INTJs don’t ghost. We withdraw because our emotions become too intense that we need to rationalise to rebalance We will always return An INTJ is unambiguous because it’s efficient and we don’t like to waste our time on people we don’t care about or not interested in getting to know We will either tell you straight to leave us alone or become confusing If you are confused by an INTJ because we are not giving you clarity rest assured you are definitely still a serious consideration
INTJ said goodbye to me and even though I feel sad and hurt about it, I accepted because he has clearly made his mind up otherwise he wouldn't have said it if he didn't mean it right? :/ I didn't want that to happen but I just said okay because he clearly wanted out :/
I'm INFJ male, in love with INTJ female. Oh the feels, good and bad. Sometimes she makes me wanna cry, sometimes she makes me feel like I'm the best guy in the world. I love her just the way she is, but it's a challenge, no doubt. My biggest problem is not being able to express my feelings. Everything in my body is telling me to hug her and love her and be with her, but I'm afraid to push her too much. I don't wanna lose her, she's the best girl I ever met. She kinda completes me. She's teaching me to be more patient. More in control of my emotions. I really do feel like I found someone I can be with forever. I just hope she will eventually feel the same.
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This is not an INTJ thing to say to someone were interested in. Its so hard for us to even find someone worth spending 2 minutes with. So when a person makes his intentions known and it finally dawns on us that we are able to reciprocate this we will make ourselves clear too If someone doesn’t interest us and we feel that person needs to know we will not let him hang around waiting for us for 3 months maybe max 3 days 😆
@@christinebell37 He said bye to me. I feel sad & hurt. I didn't give him the quality time he required. I really wanted to because I care deep down. I feel hurt that I've made him sad. I just had my own problems going on. Anyway back?
Im an ESFP and ive dated a couple INTJS... the INTJ hack is to wait for them to contact/miss you. Stay confident that they like you and know they're too busy in their projects atm but will call you when theyre done haha One INTJ considers me his best friend. The one im dating makes me feel like im the prettiest girl hes ever dated! So i know hell always get around to texting me haha It's different, we dont text to chat, we text to see each other. Quality time is their love language.
INTJ women will not always act like INTJ men. INTJs are cautious and hate being vulnerable because when we fall we fall hard. Our minds have convinced us this person is for the long term So we need to be very sure someone we like have the same intentions The trick is to give some space but not completely disappear that we begin to mistrust Trust is very important to an INTJ Because it alleviates our concerns about possibly getting hurt
As an intj if I'm not replying: If you're a stranger sliding into my DMs: "I DONT CARE!" You are an insignificant stranger and I couldn't be bothered If you are my friends and family: I read the message and replied inside my head and thought I replied back when I really didn't then wait for a response for the next day or two then realize I'm a shitty messager and send them the embarrassing message that I thought I replied when I didn't 🤣 My boyfriend: I need my me-time to de-stress and don't feel like dealing with his emotions. But I will always let him know first ✌️
I can't express how much this resonated with me, an INTJ. My husband, an ENTJ, and I have been married for MANY years, and he still cannot figure things out and we talk, still, about our pre-marriage when I told him I needed some time and space away from our relationship. It took nine months and he went through complete heartache during that time, even to the point of asking two different people at the college where he was attending, what he should do. One, a female, said, surely, she just is not interested in you. The male said, give her some time; she'll come around. I did, and the rest is history, but I am hearing in this video our "mystery dating incident" finally being explained, and I see I am not an isolated case--for the first time. I will share the video with him. Thank you.
The INTJ female: you need to create emotional safe space for them. If they feel not safe to express feelings, they won't. Also being competent and reliable is very important because it reduces the INTJs anxiety and makes her feel she can always count on you and trust you.
