Hi Pooky, great video. My daughter is currently being treated for an ed. One extra sign I thought of was suddenly becoming v obsessed with watching food related TV, baking but not eating the cakes etc, getting stressed looking at food when supermarket shopping. These were early signs that affected my daughter.
Great suggestion.... this is a really common one (and I've only recently let go of hundreds of my collection of recipe books which I used to read like fiction but never ate the food I made from....) I'll try and remember to mention it in a future video and hope that people will see your comment here too. I hope your daughter's treatment is going okay and that you are looking after yourself too.
@@SilaTheChosenOne yeah if you cant do it alone which is understandable please please reach out to a mental health professional or something and tell someone, can be that professional or a friend etc to look out for your wellbeing.
A video on friendships and romantic relationships during and after an eating disorder would be great. I've become very isolated to the point where it feels unlikely I'll ever be able to build my social circle back up again. I'd love to hear your thoughts on how to manage this x
This is a great suggestion. I"ll add it to my list and will begin thinking and exploring. Let me know if there are specifics you'd be interested in. Otherwise I'll have a think.
I can absolutely relate to a couple of these “warning signs”, not all though. My psychotherapist even diagnosed a beginning anorexia nervosa but my gut feeling is telling me that it’s not a pure form of anorexia...it’s probably a combination of “orthorexia + anorexia + sudden episodes of binge-eating and then restricting food for a period of time” - there’s more to my personal story... I’m really struggling to manage my own health at the moment because of my autoimmune disease...I’ve learned that right diet (anti-inflammatory, higher fat, lower carb) has a big impact on my overall well-being and autoimmune process. I react allergic to specific food categories but when my “binge-eating episodes” flare up I can’t stop eating these “trigger foods” even though I know pretty damn well that it’s doing more harm than good to my body/autoimmune process...this is probably a specific form of “self-harm”, it gives me pleasure and it makes me so sick at the same time. Sadly I’ve been diagnosed with ADD at the age of 20, been prescribed Ritalin to manage Uni and a full-time job... Ritalin triggers “unknown EDs” and can mess up your thyroid function (I have Hashimoto’s) and none of my doctors told me about this... I don’t know why I’m sharing all of this but I just hope you all make it through your own battles as well. Stay strong. Never give up.
You sound very similar to me. I have an autoimmune disease too so I do much better on a low carb, high fat, diet as well. I’ve always had a strange relationship with food where my weight tends to fluctuate quite dramatically, I’ll do 6 months of extreme restriction to lose weight quickly then fall off the plan and binge eat for 6 months and gain it all back, plus some! I feel awful after I eat. I have categories of ‘good’ foods and ‘bad’ foods. Carbs being bad! Not sure if this would be classed as an eating disorder as such but I’d be interested to know.
Funny thing is I’ve lost a lot of weight from what my doctors think is from my gallbladder except they only see cases where patients put on weight. But I’m starting to think I might have an ED. I’m not obsessed with working out or counting calories, I don’t purge or binge. But I do only eat once a day. I less I eat the more satisfied I feel. 🤔
I think when the person starts to take interest in knowing what others think of their weight is a sign of something, it gives me comfort when people tell me I am becoming skinny or losing weight ( many people around me consider being overweight ugly, although deep down i don't entirely believe them (due to my poor self image) but it gives a push to continue my restrictive behavior.
This is a really great overview and it's so good that you've managed to hit those key points but also keep it broad and remind people that eating disorders don't all look one specific way.
if she didn't say 'immediately disappears to the toilet' I might have sent this to my best friends so they can be more aware or helpful . now I'm just too nervous , if people cant help me , Im scared of losing control of mu ED
Thanks yet again for this Pooky, you have put my mind at rest re two friends and I have picked up a lot of useful knowledge. I am in awe of your ability to create this one on a bad day. Amazing lady, take care.
I have atypical anorexia, and when I told a friend they didn’t listen or ask me anything. They just made me feel stupid for it, and like I’m crazy for it, now I’m scared to tell anyone else. What should I do? :(
umm idk if u should be around them. if they cared about u, they would've listened to u about ur problems, not ignore it. ur not crazy! and if u don't wanna tell anyone, u don't have to
Thank you so much for this video! I have binge ( 3 or more large meals a day) or starve(none or one meal a day) and I pick and pull my hair out with tweezers......and cannot get a diagnoses because I am overweight. I amnot overweight enough for barbaric surgery. I tried to get diet pills, but...nope. I eat healthy. But I wil,on Mexican pastries every few weeks...and usually getting take out 3 days or more in a row starts the binge. I have such shame but it is all internalized....I cannot express it with roommates well...but inside I am imagining cutting the fat off. I always feel out of control with my weight.
Thanks Pooky, another really useful and interesting video. I’m so pleased for you that you managed to get this edited and posted on what was a difficult day. We, your audience, are very lucky to see the videos that you produce. I am interested in everything that you put out, and would welcome a bit more of your thoughts on autism as I know of two children in my extended family that have been diagnosed autistic. Keep up the good work, but don’t forget to take some time off and be good to yourself. Go climb that wall! And roll on 10,000 subscribers 😁
Thank you Ian! Lots of interest re autism and Gareth Morewood is keen to do some more work together (as am I) so I'll have a think. I hope all is well with you and yours and thank you for quietly being there on good days and bad.
