Being a melanated woman is liberating.. I am the one who control the images and the words that I will take in and receive as my identity. I will not fight for what is divinely given to me. I will not ask to be accepted. I will not be exhausted for simply being...
21:06 walking is my thing. I’ve even got many others in my neighborhood walking because they see me walking everyday. My husband asked why don't I speed walk and I try to explain to him I don’t walk to lose weight. I walk to relax...
Yeeeeeeeeeees!!! Everything doesn't have to be done at full capacity, or with the intention to lose weight. Some things can be done for pleasure and enjoyment. Strolling along in nature feels SO good to my soul. 🥹💛🌻🌺
My sanctuary even when I had a job was my car . I never had lunch with my co workers because my workplace was toxic . I went to my car turned on music ate my lunch and laid back . I agree that it’s not healthy to always be plugged into the internet . Exchanging and judging one another and giving criticism on peoples lives and bodies and minds . Overwhelmed me . I never put my kids pics online and gradually I took myself off social media platforms since I wasn’t a good user . I wasn’t into the “show”. My hobby now is gardening . My focus is healing too . I start my day slow . I set my phone on do not disturb until a set time .
You are so right about everything. Being here watching this video is part of my self care routine now. Your words are so comforting , you have really created a safe space for us to be vulnerable and unapologetic about it.
@Takara Star OH WOW! I am honestly honored! Seriously. I'm so glad that this has become a part of your self care routine 🥹💛 what joy that brings me! Much love, joy and peace to you! 🌻🌺
20:28 and if you are a hard worker most times you are just being used. Every job I’ve been on including my job now. I work hard, I just get more work to do. Others who refuse to work, most times I have to do my work plus theirs...
I LOVE that you are a creative person and a Believer. It’s so refreshing to see people like you who are into heavenly/holy things…pure, righteous and untainted. You have truly become my inspiration to be who God has created me to be without apology.
🥹💛🌺 This. This is the comment that made my day. I am working to be who God called me to be everyday and the fact that I can encourage others to do the same?... Priceless. I am filled to the brim with gratitude. I am grateful. Thank you, Beautiful. Much love and joy to you! 🌻💐
19:39 Girl I’m so over work, being that I don’t have much to show for the half of my life that I’ve worked, but the fact that I was able to barely make it check to check... I would much rather have my life back at this point...
@@AleciaRenece Ive been taking your advice ever sense I watched your video yesterday. ❤️🥹 I’ve been hugging myself, and I tired a few of your suggestions , yesterday I screamed really loud to let go of my pain. I kid you not… it worked, it was very reliving. I cry a lot release pain, but screaming really helped. Everything you said I agree with💯 everything you stand for Aligns with everything I believe!! God will continue to protect over you ✨ Because your words and spirit are precious. I hope you have a beautiful day today!! I’m thankful for your vid’s. I’m def a Subbie for life💪🏽 good vibes sent ur way ✨
“Life sucks and sometimes you just need to mourn it.” This video was timely to me, even a year later. Exactly what I needed right now. Thank you as always.
All these tips are so beautiful and simple, and don’t require spending a lot of money… breathing is what we can all do right now. Thank you so much for making this video!
This! I make sure I get lots of rest and I don't center jobs in my life...I do nothing when I am off work and I take nature walks daily and long walks too...
I have a savings so I am able to take VTO days off. I took two days off two weeks ago and one day back on Friday. I do call off of work though I didnt have PTO accummulated yet.
12:08 That song there... but in the version I sang, I would always say ‘I’ll try not to complain’...I pride myself on being transparent, and sometimes I am gonna complain,... but people take a complaint as weakness, so they would rather you suck it up, and keep it movin, but that’s why there is so much unaddressed emotions that just fester, because there’s not many safe places to let it out. It’s like everyone is hurting and if we all just let people talk about what’s bothering them (complaining) we would all be much better off...
Exactly. It takes strength to be vulnerable enough to complain, to really express how you feel. And venting sessions, crying sessions heal us. When we hold in all of that pain, frustration, etc. Our body suffers, our minds suffer. We slowly "unalive" ourselves. We were never meant to carry such heavy weight. We were meant to unload them.
25:04 I look around and see everyone is, well seems like they are able to be positive in the face of anything (I don’t really think they are, I think most people front). I refuse to front I tell people exactly how I’m doing, but when I’m truthful about my feelings, people say I’m negative... then it’s followed up by that cliché saying when you start thinking positive, positive things will happen. That then makes it my own fault for feeling how I feel. Because I can’t just change how I feel about certain things and others clearly can, it leaves me feeling broken. Like something is just wrong with me cause I can’t see the silver lining...