I am INTJ and you are accurate. Two things I would add are: 1. We often also have social anxiety. We know that our disappearing to re-calibrate is not seen as favorable within societal norms. While this is irrelevant for the most part, we know it can trigger reactions in some people. Often we dread the drama that may accompany our reappearance early on in relationships. Until we know you won't start drama about our need to retreat and return later, we may take longer to reappear than it would have normally taken. We wish to avoid drama and this will be part of our calculation on how much energy it takes us to return. 2. Traits we look for are much more complex than the four listed. Each INTJ has their own ethics, value, and character traits that we look for in partners. If you do not meet an INTJ's personal requirements for compatibility, do not take it personally. This is simply finding the optimal pairing for us. If there is something we see as incompatible, it's our assessment that this would ultimately lead to the relationship's failure and unhappiness in both parties. Best not to move forward. It's not necessarily a judgement on who you are as a person. We will tell you if you are a failure. If we don't, then we still value you, but you are just not our match.
OMG I had goosebumps! it's 1000X accurate. My INTJ is currently on that "not replying" phase for more than 3 weeks as I write this comment now. And he's an army too! I just can't doubt him, especially with ghosting because I trust him and his words, and knowing him, he will not disrespect me like that. And now I'm enduring the waiting phase, because from the start, I know he's really worth it at everything. He's a good person. and I'm very fond of him. It's very relieving that I stumbled upon your video! My waiting phase became more lighter for me to handle now! I feel like the whole video were meant for me, like a fortune reading of some sort, haha! Thank you!
I'm an INFP in love with an INTJ. We've met online and we've been talking for 4 months now. Both of us were very interested with mbti and we enjoy talking and discussing about it. We always spend several hours discussing random ideas and philosophies and I like his perspective on things. I told him I like him and he told me he feels the same but since then we're in a status quo. We don't know what to do next. I really appreciate it whenever he suggest things that can make my life better, things like buy this certain device or try this and that. He's given my life a bit of a structure. I also appreciate it whenever he assures me that my feelings are valid and makes time to listen to me (but constantly roast me for being utterly stupid and not thinking things logically). He always reassures me that I can it's just that I doubt myself all the time. He always say things bluntly because wanted to emphasize a point. But there are times when we have conflicting values and I've been trying to be open-minded and compromise with his beliefs. There are things I can't compromise. As an INFP we have this strong set of self-rule that we cannot let go of and I can't really tell him about it but I bet he knew. He had me analyzed already. But I appreciate you telling me that I needed to be patient and wait for him a little bit and I needed to be more direct about the things I don't wanna compromise so that we can talk it out and find a common ground. I guess I needed to be more straight forward with him instead of giving him subtle clues. Thank u for this vid ♥️
I know I’m around 3 years late to this video but as an INTJ this is one of the best videos I’ve ever watched about this kind of thing. I appreciate it a lot because it is extremely accurate, word for word :)
this help explain more toe and help me understand and make sense of the time breaks..and not break ups...but...What IF ...he is dealing with porn addiction!???...I am in agony😥..I know the addiction is not about me , I did not cause ( hid it ) Insight, input appreciated
@@NITTBrainwrekSingapore1 I can tell. It was the most accurate observation I've seen from anyone other than my own mind as an INTJ. I'd be interested in more of your observations😊
I met mine online, he’s the most stoic and deep person I know, me as ENF(T)P was hooked right away. He told me what he wanted in our 3rd conversation, I’m sure most women just run away 😂 he told me he loved me and then ghosted me for more than a week. I kept confident and told him I’m going to wait until his project is finished on the other part of globe. I’m sure, I’m his fave, love you INTJ ❤he told me he wanted someone to make him stop overthinking and take him out of his shell, well ENFP never misses at it😂
My case is different, I liked a intj , as a isfp my bad habit is ghosting people , I ghosted her for no reason And she says , I know you ghosted me sone days ago , it was fun letting you , it’s your birthday , happy birthday…. She was the first person to say happy birthday to meeee today wtfff , and I remember everything again , I like her , Omgggg why did she say happy birthday when already ghosted her , I cannot resist
I know one and I came to this conclusion years ago to help me deal with this. I think of it like a wheel. The top of the wheel was 'oh I can't get enough of you, I must talk to you and be near you at all times'. Then it would go around towards the bottom of the wheel with 'why do you keep bothering me, go away I'm busy I want nothing to do with you'. And I would step back for a while and barely contact. Then came around towards the top of the wheel again of 'why aren't you contacting me, I miss you and need to talk to you and be near you'. And thus the cycle continues to this day and I have known this person for almost 9 years now.
