Your description of Self-Preservation 3 is as perfect as it's going to get. I questioned if I was indeed a type 3 for a while because I wasn't really focused on applause or admiration, especially with material success, and I was more focused on becoming the best version of myself and being perceived and acknowledged for who I really am (3w4). I also share that same dedication to not only being successful but a good person, and unlike the stereotypical type 3, I hate vanity or trying to appear as someone Im not, especially just to appeal to or fit in with others. Because of those traits, I didn't even consider the fact that I might be a type 3 until I looked more into it. I thought I was a 1w9 for a while and also considered 8w7 a lot before finally figuring it out.
One of the most impressive people I ever met in real life was a sp3 ENTJ. I've never seen such an over-achieving go-getter. They were collecting certifications and degrees like xbox achievements. They thought of themselves as a shy introvert, and I didn't know why. They taught me what ENTJs are actually like, outside of the stereotypes.
i’m a sexual three and i think this is one of the best videos and descriptions of the enneagram! it describes myself to a t. i have a lot of insecurities about myself and body, so i constantly want people to see that i’m an attractive woman. i don’t see myself that sensitive to rejection at first, but deep down i hide it at times. sometimes i might go as far as beat myself up over how i look despite how much work i put into myself looking as ideally attractive as possible, and call myself fat or ugly, not because i hate myself, but for the fact that i need to fit into the impossible beauty standards to find love; both for myself and others. being unloved or worse, drawing your friends away from me is the worst thing that can happen to me, so i feel like i should take responsibility for all of my actions to appear more honest with myself. i once thought to be an enneagram 4 for the longest time, but 4s want to use sadness and shame as a way to attract people, and i want to avoid feeling sad and shameful.
Great video! An important thing to note about sexual 3s is that sexual 3 men tend to be less submissive and more egocentric in comparison to their female counter parts. Im pretty sure Sandra Matri at one point even described them as enjoying danger, which can get them mistaken for 2 cores.
@@CoraNeeley whilst i see the point, i strongly disagree with gender norms relating to enneagram descriptions. yes by western standards this is usually true but it doesnt encapsulate the personality of everyone internationally and from different cultures
@@typhoelogy True! I’m not saying every sexual 3 is 1:1 with western gender norms to be clear. Their are plenty of sexual 3 men who present more feminine and vise versa-after all the whole point of 3 core (and sexual 3 in particular) is their adaptability. The point I was getting at is that sexual 3s CAN manifest in very egocentric, boisterous ways. Sexual 3s are often sterotyped as simply being trophy wives when the truth of the matter is they can be just as ambitious as any other 3 core. Obviously their focus is more on seduction and people pleasing and they tend to be less arrogant compared to social 3s, but not all of them are gonna be Cassie Howard.
@@CoraNeeley yeah i agree w u on this, sx3s are still very cold and quite uptight which makes them very arrogant. i always joke that sx3s I've known get embarrassed when being around people who are overly annoying or breaking the rules (anything that makes them look bad), as that, in association, also makes the sx3 look bad.
@@typhoelogy it’s honestly a very fascinating type BECAUSE of how much it can vary in presentation. They often Appear as fun living people while ACTUALLY being super pragmatic under the surface. Their kinda peak 2E NGL. Very good at adapting and impacting the emotional atmosphere while being emotionally “shallow” themselves. (Obviously shallow in a typology placement not in a human sense)
I'm very confused, maybe someone might be able to help clarify? The SP3 sounds so much like a social 7 because they both want to be seen as good people and rely on external validation. How would one differentiate these traits between these two types? A lot of the same descriptions seem to be used for various different types, so it gets very confusing
I typed SO7 for a very very long time. I guess what helped was looking at the macroelements each subtype is made of. I looked at the triads and realised how unrelatable the head triad was and how relatable the heart triad was, however with the subtypes all three were pretty relatable. Then I looked at the enneagram types and realised I don’t relate to gluttony at ALL. and that’s how I ended up at SP3 FVLE
I still think there is more going on with Cassie Howard then just her type 3 She is so unhinged later episodes and so overtly histrionic behavior that I wonder if she not suffering from a psychological disorder.
it is difficult to spot. usually, healthier individuals on their pathway to growth are more aware of their flaws/negative traits. they acknowledge that these are bad for them and they will try their best to work on it. they may unintentionally display their bad subtype traits and then take a step back to realise it. but it is dependent on the individual and what their subtype is
