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Emotional Intelligence 101 - Woke Wednesdays

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Welcome to Woke Wednesdays, where my friend Ali and I eat food at iftar and discuss a specific topic to educate ourselves and raise awareness. Today we are talking about emotional intelligence, empathy and causing upset!
Ali’s youtube channel: / @aliabdaal
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I am Dr. Sheen Gurrib and I want to play my part in supporting the next generation of empowered women. So, I have a podcast ‘Dream, Girl’, where I host women from all spheres of life with varied experiences and life journeys and we look beyond the social lens to discuss everything from racism, sexism, representation and mental health. Join me every week as I chat to one of these wonderful women and let's learn how to be/support a kick-ass woman in general! I also make shorter videos where I share snippets of my life, and my life experiences, such as doing a PhD and attending OxBridge universities, and have mindful conversations about important topics.
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29 авг 2024

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@aliabdaal 3 года назад

goood stuff

@DrOgbeEdward 3 года назад

Gooood stuff 😅

@nailaoulfetzitouni5060 3 года назад

Love the hair

@yashhosakal2242 3 года назад

What's with the good stuff.. I don't get it... It's great stuff 💖

@farazuddinmohammed 3 года назад

Is this automated 😅always the same comment

@aprilla9112 3 года назад

@@moustafaalbatran5304 read the description

@husseinjanmohamed3239 3 года назад

Seeing you two eat with your hands just made me so happy in a way I can’t explain. I guess this is the power of representation. But I guess always being made to feel like eating with ur hands is uncivilised leads to this. To see two people eat with their hands in a RU-vid video and just upload it online for millions to see. And then not even address it or mention it, like it’s the most normal thing in the world. Just made me feel good

@avishi 3 года назад

this whole video looks like couples therapy but Sheen's the therapist and the spouse 😂

@thefoodcoma7021 3 года назад

Waiting for Ali's 'GOOD STUFF' comment😂

@sumayyarehman99 3 года назад

Great stuff

@jassimkoya 3 года назад

It's here now! 😂

@11bkrishnanand9 3 года назад

Goood stuff

@tundeolagunju9303 3 года назад

😂😂😂

@humerahumera5856 3 года назад

There you go!

@shanasbeautifulmess9826 3 года назад

I love how Sheen highlights even the slightest flick of empathy/emotional relations in Ali and make him comfortable to open up more. I admire your patience Sheen. 😂😂😂

@JeremiahTang 3 года назад

I know they have their separate podcasts but....they need one together !!

@LM-gc2cf 3 года назад

Being empathetic is quite draining emotionally. It's amazing when people are doing good, but I know i REALLY struggle being around my loved ones when they are down. As I feel completely sucked into the vortex of their unhappiness, I will often try to avoid/flee their presence. Sometimes, some distance is necessary to help people best (some! not like telling you you act like a 13 yr old lmao whatadick)

@tedlovejesus 3 года назад

Well... but the truth is, when you are empathetic, you can sense people who are actually hiding their sorrows/pain/depression, it’s not just FEELING, but the capacity to understand why people feel a certain way, that enriches us as human, that shared experience and sentiment made us understand each and closer, it’s not just feeling, but taking time to process and know why people process different emotions, it’s not OH I AM SAD, when people express emotions deliberately usually there’s a hidden meaning but, when you are willing to understand, is different, it’s not OH you have too much emotions and refusing to empathise with others’ feelings but, I am not willing to process others’ feelings and why people feel a certain way that’s alienating the world

@kabirkhanna7845 3 года назад

I am not going to deny that part of the reason why I subscribed was because Sheen is Ali's roommate. But I am really liking her content, especially videos like these. :) Looking forward for more of Sheen!

@nidaa5819 3 года назад

Loosing a child is one of the worst things that could ever happen to someone. I empathize with those people the most.

@ermelinda2223 2 года назад

I can’t even imagine

@niapranee 3 года назад

I don't know why, the dynamics between you and Ali is just bomb! 😁 I feel soo entertained watching this video 😄

@humerahumera5856 3 года назад

So true!

