Procrastinator, serious overthinker. Thanks for such a thought provoking episode! I've added Katherine's book to my wish list, I'll think about it for a while but I'll probably buy it sooner rather than later.
I read a psychological study concluding the person who needs to live in a harmonious, uncluttered space suffers greater psychological distress than their partner who likes to collect and clutter. The stress is real. For me, I cannot live in a cluttered environment. I just can't do it. When I was a teenager, my parents decided I should share a bedroom with my younger sister who was the brilliant scientist-type with a curiosity about insects and just about everything else. No one had ever shared a room with her, I come from a family of 5 siblings. Her room was like the ultimate chaotic laboratory. My parents thought by putting me in there with her I would be a great influence and she would clean up the mess. The opposite happened. Within one month, I became listless, careless and unkept. Seeing how depressed I was, they moved me back into my former room with my other "neat freak" sister and I was back to my old self within hours.
I can tolerate a bit of clutter but my mind is more calm if things are clean and tidy-ish. i used to neurotically clean my Room as a child as a stress response.
Josh and Ryan, I am Lusi from Indonesia. I have been reading your writings on minimalist website of yours and watched your video for many years. I am yearning of minimalism and I am a procrastinate minimalist. But to say the least, I am moving last year to a smaller house intentionally and cut down so many stuff that we no longer need. I have 4 kids, so please imagine how hard it is to do so, not to mention I am a homeschooled teacher with so many school supplies and of course books to declutter. I am thanking both of you from the bottom of my heart for all your hard work to inspire me and to push me gently to be a better person. Special mention to Josh, I really love your writings! Love you both ❤️❤️💖💖💖
Perfectionism is dangerous in the work place. I used to beat myself up everytime I'd make a mistake at work. It was brought to my attention to my supervisor because I'd make comments within earshot of my co-workers. I ended up seeing a mental health professional several different times throughout my career. Having OCD issues didn't help much either. At one point I even started pointing out my supervisor's flaws and that's when I really got into trouble. I think the only thing that saved me from getting fired is that I worked in civil service so they had to start with a verbal warning, then a written warning which would remain in my file, and then suspension before termination of my employment. Thankfully in this case I only went as far as the verbal warning.
I am a minimalist but when I start agonizing and devoting myself to a task I lose control of the organization and boundaries and don’t sleep. It’s not healthy.
Guys you know I love you but the way you avoided actually responding to the question about how you earn money would make the worst politician so proud 🤣
Whenever I house sit for someone, or if I'm visiting someone and they leave me alone too long, I rearrange something. Like a junk drawer. Or I alphabetize their seasonings. And then they ask me back to redo their linen closets and pantries. It's so fun!
Great topic I'm a perfectionist. I been married for 26 years my husband was in the military, so he really wasn't around too much. Before we moved in together 31 years ago, he talked about how my place was always clean. I explained to him my perfectionism, there's a place for everything. Now he's retired home totally don't care how about how ill it makes me. Everything he do is totally self-centered and reckless. I'm so tried of his mess, I'm considering a divorce, although I do love him. He's also a hoarder. Help me
The guy with the long hair always comes with some underhanded remark toward TK. HE NEEDS TO CHECK HIMSELF and become aware of his envy and his feeling of inadequacy in the presence of TK. His feeling of inferiority shows. STOP IT.
