Ep 5: After the Catch Up With Julius and Jojo from Pop The Balloon | BM Talks To Them 

Ik BM and Arlette hitting each other leg under the table😂😂😂😂😂😂

I don’t understand why everyone wants to start a couple channel AS SOON as they get together - just vibe a little bit first 😂

BM looks so disappointed - I see his heart is for true successful Black love. Keep at it!

LMAOO. Him shooting content right off the bat was so suspicious.

BM and Arlette tuned in like they're watching this episode with us lmao. They had to remember to interject and ask questions 😂

I think going private after matching and taking it SLOWWWW in getting to know each other is the intelligent approach. Bringing the public inside has broken up decades long relationships. 1.5 months stands ZERO chance. Plus love is more than an emotion.

If y’all break up 5 times and only been together 3 months, then it’s not meant to be.

A man that will say anything or lie about your character when he’s hurt/just because he’s hurt is a dangerous man.

One minute he said “social media is not my life” the next “let’s post and record our love for RU-vid” 🙄

This show is an accurate depiction of the dating pool.

Instagram will be the death of most romantic relationship.

He’s wrong for exposing what she confided to him while they were together (that she was crying about the fact that she hasn’t married and hasn’t had kids) no matter the context. That was childish and should’ve kept that situation between them

BM and Arlette should do a partnership with Better Help because some of these guests chile

This is a prime example how social media and having people in your business can ruin a beautiful thing.

These people keep taking the honey moon phase as real love

Him talking in third person, asking himself questions, and then answering them, is VERY telling.

When a man takes a mental note on you, that sticks with them forever. You might think things are good, but the whole time, he will never look at you the same.

The moment I saw he had a RU-vid channel. I knew it wasn’t gonna last. The moment I saw him recording her on her birthday telling her on her birthday how many women message him. I didn’t want to be right, but I felt it was off. Posting so many personal moments just for views ain’t worth it if you really want something solid.

Breaking up 5 times in 1-2 months, is pretty insane fr. It wasn’t meant to be. This is why people need God, therapists, and mentors. It would help them see a lot clearer.

Hard disagree with you on this one Arlette. A man saying I have baddies in my DMs to his girl regardless what day it is, it’s giving “you should be thankful I’m not cheating on you because I DO have options ya know”. Like do you want a reward for being faithful? Is that not what you’re suppose to do in a monogamous relationship 🤨

BM and Arlette, thank you you for this platform. Beside entertainment, you're providing a social experiment that allows people to reflect on how they behave in relationships and perhaps provide answers that will evoke change.

I think all of this is just making me realize how the internet is not the best place to find love.

Homeboy too emotional. All the outbursts, name calling, love bombing...I get her point. She is an introvert, you can tell. She looks like she was being more indifferent because it's her personality. I applaud her because she had her notes ready because again, as an introvert, you dont want confrontation but you want to make clear responses to the accusations. I believe her!!! He is just too much and creating scenarios up in his head like he is Dr. Phil..." She is unhappy... Why do I know? I ask questions" Bruh, leave that for the professionals. She is right to let him go. Emotional men can be unstable and impulsive...i.e.. . Break up with you 5 times in 3 months 😂😂😂 UPDATE...Seems like a few fellas commenting on the thread are upset. Just FYI, I'm married to a well rounded emotionally stable man. I have however dated an overly emotional man before which was extremely exhausting. I'm not saying men can't have emotion or express their feelings but name calling and going to social media with outbursts is childish and ridiculous. He looks foolish, that's why he apologized off the rip! He knew that was too much. AS A WOMAN, I WOULD NOT BE ATTRACTED TO THAT BEHAVIOR.

I know a narcissist when I hear one. This man is hands down a narc. It’s push and pull with him. He started love bombing her , then break up with her to entertain someone else, the verbal abuse and the name calling, the I have better options so you should feel honored , the smirks and facial expressions when you are supposed to be having a serious conversation. I see straight through this guy. She’s lucky it ended up sooner than later because she saved herself from mental damage that would’ve took a while to heal. This is truly God protecting her. Let him go be with them “baddies” in his DMs

Y’all are weird in the comments, this dude is clearly very reactionary. How can you not see this dude loves the social media attention and is moving based off of insecurities because of ways he’s acted in the past.