@esabkhan7901 3 года назад

Okay so this random thought came into mind that sheen is not using ali abdaal's name in her video titles to get more audience , and i think that it should be appreciated because i think she wants genuine audience that do not watch videos because jus because ali abdaal is in it. She wants audience that is interested in her stuff.

@lifewithshreya7758 3 года назад

I would really want a friend like Sheen. She is so sweet and just empathetic and caring. Literally the best type of person to be around

@mumbilebo5846 3 года назад

I love your personality sheen. I love the type of content you put out as a woman myself. I also feel like Ali is more human in your videos.

@lesluvlux 3 года назад

That look when he says “the friends I care about”... as if he has friends he doesn’t care about?!?! LOL

@elaschannel942 3 года назад

One thing to add to you empathy conversation is how important books and fiction and learning is helpful toward understanding other people's feelings (even if you yourself have never experienced it).

@MalihaUlfat 3 года назад

This is actually one of the best videos on Emotional Intelligence!

@mathabahassan3471 3 года назад

Can you please teach us how we can be emotionally intelligent but not to the point where it drains us? Like caring too much for others has caused me so much pain in the past and I've invested so much time being the "therapist" to others to the point where I just forgot all about myself

@Amelia-ys2qy 3 года назад

i couldn't relate more! Because of the same reason you mentioned, I've experienced such pain approx 2 years back in my third year of med school that now I want to be like Ali, i want to stop caring about people and going above and beyond my means to help them.

@HusnaReads 3 года назад

It starts with knowing your limit. I’m also an empath, to the point I could cry listening to someone’s struggles. Worse if I've experienced the pain, I’d remember it for weeks... months. When you know you’ve reached your limit, or this is the conversation you shouldn’t involve in or the social group you shouldn’t be in, that’s when you politely say NO. Save your energy to serve another group of people that’s less draining your energy and benefits more from you. 😊

@swapnenduhazra 3 года назад

At 10:30 I feel how the food was getting dropped and the reaction of Sheen internally. Really love these talks while having food.

@immanuelkrokrant 3 года назад

*Clears throat* .. .. Good stuff

@j.g2354 3 года назад

'I think praise is problematic.' Ali being influenced by Taimur too much from the podcast hahaha. As always, such awesome stuff from Sheen on this channel, love it!

@Amelia-ys2qy 3 года назад

which one was it?

@nishthasinha1749 3 года назад

I think from a young age, women are taught and rewarded for being more warm and empathetic and men to be more stoic. I noticed this in the 5000 subscriber video also, but again, women are taught to be under confident and also infantalise themselves.

@emanabumadi3813 3 года назад

You guys should do the 16 personalities test.

@smathew8810 3 года назад

@irène Or an ENFJ. A lot of the stuff she described was dominant Fe.

@immanuelkrokrant 3 года назад

I love woke Wednesdays with Ali! Your dynamic together is amazing:)

@neetib8094 3 года назад

Th last "Byeee" is soo cute... Ali's haircut is making him look even cuter❤️ And Sheen, I really relate to you A LOTTTT. Fell in love with your personality since the Relationships Q/A video came out❤️

@salemmalibary4194 3 года назад

I think he learned that " good stuff" isnt passing the 101 class

@randomstranger8081 3 года назад

He didn't lol

@neetib8094 3 года назад

2:05- Ali's acting skills are cool No wait, Oh my God Ali, you act Soooooo welll ... That's Amaaazing😉

@suki7333 3 года назад

What a lovely personality you have, Sheen. So glad I found you through Ali.

@jassimkoya 3 года назад

It's just so wholesome watching the two of you eat and chat away... Kinda feel like a friend sitting with you and sharing your meal and thoughts! Looking forward to the next one Sheen! ❤️

@humerahumera5856 3 года назад

Yes this is so different and nice. Makes us feel that we are with them .