What if u married him..then would it be such a good cool feeling..I like my space too, but sure hard not to ever feel rejection. Idk the entire world is unique
i retreat (or temporary disappear) when my emotions run high. This is a 'wrong' state of mind for me because I feel handicapped. Emotions shut down my thinking - something I always rely on to function. Once I 'recover' and my thinking is back I am 'back' to the relationship. This NEVER works well with the other party. They get offended, lose trust, feel insecure and needy... in other words - become emotional. And here you go again - the part I do not know how to deal with- someone else's emotions. I try to resolve the issue in a logical way to make them 'feel better' but it does not always work. We just need a partner who does not mind our retreats. ( I am INTJ female)
Ugh, I hate games. My wife died last year, we were together 20 years. I slowly am seeing all the dating "games" that go on around me with my divorced friends, and I have no interest whatsoever in them. It looks tiring, stupid, wasteful, and childish.
Can I just say that as an INFJ with abandonment issues loving my INTJ with hot/cold, mixed signal, ghosting for years bs is torture...but when we're together...it makes all the hell worth it.
it's almost 3 years since i have a crush with intj, he gone and he back he gone and he back but everytime he comeback our relationship is getting closer and closer. Do not force them is really best advice to deal with intj
Ahh not like that, so for 3 years i experience many dissapearing mode. For example after the first date, or after we doing some romantic moment together, everything seems well but he suddenly disspaear. It's broke my heart at first. But i already know the pattern now, he always comeback to me after disappear for a week or sometimes a month. And we become even closer after that.
@@margarethaallethea105 Are you still together now? I am going through this now - so grateful to read about it and understand. Im just wondering when they stop doing this? When you're in a permanent relationship? Married?
@@shellbell8062we still together until now, and the desappearing mode is rarely happen right now, accept we on the serious problem, sometimes it's still happen but not in longer period.
I'm an Enfp and now i am obsess in exploring more about Intj. I start getting interested of Mbti a year ago and tbh, i dislike Intj at first because i only read about them. But my perspective change after i meet one Intj in my group assignment and just realize that everything about him was cool. It's so impressive that we work like a perfect duo at the end without other team mate.
OMG. This is very me. I'm an INTJ-A. Hahaha. I usually resolve some issues I foresee (in my mind) about a future relationship first before actually dating the guy.
I'm an INTJ and you described me exactly. It's Very hard for me to find a partner... I had some girlfriends but I saw they wasn't for long term because they are incapable to make plans for the future...and so I breakup. When I Finally find a woman that I want, I don't know how to approach... I don't know how to play the game, I'm very direct and honest and it make womans scared and so they go away when I start to make plans for our future...:(
Make plans, but keep them flexible and mostly quiet. Most people aren’t ready from the get-go to Make Plans. As Jennifer says, you could also focus on women who know what they want and look for a guy that is in the same mindset. My INTJ has been doing both: we met when I was looking for a serious relationship to nurture together, but he also introduces progressions gradually, even if there’s “serious” stuff he’s already somewhat planning for. We were both clear we are in it for something long-term, so of course we each have a tacit bucketlist before each next stage; but the relationship is only like 4 months old, I’d be spooked if he talked about marriage and picket fences already lol. Make sure you grasp where they’re at before you whip out your projected life map :)
Entp loved a intj for 4 years, I'm finally figuring it out..its like he leaves and comes back and says let's see if u have figured it..and they don't tell you, what you are supposed to figure out. goes away again for weeks..I could never understand I'd say surely a guy likes u , wants to talk to u alot..I thought for ages it was a game. But I finally understand. A enfp on utube said listen to the words, not the actions. As I use Ti I look at the actions not the words.. but that was great advice. Thank you .
INTJs shut down to figure things out on their own. We also famously loose track of time. My isfp friend says I'm lost in time and space and it's true. I can't tell if a week has gone by or a month or 3. The important thing is he comes back which means you matter to him. I would recommend that you yell him directly you like him and then give him X time to mull it over. No, hinting strongly will not work. Heavily implying will not work either. We're really not smart emotionally. 😕 Just tell him how much you appreciate him and that you'd like to move this friendship further but you will be ok to remain only friends if he prefers that, but ask them to make that choice. If you believe they like you too tell them so and provide them with evidence of them liking you. We wouldn't know it exists lol. Then give him time to retreat and mull it over for a while.
