Thank you Dr Katz. Watching my sister and 3year old niece suffer such extreme trauma through family court they enable his abuse because I believe the financial gains are so lucrative! Culture use to punish some (not all) fathers who treated mothers especially of young children in such financial and non supportive ways. I know I would never tolerate my sons to treat the mother of their child in any form of abusive manner. Nor would my mother or grandmother. Mothers are the culture and we need to support each other not blindly be apathetic to other’s situations. I know abusers are usually but not always abused- so you may just be saving your own child from abuse hen you advocate against coercive control!
Professor Katz, there's another entry to consider for the bullet point of sexual abuse. It's making the child feel as though nobody would ever want to be with them. The abusive parent implies or outright says that the child is so unattractive, inferior, or disgusting that it makes the child give up on feeling lovable enough to find a partner. Would you consider adding this?
I've been observing these patterns for 60 years _ living under coercive control so normalized. Because of the patterns of several abusers_ I believe that these men/women are organized into coercive control cults_ some men when they are going to abuse _ break down and cry as they abuse someone. _seem,s that they don't want to abuse but are being forced to _ like an initiation. I believe this will eventually be brought to light. My birth father & mother apologized to the abusers of their children!
Many of this can be reversed in financial by making the abused responsible for finances and then blaming you but most is totally spot on. We all know this … where is the steps legally and also the safe homes. Everyone is rolling all of this which is good …. Soon I will have the solutions step by step As to give the child anything other than weaponization against the targeted parent is all that’s given to the children
The Jehovah Witnesses did this in my family. They hijacked my family of origin when I married. My ex's father worked with a JW. My beautiful Mother broke the spell by telling the secret that my father left everything to that abusive cult to make sure my children and I would starve. We separated in 2002, I paid for the divorce in 2009. This pycopath turned our first daughter against me and her siblings. Even refugees have kept siblings together.
Yes Parental alienators do all of therse things you describe Emma via coercive manipulation of a child - Yes Parental alienation is as reaal as Coercive Control is and both need to be addressed and stopped no matter the Gender
Too gender biased presentation, the same you tell about fathers can be applied to vindictive mothers. Depending on country about 50% of marriages end in divorce, most of divorces have children involved. Women can get away for physically abusing men, men go to jail for doing the same. In all other abuse forms women are better and more covert then men can be. Children are used my mothers as very effective weapons against their father.(to keep controlling him long after divorce). This example father in the bushes - child is afraid, it's a sign of alienation. Children usually align with and try to protect the abusive parent. Due to court system(and assumption that mother is always better or more important parent), many man who have children, are forced to live with their unemployed abusive wife until youngest child is 18. If they try to divorce from controlling wife hey get punished with loosing children, all assets, and paying their ex-wife so she can continue to be "full time stay-at-home" mom, for two or three teenagers. And if father does not comply with mothers wishes(usually additional payments) after divorce, as a punishment he does not get to see his children. Spousal support (after divorce) is as stupid (unfair) as it can get, you have to support your ex long after divorce, even if there are no children involved. Fortunately this 70'th trend is coming to and end, and fathers become equal parents with equal rights as mothers. 50% / 50% time sharing becomes the norm, and it is not rare that fathers get full custody, if they are more suitable parent then mother. Wealthy men are the most vulnerable to gold diggers who are ready to get children, just to divorce and gain maximum financial gain.
I agree 100%! As a male victim of abuse, I find the gender bias despicable and ignorant because you are educating potential victims that perpetrators are male. This further stigmatizes males who are victims because no one believes them when they step forward.
