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원래 자녀계획은 부부의 것이죠!! 😊 타인의 생각이나 아이의 막연한 생각보다 부부의 계획이 존중되어야 한다고 생각해요. 만약 진정부부가 루다를 키워보니 둘째도 괜찮다 싶으시면 낳으실 수도 있겠지만 아이를 가지고 낳는 여정도 또 험난하잖아요 ㅠㅠ 많은 고민이 필요한 시점 같습니다 ㅎㅎ +) 진정부부님께 드리는 말씀이 아닌 루다를 위해 둘째를 낳으라고 하시는 분들께 드리는 경험담을 말씀드리자면 첫째를 위해서 둘째를 낳는다는 생각은 위험하다고 생각해요. 물론 둘째를 낳으면 둘째대로 예쁘겠지만 둘째가 계획에 없는 상태에서 첫째를 위해서 가진다는 생각으로 둘째를 낳은 경우를 직업특성상 만나볼 수 있었는데 정서적으로 좋아보이지 않았어요. 두 아이를 부모가 바쁜 와중에 서로를 케어하기 위한 도구처럼 방임되는 경우도 있었고, 첫째에 대한 과도한 애정으로 둘째에게 애정결핍이 생겨 문제를 일으키는 경우도 봤어요. 첫째가 원해서 가졌는데 동생이 생기고 애정이 분산된다는 생각을 하게 된 첫째가 과하게 동생을 모함해서 하소연 하는 부모님들도 계시구요. 오히려 동생이 있으면 정서적으로 좋다는 건 편견이라고 생각해요. 그런 이유로 낳으라 마라는 아주 좋지 않은 생각 같습니다.
너무 좋은 의견이고 댓글입니다. 저희도 루다를 위해서 낳는건 아니라고 생각하는 결론에 이르렀어요. 동생을 원해도 막상 낳으면 심한 질투를 하는 경우도 많고.. 둘을 키운다고 육아가 2배 힘든게 아닌 10배 이상 힘들다고도 하고..저희 둘이 준비가 되었을 때 시도하고 낳는게 맞지요 ! 가족을 하나 더 맞이한다는건 큰 결심이 필요하기에 저희가 많은 고민을 하고 있는거 같아요. 심지어 유튜브도 운영하고 있기에 더더욱이요. 조금 더 고민해보고 상의하고 결단을 내려야할거 같아요 😂 조언 감사합니다💕 모두가 보면 좋을거 같아 고정 !
I love this answer!! It’s a decision for you & your husband always and MJ I know you deal with back issues that would also be something else to consider as well. You & your husband will do what’s best for your family ❤ Love you guys 🥰
맞는 말씀 입니다. 다만 40된 외동남자로 자라온 전 사실 조금 외로울때가 있습니다. 특히 매일매일이 좋은 일만 있는게 아니기에. 5년전에 아버지가 큰 사고 났을때 혼자서 일 처리 하러 다니고 이런건 힘든게 아니였습니다. 단지 옆에서 위로갈 될 형, 누나, 동생이 없다는거에 많이 외로웠어요. 그렇다고 부모님에게 내색은 못 하니까요. 뒤에서 얼마나 눈물이 나던지. 다들 자라온 환경이 다르니 생각은 다릅니다. 단지 루다가 너무 귀여워서 잘 보고 있는 사람중 하나입니다. 루다야 건강하게 자라자^^
진정부부 오래 보신 분들이 아니라몀,, 민정님이 어떻게 힘들게 루다를 가졌는지 모르시겠지요...? 민정님도 둘째가 조심스러우신게 그 이유였을 것 같아요 둘째도 넘넘 예뿌겠지만.. 오래 본 구독자로써,, 민정님은 그 힘든 시간을 또 거쳐야하니 생각을 안 하다가도! ,, 그치지 않는 둘째 욕심 ㅋㅋㅋㅋㅋㅋㅋㅋㅋㅋㅋ루다야 우리 리아로 만족하댜~~😢
Yeah I would like to see ruda with a younger sibling😉😍Ruda will take care of her younger sibling well😁❤Sometimes it's better to have another child coz the first born child may feel alone after sometimes so it's good to have child😍🐣🤩
저도 엄마피셜로는 동생을 안원하다가 원한 케이스이거든요.. 기억이 좀 나서 얘기를 하자면..? 놀이터에서 동생 있는거 보고 딱 한번 부러웠는데 애기들은 원래 조금만 생각해도 극대화해서 얘기하자나요 딱 그대로 였어요 생기자마자 불행 시작 아직도 후회해요 동생 만들어달라고 한거 루다랑 어릴때 저랑 비슷한 점이 좀 있는거 같은데 자존심 쎄거나 그런 애기들은 외동으로 자라는게 좋은거 가타여 투큐ㅜ 부모님이 잘 해주세니까
Normally I would have said that it would be good for Ruda to have a little sister, but remembering how hard Ruda's birth was, I don't want MJ to go through that again. You are a lovely family the way you are now!❤
I luv that MJ did this video! The pressure of having a second child from others/viewers who aren’t raising the child is not fair and I luv how MJ explained that it’s up to MJ and KJ and of course Ruda’s opinion matters if they decide to have another precious one. I fully support whatever decision they make :) I also want to mention how freaking adorable our Princess Ruda-ping looks! The two braids and her outfit gives me bohemian vibes and a little of hotdog on the stick vibes lol! Luving it! ❤️👧🏻👨👩👧❣️
I know you will stop this channel after certain days for some reasons but still I want to see more and more videos of ruda😕🥺🥺Actually I'll be missing her more coz I'm watching her frm the very first ❤💫
When Ruda thinks about a younger sibling, she thinks about a baby that she can play mother to. She basically wants a new toy. I don't think a parent should assign much weight to it.