@@grazynawolska8160 he knows.. I think ti and te are so different .. ti needs accuracy, te is does it work for others, the efficiency.. we see can see te as lying..once ti sees patterns it turns south..ti I found can be too inspector Cruso for him..
@@pugninja7037 it's true that Ti and Te need to find a balance. The Te user can feel like the Ti user is getting bogged down in the details and nothing is actually getting done. When I worked with an ENTP I told him I respect his need for sound logic but he has to understand that I don't care I just need whatever were building to be functional and operational otherwise there is no point. But I was happy to give them space to Ti, but if things needed to move along I'd Te shove it along and he had to get used to that. It's definitely a balance. I can't have him theorize forever were on a deadline and things must be done by then, but his Ti helps to make sure the logic is there. Sometimes I'd even say we can Ti polish it later, we just need to run a few simulations through a rough system to make sure it flows and improve it version by version, even though the Ti would prefer to have a complete idea and only then begin to build.... but the trouble is we lose steam, money, drive, and interest in this project... and real problems can only be solved as they come up. It's still a really good pair as long as you balance the differences. As for romantic.... I donno, INTJ can take forever to be sure of their feelings and if they think this will work out... and ENTP never seems romantically serious enough for the INTJ sometimes since they flirt so much lol.
@@grazynawolska8160 yes, I do agree, balance is the answer here. Though I do find te's straight forward talk so direct I can cringe, because you are sooo direct..yet I do like te as you said we ti users fumble around in our head. Romantically,🤔 If I commit, I'm all in. But it rarely happens,guys don't seem to like our projects and the commitment of 100%. I can forget other things , friends , partners..I've sooooo many things I have in hobbies , I think we are pretty lonerish. I feel all NTs live in their heads, even ENTP's, I'm right in the middle of enxp.. a INTP said I'm a healthy.. as for ENTP's go.
Also, I can’t understand why people have to respond to texts within an hour (and often far less time), and if you don’t it’s worth an offence. Seriously, what is wrong with checking in only a couple times a day? And then having good, deep conversations every so often.
INTJs are not likely to "ghost." INTJs ARE likely to not immediately answer text messages or leave you on read. It's because it's a message. It's not terribly important unless there's some time limitation added to it. We will get back to it when we have the time and energy and have something to say. It has nothing to do with how well the relationship is going. And if you expect me to be constantly texting you, this is just not going to work. If I actually like you, I'd rather meet up in person. Alright, if it's been four days, then while some of the above does apply, it also means, we're not that into you. You are not interesting enough that we want to get back to conversing with you (assuming we were in the middle of a conversation and not saying good night or something). Or, we might also be busy with a work conference or vacation or in the hospital or something. So check environmental factors first. But yeah, if it's been more than four days that's bad. Taking a long time to figure things out -- truish. Look, the point of dating is so that I can figure things out and slowly adjust my plans around you. Do not expect to get me into bed quickly. I'm all about an intellectual connection and finding someone to be my partner in crime. I expect you to score well in those categories when we go on dates. I also need to see what kind of home life you like and if it's compatible with mine because once we live in the same space, I can't get rid of you if I'm exhausted and I discover you're annoying. I have to be able to picture coming home to you and decompressing successfully in order to check my safe space boxes. Returning: That's for friends and casual lovers, not mates. I will go away for years, and come back to my friends and pick up where we left off. But a mate is a partner who should come and go with me when I'm gone for long periods. I should be as comfortable with them as I am alone. I'd find it deeply romantic to have someone waiting for me, sure, but also deeply sad as they're waiting for something that's likely not going to happen unless our personalities change significantly, as I've already rejected them as a life partner or they'd be with me right now.