Bro is a borderline narcissist and that apology in the beginning & his response to how she responded was very telling. He’s purposely continuing to misinterpret what she meant by not being in a relationship in 8 years, used the vulnerable moment she “cried”/opened up to him about where she was against her, and projected his past player antics onto her. Took all these “mental notes”, but didn’t express them until he blew up and for someone who don’t live they life for social media ran to air her out every chance he got then go back to hear 5 times in less that 2 months. 😂 it’s clear as day

Relationships fails because we rely too much on people's opinions especially on social media.

His facial expressions show the immaturity…she seems like she has more to say about the situation but she’s taking the mature route and keeping it cute…

🚧 Be careful dealing with "ex-players" they are USUALLY the MOST INSECURE because of the games they used to play (and STILL might play) with other people and the DEEP FEAR that they have of getting hurt...MOST of them (in most cases) can't be trusted even if they "claim" they are looking for love.

The way he berated her and spoke down on her the whole time…”you can’t keep a relationship, you’re for the streets, not modest etc” tells me all I need to know. Even when you feel hurt there’s a difference between sharing facts about what happened and talking down like that…she has things to work on too but he’s the bigger red flag…he lets his emotions control him…he apologized for reacting in the beginning and did exactly that in the catch up ☠️

Julius is a MASTER MANIPULATOR and the audience is eating it up! Jojo run! Julius is good with words and is trying to embarrass her but trying to cover it up as if he’s just telling a story. Julius is a clout chaser and doesn’t really like Jojo, he’s hella toxic and was love bombing her. I think Jojo needs to learn boundaries and know her worth.

I can so clearly see the trauma all over this woman's face...this is a woman who's been gaslit, called out of her name, shamed, and belittled. She stumbles on her words because she's so terrified of his reaction. He's proven to be explosive, accusatory, and manipulative. I'm so sorry sis, I am praying for your healing. I don't know you but, don't close off your heart, but definitely guard it and properly vet the character of a person. Best of luck to you.

The problem is these relationships are being expedited on a conveyor belt and publicized before they can even mature.

He has a lot of healing to do. He took pillow talk and exposed it. Apologized and then did it again. A hit dog will always holler. I feel bad for her because it seems like she genuinely liked and trusted him and due to his lack of emotional intelligence, he exposed her insecurities in an effort to make it seem like she’s the problem.

Look everyone mainly blaming JoJo is crazy to me because this guy used to make Pop The Balloon reaction videos before he got on the show and once he match with JoJo he literally been posting videos about their relationship since the beginning……this man was trying to move way too fast from the beginning & he obviously has been wanting internet attention from this. I don’t think she’s all the way innocent but I definitely believe he had hidden intentions from the jump

As a member of "the internet" I am not hurt over this breakup. He did too much too soon and it definitely gave YT couple influencer vibes. Hos adoration of her didnt seem to match their level of knowledge of one another. And she always looked like she was fighting her fight or flight response when she was with him. I'm actually glad they broke up before things got crazier. Hes giving crazy vibes, hes also scared of his own karma and is going to be suspicious of every woman bc of it.

Wait what ??? This is confusing!!! They been posting on their RU-vid channel fooling us like they are all lovey dovey...this is why you can't believe these RU-vid couples, they be fooling us.

All I know is... somebody lying 😂

julius said “my life isnt on social media i live in real life “ but proceeds to pull out a camera within 24 hours of them matching and coerced her into becoming a youtube couple and complained about her liking comments and posting pictures , etc???? julius sit tf down and heal . you moved way to fast and u expected her to immediately act like a wife before you even got to know her middle name ? bye 💀

She dodged a bullet! He made a RU-vid account immediately after the show, lol he even said it on the catch-up with Arlette "RU-vid coming soon!" Lol, but she went on the show for clout???? Be frl!! Consider this a blessing Jojo he's a fool through and through.

😂😂😂😂 this was a disaster from the jump. My boy moved fast as hell. They're both are walking RED FLAGS

That apology in the beginning was a tactical move

This was MESSSYYY, baby!!!

He really projected his insecurities on her and tried to make her look bad. And because she’s calm, everyone thinks she’s indifferent. He’s very passionate and a little aggressive when he talks and I feel that’s why people think he’s more credible. Jojo was quiet because she’s not about to argue and get loud and go back and forth with someone who seems to be argumentative. That’s why she had her notes 📝

25:31 the way he stands up and interjects, throwing a temper tantrum is so childlike. She has remained calm, and allowed him to speak. But once it’s her turn to tell her side, he interrupts. For the ladies in the comments who are caping for him, I want y’all to date him or someone like him and tell us how it goes. Your story won’t be any different from Jojo’s.

