Wow this is so eye opening and very tire. My mom was told she shouldn’t continue her education after high school because she wouldn’t use it. She immigrated to the U.S when she was 17 so she didn’t finish but like she was saying about her mom, my mom has always pushed me towards my love of education.
My mother pushed to get my High School Diploma as she only went to 5th grade. She was smart with Real Estate and did well on flipping houses. I went further and got the Associate Degree and am working on the Bachelors Degree. I've encouraged my daughter's to go to College. One Graduated and the other is working on it. Encourage your boys too as they are trapped in the Male Trap.
I think that Michelle takes the bold assuming-majoritarian perspective on what Mexican-American culture genuinely is. She assumes that every Latinx household discourages education, and continues to perpetuate the offensive stereotypes toward the misunderstood culture. She even made a video explaining how disconnected she feels as a 4th generation Mexican American and assimilated into American culture. It's called "Moving Beyond the Chicano Borderlands" by her, Michelle Navarro. Because of this previous video, I find it ironic that she would go up on a TEDx to completely sabotage what she claims she doesn't yet understand. What I am trying to get across is that we cannot be boiled down to these rediculous stereotypes that automatically blame Latinx people to be culturally and intellectually deficient, as if our people celebrate the misery of working in the shadows of America for mere cents. We, the Mexican-American Chicanos don't look forward to generations of teen pregnancy, hunger, and misfortune. Instead of blaming the individuals let's start to look beyond the initial prejudiced accusations, and begin to understand the dysfunctional social system that leads people to such lives. And while I recognize that Mexican-American culture isn't perfect, nor flawless I proudly identify with my culture and embrace it for the generations to come. It has helped our peoples navigate the always-changing environment, including when the state has neglected us and for that I value it.
I'm from San Diego my mom was always strict with my older brother and I with our school education, after high school she wanted us to go straight to college. My older brother dropped out from college and I haven't because I want to achieve my goal in getting my associates degree in Criminal justice. My stepdad makes fun of me since I have a learning disability I learn slow and he thinks that I won't graduate college but my mom deep inside her heart she knows I will graduate soon and head on straight to a university
I always refused to have my quinceañera party, some of the reasons are the one she says. Many people told me I will regret it afterwards and fifteen years later I still think that was a good decision.
My daugher said she did not want a quince, I personally was proud. This has nothing to do with culture but she does not want or need a announcement she is becoming a woman she has no interest to marry young or have people look at her differently, but it is her choice and her own ideas and I support her. Yet we still speak spanish, still brown and eat our cultural food so no, not ashamed just pogressed the mindset and knowledge of modern days.
That was so beautiful and inspiring. Muchas Gracias familia. Although my 21 yr old daughter has never traveled out of Puerto Rico, aside from speaking very proper Spanish, (not everybody does), she speaks fluent English, some Italian and sign language. She is a very educated, well versed, knowledgeable about many different issues, very opinionated with the capacity to make decisions based on her own criteria young lady. She paints and writes poetry. At this moment she is in her senior year studying to be a biologist and works part time. Her development as a person, as a conscious human being is due IN PART thanks to those coloring books and books dealing with nature and the environment and history I used to buy for her EVERY PAY DAY. Those books instilled in her the idea of one day becoming a biologist and working with the NATIONAL GEOGRAPHIC INSTITUTE in order to help protect nature and endangered species. Whenever she learned something new she would approach me all excited with those beautiful big eyes of hers beaming with a: "HEY DAD, DID YOU KNOW SUCH THING?". I'd stop whatever I was doing to listen to her, otherwise if I pretended I was listening but really wasn't, she would notice and she would ask me questions about what she had just told me. I'm so freaking proud of her.
With all do respect Not every family in Mexico is like that,there is always two sides of the story I’m sad to learn that your family live true that situation. But you can’t stereotype a culture true history personally I don’t think is fair. Usted no habla de los obstáculos de vivir en este país si adoptas y aplicas la historia de este país a una familia hispana ,latina o Mexicano America, no creo que sea justo. Igual siempre hay dos lados de la vida.
Sadly, as a Latina, I could not relate to her message of encouraging hispanic women to grow because my siblings and I were constantly encouraged to strive towards obtaining a higher education. This vision was made clear despite of possible economic setbacks. While I did have a quinceañera party, I did not fall into any of the mishaps that she is referring to, like teen pregnancy. As a Latina woman who has obtained a masters degree in Spanish and Latin American literature, I believed it was fair to give my daughter a quinceañera party as a demonstration that coming into womanhood means so much more than looking pretty in a beautiful gown to then marry her off. That’s silly! Not to say this tradition could mean marriage to other families. Furthermore, an education is something that my grandmother inculcated in all of us. Her legacy continues despite of our religion, traditions, customs, or the story of “la llorona” (which is more of an urban legend and NOT a bed time story as she proclaims). I found this video to be quite general and somewhat offensive. In my household, I teach my daughter and son about Frida Kahlo and Dolores Huerta as figures of power and fortitude. Moreover, there are levels of subservience in every household. I found it sad, however, that her mother was beaten when she demonstrated a will to want to read, but that is something that just doesn’t happen in all latinx families. She is telling her story which is just that-her story and she is generalizing. There are a million other latinx stories out there that look nothing like what she is mentioning.