I think it is wonderful that you consider Ruda's well being and development as a huge factor in whether to have another child. I again would miss joining your family through your RU-vid videos if you end the channel, but I would hope you could give us maybe birthday or big life event updates as I am sure the old episodes will still be popular even if you stop making new content! Thank you for all the hard work you do for the channel and for yourselves and Ruda!
Ruda deserves privacy & a normal childhood, her parents are exploiting her for the $$ they earn, it’s like child actors but no laws to protect them. You wanting to see a stranger on the internet is parasocial & very invasive. Plus predators use the images of little girls for their own perverted pleasure. She could be kidnapped & harmed. See how many recognise & approach her in public.
Im sad if no ruda in every four days... i love seeing her growing up,and Lee's story is like a common what should family are,the grandparents the uncle... is like finding hope is this society... But... whatever the Lee's decision will be... i always support... love Ruda 🩷🩷🩷😭
Ter outro filho é exclusivamente decisão dos pais. É continuar com o canal também, porém sobre isso dói meu coração porque estou tão acostumada receber notificações e logo assistir seus conteúdos. Ver RUDA crescendo foi tão lindo e generoso da parte de MJ é KJ 💖 obrigado por isso.
I love Ruda’s hairstyle and outfit. She looks so adorable and so grown up.🥰 It would be cute to see Ruda as a big sister but that is MJ and KJ’s decision. I’m happy just to see her cute interactions with her little cousin.😊 I will be sad if they stop making videos. I love watching Ruda. She has become an intricate part of my life.🤗💕
You have to do what's best for you! Also in the US we sometimes say the first baby is the "trick baby" because they eat and sleep well, but the second is where the intense parenting starts 😂
Just don't have them too close in age and you are fine. I love my sibling and wouldn't trade them for the world. But I was only 1 and a half when my sibling was born. I have a memory when I was 2 (sibling about 6 months) and wanted my mom to hold me, I was crying and well 2, my mom would say "Now, now, you are the older child. You have to wait your turn. I can't hold you right now because I'm holding the baby." I always remember having to wait my turn. And then it never stopped. When I was 3 and a half my sibling was 2, they always had to be held first because "They are the youngest and will fuss and you are the oldest. You know better. Be the big kid for mom right now, ok?" If you have a baby when the child is 3 or 4 or even 5, then I could it not being like what my childhood was like. Because by then the child will want to run around and explore their world. At that age they are also good at playing with toys by themselves and listening to rules.