I feel you...I keep a "grateful" journal. Sometimes I struggle to write 3 things I'm grateful for.(my mom is always on my list) other days I can write a whole page. Whatever you do or feel is the right thing for you to be you.
@Kadlac Dixon absolutely. I've been treated that way as well. As if my being hurt or upset (by things that should be upsetting) is an inconvenience to other folks. That's super hurtful. But yes. Your feelings are VALID. All of them. The anger, hurt, pain, numbness... All of it. 💛🌻🌺🤗
Good day Alecia, I would like to thank you so much for creating your platform. It was helped me a lot during these recent months. I lost my job this past December and for some time I did not know what to do with myself. I have been using my new found free time to do some self-discovery; learning more on how to be at peace with myself which is something I struggle with. Finding your channel has been a life sent for me. It has aligned me; it has made me more patient with myself and it has helped me to tap more into my creativity. Thank you so much for being that breath of fresh air that we all needed. And keep up the good work. You are very much appreciated!!!
Oh wow! Thank you so much for sharing this!!! It's so encouraging, helpful and it makes my heart happy to know that folks are being encouraged through what I share. I'm sending you all the love. You deserve it. You deserve to be treated with kindness, gentleness and grace - - even by your self. 💛💛💛 You're doing the best that you can. I see you and celebrate you.
That deep breath omg I forget that one sooooo much !!!!! Until like u said I intentionally slow my breath down !!! Ouuu rest ministry I need to look her up ! Sleep one of my fav past times.
Community care can be tricky to navigate sometimes. I've noticed that some people lean way too hard into community care which essentially puts a lot of stress and pressure on the more grounded community members who are considered the "rocks". I encourage people to put more effort into doing their self work before running to community to do the work for them. I think it really needs to start with self, the support of God, ancestors, guides on the spirit side before we lean too hard on other humans for support. Many of us are going through a lot. We can't expect others to carry our load. But I agree with everything you said.
I love the idea of slow activities. I remember doing a painting for a class that took a few days. It was freeing combining a poem with painting a singer.
Love this commentary and music. Thank You Alecia. My favorite weekends are when I have nothing to do. Nothing required of me. I love not having to get “dolled up” to go somewhere.
@@AleciaRenece no thank you sooo much sis for being you and doing what you do. You've inspired me sooo much in these few days I've been led to you praise the Lord Jesus 🙂🤗❤🙏🏾 stay blessed sis.
🥹💛Oh wow! This is a refreshing comment. Thank you so much for sharing that with me! That makes my heart so HAPPY. Especially because there are Black men who want to make it known that they hate what I create, this is so inspiring to me. Thank you. Thank you. Thank you. It's my pleasure and joy to create and share 🌺☺️🤗
@@AleciaRenece Why are they hating what you create ? What's so hateful about what you do ? I share your self care tips with my wife and daughter. We all watch it on the 70 inch TV in the living room.
🥹 That is BEAUTIFUL! 🌺💛☺️ Thank you so much! And honestly, I have no idea. It's really hurtful and strange. Thank you so much for your support and encouragement. It really goes a long way! Sending love to you and your beautiful family! 💛💛💛
Omg love your music.. That was beautiful Sis..I feel inspired to dance to it. Keep encouraging others and stay encouraged and inspired. Thank for using your gift and sharing your truth to your tribe. Blessings beautiful!
Thank you for the list it is really helpful. My stomach was in knots this week after the massacre. I couldn't hardly eat I went through so many different emotions. This world is turning into Jim Crow 2.0 and I'm pissed. Our pool will be opening soon, so I will be in there early week day mornings. I absolutely love the water. It heals my soul. Much love to you and this group of awesome women! Take care ❤️
I love this video SO much! 💖 Your insights are so profound - the wisdom you shared here was nourishing & inspiring! ☺️ Thank you! 🙏 And your song is amazing - I love the lyrics!
15:04 I can’t really remember the last time I’ve created just for the sake of enjoyment... that part I’m really gonna have to work on, because what ever my intentions I have at the time motivates me to create... hold on, maybe during 2020, I did create because we all had an abundance of time...