@katiewilkinson5593 3 года назад

Sheen, you have a wonderful heart and are so kind to others. I think more people should subscribe to your channel, it's beautiful to see and listen to how people respond/open up in your presence. Thank you for being you and sharing😊🙌

@sokuntheaphork1066 3 года назад

I guess to Ali empathy is more like a decision, he definitely recognizes or feels it, it’s just a matter of whether or not he wanna do sth about it, whereas for Sheen, being emphatic is sort of her natural or even default reaction to things. On a side note, I really enjoy this segment, hope you continue to do more of it ❤️ Thank you 💕

@GalsaTjarib 3 года назад

We're In Ramadan and I'm so hungry while watching u guys..... Great video as expected

@saravananvelayudham772 3 года назад

Ali it’s better to say goodbye to your gym shark athlete dream!! Haha😂😂😂😂

@ShirazChanawala 3 года назад

Sheen is brilliant. So articulate and intelligent.

@mariamelsayem 3 года назад

I love this friendship! You two need to start a podcast together 🙌🏻

@AlexandraK712 3 года назад

I love these Woke Wednesdays with Ali; also I'm glad Sheen was able to eat in this episode unlike last week lol. You're awesome Sheen!

@thisisarika 3 года назад

I love this format of a casual chat while covering such deep topics! Love watching you guys communicate

@Dr.anisatariq 3 года назад

Sheen after this video checking to see if her birthday is saved on Ali's calender. 😂

@fairuseakter6990 3 года назад

Ali's comment "Good stuff" is equal to "OH MY GOD!! I CAN"T... THANK YOU SO MUCH!! AH THIS IS ABSOLUTELY INCREDIBLE!!!" XD

@humerahumera5856 3 года назад

I just cannot tell you enough . How much I am in love with the conversation. That example Ali gave about Sheen being upset was so good. And their expressions and Sheen saying all this is hypothetical right was so good.

@SheenGurrib 3 года назад

Aww thank you!!

@jarrodsio 3 года назад

this is very podcast-y. I listen to your banter via headphones around the house. The piano music in the background, plus the warmth of your relationship and vocal tones makes this very ASMR. Kudos.

@sinemcelcius 3 года назад

Ohhh I am starting to enjoy this format, feels warm.

@simranrajian6276 3 года назад

I was smiling like an idiot throughout the whole video. It’s so good. More of this content pls. ❤️

@humerahumera5856 3 года назад

Awww same here

@vrd1978 3 года назад

The way Ali throws the Chapatis is stylish.

@SnehaSrik 3 года назад

You both have such a good dynamic, I feel like both of your EQ's are high but you just express and portray it in a different way. I would happily ask both of you for life advice and I trust that you both would actually listen to me and help me work through it (even though I don't know either of you in real life but if we were to be friends haha) I completely get the constantly monitoring of emotions as well. I actually work as a resident assistant at my university residence and whenever I see/hear of one of my residents feeling off I almost feel like its my fault (its a strength and weakness) I guess there is such a thing as over-empathetic

@AydinNasirzadeAZE 3 года назад

Guys, i am obsessed with you. Today I saw you two in my dream. 😐 Food sharing was absolutely cute at 17:51. When am getting a friend like you guys 😭

@mlxlmewq7733 3 года назад

I don’t know why I started laughing so much when he said he qualified in communication skills from Cambridge 🤣

@gretchencanada495 2 года назад

Thank u for creating woke wednesday. I felt like i finally found that circle or friends and great conversations.

@agataadino1322 3 года назад

Something ealse came to mind as well: a big part of this emotional intelligence dynamic is also the way people are socialized or the expectations put onto them by their Enviroment. I know from home and from most of my friends with immigrant parents, partly rooted in patriarchy, is that women are forced more to be empathetic and socialized to be that way which is why ppl say we have "soft power". Men on the other hand are not made to fulfuill these roles and usually take less notice of others feelings. Just a thought

@agataadino1322 3 года назад

Women are made to be constantly be aware of our surroundings for various reasons (safety etc) and we are socialized to not make anyone uncomfortable, to not cause problems, be passive, not take space up. This makes us generally more emotionally intelligent and read feelings better. This is a generalization and obviously cultures and situations vary greatly

@muhammadatif25 3 года назад

Listening to all this stuff, it makes me feel that real partners do not notice each other that much deeper than Sheen and Ali lol. Btw I loved how Ali talked about stuttering coz I am one of those people who do stutter.

