We're watching bc you're hysterically funny while being rational at the same time. Breath of fresh air. I think your videos should be mandatory viewing during the ten hours of required training.
Hahaha. Yeah, someone should talk to the social work and adoption agency people about that. We're trying to get in on more of those speaking circuits. Maybe, we'll see. LOL.
How is it possible that I am CRINGING and rolling in laughter at the same time? You guys take things that are cringe-worthy and make them hysterical, and all with such grace! I am not your bio mom, but I liked, subscribed and will share. A teeny bit of advice: It would be helpful if the title was more descriptive of the content like "20 things NEVER to say to an adopted person AKA Don't be a jerk". That would cause more people to click and see it when we share it bc "Adopted 4 Lyfe" isn't quite as eye-catching and interest-garnering. And I'll be doing my part to make you guys viral as I believe you should be
This is so relatable! love you guys. As I’m becoming more aware about adoption I like looking at videos like these that explore topics really thoughtfully
Thank YOU!!! It's been an interesting journey for us as well. There's a TON of resources out there, and the communities are as vast and varied as anything. We've really grown a lot in providing this content for the major platforms.
Just watched this with my 12 year old son who was adopted from South Korea. He had a rough day at school yesterday with some racist comments and this made him laugh. Thanks!
We love that! Sorry he had to go through it, but we know from experience that it gets a lot better and easier. Let us know what we can do to help him out! That's why we started this "show" ;)
He’s so thrilled you responded. You totally made his day! Just keep making these videos so he has something to help him get through this impossibly hard middle school time and realize it will get better.
@@sarahevans-brockett175 Glad we could help brighten his day 😁. Let us know if he has any questions on how to deal with those middle school years. We have a lot of experience dealing with all of that 😂.
"what was it like in china" i mean...um i think the thing i get most agitated about is when they use the term "real parents" referring to my birth parents. i see my adoptive parents as my real parents just as much as you do your parents. people are also under the impression that my parents chose me...no...they did not flick through a catalogue and think oh that baby looks nice. i mean sometimes adopted kids get chosen but in china they just dish out whatever the orphanages have u know
Lol I have an orphaned friend and some times we talk about it. One time I asked her "so are you like an orphan orphan or social orphan" I didn't know how to phrase the first orphan because theres a difference between an orphan and social orphan. I was just trying to find out if her parents straight died or if she was given up/ taken. She laughed at me and said shes the double threat you was taken the first time, she got adopted, her adopted mother died, was sent back to the foster care system, then got adopted a second time. Btw this is a friend I've known for a while and we make orphan jokes all the time, she started it herself and genuinely thinks they're funny, so all in good spirit. Not just my first encounter coming out of the fucking gates asking that shit.
Adopted from manila Philippines, found in the trash, taken to an orphanage, adopted and raised in Chicago, Illinois also by super white parents. Get these questions relentlessly. Thankjs for sharing. (Yes I know I'm a year late)
Lol. I'm definitely laughing along with you, but at the same time I know how serious this is. Thanks guys, I appreciate this and you were doing this with such grace, love, humor and tact, You have a really amazing attitude, both of you. And these are awkwardly real questions and even better responses! It's so common sense as well, I love how you say, "these questions are for therapists." I always think of a witty response that I would give, but then honestly, it never really comes out. You guys are great!!
Here’s one you forgot, this was asked of me often, by total strangers, with my younger two in ear shot (both adopted from S. Korea) - “Are they real brother and sister?” 🤦🏼♀️🤦🏼♀️🤦🏼♀️ I answered in a variety of ways, “Yes, they are both my kids” or if I was feeling snarky, “do they look imaginary?” It seems no matter how I evaded this intrusive question the complete stranger would say, “No, you know what I mean.” Oy! People can be so dense. Somewhere I read that the equivalent would be asking random strangers, “do all of your children have the same father?” Just found your videos. Thanks for making them and offering such good insight.
Yep! There are so many ridiculous things that strangers think it's okay to say to other humans. We guess it's either laugh or punch, so we've decided to laugh... and then maybe punch. These videos have been fun to make and the community that's grown up around it has been delightful. Thanks for watching!
I’ve gotten so many of these questions before as an adoptee. Another question I’ve gotten is “who named you?” A customer had seen name tag and was wondering why I had an Irish name instead of a Chinese name I guess.....
From Guangdong, China to Wisconsin, America. This is too true. Edit: My mother and my (also adopted but from another time and place) sister are both Chinese, but my dad (who is German and almost two feet taller than me) and brother (who is the product of my mom and dad, woo!) don't really look like me at all.
That's awesome. One of the most fun parts of making these videos has been just hearing the amazing diversity of adoption stories that are out there. Thanks for watching!
I’m a white adopted girl. Yes, these questions don’t all apply to me as my parents are white. However, I decide who I tell about my parentage. If they have questions, that’s natural and I’m happy to answer and clear up any ‘myths’. I struggle to understand my adoption and I find it hard to live with. However, If someone wants to ask me a question, I’m grateful for the opportunity to educate and provide first hand knowledge/experience on the subject.
Where are my adopted squad at???? I've literally had people humiliate me saying "guess who's parents didn't love their child and guess who's did?" Like honey shut up, at least I wasn't a mistake 🙄🙄🙄
I was adopted from Thailand by white Swedish parents when I was six weeks old. The person asking me " do you speak Swedish", hmm kids don't start speaking til they're about 1 yes old, so yes lol
I really hope these questions asked were not from the adults. What can you say, really? Gotta accept there are so many ignorant people in the world, sadly. I am glad to see you both taking these almost as a joke.
It's either laugh or punch, right? LoL. Seriously, all of these comments have been said to us on a monthly basis since we were kids. Just part of the gig of being adopted. We've learned to roll with it. Thanks for watching!!!
@@AGAProductions yes I was born at red Cross hospital and then went into Easter welfare society. I had a foster mom and came to states when I was 4 mos. God bless ya'll! I'll be following :+)
The ironic thing is, when People tell you, you are not the child of your "parents", because you are not related. BUT you also should NOT looking for your biological "real" parents, because that is "selfish" towards your "parents". Or they want to tell you to be happy and thankful to be "chosen". Yes, it is super easy to forget that you were not wanted and selected for replacing the unborn child your "parents" could not have (at least that's how I FELT, that's my personal pov.) Some people are stupid as hell. 🤦♀️🤦♀️🤦♀️
Lol, I had to tell a few people, "Umm, well...if I was from North Korea, I would probably be dead." *Cue the sound of crickets* I've also heard, "I'm sorry" from people who cannot even fathom wtf they think they might be sorry for...I call it long paragraph / long explanation whenever I meet someone new and it's usually completely annoying, like, I just want to skip over that stuff.
I think one of the funniest things people say is...how come you didn't adopt a boy? We have 5 daughters. Growing up, I had 3 brothers and 3 sisters. Because there is 18 years different between our oldest and youngest...I figured they would love shopping and doing manicures together one day...
Maybe we should ask this, if someone we meet had been born with help from someone else's sperm or egg lol, that cost as well. A bitch for a bitch lol ;)
When I've had it from none whites born in the UK etc etc and they ask me when I'm from originally, I ask them the same thing, saying cos you're not white either. And please, see my other post. Other none whites also give you comments like this