5:53 They are right about the child's cost. Growing up I was more aware of our money problems than my sibling. At age 8, I could see my mom barely had enough for us and spent none for herself. For 10 years she wore the same clothes and shoes even though they had holes in them and refused to buy new for herself because she had to buy clothes for us cause we kept growing. Then in middle school and high school my sibling was always in some sort of sport or stage production. Soccer, tennis, musical theatre, art classes, etc. It cost a lot of money. My mom would ask me "Don't you want to do any sports or activities?" I refused because I knew we couldn't afford it. It was only when later in grade 12 I went on a foreign exchange trip for myself. My sibling kept saying "You don't do anything but school! Do some activity! You don't do sports! You don't join clubs! Why? Do something!" So I got a job and paid for half the trip and my mom paid the other half. It was a good trip. :)
I am not a mother yet, I am a single child and I have lost my mother already, and to say this is an honour, I love MJ, she is an honest person and has the logical mindset which I believe all mothers should have. Times have changed and it's necessary for the parents to think before they act. She stated everything a mother has to go through in the whole 9-month process and IVF difficulties. Ruda's mom you are a gem! 😄
수익이 없는 유튜브를 운영하는 입장에서 민정님 생각들이 정말 이해가 가고 공감이 갑니다! 아이가 커가는 모습들을 예쁘게 기록할수 있는게 너무 좋은것 같아요! 기록하다보니 정말 많은 영상을 남기게 되더라고요 육아가 얼마나 힘든지 그걸가지고 이렇게 영상을 남기는게 얼마나 힘든지 아시면 악플 못 쓰죠ㅠ 민정님과 경진님 그리고 루다의 삶을 응원합니다😁
아.....시험관을 통해 어렵게 낳은 딸이셨구나...저도 매일 루다 찾아오다가 요즘은 뜸해진 랜선삼촌이에요 루다엄빠가 아이와 소통을 하려고 하신다는점에서 아이가 말트는 시점이 제일 귀찮고 힘들다고 하던데...그 흔한 짜증 안내셨을꺼 같고 아이가 원하는게 뭔지 포커스를 잘 잡아주셔서 루다가 요렇게 예쁘게 큰게 아닐까? 생각해봅니다 루다채널 계속해주시면 안댈까용? ㅠㅅㅠ 저는 결혼을 하지 않았지만 루다를 볼 때면 하루에 지친 피로가 녹는답니다....아이의 미소가 너무 백만불짜리 미소라...
Thank you so much for your honesty and candor I agree with your decisions. 😊❤ You are parents from the heart and you know what is best for your family. 😊❤ Thank you❤
저는 두살 터울의 여동생이 있지만 자매라도 성격,성향이 달라 많이 친하지않고 다른 지방에 살고있어 연락도 잘 안합니다. 남보다 못한 가족이라는 말도 있잖아요 ㅋㅋ 각자 결혼해서 가정을 꾸리고 있으니 집안 대소사는 남편에게 더 의지하게 됩니다.. 참 다양한 경우의 수가 있죠😂 루다처럼 예의바르고 친구들과 잘 어울리면 외동으로 커도 좋을 것 같아요~
The final decision will be from the parents of course. A brother or sister can have a positive impact on Ruda. She will learn the value of sharing, companionship, teaching and influencing, caring for others, protection, and family. She will become an aunt in later years. And in later years when the parents are older, additional siblings will be able to assist in their care.
Жаль, если канал закроется. Рудочка звёздочка! Все её полюбили. Хотелось бы видеть, как она растёт. Но это безусловно решение только этой прекрасной семьи. Большое уважение! Очень мудрые люди!❤
22개월 차이 자매를 키우고 있는 엄마로서 둘 키우는건 상상하는것보다 훠어어얼씬 힘들어요ㅠ 사람을 고용하던지 옆에서 도와줄 친정엄마나 시어머니가 안계시다면 정말 둘째 권하고 싶지 않아요ㅠㅜ 둘이 한꺼번에 아파서 둘다 입원해야되는데 남편이 연차 쓸수 없었을때 정말 절망이었어요 이미 첫째가 소아과 입원 중이었는데 4개월밖에 안된 둘째가 아파서 대학병원 입원해야만 하는 상황ㅠ 꼭 이런 상황 아니어도 육아에는 변수가 너무 많아요 애둘 키우려면 적어도 어른 셋은 있어야 하는거 같아요ㅠㅜ
I laugh hysterically when MJ starts talking about something that Ruda did while she's sitting right next to her, and Ruda stares at the camera with the serious look on her face as if saying, "you got a problem with that?" 😆
저는 한달전에 루팡 이모가 되었는데요!🤍 영상들 차근차근 정주행 하면서 부모가 된다는건 어렵고 많은 희생과 인내력 공감능력 등등 참 많은것이 필요하구나 라는걸 진정부부&다정모녀 보면서 많이 느끼고 있어요. 결혼도 안한 저도 아이를 너무 사랑 하지만 볼때와 키울땐 전혀 다를꺼 라는걸 알기에 벌써부터 걱정이고 딩크족 으로 살아야 하나 싶은 생각도 갖고 있어요. 정주행 하면서 본 민정님과 경진님이 제 3자의 말에 휘둘릴 분들이 아니란걸 잘 알기에! 어떤 선택을 하던 저는 그저 응원합니다!🙂 저는 진정부부 를 알고나서 좋은 엄마,아빠는 아이를 이렇게 대하는구나. 라고 많이 배우고 있어요! 이렇게 예쁘고 사회성 좋고 예의바른 루다가 있기까지 부모님 몫이 제일 컸다는걸 영상 보면서 너무 많이 느끼고 있기에 저는 진정부부께 너무 고생 많으시다고 루다 예쁘게 성장 하는 모습 유투브로 보여주셔서 감사하다고 말씀 드리고 싶어요! 응원합니다🫶🏻
루다가 옹알이할적 영상부터 보기 시작했는데... 어느새 이렇게 자라서 ㅠㅠ 유튜브로 만나지 못하게 된다고 생각하니까 괜히 찡하네요...ㅠㅠ 아가들은 너무 빨리자라서 ㅠㅠ 만약 유튜브를 만약 그만하게 된다면 어디선가 또 훌쩍훌쩍 자라있을 루다가 너무 그리울거같아요...ㅠㅠ
민정씨 경진씨 하시고 싶은대로 하세요. 루다도 지금은 동생 갖고 싶다고 해도 막상 생기면 괴로운 상황이 생길 수도 있고 … 40개월 아가가 거기까진 생각 못했을 확률이 높으니까요 ㅋㅋ 저도 맏이인데 동생 있는 게 꼭 좋지만은 않았거든요. 암튼 남의 집에 감 내놔라 배 내놔라 하는 소리들은 귀담아 듣지 마세요!
