Emotional Baggage | The Minimalists Ep. 414 

How do you manage emotional clutter?

To be completely honest , I dropped some emotional baggage about this show recently, originally when bringing in TK I was resistant to the change “ the minimalists” where only Ryan and Joshua, who is this guy ? But after a few episodes I always absolutely love his take on topics and I think I might even vibe with him the most, how silly of me !

While I like the ideas that Dr. Bradley talked about, it felt like he was more interested in doing a sales pitch rather than being concerned about answering questions. When you mentioned somebody had approached you to have him on the show it really made sense. If this happens again, maybe you could let the guests know that your show is more about presenting ideas rather than doing a sales talk?

I’ve read Dr. Bradley’s books and they’re very informative. I found after my husband passed away, and I still felt like I wasn’t moving along as I should. After about five years I discovered that I had trapped emotions in my body. Traumas related to his illness and also my former in-laws we’re not a help After he passed away. A lot of dysfunctional / miss placed grief emerges when there’s a death. All that fighting that occurs over property, assets, money, all of those arguments, and all that strife that often emerges after there’s a death, I called that miss placed grief. I learned that from a book by Susan Fuller, a former hospice nurse of 30+ years?

I cut off the people in my life who embodied emotional clutter and stepped into my greatness. Life has been revived ❤🎉

Love this one a lot. Thank you very much!!!

When u declutter relationships...that's when some serious awakening happens in the mind and your existence. Half the ppl u think are meaningful u will find out they deserve not a second of your time

The idea of trusting your subconscious really strikes a cord. I have been in a bad marriage for many years, and I had pains, depression, I'd have very little patience for certain things, be hyper vigilant or sensitive to other things. He's articulating what I've been trying to put into words; I had been thinking that it's like My subconscious is acting like an immune system, trying to protect me and get me to change, and I was in too deep to listen for a long time. Now I'm listening, and hoping I can trust my gut more about how I feel right or not. I just hope my gut isn't steering me toward short-term or damaging behaviors, in the same way your immune system can be misdirected or overreact to allergens, where the reaction is worse than the problem. He lost me at "I released the emotion by swiping a magnet over her back", though

I NEED this book!

Amazing thank you so much still listening.

Great episode.... sure miss Ryan.

Thank you for sharing 🙏 this is awesome work. With ❤ and gratitude🙏

I love the new Air France commercial - with the red trailing scarf. Thank-you for this episode, it was very informative. 🙂

38:35... Was there a glitch, or is it just me?

I don’t believe buried emotions are healthy. This is nothing more than a band aid fix. Like anything emotional, understanding it and dealing with head on is the only way for true healing to happen

Good morning and God bless you

Attachment is suffering

I struggle with anger towards my husband’s laziness. As long as we’ve been together he will go through long periods of doing very little to help out with the household or children. Its often started with an illness of some type. In the past it was constant gout attacks. More recently its covid. Problem is I have also been sick with covid but I more or less continue as normal as the routines need to keep going. My husband seems completely oblivious to the fact I’m also sick, and takes to his bed and playing games & watching videos. This generally continues for at least two full weeks, once three. I don’t know how he keeps his job. He is the only breadwinner so his income is important. I do most things for the children and most chores and cooking. I don’t mind this as long as he is keeping up his end by working. But if he is just lying around and not contributing to anything it makes me feel angry. If I try to tell him he gets very defensive and will often stonewall. So its v hard to be honest about how I feel. I keep trying to carry on and not let it get to me but the anger keeps coming up. Any suggestions?

Oh wow..looking forward

IDK if it's YT but this video keeps skipping at random spots. I've been watching YT for hours and no issues till this video so maybe the YT gods are angry you want to put all of your videos on one channel and not allow ads. 🤣 How dare you!

The need to be busy is evidenced by folks always looking at their phones during any downtime.

Hell yeah to living debt free ❤ lol good debt is cool but to really be even more free if living out of country.

How do i find rhe actual book? Not seeing it in Amazon

I would love your help on something. I am a very frugal person someone who always wants the best for my money. I have been shopping at the cheapest supermarket for years and I hate it. Its so depressing its so dark and filled with people who look so unhappy. This supermarket takes me 15 mins drive to get to it and I tend to buy certain brands of things. I find that the more healthy option which i buy is the more expensive choice at this place. I have two other supermarkets under 5 mins drive from me which i have always said were too expensive for me to shop at but I have been recently finding that some of the products I buy are the same price here as at the cheaper supermarket and sometimes even cheaper. I find shopping at the cheaper supermarket I am tending to only want to do a huge shop once every 2 months so I don’t have to go in there again as hate it so much. But this is leading my me hoarding huge lots of food in cupboards In my kitchen than don’t fit into my pantry. I find I also have to settle for the lesser not to healthy thing as my first option tends to be out of stock alot. I find that buy the time I get around to using the lesser option I have got the better one from the other place and so the other is surplus and gifted away to someone else. I also find that I ration food and try and make it last as long as possible sometimes going hungry to avoid going back to the place so often. Is this a case of there are refunds on your time. I can pop to the more upmarket place once a week and get what we need and not waste of ration food. But I am still thinking I need to save every penny and shop at the cheaper place.

I think his thought process is really off. “The fruit of unconditional love is total acceptance”. Unconditional love means you don’t need to do something for me to love you. But me loving you means wanting the best for you. If I love my drug addicted friend unconditional I will not totally accept their choices.

I haven't finished yet, yet fascinating. Until Author says 81 yr. old, "probably not going to be around much longer..." My mom is 80, goes to Zumba, has over 400 followers on IG, is an artist, sends me funny TikToks... She better live another 10-15 years or I'll be starting a fight RIGHT NOW! She gave me something to cry about. I'll give her something to ruminate about!

Ryan changed color and name?

Is Ryan coming back. What is going on with Ryan?

Thank you for the interview; you are all so thoughtful and articulate. I am very interested in this subject and just ordered The Body Code. Similar to this subject matter, you guys (and audience) would probably be interested in the work of the late Dr. John Sarno. See also the continued work of his student Nichole Sachs, her book The Meaning of Truth and wonderful podcast The Cure for Chronic Pain. Blessings to all. :)

Please please please declutter the pseudoscience that you have let into the channel. The idea of emotions trapped in parts of the body....the electrons do not carry our "emotional wavelenght". I am really at a lost as to what does all this have to do with minimalism honestly

Enjoy these videos; but turned off when the guy started talking about 'energy emotions' or what have you. Interesting theory, but it has no basis in science. There's no such thing as emotions being 'vibrations' or whatever he was speaking of. Emotional reactions, negative ones, are caused by varying levels of the hormone Norepinephrine. Serotonin also plays a major role in this, as well as Dopamine. There's no such thing as holding in vibrational energy or 'closing a vibration loop' or whatever he was speaking about. Good philosophical ideas, I suppose, but not psychiatry, and not scientific. Love the minimalism videos! But won't be checking back for any psychology videos. Edit: For clarification and source, the vibration emotion guy is David R. Hawkins, and while he's usually critical of new age science and very logical, furthering the idea of frequencies regulating emotions has started to turn spiritual, which is why it's all questionable. Quantum mechanics is neither meant nor does it attempt to explain emotion. It is a theory of physics, not psychology.