@grace smith oh my gosh that’s awesome congratulations :D i haven’t gotten my period for about 3 months and i think i was accidentally not eating enough as a vegan while doing cross country so i also have been struggling with da period haha. thank you for the hope though i have gained some weight and eaten more hehe so yeee we got this💪
I (female /46kg/163cm/16 years old) was skinny my whole life and still am today but ... since 2 years I desperately want to gain weight and I put on 1 or 2 kg (i was 48/49kg ) . Sadly in the last few weeks I dont eat regularly and have just one real meal per day and some snacks. I am scared that if I have an eating disorder cause I lost 2 to 3 kg. I am also under much stress cause of exams ect. I just want to eat by myself, I hate to eat with people even with my family.. its giving me anxiety or like I am feeling uncomfortable. I dont do any sports and just stay in bed. I cant concentrate and foucus. So currently I am 46 kg :( I feel tired all the time and dont want to do anything and also I lose hair. Currently I also lost all my so called "friends " (they were toxic not really my friends ,I just stayed with them because I dont wanted to be alone. But now I love being alone) my social anxiety has also increased. I feel uncomfortable talking to people cause I hate my voice and think that it sounds weird (it actually changes depending, I also tear up reeeeaaally quickly) I am also cold all the time and shiver. By the way It's not like I hate eating .. I actually love it but I dont know what I should eat etc. I wanted to ask if someone knows whether I really should see a doctor or if it's normal ?
I struggle so much with food. I’m overweight and I wish I could not need to eat for the rest of my life and be fine/ thin but healthy. Idk what to do because no one believes me, and some even think I shouldn’t eat anymore because I’m bigger.
Hi i just wanted to reach out to you because my parent are starting to think i have an eating disorder but dont think i need help because im at a healthy weight. but i kind of think that i may be starting to develop one because ive dropped 3 lbs inn 2 days and eat about 600-700 calories per day which is a little less than normal but i dont know if thats too little. i guess im also a bit obsessive and have a calorie count notebook but almost every teen girl has that, right? anyways i just wanted to reach out and ask if you think i need help, thaank you!
Please, don’t panic. U might have Ed because that doesn’t sound normal. But u are strong 💪🏻. U should not self diagnose but if u still think that way, u should talk to somebody. Hope u feel better now after a month💕💪🏻
Wow I never related to someone else on the internet as much as I did rn, reading your comment! Like it’s almost the exact same situation I’m in I’m also counting calories and are eating less then 800 calories each day (it’s mostly around 600) And I know that I might be a little obsessed with watching what I eat and even cancel plans with friends or freak when my family spontaneously decides to go out bc I couldn’t schedule my eating beforehand but I just can’t believe that could be an indicator of an ED I’m always playing it down because I can’t believe that I personally could be sick but idk It’s so weird for me I always like to think that that’s just normal behaviour of a girl that just wants to watch over her weight
@@celinag1252 hi, I just wanted to say that that is NOT normal, and it is not healthy. While it can be understandable for some teenage girls to have some body insecurities occasionally, your life should not be controlled by controlling your eating. Eating disorders can feel “normal” and in control when you are in them, but I really hope you can find the support to get to a point where you are able to nourish yourself in healthy, non-obsessive ways 💌
I have all of these symptoms and when I told my doctor, she just put me on new meds that aren't doing crap. I'm not sure which one this may be or anything, or if I have one in general...
Could I have help with ideas on how to tell my parents that I think I have an eating disorder? My dad is very judgemental with this kind of stuff and I feel scared to tell him
Hey! I totally get the situation you’re in I would also struggle with talking to my parents about it. Especially since it is such a sensitive topic But maybe try to talk to your mother first then and just tell her that you are a bit worried about yourself lately and are developing a harmful relationship to food. Maybe you can then ask her if it’s possible for you to talk to a professional because you’d like to be sure about what’s happening and you’d rather soon have closure about what’s going on Maybe then the doctor will be the one talking to your parents about the “end diagnosis” I totally understand that it is super hard to talk to your parents about this though! I think it’s important to remember that there is nothing to be ashamed of and you’ll get better, I’m sure of it! Good luck 🤍
It's also worth exploring the possibility of Emetophobia, (an extreme fear of vomiting that is very common but seldom considered by doctors or family members) Some signs are 1. Having a very restricted list of safe foods 2. limiting or eliminating social eating 3. overcooking things to make certain they are cooked all the way through 4. Obsessive cleaning & disinfecting 5. Over-washing their hands or avoiding plains, trains, boats or amusement park rides. 6. Avoiding being a passanger in a car if motion sickness is a possibility. It can lead to social isolation & really compromise the quality or integrity of relationships due to fear or shame) 7. Fear or morning sickness in pregnancy or avoiding pregnancy altogether. It could also be Sensory processing disorder, where certain textures or smells are absolutley revolting to the the individual. A person may also have an extremely controlling or mean spirited mother who insists that her daughter live up to her impossible standards, that could also contribute towards an unhealthy relationship between her daughter & food or her son & food, Doctors typically don't consider things like that, they foolishly assume, that all parents have their children's best interest at heart, but sadly that simply is not true, Especially if the Doctor finding out the truth, could potentially paint the mother in a bad or negative light.