This was my boyfriend in the beginning. I told buddy if you keep making mental notes to yourself, you’re going to be by yourself. Folks need to communicate or stay alone. He’s coming off insecure.

He’s not talking about the actual picture. He’s talking about the COMMENTS she was liking recently after PTB, as a woman I know that leaves the door slightly open for other men lol

Tacky to tell her personal business on who she slept with…he petty for that

Damn this show is really exposing how messed up the dating world is. Let me just enjoy my singledom.

We need more after the catch up from old old episodes too please

On another note, BM & ARLETTE LOOK GOOD TOGETHER.

I know a narcissist when I see one. Moving fast. That idealization phase. The RU-vid about them for attention. Accusing her. Telling her she’s lucky cause baddies in his dm. Breaking up & getting back with her time after time. Then he comes here to try & air her out subtly without people thinking he’s a bad person. Blaming her for everything! He’s here playing the victim card right before our eyes! 🙄 I know what I see! Go argue with your mom about it not me!

I feel like Julius only went on the show to become RU-vid/social media famous. He immediately started posting on his channel right after the show. His interactions with Jojo didn’t appear genuine and you could tell she was uncomfortable. It was way too extra and too much too soon. I think it was all for views. He wanted to have a successful couple’s channel, but he realized she is more reserved and doesn’t want to make their relationship super public like he’s banking on. I think when he realized this about her, he created some fake drama so he could get out of the situation with her. Now he’s hoping this “break up” creates some drama for views and he’s trying to appear like the one that was wronged so he can get support on his side…once again, for views and followers, so he can become social media famous by himself now since the couple thing didn’t work.

You can tell he serious, he is way too detailed too just be making stuff up on the fly. Also look at her facial reactions.

If im not mistaken, Julius has a temper problem. I think he said that he use to... on the show. He is overly paranoid. I feel like he is better at getting his point across. She seemed emotionally distraught and could hardly get her point across. He was able to articulate himself better than she. It does not mean she was lying. Mostly he was just jealous and making accusations.

I saw someone call him a master manipulator. There is nothing masterful about what he does!! When filming them was his immediate priority, over getting to know her privately, I knew. He thought he was going to show people, "genuine" love? Give me a break!! Even when saying she didn't want to be public, he ignored her wishes, because what he wanted was more important. This whole interview was him trying to embarrass her, because his ego was bruised. I wish JoJo well, as she's got some growing to do, but there are all sorts of lessons from her dealing with him, so I hope she learns from them, and chooses better next time! PS. For women, if something makes you uncomfortable, from jump, don't bend on it. Your feelings are never less valid than some man's.

She seriously doesn't think nothing was wrong with the communication with exes. She's one of those chicks, "I'm single until he puts a ring on my finger, im going to move accordingly until then" {today's modern women mindset}..... since she likes keeping male orbiter, maybe he can be added to her male rotation.

Not picking sides but it sounds like he got PPP (Past Player Paralysis) and that truck driving don’t make recovering any easier.

27:09 "you can talk to me about anything" then later exposes and throws something in her face that she confided in him about. The gaslighting is real 😂

Juliis was quick to air her out but not quick to take accountability

Why the man didn't speak what he did wrong? It's not fair that the blame is focused on the girl. The guy needs to work on his emotional intelligence. Look at her how she was articulating and responding to the situation in a calm and collective manner.

I bet BM thinking these mfs keep wasting our time , ya want the damn love it not 😂😂

I cannot believe I watched this whole thing at 1am before the start of the work week lmao

He’s hurt, she’s indifferent.

She didn't even want to take accountability first, he even low key gave her the chance and she said nothing. That tells you everything. 😂😂😂

He’s just trying to say that when you get in a relationship your actions should change in respect to your partner and she never changed anything .

She wasn’t crying over the man. She was crying over loss of her vision for her life that she explained to you.

It's sad that some women feel like their life is over at the age of 31 if they aren't married or don't have a family. 30s are still young.

Sometimes former players hyperfocus that others are playing them, they find good people to good to be true, at times self sabotaging. I think Julius has trust issues he created for his self and is projecting on her. I still think they can work it out, he has to ease up a bit and not expect the worse from her

We were rooting for you! We all were rooting for you! *Tyra banks voice*

Julius started with he’s not on or don’t care about social media but then goes on rants about her not liking specific posts and her not posting him on social media 🙄

1. Relationships need to be nurtured and you will have to handle the reality of managing the ups and downs 2. An intimate relationship requires attention. Giving attention to others on social media is spreading your energy and taking away from your relationship.