Hi Alecia. Seems nobody knows we are traumatized even folks in close proximity to us. I am supposed to be strong enough to be in attendance for the burials of my almost 97 year mother Jan.1,2021, my father, September 17, 2021 and my Dad’s baby sister October 31, 2021. I’m not an only child so I’m just fine. I even wrote two obituaries and helped with a third.
Hi there! I am so sorry to hear of your losses. Those are so heavy! I'm sending you so much love, comfort and rest. You need time to mourn, to vent, to cry. That's so much for any heart to take. 💛💛💛
@@AleciaRenece Thank you so much. I just catch up to your story and find it very revealing. You speak and share with a level of maturity and innocence at the same time. So remarkable that the world has you. Stop stuffing and just BE. Human BE-ings…not human DO-ings…n’est pas? (I am 66) so most likely the strengths that helped me lift up many others will help me now, God willing!!!
lol I always call out of work when I don’t feel like myself. However the job will penalize you by putting you on a list called sick control. If you get on it then you won’t get paid for the first day of being out sick. Smh
These are great tips for single black women with no kids, husband or extra tasks on their plates but for moms of younger children, single mothers, women who are married with kids and women who work outside the home as well as dealing with their families once they get home from that stressful job, some of these tips might not be efficient for them. However, there are other women on RU-vid that can give other ways to do self care when you have added stressors such as children, husband, work, etc. Great video.
Thank you for sharing. I am definitely in a different boat than a lot of folks. Though I am married, I don't have any children and my list would probably include different things if I did. 💛 I understand that perspective. Hopefully mom's can still take something out of this. Even if it's setting boundaries with children and spouses. 💛💛💛 Maybe I can ask moms what they do to care for themselves.
@@AleciaRenece I agree. I have looked at videos on RU-vid of stay at home mom as well as working mom self care tips so, most are similar but with added restrictions and limited amount of time most mothers have to take for themselves depending on economic conditions(i.e. wealth) compared to us paycheck to paycheck moms who aim for the most economical efficient methods of selfcare tips and/or tricks.
33:42 TMJ is the worst, it is so annoying...I have that and so many other things, my chiropractor says because my body is just stuck in fight or flight mode...
Oh wow! It's my absolute pleasure to create and share. and it brings me joy that you felt this. And thank you so much for sharing my videos. It really means a lot to me and makes an impactful difference. Much love and joy to you! ☺️🌻💛🌺
I'm not a black woman/person but I am a person of colour and I feel so low. I just want to disappear. We didn't choose to be born like this. I send out love to my sister's and brothers of the world. I hope we dont continue hurting like this and our children and their dhikren and their children's children etc never have to go through what we have
*BIG HUGS* I'm praying for restoration and healing, and most of all PEACE. Tmj is so frustrating (as I'm sure you know). It's crazy how stress can literally manifest discomfort in our bodies. 💛🌺🌻
@@AleciaRenece Yes, and thank you for the music at the end of your videos. I love ❤️ love love it. It's so unique and loving healing and powerful. I greatly appreciate your platform. It's helping me get through a lot.
I totally understand that. Trust me, I do. 💛 It seems cruel that a loving God would allow such horrible things to happen. It's scary and painful and truthfully, i often have more questions than I do answers.
Blackvwomenvzre exploited because we allow it. Do not take on WW fights and problems, let them solve their own problems. BW need to focus solely on themselves and their families, other groups are not your concern, just like your problems are not of concern to others
“Being a black woman in America is so exhausting” While you sit in the middle of a park recording your perspective on a camera. Alone. At peace. Not being harassed. Disrespected. Told to leave. Sounds really exhausting to me.
... So lemme get this straight. Me seeking solace and peace in nature to heal and be means I'm not exhausted...? Your comment alone is exhausting. Here I am sharing tips on self care for Black WOMEN and here comes a random troll discounting my experience and the experience of so many Black women (read the comments. Read the room)... Like you. See how that works? Your logic is not logical, Sir... Also... Why are you so triggered by my statement? Why do you feel entitled to comment on MY work when it has NOTHING to do with you? See how exhausting that is? See how you literally attempted to suck the life out of a well meaning video? See how you harrass me? The irony. See how your presence, words and intentions can literally cause harm? You literally represent the men I'm talking about. Women share their experiences and here you come, literally DRAINING. The audacity. It's weird. Go away. If you don't resonate with it, then leave. It's that simple. But no, you have to make it known that you're not pleased with the work of Black women. The jokes write themselves. Here I am at peace, and here you come disturbing it... You don't see how the jokes write themselves? You are literally disturbing my peace. Seek help.