Thank you! My ex is an INTJ. I am ENFP. We were married for 16 years. 6 kids later, millionaire from nothing, he went in Se grip and indulged in drugs for 5 years. 7 rehabs later, we divorced. He moved overseas (disappeared) now 3 years. He is recovering and already started builing up for the future again. Shows interest in the children and sends maintenance very precise amount, exactly same time of the month. He is becoming reliable again. We really enjoy each others’ company. Perhaps we will be friends again and bring up our kids together?
I'm(infj) in love with an intj man. we had sex and still I couldn't feel him feel me. I feel that he's not ready and builds his security walls higher and higher in his heart. I don't get it exactly I get mixed signals. still I'm waiting building air castle...He supports my career dreams and encourages like no one ever in my life did. Why couldn't I feel that emotional intimacy between us...😭 just hoping he'll one express himself to me.
They feel really vulnerable and will just want to run away. They'd rather treat it like casual mindless sex. If you haven't watched our latest episode (ep 185), do take a look at it for advice!
@@NITTBrainwrekSingapore1 thankyou I watched 185ep. I don't understand what 183 explains what's that assertive and turbulence how it has effect us....🤔 I'm INFJ-A and he's INTJ-T .... won't we make a good pair🙄🤔
@@keerthanamurugan577 Don't be too concerned about the terminologies. Our Channel is designed to be MBTI intermediate. You'll get what we mean over time and it's not that difficult actually. It does not matter if he's an INTJ-T or INTJ-A, whether a pair works may go beyond MBTI. What we are offering is a generic view of MBTI!
Maybe you are asking too much? What kind of emotional intimacy do you yearn to get... by him giving you his best encouragement & best support you have ever had in your life are already few of the best he can offer to you in a relationship. We intjs show our affection by letting our love ones become the best version of themselves, we won't take your time because we rather prefer you to spend that time on your endeavours, so that you can be great & you'd feel accomplished in your life.
I find infj waits for feelings from intj while the intj waits for infj to express some kind of an idea.... he prolly sits there thinking she never tells me what she thinks... therefore she doesn't trust me and we aren't close.
I have been on two dates with an INTJ but he is leaving the country soon. He told he me that if things would have been different, he would have liked to continue seeing me. I would like to keep talking to him and I’m thinking of suggesting to just stay friends but I’m not sure whether that would push him away.
Can it take 8 months plus for them to come back? He said he'd like to meet again but haven't heard from him since. I see the INTJ walking around and meeting their friends but I haven't had contact for a long time. Could he be dating someone else or would he be more polite and say so?
Let's say the timing when they ghost you is 'indefinitely'. It may take months or even years. Then by the time they are ready, they may hesitate that you have moved on and not text you. So it is possible that in this lifetime you might never hear from him again too.
When an INTJ likes you he does not ghost you and tries to take action to prove his interest. I do this, all the time. I do something. If there is nothing, just move on. An INTJ is not a unicorn you should wait for. We are humans and meant to show others respect. And trust me we know what is respect. Don’t believe those videos to the point. We are all humans and we know how we should behave and how we shouldn’t behave. Those videos should not be an excuse to bad behavior. I don’t want to be set as a complete dumb because of people talking idiots things about us. Yes we can retreat. But we always communicate about it. We don’t ghost like ENFJ does.
I'm an infp and the intj I like was showing signs that he likes me by always helping me, he volunteered to teach me and he showed from time to time signs that he cares about me telling me I'm too nice with people and stuff. The the other day, he told me he's been relying on his feelings recently and that he hates it. He also said he wants to settle things asap and that he hates playing games. Then suddenly he started acting weird. He told me he wants to change his way of dealing with relationships. He was deeply hurt before and he told me he doesn't want to think of relationships as something serious and that he wants to set up a dating profile and start going on casual dates. As an infp I hate casual dates plus the fact that he told me that means that he isn't planning to ask me out or anything. What's weird it all happened suddenly when I was pretty sure that he likes me. I don't know what's wrong with him. I know that he's going to hurt himself even more since he said he's not comfortable with casual hookups. I don't know what to do. I care about him deeply and it hurts. I'm having a breakdown right noww
INTJ here, If a INTJ likes you they will give you their me time and be straight up with you. We are also really open & honest and indeed don't like games, especially if it is about relationships. We can be critical and skeptical about romance.
