Going through the Comments, I realize how judgemental we are as women..to be honest there's really no formula to "getting it right " we all learn as we grow
By reading comments, women are judgemental, extremely judgemental. Having a situation doesn't mean that you are not educated, you can be educated but still be unemployed. You can be educated and still encounter these challenges, education means nothing in mjolo, mjolo can trouble u while educated, so don't judge her by saying education nton nton
I love the fact that you have learnt your lesson sisi.. You did a good thing by choosing yourself .. My advice to all ladies is to NEVER loose yourself in the hands of a man or in pursuit of love.. Big up Sis❤
Never lose yourself because of a man, that's what I took from this episode and I have also learnt that there are people with bigger issues than me, this was very insightful.
Pray hard give God your problems and start to fgive yourself from the start of those problems and before you councilling admit talk to you agree look at the mirror and talk to yourself first before you decide to go channels I'm a councilor I help lot of people take my advice because if you go to councilling not having conversations with your heart ,your mind and admit is useless then I wish I can talk to you more
Listening to this 26 year old young lady is the saddest thing. All that time going to court, opening cases and exchanging words with another woman over a man could have been spent on self improvement, achieving personal goals. It's not too late but dedicating more time to this will lead to a latter life of regret and bitterness.
This is probably going to be one of the comments/advice you won’t like… again this is my 2c advice not only for our beautiful sister but to all women out there. Personally for me I say leave the man alone and don’t continue with the maintenance case. LET IT GO. If you didn’t know men klll their children out there because the mothers continues to force them to pay every month. It’s not WORTH IT. It’s not WORTH your child/children’s life, so LET IT GO my sister. To women who don’t have kids and planning to have one in the future. I always say this , please stop making kids for men. We make kids because we want them not because “my man” want kids. It’s important for every woman breathing to be independent. Mosadi Ke her own money. You depend on a man you are giving him a ticket to disrespect you. I like that you are taking accountability for just relaxing at home thinking your man is there. I respect you for that and I pray you fight for your independence. It’s definitely not gonna be easy but you will get there. Sending you love 🫶🏽
I don’t think there is anything wrong with pursuing child maintenance as it is the child’s right but anyway if it is then threatening the children’s life then that’s when you can stand down.
It you women who let men get away with being irresponsible...black women stop letting men get away with such, how are you gonna raise your kids? Teach them to just have babies and no one take responsibility? Wrong mentality, that why white people will always rule us, we are too apologetic
I am working as a domestic worker to send my son to school to feed him to clothes him I am abused at work but I am still working for that lady because I don't want to ask him for a money it's hard but my God see me through every day I feel for you my sister i pray for you 🙇♀️🙏♥️ and know that you are not alone
"She was not pregnant" gives Thabo Bester. If it was me I would not go to maintanance court and also stop taking money from him. Just for the sake of peace. I would build myself for my kids and live in peace. You are right when you say that your problem is minor. Your problem is wanting maintenance when you see that it's putting your life and those of your kids in danger. My sister phila, just live and stop wanting money from that dad beat father. Yes, times are tough but for the safety of your kids just do the right thing.
True. I think our problem we want to fight back. Yes we have to fight for our rights. People also like to force people to fight back by ,going to courts for theie rights. But I think sometimes, there are times where we have to be stupid and let things go. If a baby daddy or ex husband is threatening your life,and if you know how heartless he can be,babey! You are the only one who know a person you've been sleeping with. People can b monsters whn they don't love you anymore. I know a story of the ex husband,who shot his ex wife,jst bcs he didnt want to pay her spousal support etc after divorce.. The woman cld still try to survive without that man's money but she was determined to fight for her rights,but when yr ex is a monster, never listen to friends. Now she's no more and the guy is continuing with his life. I jst read yr comment and remembered this story of that lady. It's good to fight for our rights,but we must know where to let it go. Cos whn the monster take yr life. All those who were encouraging you fight can't help.
