Dr. Umar Blast Podcast Host For Trying To Convince Us There Are No Good Black Men Or Women To Marry 

This is true, you don't see a married couple that's been married 40 years on a podcast telling you what to do.

I'm so glad he explained this. I am so tired of hearing black people have this "get over it". "Let it go" mindset. People do not understand psychologically how the brain works overall but especially trauma. People can understand having your back broken and put in a wheelchair and that somebody will never walk again. But they can't understand something Traumatizing somebody so bad that they can never be the same again. Age has nothing to do with anything. They're people who are Damn near 100 Still thinking about something that happened to them as a child (That greatly affected them their whole life) and we'll take it to the grave. Mental scars cut way deeper than physical ones.

Thank you!! This men vs women, women vs men bs has to die!

A unhealthy mind brings about much confusion

Loving one self is the greatest and forgiving oneself

Hurt people, hurts people, and misery loves company☝🏿..

We all need to heal ourselves. Most of us still suffer from childhood traumas that never was addressed. Work on yourself, love yourself and then you can work on a healthy relationship.

There's a split between those that are brainwashed and those who understand.

I agree with Umar that there maybe hidden agents and subconscious motivations, but here's another factor: CONFLICT SELLS. No one wants to hear a podcast about how great black men are and how wonderful black women are, and how much we need each other. The public demand is for destruction in the name of entertainment and these podcasts hosts are selfishly farming and manufacturing hatred and resentment in hopes to get Patreon subscribers, superchats on RU-vid, and monetized video views.

“ everyone is renting space in a home , but not functioning like a family “

Until I see Umar with a black wife I cannot take him seriously.

Its not that people are afraid to approach the right people, its a lot of people who aren't doing the work to heal themselves from their own issues. So it becomes a cycle of jumping in and out relationships carrying emotional, mental, spiritual, and societal baggage. Self awareness and self actualization is the foundation of growing into a better person man and woman. Study your parents and grandparents, recognize the behavior patterns you are repeating, recognize the trauma they individually went through and see if you're carrying that residue. Your past is always with you. Make peace with your past to be the best version of yourself in the PRESENT.

People need to step away from unhealthy cultures

Wow wow wow wow wow Dr Umar this!!!!!!! This was really really needed. Been living with a “traumatized” person. Everyone does things to them. This always happens to them. I felt my energy constantly drained being with them. And my life too a turn. As being in an environment with a person like this is unhealthy. Now since I created boundaries. Now I’m another person to their story on doing something to them because I refuse to tolerate their manipulation and victimization game.

Very educated brother 🎉 Dr Umar speak I listen

The internet is not a real place that is all I have to say

Some great points. What I think should be added is we live in a selfish materialistic culture. It’s all around us every day. How do you expect healthy relationships to form when the foundation of the culture is so dysfunctional and toxic? I think what is most being talked about here are symptoms of this. We talk about all the problems with the plants and not about the soil it all comes from which is toxic.

He has a right to his own opinion. What he believes starts with him as number one.

I thought decentering was taking a period of time to focus on the betterment of you. You should enter into a relationship as the best version of yourself. I do agree there’s a direct correlation of experience with parents and relationships!

This is on point I ran into a channel. It was a black man and he was dogging out black woman. It was so sad.

I'm glad someone is raising awareness to this foolishness and black and women really need each other and we gotta get the black family back strong. And he is right there are a lot of hurt damaged people and it's a lot of miserable people in their own pain that want others to be in pain

Black people were traumatized during and after slavery, institutional racism, discrimination in employment, education, housing, and every arena in life. Despite this American traumatization, we survived, thrived and built communities, institutions, and industry because of our melanin and DNA genius. How? Because we are the God's of earth but we forgot our spiritual mission and Godly inheritance.

5:50 !! This!! They dont want to confront how the parenting style and culture left us in the shadows of healing and wisdom. A major spiritual component was missing despite us having the material needs met.

I don't agree with a lot of what Dr. Umar does or says but most of the time he is on point....