As enfp, i got know intj for 9 days,always the one intiating conversation, and today he got online for 3 min and ignore my message didn't even replied back, it honestly i thought we are friends now, which we became, i don't know who said that intj is perfect for an enfp, we are impatient, and i genuinely want to talk to him, but he's not replying its hurt, take it as advice,i rather move on then wait for them😢
I ask him directly why sometimes he left the messages on “seen” because he dont know what to reply. As I can think of, then maybe our topic for them just make their brain goes “blank” and no choice to reply. I know it seems weird…. But thats how INTJ function right?
2 big problems with the 16 Types today: 1. "No one", today, has reads or has read the 3 big Myers-Briggs books. They are: "Gift's Differing", co-authored by Isabel Myers-Briggs. (SHOW ME even one youtube video, made in the last 2 years, that ever even mentions or quotes anything from this book OR the next 2 listed. It doesn't happen. So, where are the youtube creators getting their info?!?) "Type Talk" by Kroeger and Theussen (my favorite)- "Life Types by Hirsch & Kummerow. the second thing wrong is: "Everybody" wants to be: 1. the RAREST type (so they can feel "special") 2. an INTP or an INTJ (so they can feel "smart") or 3. an ENTJ (so they can be "in-charge" and give orders). No one!-- ever says: " Hi, I'm one of the 2 most common Types. I'm pretty-darn common and ordinary and I couldn't be happier about it." NO ONE!
We broke up due to trustissues, even tho i never cheated or never thought about it. I tried to make it work by explaining but it didnt work out. Does sb has a good idea to get back in contact bc i really love her and i am loyal af. She called me 2 days ago only to say that my friend is immature to write her and blocked me everywhere. Is there any way to rebuld the trust, show her that i understand her deeply and accept her "alone-time" etc.
OK， I'm inferring that she's the INTJ. I think the best way to deal with this is to drop her an email or text (don't call) and express how you feel and then tell her you'll give her time to figure and then wait for her reply (which may be ages)
My bf is INTJ and I am ISFP. We started dating 3 months ago. He bringing my past and fighting with me and asking to build trust amd also he is not sharing all the things with me. Dont pick me calls and we dont having daily phone calls but he texting all the time with me. And always telling my faults amd never say sorry when he hurts me. So how can I keep trust on him because of those issue. Im going to break up with him bz of this.
It turns out I probably still has a chance with my INTJ. So I had an amazing first date with an INTJ. It went so well that we made plans for a second one, right after. I thought we were clicking as she was sweet with her texts then all of a sudden I got confused she wasn’t replying after talking straight everyday for a month. Will it be possible for her to ghost me forever or will she tell me when she’s done with me? Thank you for your help, man!
Hey there, I understand your pain and confusion. You can just text her to indicate to her clearly that you understand that maybe she's feeling vulnerable etc and that you will wait for her to bridge out. That's the best thing you can do, to send an unambiguous message (I'm assuming you are keen) so the rest is up to her to figure. It'll take ages and she might not even return because she may be lost in her mental world, thinking that she's not worthy of you or whatever that god knows. Good luck!
Do you think it’s okay that I texted her thrice after 24 hours of not getting a reply from her. I texted that “I would respect her personal space and I’m willing to take things slow”. Then after that I texter her two days after asking if she would want to get coffee. Do you think that is alright, man? I wish I’ve seen your videos much earlier.
Ah. Personally I think it doesn't matter as long as you are not overdoing it. So three times seems fine but do not expect a reply, if any. If she replies, she might apologize, don't probe and perhaps introduce her to this video, haha. Then she'll understand you'd understand for sure.