Most importantly we should standup en go work for ourselves,depend on ourselves for survival and happiness solely. The next person’s help should be a bonus to us nje
God Bless you, my sister. May you continue to work on yourself ❤. I'm glad that you acknowledge and you are self aware! Thank you for your story. I'm also a mother of 2 children, with God's grace we continue to soldier on 🤗
In life Musa remember to be kind to other people, your actions will always follow, I can safely say you have met your match, I once told you when you called me being disrespectful ngathi I wish you meet a guy you love and uthole umuntu ozoyenza what you were doing to me and then you will know how it feels, and I can see now you know how we felt mawuhlupha thina...but ke ube right, lesson learnt I hope
Suncity works shame, the highschool i went to in Alex ,they would organise a trip like once a year for learners who don't do homeworks, who were just problematic nje, they would come back as changed humans , just for a day that's when i was like no suncity is rough. when we asked them what happened they were telling us they took them into the cells to be with inmates and ate what the inmates ate, others told us they didnt eat anything cos the bosses in there took their food. the aim was to show them if they continued with the attitude thats where they would end up.
I'm proud of this young lady, she recognized that she needed help and sought help. She chose to be there for her children. Such a strong young lady, I wish they had gone deeper into explaining what grooming means so she can fully understand how much she was manipulated and just how terrible her ex is.
What a messed up man! My sister please run away. Stay in therapy and try to develop your own life. Go to school and better yourself. You are still very young. ❤️🥺
My advice is start getting assistance through therapy its free at public hospitals, take this man to maintance if he changes his account number tell the court there are people who served time in jail due to Maintenance issues, move on sesi you are beautiful. Change your number. When you are ready, you will meet a man who will love you and your kids. You will be happy, it's possible.
It is easy to give wise advice when you are not going through battles or surprising traumatic emotions. Sometimes it catches you offgaurd while you are going through your own struggles. The worst part is Sometimes some ladies are not allowed to work, by these abusive men, and when things like these happen you are so furious at yourself and everyone. Narcs know what to remove to make you dependent on them and desperate 😢. They plan in advance when to start abusing you. What l have learnt is that you have to pray because sometimes the devil uses partners whom we sleep with whom we are spiritually tied to to rob our bright futures. Let's empower more girls to be financially independent
It’s very true, the devil can easily use your so called better-half to kill your destiny after trying other ways and failing. Let’s not give up on prayers
I love you Musa, you are so brilliant and strong baby girl. Don’t worry about this woman the fact that she’s swearing and threatening you and your children, is a clear indication that all is not well in paradise.
Ishhh let's not beat someone down for sharing their lives for non is perfect and we all have our pitfalls in life... Let's handle this life with care because anyone can be subject to seeing flames
Great Interview Madam Speaker My sister leave that man alone and hustle to raise your kids Sepedi sere "agona lebitla la tlala" start from scratch rebuild... You're still young you'll make it
I wish Musa can be out of reach from his "partners", get a stable job & register for long distance or online courses. She must just focus on her family, her life and self improvement. ❤❤
I feel sorry for this yound lady, i feel that she has not moved on and still loves baby daddy, and I'm saying this because of how he speaks of the guy, the lesson i got from watching this, is we must learn self love
Musa I love the fact that you fought for your life. Getting your self psych help was one big step. I wish you could find a stable source of income for you and your kids then right off that guy and his maintenance money
My return soldier, madam speaker,i love you. Could you have not returned from "soldiering "this many souls you are changing, couldn't have made it. Big up✊✊✊👏👏
ay sis Musa mtase, please find something to make your life improve. be it business or going back to school uhlukane nale drama is too much. you deserve much more better things. true sis Persevierence he groomed her
Maintenance court is hectic been going up and down since last year, the last order was given end of Feb but dude still not paying I'm now ready to go for a garnishee..... My sister try if it works it works .... light and love for you.....❤
My loving advice to you sesi Musa: 1. Take time to heal from all this toxicity, work on yourself, and allow yourself to struggle with your kids. Don't evade the healing process, it's lonely and painful but it's worth it. Kgaogana le tshelete ya this guy sokol le Bana ba gago, if you're not working nyaka di piece job. After a year or 2, go to maintenance court.. Prioritize yourself please
😔 SAD, for another woman to threaten another with killing a child. That's too deep. Let's cover these children in prayer.. The Shepherd never sleeps, mother call on Jesus Christ Name 🙏🏿