He not married either or dating but giving all the advice 😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂

I was homeless, got into drugs, went into prisons, then i got to know Jesus, He changed my life.. Now i make 22k weekly. have a home, a wife, a lovely daughter... A child of God. HALLELUJAH

I’ve been saying this before I knew who Dr. Umar was. We as a people really need to get it together within ourselves, families and communities. Social media also does not help there is too much idolatry of money things and relationships

Lmfao “these are heterosexual women?” Lmfao ahahahaha Umar is a goat 🐐

You can not outrun your past. The aim is to make peace with it to move forward and keep breaking the old narratives and cycles of what used to be.

A weak mind one can easily find! Cause if you don’t think for yourself, you will be led astray I came from a broken home but by the Grace of God I decided what I did not want for my life So forgiving and loving and caring and moving is the greatest thing one can do for self ❤

This one of the most powerful videos I’ve seen in a long time.. what a great video. This needs to be spread and sparking conversation all over America right now. Especially for OUR COMMUNITY, but everywhere in America.

Dropping Knowledge from the universe 🌎 Feeding the Mind with the obvious And Common sense of Reality interesting Topics Thanks for sharing Dr Umar SALUTE 👍

This is so real!!!!! Even when you heal your past is still with you. But you have peace with it. Dealing with it makes all the difference.

Great points made by Dr. Umar especially regarding childhood trauma, upbringings and seeing toxic parental relationships that affect the type of relationships you attract as an adult.

There are a lot of narratives whether legitimate or not that are being used to keep us apart. Sometimes legitimate issues are inflated to keep us at odds with each other. We need to settle our differences with each other without the interference of outsiders.

man it s good to hear you

based on what I'm seeing, patriarchy does far more harm to male/female relationships than feminism Women trying to get men to fund their whole lives - do that from a patriarchal standpoint. Men who think they don't have to help in the household leading to resentment and disconnect - patriarchy. If more people thought fairly and outside of strict gender roles, there would be less conflict.

Brilliant! I love this conversation.

Thank you

Good is a relative term. Our community used to have a definition of a good man and woman. Now, the definitions come from outside the community.

Wow, I agree and can relate. PTSD is so real and definitely needs to be discussed more in these conversations about trauma and relationships.

THE BUSINESS = case in point!

Yep. It has been a set up. I been saying it for a good while now.

That was a great exchange 🎉

Women are looking for a Gentlemen.

Excellent!!!

Africa it’s pure unity

It’s not that the past is with you it’s the memories that you decide to hold on to or not

“ PAST IS ALWAYS PRESENT “!

There are so many ways to address all of the issues that were brought up. I have the simple answer to all of it. EVERYTHING LEADS BACK TO GOD!! We serve a God that is not of confusion. If people in general focus and committ to God the negative in the world will see a huge decrease.

Parents have a huge impact on their Children's lives. Especially Father's they have a huge impact on their daughter's lives. For their to be any kind of unity or harmony within a group of people. The group must first look inward at themselves. Holding themselves accountable for their actions.

When one chose to use hurt as and excuse to do foolishness is terrible

As a married man and psychology major, I’ve found that People with trauma also date those who validate their initial perspectives of the opposite sex… and some date those who validate their perspectives of themselves. If they feel like a failure or unworthy of love they will find a mate that confirms those thoughts. Some also punish themselves through the people they date

Good content

13:40 thank you

I’m never going to get hitched to my masters son !!!

I dont live my Life to other people expectations... Live your life on your terms and I will live mine on my terms.

Your past is always present in your current experience!

Hard to find doesnt mean impossible. You will have to be single longer to ensure quality but it’s possible

I’m Stickin With My People Right Wrong or Indifferent 💯

PRACTICE WHAT YOU PREACH Only take advice from someone who actually maried lol 😂

Umar just did breakfast club ..go check it out ..💯💯

"Even When You HEAL...Your... PAST Is WITH...You " 🔥🔥🔥💣🎤

I work at this venue where they throw parties all the time and have weddings there as well, and let me tell you something: women from every other race are choosing the bear on the internet but are not walking like they talk in real life. Black people really have to open their eyes. I say this because this gender war is mostly affecting black people because people from every other race are putting their differences aside and getting married at the end of the day.

