EP.2 Poly By Nature : Polyamory Myths and truths 

I am glad that our society is slowly coming around to the idea that consenting adults should be able to form whatever sort of relationship they want and that works for them. How one person or couple or group does things may different than others and that's okay.

I respect that y'all have (open) dialogue! One thing I can say (only grown) people should indulge in poly! I would love to experience poly! But I don't think I can juggle the emotions & personalities! The truthfulness & honesty sounds delightful if its (genuine)!

At first I didn't understand but now. The way you explain it to me step by step I do

So an open relationship and poly are different because of the commitment level.

I love this episode so much because I’ve decided to identify as a polyam back in August/Sept 2020 and throughout that journey I entered into poly relationships first with 2 women as both my girlfriends and the one girlfriend and by January 2021 had 2 girlfriends and that 1 girlfriend I had that had come into my poly dyad for us to become a triad was a monogamous women and during that relationship I really learned a lot about myself as a Polyam person and in that last relationship i did indeed cheat because I wasn’t being full transparent with my partner about my engagement with another women hence was me no respecting the boundaries i agreed to with my partner at the time

As someone who’s trying to understand this lifestyle, can someone who practices this answer the following question: what brought you to the ultimate conclusion that you wanted to practice polyamory indefinitely for the rest of your life? Was it motivated by sex, commitment phobia, religion for example?

I think you should be talking about the pros and cons. It seem like y’all only talk about the pros more of a balance to make a informed decision.

Are they just friend dates? You referred to them as"friends " several times. Do you not see them as relationships?

Love the honesty, and I have thought about going into this lifestyle at different points in my life. To me, there's no way that Poly does not change a relationship. Most cases, I don't think it's for the better either. This is your second video, and you're already saying the words, "I don't care." I think that is a very significant statement. Why don't you care? I tried to introduce this into a couple of my past relationships that I was in, and I would like to use a line that a swinger friend once told me. "The reality is way different than the fantasy." For me, that held to be very true, after a couple of parties with exes of mine. I was definitely amped up about going and being there, and we did come home to put the work in afterword. But I cannot lie. My feelings did change. I did not feel the same about either woman after. I still cared, but it was different. I blame myself because I initiated the conversation, but I believe it to be true that any man will see his woman differently knowing that she was with another man. Most WOMEN do not just have sex with men just to be having sex with them. It's emotional FIRST, which means that all of your business and problems will eventually be talked about to this other man. Comparisons will eventually come into play too, and I don't just mean sexual comparisons. When you're young, it doesn't seem like a bad thing, but time will always catch up. If it worked so well. Look at Will and Jada now. Suppressed anger and jealousy will always rear its ugly head. There's no bar to this lifestyle because the rules are always broken, and the parameters will eventually go too far. But thank you for your realness and honesty. I hope that you both carefully think about what you're doing here. You can never take this back, and it will catch up with you in age. Just my opinion.