thank you Madam speaker for bringing women like this young lady & alert us with topics like these. Us Women we must wake up about these MEN bcs in most times they are the 1nce who always put us in danger, they are traps
Musa cc go to maintenance court hle because we cannot be making excuses for these dead beat daddy's.....guy went out to cheat opened that door for muthi to enter now we have to feel sorry for him haibo guys......being a single mother in this economy is hard hle
I'm in the same position but I have made peace and accepted that supporting my child financially alone is peace of mind for me and safety for my child. My biggest wish is that woman start respecting other woman and don't involve kids especially the woman who don't have kids that attack the baby mama's who are in need of financial support. I also wish we could all learn somehow how to build an empire for ourselves and our children so we don't have to stay connected to such toxic situations. And worse his family condoning it, even when I would call just asking for help and advice. They just don't do anything. Their own flesh and blood thrown away over a stranger. This girl that is with my baby daddy HATES the fact of him having a relationship with his daughter and when he trys I get harassed and stalked etc. So I have just let go and won't ask a cent from him or even beg him to be a father. One day it will hit him hard. I'm white he is Zulu, I don't belive in witchcraft but what I have seen, this girl has in what I say a blanket over his eyes because even with physical proof he does not see her wrongs. She faked a pregnancy and a week before I gave birth she called and said she is pregnant and it too away that happiness of giving birth to my first child. But he doesn't see it or the wrong in it. He is so blinded and he has 2 children before ours but went back to this same girl that's why I say I'm sure she has something on him. Some woman are heartless and it's sad but atleast my baby is happy and healthy and I will show her that a woman can be a queen without a man. Keep going baby girl. Karma will come back when the time is right.
The lady should put herself and her kids first, stop asking for money from this guy even if he's the father,and let that man go, this decision might come with a lot of challenges but it's worth it, in it you will gain a peace of mind and have your children all to yourself.
Musa be grateful for all you went through. God has a greater purpose for your life and I love that you fought your own peace. I'm really glad that you got help and you had the strength to share your story. Many woman shy away and die in their misery. Speaking up, is a sign of healing . I applaud you Sisi🎉❤
Limpopo ladies aowa aowa aowa .We cannot be doing this to another person.We cant be this heartless ..Lets think about the kids hle ...Kids needs to eat .Yhooo
It is the right thing to get maintenance money for the children,but with so many threats,please do not ask for money anymore. Safety of your children is paramount!!!
Musa i think when Presevernce asked what kind of help you think you need 🤔 you should have a said to stand on you own two feets and maintain your kids finish Sisi..Let it go! love and light ❤
"Hhaa my sister" 😂😭...I totally understand how other people can really make us act out of character with how they treat us, and when it gets to a point where you can't control your emotions ai it's chai 🥲💔.
I feel sorry us ladies as we always jump to conclusion nd judge each other , are guys perfect to that point of saying things you're saying , is either you're educated or not Mjolo ke mjolo
That man is toxic and I hear you make excuses for him.. when men nolonger sleeps with you forget about kids support.. for you to get money is by court... Leave this guy and his new person and focus on your kids.. it's gonna be tough.. really but try..love and light 🫂
Her story is unfortunately the reality of so many young women who are GROOMED by men. She is definitely a victim and I really pray she has healed from the trauma. That is why she stayed while the abuse was happening.
My wish to us as women let us trust ourselves , believe in your selves ,love ourselves though you are married. . Gal take care of your kidz and believe in yourself and trust God in everything bcoz you can't change somebody. ******** And madam Speaker plz ask your guests not to chew ? gums it's disturbing but in a polite ,loving manner ❤
Some people are evil out there, get spiritual help sisi the only way to solve a spiritual problem is by dealing with it spiritually, yes karma is there but better safe than sorry the delay may cost the life of your child or yours. the fact that your child started getting sick and you experienced wired stuff after that lady's threats it could possibly be her pela there's no smoke without fire... maybe she cursed isichitho on you and that can destroy everything you're trying to build your relationship, business etc so I suggest you get help on that before it's too late.
The guy does not wanna maintain simple as dat.. I wish u can get a job n maintain ur Child cz dis guy is very week.. I wouldn't want my child near such a week man.. M so angry ka ur baby dady gaa.. De step mom is inlov i knw i understand her.. This guy noo he does not stop saying he wants to maintain n fucken move on from dat mentality
