In this reflective and thought-provoking episode of "How NOT to Retire: A Psychological Approach to Retiring Healthy and Wealthy," Dr. Richard Himmer investigates the dynamics of effective communication through the contrasting personas of “TED” and “TING”.
Imagine a warm Saturday evening at a lively backyard barbecue. Amidst the laughter and aroma of grilled food, two individuals stand out. “TED", with his genuine curiosity and thoughtful questions, engages others by focusing on their stories. In stark contrast, “TING" dominates conversations with his own tales, often leaving others feeling unheard and disconnected.
Drawing from personal experiences, Dr. Himmer reflects on the impact of his father's death in Vietnam and the well-meaning but overbearing advice from adults that followed. This pivotal moment shaped his understanding of the importance of being like “TED” - someone who listens deeply and values others' perspectives.
With over 30 years of coaching experience, Dr. Himmer has observed how retirees often struggle with maintaining meaningful relationships. Many inadvertently adopt “TING-like” behaviors, pushing loved ones away despite their desire for connection. This episode offers insights into transforming these patterns, emphasizing the power of empathy, active listening, and genuine engagement.
Tune in and explore the critical differences between conflict and contention, understanding that conflict drives growth while contention focuses on who is right. Dr. Himmer shares practical strategies to foster deeper, more authentic connections, emphasizing the need for self-awareness and a shift from self-centered to other-centered communication.
Join Dr. Himmer in this insightful episode as he uncovers the power of empathy, active listening, and genuine engagement. Learn how to transform your interactions, create a safe space for open dialogue, and build stronger, healthier relationships as you navigate the complexities of retirement. Remember, it’s not about trying harder; it’s about trying different.
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18 июн 2024
