Thank you for this conversation. I was married for 28 years and my ex-husband cheated throughout our marriage. Trust is very hard to get back when you constantly our lying. Very protective of your phone, females calling and texting, you don’t get to determine when someone should be over your cheating. When I left, I worked on me. I had to know, I am worthy of love and there is someone who will love me without cheating.
I appreciate this conversation. I was with someone for 13 years. I broke up with him because I wanted to marry, and our relationship was ROCKY. I was growing spiritually as well. Unfortunately, he wanted to marry when I said I was through. When we were separated, I started talking to other men. We then tried again, and I gave it 3 more years. He couldn't move past the fact that I spoke to other men when we broke up. Needless to say, I called it quit for good and have been at peace. Thank you again for the conversation. I do love myself ❤and know I deserve more.
This was definitely an episode that many needed to see. POWERFUL!!! People think marriage is where they want to be until they realize they cannot continue to live single in a convenant. True transparency will cast out the fear of being hurt and open up the opportunity to experience true love in marriage with ONE person. Love your episodes. They are so real! I’m locked in! ♥️💪🏾
This conversation is so on point for me. Recently divorced from someone who couldn't be transparent about his actions outside our marriage and it caused separation and ultimately the divorce. On a good note, I still want him to be happy and grow for his next relationship. I had to do the work on myself to get through it. I'm ready to date now after two years of being single.
100%- It starts before you get it. Compliments, a text, a call, help with household, kissing before work, letting me freshen up, role-playing, lingerie, different places and positions, etc.
Wonderful program. Excellent exchange and information. One thing. To you and all influencers and those with platforms who are Christians. Perfect, no. Christian, yes. Make the decision to NOT use any profanity. Not in storytelling. Not in reflex response. ALWAYS uphold God's standard. You cannot unsay anything that's already been spoken. No excuses. Yes, you are human and flawed, but this ain't about you. It's about your service to others. God bless you!
28:00 He wasn't ready 39:30 😂 LBVS *whew* And soft life after 28 years of holding everything down 😢 1st time tuning in & definitely won't be the last ❤
I told a guy I don't like chain restaurants and gave suggestions of places I wanted to try. He picked a more expensive chain instead....then he ordered chicken fingers.
So many good 💎! The good Dr. reiterated that communication piece and how it’s foundational in every aspect of the marriage. Speaking up, listening to understand, being present are all needed methods of communicating in order to have a healthy, successful marriage.❤
I really enjoyed the show and it was very good, I was married for 11 years, and my last year of marriage I cheated once and I told my husband and he treated me awful, no physical abuse, but mentally, emotionally so much so that I couldn't take it so I filed for a divorce. I have been divorced for 12 years now, I have been doing online dating but it's been very bad so I just been listening to God who has been telling me to use the time to love myself so when the time comes I will be ready for the husband he sent me.
Dr Tartt you did a great job The info was on point I’m divorced I didn’t want to divorce I kept letting him know I forgive you But I needed the Atune part He didn’t want to open up in counseling We have adult children and a grandson We are civil friendly but Al his wives have issues with me which strange to me And family still likes me but he has to discredit me and I don’t know what’s been said but they pull away to support him But I know who I am and I’ve moved fwd And he definitely has moved fwd He said he can’t be alone etc This is good info
23:51 @willie I don’t think it is fair to say or ask the spouse who was cheated on to put a time limit on the trauma that was caused by a cheating spouse
Out of curiosity, do these conversations (you have with the guest) lead to conviction to repair and restore (with God's guidance, of course) the divorce or previous relationship you speak of?
I can't help but wonder why there are no responses from the host because this is a genuine question. I think about this, especially considering the claim that every comment is read.
This was an awesome conversation! What advice would you offer for someone who prefers to address feelings and concerns through writing? It is easier for me to talk about a matter after I've written a text or a letter to first address my concern.
I’m not a psychologist, psychiatrists, or therapist, but his assessment of the poly relationships is very much in alignment with my thoughts. First of all it’s not for those that profess to be saved. Secondly no man wants to think about another man’s penis inside his wife; and no woman wants to think her husband is in love with another woman. Don’t get me wrong, the sex issue is very troubling for most women, but that having feelings for another woman is on another level. Lastly, like the doctor said, realistically it just TOO much to manage having multiple spouses: Quality time with each person, family obligations 15:34 with each person, the children, work, healthy sex life with each person, dealing with the emotional and mental side of each person. Whew chile! It’s just too murch!!!😆😆😆
I have told my hisband that i want him to walk in and geab my face and kiss me passionately. He now does this from time to time and i so love it!! I agree just tell them what you want. It was from a show i was watching that i said i want that too. He brings it when i say it.
This was a Great episode. Women we need to change how me talk to our men, We really can have an effective discussion about our feelings and issues without bringing out the AK47 and beating him down, There is another way. This is proof of that.
So in other words not being understood and not talking about it with your partner but instead gravitating to someone else outside of your partner and talking to them about it, is a justification for cheating regardless of it's just conversation?
I believe the issues last longer in relationship because of past issues as well as not being able to communicate. They seem to last longer when a person connect past to present and start thinking the same is going happen. The trust isn’t rebuilt but rather stays an issue. We got to be able to have those conversations and not just have thoughts.
