ENFJs - 12 Rules for Life 

Thanks ENFJs for being wonderful individuals, I love you so much! -Isfp

Oh man, saying No is something I had to seriously grow in. I still find myself struggling to say it but my goodness does it bring so much more peace knowing you are not tied to a Yes.

I definitely feel like ENFJs (as I am one) we tend to want to pick others up, even at the expense of our overall happiness. I see that as a main theme of this video, thanks Nathan!

My husband is an ENFJ.... he is amazing. He's an entrepreneur and has done so much for his employees over the years. Helping people move, getting vehicles, loans... even at his own expense, skipping a paycheck personally. He has been burned many times but he still has this inate urge to be there for people. As an INFP, i am amazed at his ability to connect people with each other for networking and his command of social situations, and nurturing relationships for years. His kindness is unmatched. ❤❤❤ definitely blessed to have my ENFJ

A great video, thank you for helping us ENFJs out, lord knows we can help others and struggle helping ourselves.

The few ENFJs I know work very, very hard for other people, have incredible intuition about others, are great teachers, and don't take good enough care of themselves. Overall great advice.

ENFJS TO RULE THEM ALL

Wow, I never realized we can get into ISTP mode cause that’s exactly how I feel right now. Also I personally feel so guilty thinking of relationships as transactions but I know it keeps me in check and I’m a healthier place in life if I do… Always love your content - thank you for sharing. ❤

Thanks for these rules, Nathan. Despite being an INFJ, I still identify strongly with ENFJs, and have even been mistyped as one on occasion. I find myself wanting to help everyone, but have learned that sometimes, people simply don't want your assistance, or they can't be helped.

Yay, more content for enfj ❤️

I CAN’T believe how timely and fitting these are! For instance 2 days ago I decided I needed to learn how to adopt new good habits! You said it so beautifully. Thank you! Now, need to listen to it all again.

Thank you for this! I either laughed or nodded over pretty much all of these. Your compassionate candor is so helpful. Being primarily relationally motivated in a world that rewards productivity has been such a challenge, as well. Then then there's trying to find a way to get relief through Se as a severely disabled person, knowing it's key to an ENFJ's self-preservation.

I always look forward to your content, esp what you say about ENFJs. This video just reaffirms for me that the resolutions i've set for this new year (having all relating to what u've said in the video) feel the most personal to me and are on the right track.

Thank you so much this video is so helpful for me and to other enfj's too. I love helping other people to the point that I neglected myself. But this video enlightened me to know when to set boundaries.❤

Thanks so much Nathan! I don't usually comment but this time I had to. Wonderful video, it confirms that I'm indeed an ENFJ and gives astonishing advice, for example about boundaries. It shows that you took the time to distill ENFJs' insights. Great job!

Thank you. Relate so much and sure this is gonna impact my life in a positive way.

I have waited for this series!! Please continue with making videos about each type!

This is so accurate and needed right now! Thank you Nathan! :)

Man this resonates with me so well. Ty Ty so much for this

Thank you for this ❤

Intuition: moving through life in tune with the extracted idea behind the sensory information one receives. 1. The mind stores such extracted ideas and assembles them into a database. 2. Finds similarity between one extracted idea and another one in situations. 3. Puts things into context.

you deserve more likes and views

Thank you so much for this 🤍

As an ISTP I'd say some of the people who really helped me realize people's intentions and actions the most, before I got more experience myself have probably been ENFJs. Which is something I appreciate because it is not something that came natural to me, I feel in most of the friendships I tried to teach them something too or at least be a reasonable shoulder to lean on in crisis. However usually the friendships never lasts, it usually goes like they try to tell me something isn't going to work - like a friendship with someone else for instance. And I usually am a driven man in what I chose to do, like if I have some goal I will work hard towards it with a singular focus. So it's like the analogy of an unstoppable force meeting an immovable object. I carry on the way they advice against and either I do something which offends them, like not catching up in great detail or unknowingly ignore them, or they offend me or someone I care about.

Thank you 💗 ENFJ over here.