I like how she's quiet and allows him to speak his piece. The way he was going in, I could never. 😂

Watching these pop the balloons and catch-ups just reassures me I'm doing the right thing and staying single and having my fun 💯😂

He gave himself trust issues. Cheated most of his life time and know his mind know what people can do

He seems very insecure & jealous. Also seems verbally abusive & emotionally unstable. Good luck Jojo! You made the right decision cutting him loose!

Julius moved way too fast. A few days after their episode aired, he created a RU-vid couples channel and started putting a camera in her face to document their relationship. That’s a lot to just get to know someone. Also, Jojo seems introverted. It comes off as nonchalant or secretive but I don’t think she was still messing with exes. But, he is more extroverted and likes attention from social media. He also seems to have pent up anger from his past. He’s deflecting on her and he needs to heal and mature if he is trying to find a wife. He behavior shows some manipulative. They both have things to address in therapy to heal from in order to have a healthy relationship.

BM and Arlette should introduce a relationship counseling leg to this program. Love or attraction is not enough. Persons are likely to need some coaching. This is just reflecting the reality of relationships. Even successful relationships have issues. The question is, "Are you ready to manage issues when they come?"

This dude is something else and I’m actually surprised by the comments. He seems super insecure. Y’all were barely dating and you’re trying to pressure someone into doing a couples RU-vid channel instead of taking the time to get to know them. That’s already a turn off and doesn’t come off genuine. Then stalking her ig comments and stories. It’s incredibly childish. Then he’s the main one saying social media isn’t his life. Yeah ok.

damn i was rooting for them ☹️

Julius is a reformed player, so he knew IMMEDIATELY when she was playing games.

This really isn't an organic way to meet people so unfortunately most matches will fail

Jojo you dodged a bullet!

The problem is the guy felt jojo isn’t intentional about him,to make it worse jojo didn’t even try to make him feel otherwise The man was going 💯 considering he’s always on the road with trucks,he needed that asauarity

Wheww julius came with all the tea😂

Idk it’s giving Julius was just looking for reasons to end this and be the victim. What does her having a conversation with an ex a week BEFORE THE SHOW have to do with anything presently? 😂

So lemme get this straight, SHE (who hasn’t mentioned being on the show in any way) came on the show for likes and clout, while HE…the one with a RU-vid channel who did reaction videos to the show before coming on it and posted extensively about them after the show aired; HE came on truly seeking love?? 🤣 Expert level reasoning skills people

Anytime a man goes into such detail believe them. Bitter women gonna call rhis man sassy but he's spitting it as it is she wasn't as invested as he is and he's hurt she waa trying to play him and he said it himself as a former player he knows the game so he saw he was getting played.. good on this man for getting out of dodge.

Acknowledging other women in your dm as proof you are not acknowledging other women makes no sense.... if Julius was really into JoJo he would have paid them no mind

A past cheater being paranoid 😂😂, saying she is for the street after they broke up shows how immature he is. She is a grown ass woman and because she is not acting a fool for him don’t mean she didn’t like him. And the nerve of him to come at her social media platform when he was plastering her over his RU-vid channel for clout. Trying to recreate Mike and khe’s success. I knew this wouldn’t last when I saw his RU-vid channel. She dodged a bullet.

I've never met with a "former" player who was not insecure. It's usually projection, he hurt himself with this one cause he was busy looking for signs of promiscuity, and if you make that your daily habit in a relationship, you will find what you're looking for. Dude should have chilled, and shown Jojo that his here and serious. Women eventually drop their guard when they see genuine consistency from a guy.

Lol idc what nobody said. Most men not trying to see their girl in a bathing suit on a page that he not even posted on

She’s tryna play innocent smh

Julius is a master deceiver. He’s playing the victim big time! With him what you don’t see is what you’re going to get‼️

It’s his loss. He seems confused about how to handle her emotions. He didn’t understand her . He just seems impatient and clout hungry.

There is nothing like moving too fast when you truly love someone.Showing the world about your lady means you are proud of them and serious.

Julius seems a little semi-crazy 😂😂

And Julius did move to fast

I was impressed with how mature Jojo was. Despite Julius making sly comments while she spoke, she stayed composed and clearly articulated her points. Julius seems to be chasing a feeling and love-bombing rather than developing feelings at a healthy pace, which I think is why it didn’t work out.

Julius understood the assignment, 😂