@rizwanakhan2982 3 года назад

Watching this while fasting and I think I watched the food more than the video😂. But great video though

@fieldofdreams7771 3 года назад

Watching while I just break my fasting.

@a.b.haider304 3 года назад

The vibes in this video are unreal. Well done, Sheen and Ali!

@salehaiqbal9511 2 года назад

Ali takes criticism even on camera he is very humble It takes courage to even listen when someone straight up calls you mean and not a feeler ..

@AkachukwuMadueke 3 года назад

I just love Sheen!!!!! 💛 You're so adorable 🥰

@Lavender_flower9 3 года назад

This video is so warm , I wish I can be surrounded by people have the same thoughts and personalities as yours one day .

@hereissaba7619 3 года назад

"Ali take the bloody hint and do something special for my birthday" was the clear message I got out of this video. LOL 😂

@SheenGurrib 3 года назад

Very much so!

@farjanaprodhani9326 3 года назад

They are just adorable..❤❤❤

@jessicac5301 3 года назад

I wish I could decide if I want to turn my empathy on. Listening to this was so entertaining to see the differences in personalities. Logical mind vs. emotional mind. As someone who always has Empathy turned on like Sheen, it gets exhausting! lol

@sarasadeghi1628 3 года назад

I think when we develop a deeper relationship with people that we love or love hanging out with or spend time together empathy becomes easier and unconscious. you don't have to actively consider people's feelings.

@madscarvalho 3 года назад

Woke Wednesdays always make my day better

@alihussain6432 3 года назад

yes Sheen is a warm, empathetic person. I can get the vibes just from the screen. I wonder how great she must be in-person. Loving these conversations!

@tinestudios 3 года назад

I was similar to Ali. I realise some of it is from my past. Feeling secure would probably free you up to care and think about others. Being a perfectionist is also thinking you’re not good enough. When you feel worthy and enough you wouldn’t be thinking about what’s wrong with you. Sheen you’re so awesome! Ali too!

@haseena1001 3 года назад

Hi Sheen - It is through conversations that we can explore and discover a deeper understanding and alternative perspectives of people. Interesting topic for sure! 😊💛

@aliii_1184 3 года назад

Very interesting video, Sheen, as always. Love your content. Lots of love from Spain!!!! 💕💕💕

@ayshayousuf1272 3 года назад

I wonder if you’re an INFJ Sheen? A lot of what you said about monitoring/noticing others emotions really resonates with me and I am an INFJ 😊. Loved the video! ❤️

@usefulthings518 3 года назад

The video title should be “how my flat mate eat my meal productively “ Nice pair

@hannahnygaard8404 3 года назад

Sheen, I love seeing your channel grow. I first subscribed to you because I liked your appearance on «not overthinking». I am looking forward to seeing more of you! I have watched every video of yours as of now, and I am becoming a bigger and bigger fan of you 😊

@AfroLatinaPTY 3 года назад

Minute 2:02. is so funny. In this I can sometimes relate to Ali, and sometimes to Sheen, depends on the day and situation. Good stuff guys, loved this video.

@noura7151 3 года назад

I love these talks so much waiting for part 2

@anubhavchakravarty1894 3 года назад

Don’t know if you’ve noticed, you have around 5000 views and 5000 Subcribers. Everyone is watching your videos. Keep them going we love them. Gonna support you throughout your RU-vid journey. Also say hi to Ali from me :)

@valeriacabanavillegas2300 2 года назад

Me encanta este tipo de videos porque hablan con tanta naturalidad sin exagerar nada siendo ustedes mismos, siempre me recuerda el tipo de amistad que quiero tener.

@candychebet896 3 года назад

If he doesn't think you gas him up, it means he has never doubted the things you compliment him about. Looool! :-)

@nishitasuresh7756 3 года назад

This is super relatable Sheen! I'm just sitting here and feeling - YES! I KNOW RIGHT?

@Monalisa-ls5tt 3 года назад

This is a great conversation!