Every thing you said in this I’ve learned over the years wooo and it came at a price of falling hard on my butt and being burned consistently in relationships

Great content as always and always consider more great INTJ content.

Keep going Nathan ! Your channel is one of the best , you have a unique attitude and your tone is fantastic...Wish you all the best Infp•••

I appreciate your advice, Nathan. It definitely makes sense for my life as an ENFJ. Much appreciated!

Boundaries are a big, big deal for ENFJs. We are easy marks for manipulative, abusive people, until we are burned so badly we learn to erect boundaries to protect ourselves.

I recently managed no.8 & 9, such a relief for myself. So grateful for your in depth research for us ENFJ. It would be lovely to welcome you and all to enjoy my humble RU-vid videos in your own happy time. No worries if not, I’m happy either ways !!! My sincerest Best wishes for you and all your viewers 💖💖💖✨✨✨

I'm just here to be surrounded by my favourite type, don't mind me.

Ok, I can see it. I'll meet you in DMs for a more thorough critique if, on reflection, something bubbles up.

Precious suggestions! I became much more healthier and happier after I stopped to want to help people so badly. I was just been codependent.🤪

Great job😊😊

Si trickster can't form a habit, but Se can develop a routine.

I love this, I am not alone as my son has test as ENFJ too and his twin is INFJ. Love no 2 and no 7 so much.

I want to see realize you've let yourself be taken advantage of most of your life because your empathic then it becomes easier to say no. You do it just out of protection of yourself

For an INTP, Nathan has a pretty good grasp on pulling at the heart strings. You got me on that last part huh😭

This whole ISTP subconscious thing is a revelation…my ex ISTP partner drove me mad talking about discipline and consistency and focus and not being out socialising all the time and always accused me of not having boundaries and being too sensitive and indirect. Lol. So he wass sent to teach me 😂

Please do a video on enfj enneagram 8. It's so rare, but so interesting. Keep up with the video, they are amazing 😁

Thank you so much 12 rules for enfj like me .. especially power of and trust but verify concept.

Could you make an Entj version when your able pleasee i love how you make tips for the personalities

Great video ! Much wisdom here! // 32 M ENFJ

Thank you

Good video

I am an ENFJ and yes....good rules

May you consider a "12 rules/advice/suggestions for life , ESFP" , I'm an ENFJ friend and I'm(and others are..) struggling.🍃💜🤙🏾👌🏾 Thank you so, SO much if you decide to do this. Ofc, this is your channel, and we respect your decision if you don't do this, just saying it would do a potato good if you even put out 2 pieces of advice and called it "2 suggestions for life, ESFP" Ps. Thanks for reading this far🙏🏾

Number 7 is uuuugh. I think I have a tendency to instinctively "Lycurgus" everyone around me without even really realizing it. Lycurgus was the ruler of Sparta - Plutarch describes his methods as, essentially, the strategic removal of temptation. I've often wondered how much growth I'm robbing my people of by forever intuitively herding them away from really falling on their face. 🙁

Can you post a video about shadow/unconscious focused types? Like unconscious focused ENFJ and INFP

Why did you drop this at the end of my lunch 😢

I need to take a class to understand all of this vocabulary

ENFJ type 2w1 here. Thanks for the advice.

I want an ENFJ! ❤❤ - Infp

I am a ninja!!

I'm a self starter

💯👌✅✅✅

I don't have a problem saying no. My issue is the consequences that will happen when I say no. Also, if I ever have a problem saying no, it's because the person I'm talking to is insane. So it's probably smarter not to argue with them. Because arguing will only cause them to provoke me more. If I am encountering a normal situation, then I'm not having an issue saying no. Like, so he asked me if I liked yerba mate. I have no problem saying no. But if somebody tells me that I have to Chuck a yerba mate at someone's head. Then I'm not going to say no, because that's so insane, that person is probably shouting and ranting. So instead of saying no to a crazy person, I'm just going to discreetly hide the Yerba mate so nobody gets hit in the head with a can of tea

What's an "SE?" It was mentioned in point #8?

The discord server invite doesn' work.

Why am I emotional?

WHAT THE FUCK IS FE?