Maria Arroyo this sounds more like discrimination in disguise. Her topic is legitimate and consistent and happening at this moment in many homes. These people can greatly benefit from her message. I can already hear the politicians telling Trump “ Don’t waste your time discrediting the latinos, give them enough time and they will destroy each other “.
@@lindaluz612 As someone who has lived in the barrio of san antonio what she talks about is constantly happening there and has happened in my own family there are a million of stories who look like hers and theres millions of stories that dont.
The few times I have encountered tangible role models, was brief. They all screwed me over, and I was their student! All were college professors, and one of them said they never received my final when I had been working towards an A the entire semester. Tried to say hi to her in the hallways despite this, because she was the first latina intellectual I had ever encountered, and she rolled her eyes at me and ignored me. That's some petty shit. The others were TERRIBLE as well and tried to ruin me. Latinas, especially older professionals, STOP belittling and discouraging the younger latinas who look up to you. we are not your competition. Latinas stop hating on those who have been removed from our heritage, for some, like myself, it was not an option. I am having to learn as an adult. Very sad.
I don't agree with her completely, there are some things that she mentioned that may not applied to every single Mexican family. I don't think La llorona is a bedtime story. That's why is important to use the right language.
Well, I completely related to her story. Her parents married in 1960, and mine in 1961. We belong to the same Latino generation. Fortunately, things have changed for many Latina Millennials, which is wonderful. Latinas in the US are strong, and many are following a career path. Wherever I look, I see Latinas doing something to grow as the beautiful and strong women they are. I am speaking about Latinas from Mexican and Central American heritage, the ones that are closer to my culture and my heart.
I cried. Ask your daughters what is a quincenera? Ask them to google the tradition and if they identify and still choose to participate in the tradition. Ask your sons who the most important woman in their life is and to treat every woman and man w that equal respect, including them selves.
Every girl is born with a God-given dream. I always wanted to be a mom/homemaker. Always gravitated towards dolls ans penthouses at our local Girl's Club. I did go beauty school (that too is a God-given talent) and completed the course at a community college in Los Angeles, California, but I did not pursue a career as a hairdresser because I wanted to be a stay-at-home mom, and that I am to this day 5 children later. My cosmetology course has come in very handy. We save lots of money. I do want to add that I did work for the most part of my 3 eldest children childhood years which has become my biggest regret. They are less happier than my 2 younger children whom had me home for most of their childhood years. They're actually homeschooling now and we're loving it. My case in point, please do not try to impose your or your parent's childhood complexes on others. If your daughter wants to have children instead of pursuing a degree, BE HAPPY FOR HER. My middle daughter was granted a Dean's scholarship at Westminster College. She went to college for 2 days and knew that it wasn't for her. She wants to get married and have children and this momma right here is VERY HAPPY FOR HER and very proud. My 21 year old daughter-in-law and my firstborn son have given me 2 grandbabies so far. ❤ We are HAPPY conservative Latinos blessed to be in the greatest country on earth. GOD IS GOOD. 👐❤
It’s obvious that you did not understand her message, it was directed to the latinas that are being taught by their mothers that furthering their education is not a realistic option. The fact that you took her message as an attack on stay at home moms sounds more like a justification to your choice of staying home. Education would have helped you better understand her message. Support your fellow latina whether she chooses an education and career or to stay home and care for her children. The point is to teach our daughters that they have a choice and that anything is possible. Stop sending negative messages, learn to voice your opinion in a way that benefits, educates and empowers us all. Be the change that we need because woman who trip up other women are a dime a dozen. The way you expressed your comment sounds more like a justification for your choice. La palabra que tú buscas, es “conformismo”. A woman who is truly satisfied with being a stay at home would have had a more positive comment backed up with the fact that girls have a choice!
I understand her points of view are based on her family's experiences. However, it seems that she is blaming the lack of motivation for higher education in the Latinx culture, or as a cultural deficiency. I think she should have read up on some cultural deficiency models versus resistant models articles. There is also a lot of history, going as far back to the Mexica, that proof there has always been an emphasis in education in Latinx history. The colonizers are actually the ones who made it hard for the indigenous and other low classes to have access to education. Hence, the result of illiteracy in low income working class. This again is not because they do not care for education, but as her grandma felt, they had become conditioned to perform their duties or else face punishment. She is very brave to share her story, but I feel she is making a bit of an assumption that all Latinx girls fit this narrative which is the cause for the low graduations and for the high drop out rates.
I liked everything she said in this video but she keeps referring to some Mexican traditions and costumes as being the traditions of all Latinos or as she says Hispanics and that is not the case, I believe she should have specified that those are Mexican traditions or probably costumes people from Central America are more familiar with because I’m Latino and I grew up in a Latino barrio and we didn’t do a lot of the things she talks about and I also know people from different other Latino countries in South America that can not relate to a lot of the traditions or costumes she talks about.
I’m not saying that these examples are not true, however it’s not the case in many, many instances. With all due respect I don’t agree with everything said in this talk