@shaunsbudgetingjourney 3 года назад

I think someone made the comment earlier about being emotionally sensitive is draining but I wanted to add my own context as well. For me personally I am one of the ones that picks up on emotions well but it feels I’m always on edge. As a person it makes me crave my alone time even more. I honestly like Ali’s approach because he so what reminds me of my family members. If Ali would like to work on being more empathetic, I would use the approach of what is the other person trying to say through their feelings/ actions. Even our complex emotions(ie frustration, sorrow, joy) comes from our basic emotions (hurt, happy). Just start to notice when people are happy or sad and then you can work from there.

@jashra1 3 года назад

You guys really are an exemplar of how one can learn, even while building our own brands, and behind tons of work, especially how flatmates or roommates could act as a catalyst in it!

@SerenaShah 3 года назад

Haha I love that you guys both eat your food with your hands!! So wholesome

@aishwaryasathyam4393 3 года назад

No no , there is nothing to change(regarding empathy) with Ali. He is perfect.

@MarianaKobayashi 3 года назад

I believe it also takes a lot of practice to interact with people and become empathetic. In the end, we all have the same struggles!

@laurenzojames 3 года назад

sheen's personality ❣️✨✨

@fatennaseha 3 года назад

For some reason, I would get ready for your video by finding something to eat first. So it would feel as if we are all eating together, while me listening you two having conversations. Good stuff.

@Esxae 3 года назад

Hope you both continue making videos together because they’re so interesting to watch; love your personalities and this friendship.

@saeedanasir 3 года назад

Awesome choice of topic for Woke Wednesdays Sheen. Love your conversations with Ali and gotta say being a person who has desi silky hair, I LOOOOOOVE your hair. They are so kool.

@hyacinthzia9892 3 года назад

Sheen I love Woke Wednesday’s! Btw loving your curls! Would love to watch a vlog on your hair routine.

@siquanwu3131 3 года назад

Love the idea of ‘it’s not worth of my time now’

@himanshi8888 3 года назад

Love love love . Just love your vibe . Honestly jealous of Ali ! U are a great person to share a home with

@wr7817 3 года назад

You are an absolute legend 💪🏽

@nazi_n2637 3 года назад

I always feel hungry looking u guys eating 😭. That's not right!

@padminisivakumar8274 3 года назад

hii, amazing video- Ali and Sheen, looking forward to more :)

@kaykhan4100 3 года назад

I am so glad I have been introduced to you, Sheen, through Ali's videos. I love the format and the focus of your channel. Looking forward to going through your older videos and watching your upcoming ones. :) This was a great session! It was eye opening on so many levels.

@ariaalarie828 3 года назад

Sheen's facial expressions are priceless 😂

@asmitasaha8097 3 года назад

Loved every bit of this, Sheen! The way you talk about empathy and all the examples are so on point💕

@ranganayakivenkatraman6352 3 года назад

I've watched all your videos and I love your content ! Ali is lucky to have you in his life. Please keep the content coming ❤️

@tanvikhaliqahmed110 3 года назад

I LOVE THESE VIDEOS BECAUSE I GET TO SEE BOTH SIDES OF THE SPECTRUM. With Ali being completely diff from sheen🥰

@tanviranjumahmed4091 3 года назад

Great stuff Sheen!!! I hope you hit 100k subs milestone soon!!! 😀

@shinydsouza6286 3 года назад

Listening to it on a Thursday! Such good vibes ❤️😘 lovely Sheen :)

@HomeHome-he2xq 3 года назад

@ Ali @ Sheen . Pls make a video on how the Under Grad College life can make a difference to how you develop as a student and human being!!

@rycreate2521 3 года назад

At a young age, women are unknowingly being trained to be emphathetic and men to be "strong". It goes back to upbringing. It isn't just because Ali is not so sensitive...societal roles and expectations come into play...But then, psychologists would argue that it isn't healthy to be responsible for other people's feeling. Not saying you can be rude, but there's a tendency to be overly used or abused because of your kindness.

@flex391 3 года назад

I can sit and watch your videos for HOURS Sheen! God I can’t wait for school to end so I can binge your videos for hours without the constant worry of exams haha!