Can it also be possible that I may have bore her with my daily “how’s your day text?” I admit lately we don’t have much to talk about other than asking each other how our day’s went. Probably because we talked about almost everything already and I really didn’t know INTJs love to talk about random theories and stuff. Wish I studied their kind more 🤦♂️
I'm an INTJ but i really loved my partner and i knew we don't have future together i didn't cut her off but instead always looking for solution on how to solve that problem in future when it comes and we could be happily together though its difficult but i will surely find a way
Interesting ... some of our friends ask him in front of me "is she your girl friend or friend?" N he answered "just a friend, what are you talking about man?" .. he looked so offended by the questions. I was just trying to laugh it out. This happen after one week he didnt reply to my last text. And we just had a hang out bef that with my guy friends. And things were good. But suddenly he acts distant ... im really confused ... can you give me advice or slight clarity? Btw he also mentioned his plan to me for the future and even say, we should meet there .. and he told me about his family ... it is very confusing
@@johanliebert6859 for about 1,5 month he just said hi and bye whenever we saw each other. And finally he asked for my number, n we texted each other everyday for 2 months .. I introduced him to my girl friend and they start to chat and hang out. I thought it was over for me so I withdraw my self. No he is not yet my boyfriend. But suddenly he resume the text and we text each other for about a week and followed by him keep asking me where I am as he want to see me, but I was working. But we had small conversation after the class ended. One day he said he was going to ask me out to hang out with his friends including the girl I mentioned. So I said I already had a plan with my friends, why dont you guys join us. Then he joined me .. but his friends couldn't come. In the hang out, there is nothing big happened except we had an unplanned date as my friend gave us the wrong address ... and it was alittle bit awkward but everything was fine. The next time I saw him .. he just turned cold to me. And this is a pattern .. it has been three times .. once when he wanted a hug but I refused him politely cuz I was shocked .. thats when he started to goes out with my girl friend and I feel so hurt ... Secondly when we played billiard together and it was so intense too, we had fun .. and then now ... after he asked about my future plans and he even said lets meet there n bla bla bla ... Today is the day when he said im just his friend infront of his friends .. not even my friend. But "just a friend" .. so ... idk .. im confused and hurt ...
can i ask you something? what does it mean when i confessed to an intj man a simple 'i like you' but he replied with an even simple 'thank you 😊' with that emoticon and stuff. i was so confused lmao does that mean i still have the chance to be with him? or he's indirectly pushing me away in a polite way? pls enligten me lmao
I think he could have interpreted your 'like' from the non-relationship POV. It's definitely better than the other typical INTJs' responses such as 'Why?". I'll take it positively. He's Not pushing you away.
@@NITTBrainwrekSingapore1 if i keep on showing him that i care so much about him, will he despise it? or how? how should i treat him after he knows that i like him? huhu pls help. thank you so much for your time!
If an INTJ doesn't think it's possible between the two of you, he'll probably tell u. If he ghosts u, he's thinking. It'll take a long time. Hope this helps. Give him space. Love can be frightening for him!
Hai Tanti, ak ENFP dan lagi date sama INTJ orang aussie. Dan secara teori kita punya natural chemistry sama intuitive yang sama. Dan cara ak tau kalau dia suka sama aku, dari tingkah laku dia dan cara dia treat kamu. Contoh sewaktu aku date sama dia, dia bener2 tatapin ak trus lebih physically contact. INTJ will never say like you but they will act on it. Kalau dia suka ama kamu dia pasti buka kesepmatan buat next date kok. Btw MBTI km apa?
i have crush and intj she is 18 years old and i am 38. i tell here do i have a chance to be your partner? she only said i dont know.does it mean she like me?
I think she may need to think about it. But INTJs so young may lack an awareness of the world and what relationships entail, so it's hard to tell if you have any chance.
I'd like to say you probably wouldn't have the chance. While she is actually young, there's one that is common with intjs regardless their of age, and that is, they use their logic first than listening to their hearts. If you're 38 & she's 18 , she'll likely consider the age gap - your level of maturity & her level of maturity. Most of the time intjs like an equal, and that's also plays out true when selecting potential partners.
Waiting months or years? That’s bullshit. If an INTJ likes you he will not ghost you more than one week, maybe two in certain occasions. But not months, or years. We do plan everything so we also plan when we will come back, when the moment will be. I could retreat from a relationship for two weeks to find myself doing an important project, knowing I will contact the person on planned day, with a planned message I wrote in advance. I would also warn the other person if I have things to do. But telling people it’s a normal situation if your INTJ leaves you for months or years? Really? We are respectful people. We don’t do that ffs !
