progress and the more we talk about it the people would know that its unacceptable.
29:09 obviously, being a woman prevents me from understanding male experiences of societal expectations, but I doubt that it's gendered socialisation that makes this difficult.
This says nothing about the long term effects or options for dealing with them outside of his experience in relation to spirts in particular... Not very informative at all