Dude not even married to his baby mamas. And wifing up new baby mamas don't count. Gotta practice what we preach and not be on child support due to a sista lol

“Tell me about the relationship with your father, then BOOM, everything comes out” there it is. 💯

Honestly this is the best Umar interview I've heard very well spoken and he touched on good points

TRAUMA !!!

I agree with the Dr 100%

He said everyone is traumatized but then said traumatized people can’t have relationships because when others try to love them, they have things in their head. In that case wouldn’t the person trying to love them also be dealing with trauma as well? Therefore no one should be in a relationship. Makes no sense at all. Everyone looking for a quick fix. Lifestyle changes can’t be found in one off answers. It take consistent effort both parties and we have forgotten that part.

This movement started with feminism

Ite now , Where tf is the school!!!!!

🔥 as you self reflect, you'll understand and inner stand, that he's right. Family be good to one another. Everyone is dealing with life. Living it through their own perspective. Spread love and receive it. 💚

He nailed @1:49. No ifs, ands, or buts, about it. AND that truth applies to ALL colors and races and nationalities!!!

Address the accusations with regard to FDMG Academy. I'm interested in hearing both sides ⚖️

Has Umar gotten married yet?

I hate being seen as nothing more than a utility. Men of the past were happy being used. I’m not going for it.

How many years is Dr. Umar Maried? So i can know if i take his relationship advice or not 🤔

“Your past is always present, in your current experience” well said Dr. Umar 💯👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾

GIVE IT A CHANCE

Yo past is always PRESENT......

100%. Why are unmarried people talking to other people about relationships? That's like a person who doesn't own a business telling others how to run a successful business.

The elephant in the room has finally been addressed. I'm glad that Dr. Umar was the one to address it. Well said.

Yes my parents did it! And made it

Full black man stay by yourself best option ‼️‼️‼️‼️ until further notice

Let Umar speak man

This I Never Knew discussion/topic/platform is informational gold! The Bald Head and Dr. Umar hit it out of the park with this video! The Truth Is A Dagger To The Heart Of A Liar!

We need to see Joshua Maponga, Obenfo Obadele Kambon & Dr Umar Ifatunde and Dr Claud Anderson link up right here

I'm walking back home from the Dollar Tree with a brown bag in hand, Dr. Umar got me pumping my fist like Malcolm X is speaking. There are a lot of people out here who hate black men or black women, but yet still think they know what is best for us. If you had 100 terrible experiences with black people, then get help, do not hold in that pain. Black people may disappoint you, but we don't have the ability to hurt you like someone from the dominant society and then get away with it. The vast majority of black people issues come from oppression and the frustration of not being free for the last 500 years, that pain comes out in many different ways. We need reparations to heal our trauma and about 10 years away from white supremacy in order to free our minds and learn to enjoy life.

There are good people who desire and believe in healthy relationships. Both could be waiting and healing. I’m all about healthy and loving relationships. Both parties will have to be on the same page of core values and principles and willingness to work together. ☮️

My opportunity to refer to a comment Billy Carson opined, .. divide and conquer, the oldest tactic of Biblical reference(Tower of Babylon aftermath)

Dr Umar Johnson is an Angel sent from heaven to Earth 🌎 to teach us truth

What happened to men approaching women in public? And not on social media..

Omar is preaching!

The sound balance is off

"They don't have the self esteem to approach the right people." This is the truest statement ever! These people are always spending so much attention talking abut people they don't like. I always wondered why they just don't find someone who has the traits they want instead of being angry all the time. It's because they're scared to go for them and can't admit that. Wow. Some people just don't want to be happy in this life.

Could you respectfully ask brother Umar Johnson what's the opening day of this school it's been 15 years

BEAUTIFUL ☝🏾❤️ keep Up great work GOD BLESS 🙏🏾

I have a long way to go before finding someone

Was6 Umar on DailyRapCrew claiming there's few good Black men himself?