저도 맏이다보니 더더 고민이 많은거랍니다. 맏딸의 역할이란...😂 집집마다 상황이 같은건 아니지만서도 어쨌든 루다도 동생이 생기면 맏이가 되는거기에.. 동생이 있어서 장점보다 단점이 많긴 했습니다 저도(엉클 미안). 자매라면 또 달랐겠지만요. 어쨌든 집안에 큰 일이 생겼을 때 동생이 있으니 든든한건 있더라구요. 저희 부부가 더 많이 상의하고 이야기 나눠볼게요 !
Ruda would make a great big sister. It's sad to be an only child because all kids need someone they can always play with. Even if you do not want to have a biological second child, adoption could be a good idea.
Having another child just to accompany your first child isn’t right. Ruda is so young she doesn’t comprehend the changes a sibling would bring. A baby is a whole other human being, not an accessory to make a family look more ‘complete’. I don’t understand how people can tell a couple to have a baby like it’s ordering a meal. Especially as an Asian woman, it’s so common to hear things like ‘oh, you only have girls. You need to keep trying for a son’ or ‘you cannot get pregnant? What’s wrong with you?’. Parents, in-laws, even strangers will question and guilt you for your lack of children. MJ is right- never ever be pressured into a decision that would alter your entire life. The impact on a mother’s physical and mental well-being, the shifts in family dynamics and the financial costs are all things that are borne by the parents, not the ones asking for the baby in the first place. Asking about other people’s baby plans is honestly violating and oftentimes hurtful. Don’t ask others to have more children or why they don’t want children. Babies should be born out of love, not obligation, with parents that can provide them the kindness and care they deserve.
i too think a sister would be a greater blessing for ruda, but a brother would also be a blessing. either way, a sibling is the greatest gift you can give ruda
Both of my parents were only children, so they wanted me to have a sibling so I wouldn't be lonely growing up. So I do have a younger brother. I most enjoyed teaching him things and bossing him around. Other than that, he was pretty obnoxious--always clowning around and getting into trouble at school for being so disruptive in the classroom. My friends would actually tell me that they felt sorry for me that I had HIM as a brother. We fought a lot until we were teenagers, and then we bonded over rebelling against our strict parents. We got along well until his first marriage ended. Now we are much more distanced as brother and sister. I have been slowly awakening to the fact that he and I are very different, and although my loyalty to him as his sister remains, he has a much stronger alliance with the members of his new wife's family. My sense is that he is just staying in touch as a dutiful brother, but he doesn't show any real interest in my life or who I am, says we have nothing in common, and clearly would not have my back unless I set foot on his doorstep and had to beg him to take me in for some reason. He's not the kind of brother I would like to have. All this just to say: Every family is different, so it's best not to assume that "a sibling is the greatest gift you can give" a child. Just is not always the case.
I would miss Ruda when your youtube stops but it's the right choice for when she gets older. No kid should be too famous too young, she should have a normal childhood. It was a privilage to be able to see her grow. It is important to remember that it may be much harder to raise two kids in Korea than in our own countries. Education may be more essential and cost way more. It's may be impossible to give two children the same chances as the other kids. While in my country you wouldn't have to worry about that at all.
Well said MJ! I love your mindset and all of your answers! The only people who can make this decision is you and your husband ☺️ And the day you decide to close your channel, I will be proud to have been a part of your adventures and to have witness Ruda's growth ❤️ Love from France 🇫🇷
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